Guys. Today was a good day! I was so nervous when we dropped E off at daycare. They texted me updates and pictures during the day. And now I feel recharged. I was so happy to hug him and kiss his little face when I picked him up! He went to sleep pretty soon after we got home, and I was sad we didn't get to play.
Post by gratefulgirl on Nov 4, 2016 8:32:54 GMT -5
OK guys,I am feeling really bummed for my baby. Last night I watched her flail around in her crib for a solid minute trying desperately to self-soothe. She shoved her hand at her mouth. She rubbed her Zippy sleeve on her nose. But without her pacifier she could not settle. Ugh. I hate this. I created a sleep prop, but how could I have avoided it? Now my kid has to get upset in the night because the paci is gone. But she could not settle without it younger in life.
I really wanted to avoid having to modify sleep associations this time. I feel like I somehow cause the problem. I hate this.
OK guys,I am feeling really bummed for my baby. Last night I watched her flail around in her crib for a solid minute trying desperately to self-soothe. She shoved her hand at her mouth. She rubbed her Zippy sleeve on her nose. But without her pacifier she could not settle. Ugh. I hate this. I created a sleep prop, but how could I have avoided it? Now my kid has to get upset in the night because the paci is gone. But she could not settle without it younger in life.
I really wanted to avoid having to modify sleep associations this time. I feel like I somehow cause the problem. I hate this.
Is there a reason you're not giving her the paci anymore?
OK guys,I am feeling really bummed for my baby. Last night I watched her flail around in her crib for a solid minute trying desperately to self-soothe. She shoved her hand at her mouth. She rubbed her Zippy sleeve on her nose. But without her pacifier she could not settle. Ugh. I hate this. I created a sleep prop, but how could I have avoided it? Now my kid has to get upset in the night because the paci is gone. But she could not settle without it younger in life.
I really wanted to avoid having to modify sleep associations this time. I feel like I somehow cause the problem. I hate this.
Is there a reason you're not giving her the paci anymore?
I am. It's that she wakes up for it MOTN because she cannot stay asleep without it when it falls out on its own.
I know many babies can take the paci without this problem, which is why I feel guilty. I don't know what I do that mine cannot.
Is there a reason you're not giving her the paci anymore?
I am. It's that she wakes up for it MOTN because she cannot stay asleep without it when it falls out on its own.
I know many babies can take the paci without this problem, which is why I feel guilty. I don't know what I do that mine cannot.
Gotcha. That's tough because it interferes with your sleep, but certainly nothing to feel guilty about! Many babies have that problem, it's not within your control. Hopefully as time goes on she will get better at self-soothing.
Thanks dc2london, that was what I thought I remembered.
Thankfully not the flu or mastitis, just one hell of a fast GI bug. My toddler started by getting sick overnight Monday night, and was better by Wednesday morning. I felt off all day wednesday and hit critical OMG late Wednesday night, spent yesterday wanting to die until right before bedtime when I was able to keep down some advil to break the fever and help the body aches. It 100% felt like the flu. Except I feel 90% better this morning. That ain't no flu!
I heard from an RN that its going around, so be careful everyone. Hopefully it stays in my neck of the woods and leaves ya'll alone.
Ugh, I have the opposite. My mom is convinced I am overfeeding my child. She can't be hungry, it hasn't been long enough, or she needs to learn to wait, or she's just manipulating you. She keeps telling me it will be so great when I can give her water instead. She's and infant and her growth is on track, let me feed my child when she's hungry.
Ugh, that's super annoying, pttomato. I'm horrified over here at the bolded. What's her problem? A baby has no idea of manipulation. I'd be so tempted to tell her to GFO with that drivel. You feed your baby how YOU know you need and want to. I'll sit next to you and stare her down with an evil cold stare.
I am. It's that she wakes up for it MOTN because she cannot stay asleep without it when it falls out on its own.
I know many babies can take the paci without this problem, which is why I feel guilty. I don't know what I do that mine cannot.
Gotcha. That's tough because it interferes with your sleep, but certainly nothing to feel guilty about! Many babies have that problem, it's not within your control. Hopefully as time goes on she will get better at self-soothing.
bocaburger, IMO before 4 months, it's really a toss up. What pacis are you using? Maybe try a longer one that she can keep in better on her own? We use Mams and my DD1 needed the 6 month length right at 3 months, so I'm watching for that with this LO.
If she needs it to settle, then she needs to suck, IMO. I find a lot of comfort in the paci as a SIDS prevention tactic, so that helps me keep going through the "lost the paci" thing. I'm going to add a link for an article\website that I find very helpful for all things baby sleep. (link)
Feel free to completely ignore this post if you find it annoying I get how frustrating unsolicited advice can be.
Is there a reason you're not giving her the paci anymore?
I am. It's that she wakes up for it MOTN because she cannot stay asleep without it when it falls out on its own.
I know many babies can take the paci without this problem, which is why I feel guilty. I don't know what I do that mine cannot.
My DD couldn't either. So from 4-9 months I just did paci pops..it was easier. It was only at 9 months when she knew it was what made her sleep did we sleep train it away. At 9 months she started throwing it out of crib so I stopped giving it to her. The paci pops before that was just the easiest thing.
Gotcha. That's tough because it interferes with your sleep, but certainly nothing to feel guilty about! Many babies have that problem, it's not within your control. Hopefully as time goes on she will get better at self-soothing.
bocaburger, IMO before 4 months, it's really a toss up. What pacis are you using? Maybe try a longer one that she can keep in better on her own? We use Mams and my DD1 needed the 6 month length right at 3 months, so I'm watching for that with this LO.
If she needs it to settle, then she needs to suck, IMO. I find a lot of comfort in the paci as a SIDS prevention tactic, so that helps me keep going through the "lost the paci" thing. I'm going to add a link for an article\website that I find very helpful for all things baby sleep. (link)
Feel free to completely ignore this post if you find it annoying I get how frustrating unsolicited advice can be.
Thanks for the thoughts. She falls asleep easily in the car without and her urge to suck is not as strong as my older two. Just in the crib she wants it. Even in my arms she settles fine without.
Funny thing - I recognize that link from when DH and I were debating ditching DD2's pacifier. The "paci hell" line so perfectly described my life. We have not reached that stage yet with DD3, but having watched how much more easily DD2 slept after the pacifier I have come to feel really bad about using them, yet I can find no better option. DD3 has tried to find her thumb on occasion and can't.
More good news! We had E's final weight check - he's growing! He's at 10 lbs 11.5 oz. YAY!!! And now we don't have to go back until 4 months (unless he's sick, of course).
DS has started to show his desire to go to bed before 7. DD was like this but not for a couple more weeks. I've pushed him to at least 7. It stinks though bc I can't cash in on his longer stretch of 6 hours before it starts so early. I'm afraid to do a feeding before I go to bed for fear it'll wake him up too much.
Funny thing DH said: "we set clocks back tomorrow, you'll get an extra hour of sleep." Hahaha! Right H bc babies follow the clocks and know to sleep later!
More good news! We had E's final weight check - he's growing! He's at 10 lbs 11.5 oz. YAY!!! And now we don't have to go back until 4 months (unless he's sick, of course).
This is so great!! You have been working so hard and I'm so glad you got good news!
DS has started to show his desire to go to bed before 7. DD was like this but not for a couple more weeks. I've pushed him to at least 7. It stinks though bc I can't cash in on his longer stretch of 6 hours before it starts so early. I'm afraid to do a feeding before I go to bed for fear it'll wake him up too much.
Funny thing DH said: "we set clocks back tomorrow, you'll get an extra hour of sleep." Hahaha! Right H bc babies follow the clocks and know to sleep later!
I just said this to my H seriously 5 minutes ago. I think she wants to move her bedtime again. The past couple of days, she gets really fussy around 630 and there's nothing for it but a bath and bed.
DS has started to show his desire to go to bed before 7. DD was like this but not for a couple more weeks. I've pushed him to at least 7. It stinks though bc I can't cash in on his longer stretch of 6 hours before it starts so early. I'm afraid to do a feeding before I go to bed for fear it'll wake him up too much.
Funny thing DH said: "we set clocks back tomorrow, you'll get an extra hour of sleep." Hahaha! Right H bc babies follow the clocks and know to sleep later!
I just said this to my H seriously 5 minutes ago. I think she wants to move her bedtime again. The past couple of days, she gets really fussy around 630 and there's nothing for it but a bath and bed.
E has been sleeping by 6pm! I haven't figured out a way to change his bedtime. I'm not sure what to do about daylight savings - maybe he'll adjust?
More good news! We had E's final weight check - he's growing! He's at 10 lbs 11.5 oz. YAY!!! And now we don't have to go back until 4 months (unless he's sick, of course).
This is so great!! You have been working so hard and I'm so glad you got good news!
I just said this to my H seriously 5 minutes ago. I think she wants to move her bedtime again. The past couple of days, she gets really fussy around 630 and there's nothing for it but a bath and bed.
E has been sleeping by 6pm! I haven't figured out a way to change his bedtime. I'm not sure what to do about daylight savings - maybe he'll adjust?
My children have all preferred early bedtimes. There is something in their genetic structure that causes them to each turn into a pumpkin at 7 p.m. I have just embraced it, lol
Ugh. I've been feeling down about my body this week. My stomach has really started sticking out. I have diastasis recti (my abs separated during pregnancy) so my abs don't hold in my stomach as well anymore and I look a bit pregnant. I gained 40lbs during pregnancy, then lost 34lbs through delivery and BF. I weighed myself tonight and it turns out the crappy eating has caught up to me. I've gained back 8lbs which means I'm now 14lbs above prepregnancy weight. I'm also officially in the worst shape of my life. So I'm not feeling too great about myself right now.
I just said this to my H seriously 5 minutes ago. I think she wants to move her bedtime again. The past couple of days, she gets really fussy around 630 and there's nothing for it but a bath and bed.
E has been sleeping by 6pm! I haven't figured out a way to change his bedtime. I'm not sure what to do about daylight savings - maybe he'll adjust?
My experience is that they adjust. One theory is that moving mealtimes helps. I have been moving big kid bedtime/wake up/breakfast by 15 minutes a day to prep them. DD3 I plan to let move earlier if she wants.
Ugh. I've been feeling down about my body this week. My stomach has really started sticking out. I have diastasis recti (my abs separated during pregnancy) so my abs don't hold in my stomach as well anymore and I look a bit pregnant. I gained 40lbs during pregnancy, then lost 34lbs through delivery and BF. I weighed myself tonight and it turns out the crappy eating has caught up to me. I've gained back 8lbs which means I'm now 14lbs above prepregnancy weight. I'm also officially in the worst shape of my life. So I'm not feeling too great about myself right now.
Girl, all I can say is that this is temporary. It sucks, but you are doing so, so much right now and it's ok to give yourself some grace if your weight fluctuates. Please try to focus on taking care of yourself physically AND mentally rather than on the scale. Your babies will not always be tiny and it will not always be this challenging.
Ugh. I've been feeling down about my body this week. My stomach has really started sticking out. I have diastasis recti (my abs separated during pregnancy) so my abs don't hold in my stomach as well anymore and I look a bit pregnant. I gained 40lbs during pregnancy, then lost 34lbs through delivery and BF. I weighed myself tonight and it turns out the crappy eating has caught up to me. I've gained back 8lbs which means I'm now 14lbs above prepregnancy weight. I'm also officially in the worst shape of my life. So I'm not feeling too great about myself right now.
You are not alone. I lost all the baby weight right away and thought it was awesome. Then I started eating like crap and I've gained 20 lbs and I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I keep trying to eat healthier, but it's just so much easier to grab something tastier and more unhealthy when I'm tired.....
Post by gratefulgirl on Nov 4, 2016 20:07:46 GMT -5
bocaburger - my OB swears my abs are not separated, but the general surgeon who diagnosed my hernia says they are. At best they are so thin as to be worthless. It sucks. However there are some exercise programs out there that help a ton. A friend who had twins swears by Tupler. I found MuTu really great after DD2 and plan to start it up again once DD3 STTN. Also diastasis improves on its own in the first six months PP. So it will get better even if you can't make time to do anything.
But I know it is so, so hard. I live in loose tunics and swing dresses right now.
I just said this to my H seriously 5 minutes ago. I think she wants to move her bedtime again. The past couple of days, she gets really fussy around 630 and there's nothing for it but a bath and bed.
E has been sleeping by 6pm! I haven't figured out a way to change his bedtime. I'm not sure what to do about daylight savings - maybe he'll adjust?
Everything I've read said before 5 months adjustment tips aren't helpful. With DD the first time changes I didn't do anything before. She took about a week to adjust.
dc2london DD also likes an early bedtime. I actually thought DS would be a later bedtime. But this past week he proved me wrong. I'm glad we're used to having to be home early. Only recently did we start letting DD stay up later for certain events on the weekends.
Thanks everyone for the support and solidarity. Maybe this is the kick in the pants I needed to start taking better care of myself. H is trying to lose weight too so at least we can be in it together.
I'm officially swearing off desserts, pastries, and candy. I will miss my daily Starbucks apple fritter tremendously. Prepare to hear me whine a lot because I have no willpower and hate dieting.
My parents are coming for the week so I'm going to use the extra hands to make lots of healthy, easy to grab snacks. Recipes/suggestions welcome.
Does anyone else here have leaky overnight diapers? I'm not sure if I should size up or try a different diaper for nights. We are currently in Pampers size 3s. At least 3 times a week his pjs are wet from a full diaper. I'm more concerned about the wet skin than his clothes.
I've only successfully made it through a wake-free diaper change twice, and that's just because I couldn't sleep. If we are both sleeping, I don't want to have to set an alarm to wake up and change him.
Ds1 had leaky overnight diapers. I believe pampers has overnights starting at size 3. I always sized up with overnights before needing to in daytime ones. We tried huggies and luvs but hated them.
Thanks everyone for the support and solidarity. Maybe this is the kick in the pants I needed to start taking better care of myself. H is trying to lose weight too so at least we can be in it together.
I'm officially swearing off desserts, pastries, and candy. I will miss my daily Starbucks apple fritter tremendously. Prepare to hear me whine a lot because I have no willpower and hate dieting.
My parents are coming for the week so I'm going to use the extra hands to make lots of healthy, easy to grab snacks. Recipes/suggestions welcome.
I am also trying to lose the weight and it is not easy. I've been trying to cut calories/eat lower carb. It seems next to impossible to prep healthy meals! So much more time consuming. I have been trying to do a meat in the crock pot and throw veggies in the oven. Or I'll prep things when ds1 is napping and ds2 is content on the playmat. And, it's hard being home where I can just grab something to snack on even if I'm not even hungry.
This is very AW, plus loss mentioned, plus spoiler for anyone who still wants to watch This is Us
I had been wanting to watch because I heard so much about the show. My SIL recommended it and said the twist at the end is just so good. Tonight I get ready to watch and I was so excited! My H is out and I'm going to have a nice relaxing night. Well, I'm 3/4 of the way through and there's a stillborn baby boy. I had a stillborn baby boy so I am like this ðŸ˜ðŸ˜. I'm kind of hurt that my SIL didn't think to warn me. Threw off my whole night, and I don't want to text H and ruin his too. (But I will say the ending kind of made up for it.)
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
@sueposa no problems with DS, but had that problem with DD. She was fine during the day but at night needed to wear a size up. I do believe they make night time diapers starting in size 3s. But I think they're more expensive and for us the next size at night solved the problem.
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