annbuhdan I also don't think it's fair for DH to blame you. It's easy to second guess yourself after the fact. Glad DD is fine! Hopefully you can enjoy the rest of vacation. And maybe have an agreement with DH that whoever has the baby the other is responsible for DD. Try not to beat yourself up!
Ok so I apologize for this question as I know most kiddos aren't STTN. So DS for the most part STTN for 12 hours. Doesn't wake to eat. However some nights he does wake up. I try sending DH in and he can get him back to sleep 50% of the time. However the other half I have to go in and DS wants to nurse. So my question is I'm a creating a bad habit nursing MOTN? With DD once she STTN she never got another bottle after bedtime. But I always knew exacting how much she ate throughout the day. With nursing I'm not sure. We go to pedi in a week so I'll ask him too. But wanted mom options. Once again sorry as I know this question could appear insensitive.
Ok so I apologize for this question as I know most kiddos aren't STTN. So DS for the most part STTN for 12 hours. Doesn't wake to eat. However some nights he does wake up. I try sending DH in and he can get him back to sleep 50% of the time. However the other half I have to go in and DS wants to nurse. So my question is I'm a creating a bad habit nursing MOTN? With DD once she STTN she never got another bottle after bedtime. But I always knew exacting how much she ate throughout the day. With nursing I'm not sure. We go to pedi in a week so I'll ask him too. But wanted mom options. Once again sorry as I know this question could appear insensitive.
How does he eat the next day? Unless he shows obvious signs of not being as hungry I would think he needs it. Milk supply and transfer fluctuates so oddly.
Once they are on 3 solid meals eating well at each one I'd be more likely to be firm on night weaning.
gratefulgirl the next day he'll eat normally. And there's no rhyme or reason to his wake ups. Sometimes MOTN he'll actually eat and other times I can tell it's more comfort. But obviously I don't know the difference until I'm actually nursing. This is when BF is so confusing. Thanks for your input. I figure I'll keep sending DH in first then if that doesn't work nurse him. Since that is the quickest way for all back to sleep.
Post by frodabaggins on Dec 17, 2016 22:23:08 GMT -5
Just wanted to check in :-) haven't been around for a while. Both kids were sick - baby with RSV, two year old with hand foot and mouth!! I felt like I was just scraping by in survival mode. Also baby girl quit breastfeeding for good. I gave away my breast pump and moved on with my life after some agonizing. Things are...not great with my hubs. We had a huge fight tonight in front of the babies, over our differing opinions on how to discipline a wilful toddler. I'm exhausted. Sending love to all!!!
Just wanted to check in :-) haven't been around for a while. Both kids were sick - baby with RSV, two year old with hand foot and mouth!! I felt like I was just scraping by in survival mode. Also baby girl quit breastfeeding for good. I gave away my breast pump and moved on with my life after some agonizing. Things are...not great with my hubs. We had a huge fight tonight in front of the babies, over our differing opinions on how to discipline a wilful toddler. I'm exhausted. Sending love to all!!!
Oh my gosh, this is a lot of stress all at once! I'm sorry for everything you've been dealing with!
meagpt22 we have something similar going on here. LO recently added in a 4am wakeup on some nights. He normally goes 12hrs before his first wakeup so I just attributed it to a growth spurt. Since his wakeup falls 8-9 hours after his last feed, I always offer boob. I leave him at the breast as long as he wants to eat, but if I notice he's not eating and is there just for comfort I take him off and lay him back down.
*He got shots yesterday though so I've been letting him do whatever makes him feel better. There has been lots of comfort nursing that I'm hoping he doesn't get used to. TETO, but it's just not my thing.
Thanks ladies. I feel both ways - obviously I deserve some blame, but things just happen so fast!
frodabaggins The parenting "discussions" have been happening with us a lot lately too. I've been oddly comforted by reading online stories of couples going through this stage as well. The little kids stage seems to bring strain to a lot of couples. Just know you're definitely not alone!
Ok so I apologize for this question as I know most kiddos aren't STTN. So DS for the most part STTN for 12 hours. Doesn't wake to eat. However some nights he does wake up. I try sending DH in and he can get him back to sleep 50% of the time. However the other half I have to go in and DS wants to nurse. So my question is I'm a creating a bad habit nursing MOTN? With DD once she STTN she never got another bottle after bedtime. But I always knew exacting how much she ate throughout the day. With nursing I'm not sure. We go to pedi in a week so I'll ask him too. But wanted mom options. Once again sorry as I know this question could appear insensitive.
How does he eat the next day? Unless he shows obvious signs of not being as hungry I would think he needs it. Milk supply and transfer fluctuates so oddly.
Once they are on 3 solid meals eating well at each one I'd be more likely to be firm on night weaning.
I agree. It sounds like those nights he is just actually hungry
annbuhdan i'm so sorry you went through that. It sounds scary for sure. I'm sure H will forgive you, it'd be wrong of him not to, especially since you did nothing wrong. Things happen, and they happen so quickly. I'm not sure I would've thought to take the baby with me. Actually I'm sure I wouldn't have. When DH was in his car accident, it didn't even click that I could put the baby into the car and drive over to the scene. I panicked and was like "I've got the kids I can't leave oh my God what do I do?!?"
meagpt22, if he's hungry, I don't see any harm in feeding him. This baby goes through phases. Sometimes he needs more. Sometimes he needs less. You're right though, BF'ing is soooo freaking confusing.
frodabaggins, sending love back at you. That sounds so exhausting. Hopefully you and your H are able to get better as things calm down. I know when things are crazy here DH and I tend to fight a lot
shehulk723, I bought the one I almost bought last week. My enabler DH was like yeah do it!
annbuhdan Don't blame yourself at all! What a scary situation. I wouldn't have thought to bring the baby in the water in order to get the big.
R has had diarrhea on and off for several days and has thrown up several times. He is in good spirits, but it seems he has some sort of virus probably. Everytime we try to sleep train, within a few days, something happens that causes us to stop...DD got HFM and we wanted R to have antibodies, R started daycare and wasn't taking bottles well at first, R had a growth spurt, and now this. I'm so tired. I truly hope 2017 is kinder and easier for our family.
frodabaggins, I'm sorry things are so rough. You've posted previously about marital issues. Would you and YH consider marital counseling. Raising small children is tough, and not being on the same page as your partner makes it so much more stressful. I hope you are able to work things out.
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