Morning! Not much on the books today other than a little more cleaning. I can't prep any of my food but will make sure I have everything I need.
I somehow ordered SIX cans of cranberry sauce with my last grocery order. I was over here like, WTF HT. Then I looked at my order and yep, I did it. Mom Brian is still a thing, right?!
[br Fever free's the way to be! No more fever! My dad is home, doing ok, doesn't look like an autoimmune flare, such is great. He really needs a new kidney.
tmclawchick are you ready for your sister? How have you been feeling? Are you still taking it easy?
Dude I'm a freaking MACHINE today. Already I finished the family room, did 2 loads of laundry and took the kids' holiday pictures in the backyard before school... PSA: shutterfly is having a really good sale, but it's supposed to rain this afternoon so I got the kiddos up and made them smile at dawn's first light bwahahaha...My sister and her s/o will be here tomorrow late morning, so today I'm getting the last of the cleaning done and some prep work.
I'm feeling a lot better! I had an appointment yesterday and I'm still at 1 cm, so I'm just making time to relax when I feel like I need it. Contractions are still here but not as intense and not happening at regular intervals. I've definitely had to slow down but it's so hard to make time when the holidays are here, you know?
Post by mommabakes on Nov 23, 2016 10:34:56 GMT -5
I've been trying to limit my online time lately, so I haven't been around much. Not a lot going on. We're getting ready to head out for storytime and a quick stop at the grocery store. Hoping to get DSs bedroom painted tomorrow(finally!) before heading to my grandma's for turkey day. Made a cheesecake for that this morning. Hoping the kids nap at the same time today so that I can work on my quilting some more. It's maybe a fourth of the way done now.
The mashed potatoes are done and fucking delicious! The ambrosia is started. And the ginger snap crusts are started. Just waiting for w to go down for a nap so I can put them in pie pans. Also, w and I took a 2 hour nap snuggled together with the dog.
Post by skinandbones on Nov 23, 2016 15:41:37 GMT -5
I'm so frustrated. I need DH to help out more. I know he has a new work schedule and all that but I'm tired of being the default in making sure the house is clean and we have clean underwear.
DH does a great job with the kids but the new normal is he plays with the kids while I'm trying to clean, straighten up, do laundry, put stuff away, etc. Sometimes I want to be the fun parent, ya know.
I need to leave in an hour and I'm trying to fold another load of laundry (and I'm not sure I have enough clean clothes). I need to pack me and the boys. There are another 2 loads of laundry waiting not to mention towels and sheets from our guests last night. I feel like I have 30 plates spinning and not enough arms. DH got annoyed with me this morning because I was picking up our room and DS2 got a cup and started playing in the toilet (I thought it was hilarious BTW). I would not do stuff but that means a bigger mess later.
I need to talk with DH and find out where his head is. He normally is very "it will figure itself out" but right now what that means is I am the one who figures it out.
Well she went to work. Hopefully she tries to take it easy.
Remember that whatever the outcome it is unlikely it is affected by her going to work today. I have my fx that it is healthy but if it is a loss remind her that it is not her fault. The limbo is almost worse that knowing one way or the other. I will be thinking of her.
Post by tuscanlatte on Nov 23, 2016 17:08:38 GMT -5
skinandbones I feel ya there. There is so much mental energy that goes into just making sure everyone can sustain life day to day! DH is at home right now so he has taken on all of my out of work responsibilities (he tells me "I expect the same from myself that I expect from you.").
The laundry is sky high, the dishes are falling off the counter, and it is deeply satisfying knowing that he can't keep up. Even more satisfying seeing HIM realize that he can't keep up.
skinandbones I so feel your freaking pain. It's gotten even worse since I'm unemployed at the moment still.
Today was a huge break through though, I had H come by his mom's house where I was with M helping MIL cook for the 26 people that will be there tomorrow. I sent H home with M to give him dinner and he even gave him a bath without me asking!
Post by redandblue on Nov 23, 2016 18:47:59 GMT -5
Heyyy! Sounds like everyone has some fun plans for your thanksgiving! ampaints, 26 people?!? That's a big group! I feel you guys on the default parent and roles. Sometimes I get frustrated with DH but in fairness our contributions with the house are almost equal, however I am responsible to make sure there is food and plans for food. I get frustrated that he doesn't help as much with the cleaning, but then again I rarely do the outdoor stuff and bigger jobs (like at the moment him and friend at doing some mudding/sanding the walls in the basement...we have decided to replace the floors, which of course always leads to bigger jobs!).
On a side note I think M might be getting an eye infection. He was rubbing it earlier (as reported by the childcare provider) and now getting some goop. I'm anticipating a yucky eye when he wakes up. Hopefully it can be resolved quickly. We are heading to my grandmother's on Friday for the weekend (about 3 hours away).
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Nov 23, 2016 18:51:53 GMT -5
Also I spoke to the Coordinator at the college about the instructor/part time teaching thing, and basically the job is mine! She said she will send me some info, but all I need to do is send her my resume and she will write up the contract. It is supposed to start in February, so we will see what enrollment might look like, but she also said they are looking for a 'content expert' to help develop another course curriculum for this program and wanted to know if I'm also interested in that! I'm waiting for her to send me the specifics, but I'm pretty excited at the opportunity!
I'm also going to become a Norwex consultant to make a little extra income for extras we want to do with the family. Hopefully some of it pans out!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Well she went to work. Hopefully she tries to take it easy.
Remember that whatever the outcome it is unlikely it is affected by her going to work today. I have my fx that it is healthy but if it is a loss remind her that it is not her fault. The limbo is almost worse that knowing one way or the other. I will be thinking of her.
The main reason I didn't think she should go to work is because there is a 60% chance she'll miscarry and I didn't want her to blame herself. The first thing I told her when she called me yesterday was "there is nothing you did that could have caused this or prevented it". You guys helped me with finding the right words last time.
skinandbones that's my life. I'm always figuring it out and holding this day together for our basic needs. I'm sick of being the reasonable mean parent. I wanna be the fun parent for a bit. But if I don't do what I do it won't get done. And I can talk to H about it til I'm blue in the face and it won't change.
Post by tmclawchick on Nov 23, 2016 20:09:59 GMT -5
+1 to wishing I could be the fun parent every once in awhile. I've gone rounds with DH about pitching in and his response is always "you just need to ask and I'll help." Which is fine but really dude? If there's laundry piled up, do a load. If the garbage is full then take it out. Why do I need to give a grown ass man a to do list like he's a child?
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