Nov. 14th - Nov. 20th

[icequeen]

Sorry I went on a rampage word vomit last night on the other weekly thread. Obvs it's been a rough week. It's not getting that much better. I think DD is feeling better but today she threw a huge tantrum with my mom, so bad that my mom actually left. She has never just ditched us like that, so this meltdown must have been really bad. My mom said shes not staying alone with the two of them again. Part of me thinks she's had a hard day and this put her over the edge. I don't know what to do. I had parent teacher conferences at school and her teacher says DD is doing great and no major concerns. IDK, im starting to feel like a giant mom-fail.

[crimsonandclover]

icequeen, it's not unusual for kids to get their meltdowns done at home where they feel safe and not at preschool. I think I've mentioned several times that DD2 throws epic tantrums at transition times - on the way home from preschool, when it's time to go to bed, etc. But never AT preschool. Or anywhere else. Only at home. And whoever coined the term "terrible 2s" didn't have a three-year-old yet. In my rather limited experience, 3 is worse than two. It does suck that your mom is overwhelmed, but maybe once she has some time to cool off she'll be ready to help again? I mean, when my kids are being awful I know I'm ready to tell DH I'm throwing in the towel and working full time and he can quit and deal with the kiddos Joking. Kind of.

[14joa31]

crimsonandclover, icequeen, - I was unprepared for my three-nager. It's amazing that any toddler survives to adulthood, with the ire that they inspire :/ Thank God for time-out!

Am I a horrible person for having no sympathy for DH who has pneumonia? Granted, his lungs hurt but he goes "Oh! Ah!" every time he gets up, sits down, picks up the baby, whatever.

I think I was tougher going through labor and recovering from two C-sections quite frankly. I didn't "Oh! Ah!" every time I hurt - I sucked it up!

Now I know why I didn't go into healthcare ... lol! No empathy!

[scorpioscuba]

Hugs, icequeen! You are not a mom fail. It's too bad your mom said that and I truly hope she changes her mind once she has had a bit of distance/space. It's those moments that should make it clear to her WHY you need help! This Mom thing isn't easy and we all need a break once in awhile.

[NellieOleson]

14joa31 - I have a really gnarly cold right now. Coughing up nasty stuff, hard to breath, achy... and honestly, this feels much worse than recovering from a c-section. :/

[14joa31]

NellieOleson - point taken - I need to work on my bedside manner!

[NellieOleson]

Nov 17, 2016 10:51:26 GMT -5 14joa31 said:

NellieOleson - point taken - I need to work on my bedside manner!

It's hard, and I'm not always the best at it either. My H had a severe ankle sprain when dd1 was 4 months old - a week after I'd first gone back to work after maternity leave, and when I look back at that time I wish I wouldn't have expected so much out of him, or been so frustrated that I had to do everything.

I hope for all of your sakes your H feels better soon!

My H just told me to go to bed because I feel so miserable, and I took him up on it. Now I'm trying to not feel guilty for lying in here while he wrangles both kids out in the family room. But that's another issue.

[14joa31]

NellieOleson - I hope that you feel better soon!

I know I'm frustrated because DH has been traveling basically every week for work. The one week that he's home - he has pneumonia. So I still am not enjoying an extra set of hands and it's really wearing on me. I am not cut out for solo parenting - not at all.

[kcrkcs]

NellieOleson do not. Repeat do not let it sit in your garbage for a week! Ask me how I know... actually don't.
If you can't get someone to come get it. Bag it up and take it to a dumpster somewhere or better yet take it to the woods and let nature do its thing.

[crimsonandclover]

14joa31, same here, lady. DH has been working 14+ hour days lately, and on the nights he doesn't he has often had some sort of firefighter exercises. I'm going batty. I told him before we even started dating that I was not going to be a SAHM, and if he was looking for a woman who would like to be, then he should look elsewhere. I'm feeling very frustrated that I'm doing so much solo parenting right now. And if he were finally home for a few days and got sick and retreated I'm sure I would be just as snippy as you. You'll get through it!

[NellieOleson]

Nov 17, 2016 13:12:45 GMT -5 kcrkcs said:

NellieOleson do not. Repeat do not let it sit in your garbage for a week! Ask me how I know... actually don't.
If you can't get someone to come get it. Bag it up and take it to a dumpster somewhere or better yet take it to the woods and let nature do its thing.

Too late.

I knew this was a bad idea, but as the day got later and later yesterday, it started to seem like the only option.

H double bagged it in heavy duty Hefty bags, so hopefully the smell doesn't get too bad.

I can't even look at my garbage can right now. It grosses me out so much.

[Lollipop]

How many times do I need to say "I am not a Christian" before H's family gets it through their heads?! I shared a Facebook post earlier about suicide awareness. It said something like "share this so someone who is struggling will realize there are people who care" and it also mentioned that it was for a friend. H's grandma came back and goes "have you heard the phrase 'I'm praying for you'? God loves you". It's a nice sentiment, but completely unrelated to the post, and frankly, I don't believe in the power of prayer, and I'm uncertain at best on whether or not there is a God.

I deleted her comment, but I'm just so sick of them shoving their religion down my throat at every opportunity

[scorpioscuba]

DD's ENT appt is this morning to evaluate the skin tags by her ear. Hoping he says they are just cosmetic and we can be done with this until and if she ever decides she wants them removed.

And H and I are getting a date night tonight!!!! I cannot even remember when we last went on one so this is pretty epic for me. My mom is watching the kiddos. Now we have to figure out what we want to do!

[14joa31]

Lollipop - that would really rub me the wrong way as well. You posted something thoughtful and considerate, and she decided to respond with unsolicited advice. Unsolicited advice is my BIGGEST pet peeve - ever!

scorpioscuba - how did that pillow thing work out for your LO last night? DD is also a snuggle bug and wakes up twice a night looking for snuggles. We end up feeding her back to sleep, but that's not a good solution especially if she's not hungry :/ We don't want her to eat her emotions all the time!

I am going to a Lula Roe Pop-Up party tonight with my lady neighbors and I'm excited. I need more leggings - but not crazy ones!!

[scorpioscuba]

14joa31, I think it has some serious potential! The night started off well and she cuddled right into it. It's super portable so I was able to lay in the floor next to her in it and help her fall asleep. When she was asleep I just picked it up with her in it and put it in the crib. She rolls around a ton and this seems to limit her movements and keep her cuddled. She is also a side sleeper and like hugging the bolsters on the side. I'll be honest and say the rest of the night was awful because she had one of her rare I'm awake and ready to party nights from about 10-1am. Like baaaaad. But I don't think that had anything to do with the DockATot. She's napping in it now so we will see how this goes!

[scorpioscuba]

DD just woke up from a TWO HOUR NAP! In her crib in the DockATot! By herself! That hasn't happened in months. To get naps that long she normally has to be sleeping on someone. So far so good!!! 😊

[dizzycooks]

scorpioscuba can you smell my jealousy from there? We haven't had a good nap in a week. Actually she's had no naps since Tuesday. Mamas gonna lose her shit here soon.
I'm trying a boxing class tonight. Wish me luck. Coordinated I am not.

[dizzycooks]

14joa31 enjoy the party! I went to one last week. So fun! I didn't buy anything but I ate all the snacks andnimagined what I'd buy if I had a job

[Lollipop]

I'm waiting for H to get home with dinner. M went for an afternoon/evening nap and is still asleep. I'm starving. Can't wait for food. Thank goodness it's the weekend. I get back-up tomorrow, I'm taking S to a movie on Sunday, and Monday or Tuesday I'm going to get my hair done or something. I need to recharge

[icequeen]

dizzycooks, ooo boxing sounds fun! One of my best friends is an Olympic ranked boxer.
crimsonandclover, yesss transition times are the worst for us too! My mom did come over again yesterday but I can tell her feelings are so hurt and she keeps bringing it up. DD was a little nicer today but I think she is just overwhelmed because her dad has been in and out so often lately and she misses him, she's not feeling well, dropping naps, dealing with more mobile brother.
14joa31, yay have fun! i live in leggings.
scorpioscuba, omg date night! so good for you guys. That dockatot looks so comfy.
kelltothekell, poor DD and mama, hope that tooth feels better.

[Lollipop]

Just booked myself a hair appointment for Tuesday while S is at school. Now I just need to figure out what I want to do with it.

[icequeen]

Today was ok. We went to MOPS in the morning then I basically bribed DD with candy to quit throwing a fit at DS's gymnastics class. I don't know what else to do because I can't just leave the class every time to take her out of the situation. It's not fair to DS because this is the only class he and I have together. I have left DD with my dad before but i don't want to risk another meltdown. He is far less equipped to deal with that. My mom came over later and DD was pretty good. I'm just so tired. SO tired. DS also had a huge blowout of diarrhea all over the carpet and my clothes while DD and DH were skyping and I lost it on DH and told him he's deep cleaning the carpet as soon as he gets home. Now I'm watching This Is Us and bawling my eyes out.

[Lollipop]

H found out this afternoon that the tournament he's going to tomorrow is 3 hours away :') so he's leaving at 6:30 in the morning. I have no idea when he'll be home, probably late tomorrow night. I'm not even mad. I'm going to my parents' house for the day. I'll be on my own with the kids for a bit in the morning and probably for bedtime. I'm just laughing at this point lol.

[crimsonandclover]

Hugs, icequeen.

dizzycooks, no naps since Tuesday??? Holy cow, woman, I would be locking myself in a closet to cry.


So, I have discovered why women didn't work before 1950ish. Our dishwasher died earlier this week and I have been washing dishes by hand for a 5-person family since. Our nanny is sick, and DH has been working 14+ hour days. I feel like I'm going to die, and every spare minute is spent washing dishes or trying to keep the kids from killing each other (mostly because DDs 1+2 leave things like plastic wrappers, open markers, and marbles right on the floor for DD3 to grab). I can't even imagine if I also had to do laundry without the washing machine. Like I said - no wonder they didn't work outside the home. It was simply not possible. We are going to get a new dishwasher this afternoon. DH suggested maybe waiting a couple days and I shot him a glare of death.

[crimsonandclover]

Someone hold me. The in-store options were not what we wanted, so we had to order a dishwasher. It will come in about a week. A week. I am instituting a paper-plate and take-out week at our house. Thanksgiving is postponed until we have a dishwasher. No way am I soaking and washing all of those casserole dishes by hand.

[Lollipop]

M just went down for a nap. What do you think the odds are that my mom will text in the next five minutes that she's on her way to get us?

[silverspoon]

Note to self: make sure tub of Cerave cream is tightly shut. Better yet, make sure it's put back on the shelf.

As I was dealing with his clothes from his blowout, he crawled back in the bathroom, found his cream which was still on the floor from his bath, and dumped it all over.

It was a really good day, but that one hour was just so bad. So bad.

So much wine will be had tonight.

[scorpioscuba]

Hugs icequeen! I hope you got some rest. When is DH going to be home?

OMG crimsonandclover, dishwashers are required appliances. I hope it arrives sooner than anticipated!

silverspoon yup these little ones are officially into everything!

[scorpioscuba]

So I started coming down with a cold last night that is full blown today. DD has it too. As I was trying to get her inconsolable self down for a nap this afternoon she puked all over me. Four times. Poor thing. Thank goodness H was here to help clean that up and give her a bath while I showered. Then we napped together. I hope she can sleep tonight cause mama needs some sleep and H is working. 🙏🏻

[silverspoon]

Nov 19, 2016 21:05:12 GMT -5 scorpioscuba said:

So I started coming down with a cold last night that is full blown today. DD has it too. As I was trying to get her inconsolable self down for a nap this afternoon she puked all over me. Four times. Poor thing. Thank goodness H was here to help clean that up and give her a bath while I showered. Then we napped together. I hope she can sleep tonight cause mama needs some sleep and H is working. 🙏🏻

Poor thing. I hope you guys get some sleep. I'm hoping whatever upset J's stomach today (4 bad diapers) won't continue into the night. H is away for the weekend hunting so he gets to miss all this fun.