Survived my first day back to work. Unfortunately DS did not eat all day. So since 3:30 he's eaten every hour. SIL was over and tried to help DH but nothing. She did suggest a faster nipple. I've tried premie and level 1 so worth a try with level 2. Despite not eating all day he was terrible for DH, actually slept most of the day.
Football is very important to H. He watches every Eagles game (not always live, we can record it) and loves watching with his dad when possible, either in person or over skype.
My parents are coming tomorrow and staying for the week. H thinks since they are coming for so long, he can't put his whole life on hold, and he wants to watch the game and Skype with his dad after they get here tomorrow. While I agree that you can't put your life on hold, I think it's rude to spend 4 hours skyping your dad just after your in-laws arrive. Especially because they are making it possible for him to schedule extra meetings, go out and work, etc all week.
Am I in the wrong? I'm not asking him not to watch the game, just to watch it at night after my parents leave (they are staying elsewhere) which will mean his dad can't join.
Things are crazy over here too. In addition to typical baby juggling ..my dog has fleas. We missed his routine preventative treatment in July back when the baby was born. We are having to constantly vacuum & sanitize the whole house. We did this all late Sept and they didn't completely go away and are back worse than ever. I'm so grossed out and it's so much work and it's like impossible to get rid of them completely. Apparently there are thousands of eggs all over the house and I just want to throw up at the thought.
Baby stopped STTN 2 weeks ago. It was nice while it lasted (about 1.5 weeks). Now she's back up every 3-4 hours to eat all night. No clue why, we put her to bed at 7 after a feeding, wake her up to eat again at 10. But she still won't go past 2am. Then she eats again around 5:30. She's eating fine all day long too.
My nips are killing me. Breastfeeding had been going much better but now baby is constantly pulling off the nipple and looking around. Distracted nursing maybe? The constant off and on aggressively is killing the nipples.
Is anyone traveling with a baby for the holidays? I'm trying to figure out logistics and it seems really hard & stressful to do a long drive or fly.
Post by remylove1011 on Nov 5, 2016 21:03:09 GMT -5
katelmbocaburger major props for deciding to travel for the holidays. We're doing something with friends for thanksgiving and hosting my parents for Christmas to avoid an travel!
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katelmbocaburger major props for deciding to travel for the holidays. We're doing something with friends for thanksgiving and hosting my parents for Christmas to avoid an travel!
I want to avoid all travel! People are coming to us for tgiving. For Christmas, family is 2 hours drive away (his) and 13 hour drive away (mine). Im trying to avoid traveling at all costs but my family doesn't want to travel back down. I've considered flights to go to see my family but the only direct flight is redic (like 6am). The logistics stress me out even thinking about it. I'm also stressed about the whole breastfeeding and pumping thing. People aren't accepting of that happening in public it seems (I would feel self conscious) & I'm not going in a bathroom stall to do it. We can't just easily use a cover either ..my baby and I are still struggling to bfeed at home. I couldn't imagine doing it without the boppy etc. A cover would just further complicate. I would also have the lug the pump, bottle warmer & bottles (we do combo of me pumping/bottle feeding and breastfeeding)
Post by remylove1011 on Nov 5, 2016 21:51:39 GMT -5
katelm yeah the logistics of all of it seems nuts to me. My parents are 8hrs away and MHs are 11hrs. I havent gotten up the nerve to BF in public yet. I've done it at friends houses and in front of guests at our house, but in doing this discovered that my child hates the cover. Literally screamed...
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Rama I feel like I need to print your post out and read it to myself each day. Thank you so much for that. It really meant so much to me.
My insurance covers it but only in network. My last insurance provider covered out of network at 80%, my new provider covers 0. We started with her before the insurance and DH really likes her so it's worth it. We started out together with her and it was decided that it wasn't an "us" issue but some stuff with him.
I feel like I have so much patience with the kids and within like five minutes of a kid being difficult, H is mad and at his "wit's end." It is almost offensive that he can get so frustrated when I've been dealing with them for hours and he just gets there then already can't stand it.
In other news, R has decided to stretch to three hours between feedings in the day and this has made the stretches at night shorten back to two hours. I'm so tired all the time, haven't gotten to get any exercise post-partum (not even walks since I'm always nervous about the baby getting upset or hungry and having issues with nursing), and I just feel so hopeless about so much.
I read sites and apps that tell me a 12 week old could be STTN, but I'm still up like four times.
Football is very important to H. He watches every Eagles game (not always live, we can record it) and loves watching with his dad when possible, either in person or over skype.
My parents are coming tomorrow and staying for the week. H thinks since they are coming for so long, he can't put his whole life on hold, and he wants to watch the game and Skype with his dad after they get here tomorrow. While I agree that you can't put your life on hold, I think it's rude to spend 4 hours skyping your dad just after your in-laws arrive. Especially because they are making it possible for him to schedule extra meetings, go out and work, etc all week.
Am I in the wrong? I'm not asking him not to watch the game, just to watch it at night after my parents leave (they are staying elsewhere) which will mean his dad can't join.
Can he still watch it live and just be occasional texting his Dad? Like the game be background noise while your parents are there.
Football is very important to H. He watches every Eagles game (not always live, we can record it) and loves watching with his dad when possible, either in person or over skype.
My parents are coming tomorrow and staying for the week. H thinks since they are coming for so long, he can't put his whole life on hold, and he wants to watch the game and Skype with his dad after they get here tomorrow. While I agree that you can't put your life on hold, I think it's rude to spend 4 hours skyping your dad just after your in-laws arrive. Especially because they are making it possible for him to schedule extra meetings, go out and work, etc all week.
Am I in the wrong? I'm not asking him not to watch the game, just to watch it at night after my parents leave (they are staying elsewhere) which will mean his dad can't join.
Can he still watch it live and just be occasional texting his Dad? Like the game be background noise while your parents are there.
That would be fine with me, but he's not happy with it. And he's not very good at the game just being "background noise" - he has trouble pulling away from it and gets frustrated when people or the babies distract him from it.
Post by gratefulgirl on Nov 6, 2016 6:59:19 GMT -5
katelm - we will be flying for Christmas. It will be a terrible 5-ish hours (I mostly worry about my 2 year old, the 4 year old is a super easy traveler and the baby may cry but she cries anywhere..I can only do my best). When I only had one I found it way more stressful than I do now. All I can say is that by finding solutions and doing it, if it is what you want to do, you get stronger and better. Many airports have nursing accommodations - check yours. Also by Christmas your baby will be sturdier and likely a faster eater. The Boppy may be history by then. Pop baby in a wrap or carrier if she likes them (not sure what your car seat situation is on the other side, for us family has seats we can use). The soothing a screaming baby on the plane routine is no fun - been there - but it passes.
gratefulgirl will watching episodes of a TV on an iPad or kindle help your 2 yo? It was a our saving grace when we flex with DD when she was 18 months.
My "extra hour" of sleep was used up by DS being up for an hour with reflux and gas. And a massive amount of spit up with me requiring an outfit change. At least he went back to sleep and the toddler didn't get up until after 7 (8 old time).
I'm officially swearing off desserts, pastries, and candy. I will miss my daily Starbucks apple fritter tremendously. Prepare to hear me whine a lot because I have no willpower and hate dieting.
Remember this post from yesterday? Well, our friend came over for lunch and brought cinnamon rugelach for dessert. And I have no willpower, so I ate 4 of them.
Get it together, Boca!
Haha bocaburger! LT because that sounds like what I would do!
shanny I feel like we are twins right now. Your description of your H sounds so familiar. Hugs, and let's continue to show the patience our kids need! Also, not even close to STTN here. To me, it's not even worth it to nurse, get her to sleep, and put her in her bed if she's going to wake up again in under and hour. I just sleep with her. Otherwise I'd be useless the next day!
We flew home this weekend (2 hour flight) and will be flying for the holidays. So far it's going pretty well. DD did good on the flight out, some fussing on the descent because she didn't want to eat and kept spitting the pacifier out, but she figured it out eventually. Nursing was kind of awkward on the plane, especially because she get really distracted and pops off a lot. I'm thinking I may need to try using a cover to see if that helps her focus.
She was a little cranky Friday and didn't sleep great, but she did great getting passed around for her party yesterday, she even fell asleep for a little while in one of her great aunt's arms. And last night was great, no fight over bedtime and an 7 hour stretch. And my mom only made one comment about DD manipulating me soon.
Today we are hanging out with my in-laws and then flying back home. Hopefully that goes well too.
My "extra hour" of sleep was used up by DS being up for an hour with reflux and gas. And a massive amount of spit up with me requiring an outfit change. At least he went back to sleep and the toddler didn't get up until after 7 (8 old time).
Sorry you didn't get to sleep the extra hour. Glad your little guy was able to go back to sleep though.
What time was your LO up?
Edit upon further reading say no 4 am wake up! That's great.
Post by coffeequeen14 on Nov 6, 2016 12:11:32 GMT -5
joy I second lots of what @suesposa said. Do you do a paci? I'd have a few so you can just reach around and pop it in her mouth.
If you don't do a paci, I'd consider bringing some. S1 didn't take a paci until w five hour car ride at three months. The ride there I had no paci and he screamed the entire way. Literally.
Idk how comfortable you are with it, but I have one of those mirrors that attach to the headrest. I also have a toy thing that attaches to his car seat handle that he swats at and talks to. I'm not sure if they make something similar for a convertible carseat. LO HATES riding so I've tried pretty much everything and these seem to be winners. They occupy him for about 10min or so and sometimes he will fall asleep.
I try to feed him riiiiiight before we have to go somewhere, even if he has recently eaten. Then I sing to him and otherwise distract him while I get him into his seat and shuffle him to the car.
Then I beg for his mercy and makes promises of ponies and big wheels if he chills for the ride.
All of these are pretty much hit or miss, but I hope your little enjoys riding more than mine does.
We have one of those headrest mirrors that actually has lights and plays music. You can control it from the front with a remote control. We haven't actually tried that function yet so I don't know if they like it. But I love being able to keep an eye on them easier.
Is it safe to bottle feed while they're in the carseats?
She has an infant seat and we have toys that I can put on the handle. She has a mirror that we use to see her from the front seat but she can look in it, too. Yes, she uses pacifiers.
What concerns me the most is her not wanting to be in the seat for most of the day. She loves to lie on the ground, kick her feet, etc. She'll be good for a few hours but then lose her mind. And this is where I'm stressed. The drive is 7 hours with minimal, short stops. How long will it be with needing to stop for her? And we can't lie her down anywhere for stretching out. And once we get to Buffalo, we'll have to be ones to pack her up and drive to all of the family members.
I want to cry thinking about the logistics. She won't sit in the seat happily for anywhere near long enough to do this.
We may need to plan this differently. Our college is halfway between Philly and Buffalo. It would be easier to break it into a four hour drive one day and a three hour one the next. But, we only have three days... Blah.
She has an infant seat and we have toys that I can put on the handle. She has a mirror that we use to see her from the front seat but she can look in it, too. Yes, she uses pacifiers.
What concerns me the most is her not wanting to be in the seat for most of the day. She loves to lie on the ground, kick her feet, etc. She'll be good for a few hours but then lose her mind. And this is where I'm stressed. The drive is 7 hours with minimal, short stops. How long will it be with needing to stop for her? And we can't lie her down anywhere for stretching out. And once we get to Buffalo, we'll have to be ones to pack her up and drive to all of the family members.
I want to cry thinking about the logistics. She won't sit in the seat happily for anywhere near long enough to do this.
We may need to plan this differently. Our college is halfway between Philly and Buffalo. It would be easier to break it into a four hour drive one day and a three hour one the next. But, we only have three days... Blah.
I have not driven with a kid this young, but I did 18 hours with my bigs last Christmas. When I was looking for tips everyone suggested building in time for young kids to run around. Basically a half hour to hour refresher stop. Is there a rest stop or such where you can break and give her floor play time? It might make your trip manageable.
Post by gratefulgirl on Nov 6, 2016 13:11:01 GMT -5
On the feeding on trip topic, I had a dear friend admit to leaning over her child's infant seat and nursing while traveling. It was good she told me via email, because I had no idea how to respond. There is so much about that I think is poor thinking. But it was a good friend.
We traveled 800 miles from home with DS1 when he was 4 months old. I don't really feel the need to do that again :-p
We don't travel at the holidays. We host Thanksgiving for anyone willing to come to us (my mum comes every year). At Christmas, it's just too hard for my H to get away from work and I don't like the idea of my children not spending Christmas in their own home. It's just better for us to stay put and have a quiet family Christmas vs the chaos of holiday travel with an army of children.
bocaburger, I know many people that do but I wouldn't. Outside of gas/reflux/spitting up I would be afraid of not being able to respond quickly to choking. I would do feedings on breaks so I could burp them, etc.
I agree with this. It takes too long to get them out of the seat! Car seat also seems like a weird angle to eat at.
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