M still *needs* 2 naps a day, but due to our schedule with S being in school she only gets one some days. She's ready for her first one, which should be about 2 hours, about 45 minutes before we have to leave to take S to school. So she often just has the one while he's at school. She usually has her afternoon nap between 4 - 4:30, but on the days we have to walk S she isn't ready for the afternoon nap until supper time, which is too close to bedtime. On days when we're just at home with nothing to do, she goes down about 2 hours after she gets up, and then again at about 4:30, usually 2 and 1 hour respectively.
Basically our naps are all over the place. S being in school really screwed M's schedule up.
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 3, 2016 3:53:07 GMT -5
dizzycooks, that sounds really stressful. Would the tutoring job be less stressful than the one you have now? Maybe you could drop that other one and take the tutoring one instead?
DD1 switched from 2 naps to one about 2 weeks ago. DD2 also dropped down to 1 when she was right about this age. The transition phase is pretty crappy, although it's not as bad as when they transition from 1 nap to no nap (because then when they do take a nap they don't go to bed at night and when they don't nap they're a tired toddler mess, which is pretty dang close to hell on earth). DH is in a pissy mood today, and for some reason - TMI - my buttcrack is itching like mad, but if I scratch then it hurts. I had hemorrhoids after all 3 births, and this is definitely not the same. I have no clue what's going on but it's very uncomfortable.
Good news, though: our new dishwasher finally came!!!
His new room has a scheduled nap time and only 1 per day so that's all we're going to get. The infant room where he was they just napped and ate whenever. Now he's got this whole schedule.
He still gets 2 at home but the morning one is really long. He only naps for like 45 minutes at daycare compared to 2 hours at home.
Guys, the nighttime diaper malfunctioned again. I'M DYING HERE. It occurred to me this morning that this is the first week of using Huggies Overnites since they discontinued the Pampers nighttime diapers we used.
I think I'm on the hunt for something new. These clearly don't fit him right. This time the pee came out around his leg.
silverspoon our naps have always differed from daycare well. My older kids napped two times at home because exhausted from the week at D.C. They did also go to bed promptly at 630 until I started staying at home with them. They were is full meltdown mode when I picked up at 430.
My problem with "me time" is all the other crap doesn't get done. Dh is taking the big two to the Y and then Costco this morning so I'm hoping to get some things done even though the tiny dictator is still here. First decisions. To get dressed or stay on my Jammie's? Part of me thinks I'd be more productive dressed, but the part says just dive in while I have the motivation to do it. #firstworldproblems #icantdecide
I'm watching a Christmas movie that has been dubbed from (I think) German. It's extremely irritating that the audio doesn't match the mouths. We're going to my mom's house to decorate for Christmas today. Both kids were up early today. I might have gotten S to go back to sleep, but M woke up and wouldn't go back down.
Post by NellieOleson on Dec 3, 2016 13:17:58 GMT -5
I big time love Huggies Overnights, but have only used them with girls - maybe they don't work as well for boy pee?
dizzycooks - I would politely tell your family member that you can't help them move. I mean, who asks a mom with three little kids to help them move? Especially right around the holidays? That's really asking too much IMO.
We are two naps a day here, but wouldn't be surprised if she dropped to one soon. Dd1 was down to one nap at 11 months.
tinydancerscorpioscuba -I think the "my free time vs H's free time" has been the biggest challenge for me since becoming a parent. Well, that and baby sleep - which is also on me to deal with. It's hard not to get resentful sometimes.
We're decorating my parents house today. M thinks my BIL is a shifty character. She won't go anywhere near him. It's weird, because she goes to strangers.
I can't believe babies are already going down to one nap! My LO still takes one in the morning and one in the afternoon, at least.
Does anyone have a walker yet? My guy will take 3 or 4 steps in between things, but it's mostly because he has no fear of crashing. He's still not too good at standing on his own.
Thanks! I was mainly asking if anyone had a baby that walks yet because I seem to remember that some are close. icequeen and sjames2015 maybe?
kelltothekell, my LO doesn't really like to walk holding on to us either, but he loves to walk with his walkers. Or anything he can push around (his high chair is the best).
Hey everyone! dizzycooks, I'm rooting for you girl. You do so much with your three girls and I know it's not the best give and take when you have me time. I have the same problem. I know making a priority task list helps me, even just to have it all written down in front of me to keep my mind from scrambling too much. Hang in there, you are doing amazing.
We also have the vtech walker and both DD and DS have used it. DS is walking like a pro now. He basically does laps around the kitchen and living room all day. He loves walking. Sometimes he gets so excited that he's walking that he waves and claps his hands so hard that he falls over. And then he gets upset, lol.
Today was a giant fail. We were supposed to meet my best friend/DS godmother at the festival downtown and I had my reserves about it because I HATE driving into the city and all the crowds plus it's cold and the festival is outdoors. I convinced myself maybe it's not as bad as I remembered it from a few years ago and that we would be there for a quick hour and come home. We got there and could not find parking for 25 minutes. Could barely get into the festival because of the mob of people. It was so packed and I had a huge fucking stroller, plus DD was yelling that she wanted all the fancy puppet toys and ornaments and pastries. DS started screaming because he was scared of all the people and noise and because he couldn't see me (facing forward). My friend suggested we just go to Macy's for lunch so we did that but that was crowded as well. Both kids passed out on the way home and had a good rest of the day, but holy shit, I am NEVER going back into the city again.
DD2 is taking a few steps here and there. She can walk, she just won't let go much. I'm down to using my phone to encourage her to walk to me. She just like her big sister and is just to afraid to just go. But she can crawl and cruise so fast. Once she starts walking, I see running within days from that.
Took the kids to see Santa. Now we're hanging out at home for a bit. And then I'm going to a movie with some girlfriends. I was planning to decorate for Christmas tomorrow after school, but H has a thing
Post by silverspoon on Dec 4, 2016 18:57:58 GMT -5
H came home from being gone hunting this weekend. As soon as he walked in the door I could feel myself getting angry. I feel like I'm turning into this angry person and the only way I can see to fix it is not living with him.
I'm avoiding him and he asked me if I was mad. I said no, but I kind of wanted to say "all the time".
H came home from being gone hunting this weekend. As soon as he walked in the door I could feel myself getting angry. I feel like I'm turning into this angry person and the only way I can see to fix it is not living with him.
I'm avoiding him and he asked me if I was mad. I said no, but I kind of wanted to say "all the time".
This may be totally off base, but have you considered if you could be having some symptoms of postpartum depression?
icequeen - whenever someone invites me to an event where the only thing for my toddler to do is look at things - I politely decline. Because that will always turn into Chernobyl- so sorry about the crappy outing! silverspoon - sorry about the bad hubby JuJu. There was a good scary mommy blog recently about how motherhood made her so pissed off at her husband all the time. It happens!
H came home from being gone hunting this weekend. As soon as he walked in the door I could feel myself getting angry. I feel like I'm turning into this angry person and the only way I can see to fix it is not living with him.
I'm avoiding him and he asked me if I was mad. I said no, but I kind of wanted to say "all the time".
This may be totally off base, but have you considered if you could be having some symptoms of postpartum depression?
I never thought of that. I don't know. I guess it's possible. I definitely don't remember feeling this way before J.
Sometimes I think I'm not adjusting as well as I try to portray I am to being a mom. If that makes sense.
silverspoon I am sorry you are feeling that way. This is a big adjustment. Sometimes I look at my hubs and think why are you even here. I never felt this way before. Ever. It's a little scary. Anyway that's just to say. I think this baby stuff is tough and brings a whole knew dynamic that takes a lot of navigating. Big hugs.
silverspoon I hear you on the anger piece. Im angry a lot and I don't like it. It's hard to remember these years are a blessing and my family is amazing. I was also thinking ppd and I think you should mention it. My doctor has already told me "this is life with three kids" so support I didn't not receive. I wish you better luck. I just asked dh to bring the laundry in, and he goes "now"? Uh no, next week. Seriously? Yes! Now!
My H apparently wants to sleep with one eye open tonight. As I was getting good ready to go out with friends (which he said he was ok with) M was melting down. And he goes "yes, I know, you want to your bottle, but I need to change your diaper because your completely useless mommy doesn't freaking do anything". I was like fucking excuse me?! I do everything for the kids when he's at work or out 2 or 3 times a week. And ever since I got home he's been acting like nothing happened. I get that he had a bad week, and I get that he's in a bad mood, but that is not my fault, and I don't deserve to have his bad mood taken out on me. Especially in front of the kids. I went outside to wait for my friend to pick me up and cried. That's the first time he's ever said something like that to me. It had sure as hell better be the last
silverspoon, kcrkcs, I absolutely feel you ladies on those sentiments. I harbor a lot of resentment and i try to examine it more in the moment when i realize i am being to boil. Is there anything else that's bothering me? Do i need to write down what im feeling to organize and clarify my thoughts? Should we talk later? Am i hungry, sleepy, etc? I hope you can talk to a doctor silverspoon and maybe get a psych referral if your PCP or OB agrees. Big hugs, you are definitely NOT alone in this.
We got dumped on with snow today. I already feel worse. I hate having to dress the kids for this weather, especially because we are always on the go. I almost want to take off my coat in the car because I'm so heated from transporting their stuff, carrying them, and being constantly on guard for some catastrophe. We went to church, then the grocery store, then home for lunch and then to my mom's to play in the snow (she has a huge yard). DD loves the snow but she's not too fond of the winter gear I make her wear. DS didn't care too much. He's way more interested in walking around exploring the house and the dog. I took a short nap on the couch while DD had her quiet time. I did bills and other house stuff in the evening.
@mrslolipopb that is crazy out of line. What an asshat. I know there is such a thing as not fighting in front of your kid but I probably would have lost it right there.
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 5, 2016 6:13:00 GMT -5
silverspoon, a woman on my first BMB came really close to divorcing her husband because she was constantly angry with him. Women on TB also encouraged her to divorce him. She ended up having undiagnosed PPD, and when she went on meds everything got way better.
Having said that, I'm with the others who say that I often feel resentful of DH, mostly because I feel like he's just living his life and mine is on hold. He had a couple of days vacation last week and was really snippy this weekend. When I asked why he said he felt like I was just using him to get things done and taking advantage of the fact that he was home to get things done myself. Um, duh. I told him that given the choice of hanging out with him on the couch, knowing that later I will have to drag 3 kids with me to go grocery shopping, or handing him the baby and going grocery shopping alone, guess what I choose. I also told him I feel like he uses me for childcare. He feels free to accept any and all commitments because I'll of course be home with the kids, whereas if I want to do something I have to make sure he's free or arrange a babysitter. It causes a lot of resentment.
However, it's not all the time, and it's usually triggered by an actual situation. If you say you're getting angry when your DH just walks in the door, I would definitely at least get PPD/PPA ruled out.
Post by silverspoon on Dec 5, 2016 10:22:48 GMT -5
I wanted to say thank you to everyone. I never really thought of PPD/PPA because it's just been this anger which when I think of PPD, that isn't what I thought of. I will call my OB. I don't have a PCP. I've slacked on that over the years and it's probably time to find one anyway.
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