December 1 ransoms (weekly post)

[dizzycooks]

How's the week going? We've been posting in other threads, but I thought I'd put the randoms thread up anyway.

[scorpioscuba]

Glad it's Thursday and I'm off tomorrow. I've basically been sick for 2 weeks straight and I'm finally starting to feel like there is a light at the end of the sinus congestion tunnel. DD had her 2nd flu shot today and now I'm making a blue apron dinner. And drinking a glass of wine!

[kcrkcs]

It's been a long week. I need a second me. That's all i've got.

[dizzycooks]

I think I'm more tired than I realized. I sat down after putting all the girls to bed and I haven't moved. I am literally refreshing fb and laying in bed. I've been here an hour now. Dh has been gone every night this week and I am overwhelmed with everything. Normally I'm pretty ok with it, but we had a lot of extra stuff and I got behind.
If you still want holiday greeting card staples has a Groupon ($14/50cards) and Ebates has 9% cash back. I ordered this afternoon and dh is picking them up on his way home tonight. Sooooo much faster than Shutterfly and way cheaper.

[Lollipop]

I went to a craft fair with my BFF this afternoon, I got M's first Christmas ornament. I'm probably going back with my mom tomorrow. Now I'm trying to finish M's stocking (not gonna happen) and watching shows with H. Is it the weekend yet?

[dizzycooks]

We are doing blue apron tonight! I'm hoping it's good. 100days of real food.com had a coupon code for free meals. Give it a try kelltothekell I got mine completely free, no crazy delivery charge or anything.

[crimsonandclover]

I just ended our subscription to HelloFresh that we've been getting since March. I definitely enjoyed it and would have continued, but DH is going to take a pretty serious pay cut next year (in about 3 years he'll start making quite a bit more than he does now, but to get there he has to take the pay cut first). I decided those $160 / month were definitely in the "luxury" category and not the "necessary" one, especially since it didn't end up saving us a lot on groceries like I had anticipated. Still, definitely give those kinds of services a try. I liked all the new variety it brought to the table. Lots of recipes and foods I never would have tried otherwise.

[14joa31]

Dec 1, 2016 21:18:21 GMT -5 dizzycooks said:

I think I'm more tired than I realized. I sat down after putting all the girls to bed and I haven't moved. I am literally refreshing fb and laying in bed. I've been here an hour now. Dh has been gone every night this week and I am overwhelmed with everything. Normally I'm pretty ok with it, but we had a lot of extra stuff and I got behind.
If you still want holiday greeting card staples has a Groupon ($14/50cards) and Ebates has 9% cash back. I ordered this afternoon and dh is picking them up on his way home tonight. Sooooo much faster than Shutterfly and way cheaper.

That is WAY cheaper than shutterfly! I didn't even know that staples did holiday cards - next year!!

[14joa31]

I started sleep training last night. DD woke up at 2am, fired up and ready to play. No way kid. I moved a pack-n-play into the basement play room so she wouldn't wake up the whole house, plopped her in there and went back to bed. She survived! LOL! She was pretty pissed at me when she woke up this morning. I have just had it with her night time parties.

I also want to add this mushy quote that I just read in an article this morning ... I get so nostalgic for when DS was a baby - and he hardly ever wants to snuggle any more

"One day, you'll put him down and won't ever pick him up again" ... because he will have outgrown it. I know this day is coming and I'm not ready! Hopefully it's years away!

[NellieOleson]

Hahaha. I hadn't even realized we were posting in an "old" thread.

Okay. Time to pay a little more attention, Nellie.

[NellieOleson]

14joa31 - are you trying to make me cry, woman??!

But yeah, I try to remember that. Dd1 will say "Carry me! Carry me, mommy!" tons of times a day. Sometimes it drives me crazy, but then I remember I won't always be able to carry her, so I pick her up and squeeze her tight.

[silverspoon]

So pointing down is a thing I guess. He peed out of the top of his diaper last night. I can't really take many more nighttime diaper shenanigans.

Last night he gagged so hard on a piece of banana that he was done eating after that. I tried offering him a really small piece and he acted like it was trying to murder him.

[Lollipop]

I am so tired. M hasn't been sleeping too badly. H was in a horrible mood last night, so when he started snoring I didn't want to wake him up. Which meant that I was having a hard time getting to sleep. I should nap when M does.

[dizzycooks]

Im going to brain dump here later. That ok with everyone? I have just about no one I can talk to Irl and I'm struggling with everything lately.

[kcrkcs]

dizzycooks sorry your are struggling. Dump away.
L got her second flu shot today and then we met s friend for breakfast. Friend gave us a bunch of baby clothes and toys her kiddo no longer plays with. We now have soooo many wooden puzzles!!!
Also cat had to go to the vet on an "emergency" basis yesterday. $500 later I have my cat back but the likely hood that he won't make it that much longer. Wish they had mentioned this before going no holds bar on the treatment protocol. Not that he isn't worth it but I might not have gone all out if we are just going to be putting him down a week from now. Maybe that's heartless. I don't know. I have to make tough decisions with the horses and I feel like maybe I am getting too academic about it.
Well I guess there is my rain dump for the day.

[14joa31]

dizzycooks - dump away! I'm actually having a pretty rough day today myself. I'm just super bummed out about the atrocities in the world against children, especially in Yemen and Aleppo. I feel so powerless I'm letting myself have a day to just be sad.

kcrkcs - I'm sorry about your cat - that is a major bummer!

[dizzycooks]

kcrkcs I'm sorry about your cat. Those are tough choices no matter your background. I dread the day we have to deal with our dog.
Lately I'm just feeling overwhelmed. I think it's some combination of finding my post vacation groove, dh working long hours all week this week and some new developments in general.
1. Dh interviewed for a job. He has a lunch meeting with them and we believe he got the job based on several things. I'm not sure I'm thrilled with the benefits package they are offering.
2. Still haven't figured out when or how to take the training course I need to complete.
3. Planning three kids bday parties. I should not be letting this stress me out, but it is.
4. I just got a call from a family I use to tutor for and they want to know if I'm available. Given she schedule I'm not unless I hire a sitter. It's worth hiring a sitter, but I'm torn about adding more to my plate.
5. All the Christmas things. All the family drama.
6. Wtf is with my baby not napping?? Is anyone else struggling with nap dropping? If she naps in the am she won't nap in the pm. If she waits to long to nap in the pm then she doesn't nap at all. It's not fun. She turns into a monster. I really need her on the afternoon schedule with my other girls.
8. My mind is racing constantly. Did someone pee? Who's crying? What are they going to eat next? How will I ever teach again when I haven't read a book in months? What am I going to do with 6 years worth of clothing? Do you keep all the toys? Obviously they aren't all age appropriate, but the little one might like them in a few years.
9. I am helping a family member move in a few weeks. With my kids in tow. Fun huh? I don't see it going well, but he is insisting we would be helpful.
10. My blue apron box is on my porch and all I can think is "I still have to cook it."

[14joa31]

dizzycooks - that is a lot of stuff going on all at once. Is there any way that you can take a mental health day and just relax by yourself and do nothing? I was surprised to learn that two of my neighbor Moms are on anti-anxiety medication, and it's not surprising given that the weight of the world is on every modern mom's shoulders. We have to be Awesome at Everything All the Time. I am sending you happy vibes - know that you are fabulous and we are here for you! xoxoxo!

[Lollipop]

Finally got my birth certificate! So now I just need to add pictures of it and S's to the former and letter from our doctor and send the whole shebang in so S is on record as being my kid and I will be getting the benefit for him as well as M. Woo!

[dizzycooks]

Dec 2, 2016 15:35:56 GMT -5 Lollipop said:

Finally got my birth certificate! So now I just need to add pictures of it and S's to the former and letter from our doctor and send the whole shebang in so S is on record as being my kid and I will be getting the benefit for him as well as M. Woo!

S? Isn't your son J? Or do you have another? My apologies for being dumb.

[Lollipop]

Dec 2, 2016 15:39:46 GMT -5 dizzycooks said:

Dec 2, 2016 15:35:56 GMT -5 Lollipop said:

Finally got my birth certificate! So now I just need to add pictures of it and S's to the former and letter from our doctor and send the whole shebang in so S is on record as being my kid and I will be getting the benefit for him as well as M. Woo!

S? Isn't your son J? Or do you have another? My apologies for being dumb.

I usually refer to him as S on here, short for his nickname, on FB I tend to call him by his real name, which does start with a J

[silverspoon]

kcrkcs I'm sorry about your cat. I do understand what you're saying about maybe making a different choice. Your vet should've let you make that choice before taking such measures.

dizzycooks that's overwhelming. The new job with the H would be enough to make me anxious. I hate change even when it's not directly to me. H switched high schools a few years ago and I cried.

[silverspoon]

J is in bed. This new room at daycare is just exhausting for him. He goes to bed between 6:30-7, but he's honestly kind of a cranky mess past 5:30. It's like on the way home he realizes he's ready to crash after being go go go all day. He only naps once per day at daycare.

It's just getting so frustrating having so many awful evenings. He gets mad eating dinner, mad getting his pajamas on after his bath, mad while reading books (we're down to just 1 when we used to read 3 and we don't even make it all the way through 1), then he drinks his bottle and passes out.

I keep telling myself it's just another phase. This too shall pass.

[kcrkcs]

silverspoon that's a bummer though that you get less happy baby time. Can they make time for him to have another nap?

[tinydancer]

Glad you're feeling better scorpioscuba!
kelltothekell, have fun at the event tomorrow! We're going to our town's Christmas parade tomorrow afternoon and I'm really looking forward to it.
Lollipop, I'm so happy it's the weekend.
silverspoon, I now always check to make sure he's pointing down
Sorry about your cat, kcrkcs. It's always tough to make those choices.

Re blue apron - I have a box coming tomorrow, and I also am feeling somewhat, but I still have to cook it. I also got my first meals free and I think it's definitely fun to do once in awhile, but I can only do it about once every other month.

dizzycooks, that is a lot. I also hope you can get a break. My H was gone all week for work and it feels like a lot to do it with one kid - I can't imagine how you do it with three. I hope you get some time to yourself to decompress. Also, as my H sometimes says whenever he's stressing out about things coming up, they can't stop time. It will keep moving and then some of those things will be off your plate. In the meantime, feel free to vent here!

[scorpioscuba]

So sorry about your kitty, kcrkcs . I agree with the others, its disappointing that your vet didn't discuss the long term prognosis first so you could make a more informed decision.

Big Hugs, dizzycooks ! That is so much going on. Could you tutor instead of the night job that requires the training? I know for me, when things start piling up I seriously start looking at cutting things that just aren't necessary to "be kind to myself" so to speak.

silverspoon, It's so tough when every night you end up dealing with an overtired kiddo since I know you want to spend quality time with J. Is there any way to switch up the schedule in someway? Get DC to add in another nap? I know some parents try to stagger their work schedules so one parent can drop the kid off later and the other can pick up earlier from DC so they don't spend so much time there. Just a thought....

[tinydancer]

I can't believe babies are already going down to one nap! My LO still takes one in the morning and one in the afternoon, at least.

Does anyone have a walker yet? My guy will take 3 or 4 steps in between things, but it's mostly because he has no fear of crashing. He's still not too good at standing on his own.

[scorpioscuba]

I'm glad today is over. Volunteered in DS's classroom which was a clusterF. Clearly everyone is ready for Christmas break. Then home to DD and we went to Walmart to get some Christmas shopping done. Scored a 16" bike for DS for $40! It doesn't have to be put together and all H has to do is take the training wheels off. Came home to a headache and nausea, laid on the floor while DD crawled all over me. Then off to pick DS up from school while DD screamed in the back. Dropped kids off to my parents so I could go to the lab and get some bloodwork done. I tell them I need a lie down room and an expert b/c I have crap for veins. WTF do they give me? A student. I very politely declined and asked for someone else. Even he missed on the first try. FML

Oh and a H rant. He has to "go to the bathroom" so f*cking much I think it's his way of escaping. Like, seriously? Nothing else can happen until he has his time in the bathroom. I wish I had that kind of freedom.

Sorry! Guess we're all having one of those weeks where we just need to vent.

[scorpioscuba]

We are still very firmly in the 2 naps a day camp, tinydancer !

ETA - I think consolidating from 2 naps to 1 a day happens closer to 12 - 18 months. Obviously there is variability in that though. 

[tinydancer]

scorpioscuba, I literally told my H this evening that I wish I had the kind of freedom he had. He was travelling for work this week and every night he was out to dinner or at a bar with some coworkers. And then today he got done before lunch but decided to go sightseeing for a few hours instead of driving straight home. Must be nice!

To be fair, we did talk about the sightseeing and I don't mind that he went (because really, what does another few hours matter), it's just that I would never make that decision, I would always come home as soon as possible.