Good luck to those of you sleep training - sleepy vibes for all. Good luck with the diapers silverspoon.
On the subject of winter wear - we're traveling to the upper midwest for the holidays and I'm not sure what to bring for my LO. He will pretty much be in the house or in the car, but I think it can still get pretty cold in the car. We don't have any winter coats (no need for them here), and I'm not sure if they're supposed to wear puffy coats in the car seat anyway? I was thinking just some layers - longsleeved onesie and a sweatshirt - and a blanket over the car seat? It's been awhile since I've been in the cold so I can't quite remember what it will feel like.
I have to figure out what to wear to walk over to pick S up from school. My mom wasn't able to get away from the office after all, so M and I are walking over and then taking a cab to her office after we get S. I can bundle M up really well, but I don't have very warm pants, and I can't find my hat.
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 7, 2016 16:17:38 GMT -5
silverspoon, Definitely make sure his penis is pointing down when you put on his diaper for the night and that it is on snug. You could also add a baby washcloth to the upper front of his diaper as a quick absorb type material to catch any floods. That's a cloth diaper trick but might work for you as well. As a last resort, if all else fails, I'd resort to wool covers over his night diapers. I had to do that with DS and while bulky, I never had leaks after that. It is no fun dealing with leaks and wet clothes, sheets, etc every single morning!
Good luck to those of you sleep training - sleepy vibes for all. Good luck with the diapers silverspoon .
On the subject of winter wear - we're traveling to the upper midwest for the holidays and I'm not sure what to bring for my LO. He will pretty much be in the house or in the car, but I think it can still get pretty cold in the car. We don't have any winter coats (no need for them here), and I'm not sure if they're supposed to wear puffy coats in the car seat anyway? I was thinking just some layers - longsleeved onesie and a sweatshirt - and a blanket over the car seat? It's been awhile since I've been in the cold so I can't quite remember what it will feel like.
I live in the midwest so I figured I'd share what J wears.
In the car he just wears a fleece, hat, and shoes. That's it. I wrap a blanket around him to go to and from the car. Yes, it's cold out, but we aren't outside in the cold for more than a minute or so. I do throw his blanket over him in the car also, but I usually have it already running so it's warm.
Good luck to those of you sleep training - sleepy vibes for all. Good luck with the diapers silverspoon .
On the subject of winter wear - we're traveling to the upper midwest for the holidays and I'm not sure what to bring for my LO. He will pretty much be in the house or in the car, but I think it can still get pretty cold in the car. We don't have any winter coats (no need for them here), and I'm not sure if they're supposed to wear puffy coats in the car seat anyway? I was thinking just some layers - longsleeved onesie and a sweatshirt - and a blanket over the car seat? It's been awhile since I've been in the cold so I can't quite remember what it will feel like.
I live in the midwest so I figured I'd share what J wears.
In the car he just wears a fleece, hat, and shoes. That's it. I wrap a blanket around him to go to and from the car. Yes, it's cold out, but we aren't outside in the cold for more than a minute or so. I do throw his blanket over him in the car also, but I usually have it already running so it's warm.
That's what we do for M as well. The only time she wears more than that is walking, when I put her in her snowsuit, with her hat and mittens under it.
L wears a fleece onesie over her reg clothes plus a blanket in the car seat. No hat, shoes occasionally. She will not tolerate hat while in the seat. If out for any stretch of time she has a snow suit, hat, mittens, and boots. Sleep is sucking here. With all the teeth and colds I have been too quick to provide boob comfort. Really need to get this turned around. Will power.... I need you.
Post by silverspoon on Dec 7, 2016 20:12:12 GMT -5
Oh the hat comes off in the car almost as soon as I get him buckled in . If he's mad, he takes his shoes and socks off also. There's usually a lot of grunting and yelling during that time.
Then when we get where we're going I put it all back on.
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 7, 2016 22:22:12 GMT -5
I'm super excited. Last Christmas, I read DS the story of The Nutcracker. As soon as we pulled out the Christmas books this year he wanted me to read it again and has been really wanting a Nutcracker so I got him just a cheap one at Target. Well, I just got tix to take him to see the Nutcracker ballet! It's just a small local production. We are going on Saturday night. Since H works, my mom is watching DD for me so we can do a mommy/son date. He doesn't know yet and I'm trying to figure out how to surprise him!
My mom and I spent about 2 hours planning our Christmas baking. This is the first year we've planned like this that I can remember. We have a list of supplies that we need. We're making rum cake, cookies, grasshopper pie, more cookies, Marshmallow bars, mocha cakes, mincemeat tarts, and possibly butter tarts.
OMG scorpioscuba, best mom ever. I love the nutcracker. Have so much fun! silverspoon, DS takes all his stuff off in the car too. He usually wears fleece, hat, shoes, mittens. Sometimes he has a thin wool blanket over him if we are walking outside for longer than 5 minutes or so. 14joa31, FX the good streak continues! Lollipop, so glad your mom and sis are being generous with their time.
I am really sad tonight. DD has been missing her dad a lot lately and bringing him up multiple times a day. I asked her at bedtime if she had fun with mommy today and she said "Dad is the best" and pulled the covers over her head. I told her I loved her, that I still liked playing with her, and that I was sorry she was sad about her daddy. I left the room after our goodnights and then she came back into the kitchen and said "Dad, dad, dad, I want dad." I hugged and held her and asked if she wanted to have fun with mommy tomorrow and she shook her head no. She repeated "I want my daddy." I'm in tears. I don't know why she doesn't like me anymore. I try so hard to be a good mom and I'm obsessing where I am going wrong. Do I force her to take too many pictures with me? Do I not play enough games? Am I mean? Do I not divide my time between her and DS evenly? Is it because she's picked up that I have a mental illness? I don't know what to do.
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 7, 2016 23:43:10 GMT -5
Oh, icequeen. It's not that she doesn't want you. It's that she wants what's not around as much. She knows you are always there for her. I really just think it's because he isn't around as much and that is hard on them when they are so young. They don't understand. But I know it's hard to not take personal. Big hugs!!
Oh, icequeen. It's not that she doesn't want you. It's that she wants what's not around as much. She knows you are always there for her. I really just think it's because he isn't around as much and that is hard on them when they are so young. They don't understand. But I know it's hard to not take personal. Big hugs!!
All of this. S went through that phase as well. Kids always prefer the parent who isn't around as much. It really isn't personal.
icequeen big hugs. I can't imagine how hard it would be but don't take that personally. Everything that scorpioscuba said. It's not a she likes him And doesn't like you or you are a bad mom it's just a phase. A very hurtful phase but not something that is really directed at you. Big hugs momma.
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 8, 2016 2:37:52 GMT -5
icequeen, my kids go through daddy phases and mommy phases. We try not to take it personally, although it is hard. The favored parent also tries to remind the child (as long as they're not a baby) that it hurts the other person's feelings. Just the other week DD2 was crying because DH was taking her to bed and not me. I asked her how she would feel if DH said he only wanted to play with DD1 and not her. She said it would make her sad, and I said it made him sad when she says she only wants me to take her to bed. Not that she changed her mind, but she seemed to be more sympathetic and didn't protest quite as loudly I agree that it's very easy for the kids to take for granted the person who's always there. You are the constant in her life and she misses the "extra bonus" of daddy.
Oh, icequeen. It's not that she doesn't want you. It's that she wants what's not around as much. She knows you are always there for her. I really just think it's because he isn't around as much and that is hard on them when they are so young. They don't understand. But I know it's hard to not take personal. Big hugs!!
icequeen, +1 to everything that's already been said. Hugs.
silverspoon, this place is terrible for my wallet. I keep telling H that some of the things are for his birthday. But then there will be the after Christmas clearance...
icequeen everyone has already said what I was going to say. To not *you* it's her. You are a constant and he is a novelty. Have you read about "default parents"? I think that describes many of us here. Unfortunately that makes the other parent the special one. Kids are fickle. Dh put our girls to bed last night and they were both crying for mama saying he's fun but I love them. Sweet for me, but heartbreaking for him. Afm, we had a fucking awful morning. I am going to be removing 95% of my oldest daughters clothing from her drawers. She will not add a sweatshirt over her Tshirts so I guess she can't have them. It's freaking cold here. She wouldn't clean up the toys with her sister so I'll be removing whatever is still out when lunch is made. She was 15 minutes late for preschool and I almost just kept her home. She was (is?) a complete mess. I'm so pissed. This temper tantrum shit is so effing old. I need new strategies because my response to her screaming in my face and kicking me is not appropriate.
I finished my shopping for all the kids in my life. I'm conflicted about my nieces gift. I ended up buying them a CD player to play the books and songs I got them. I feel like it's a lame gift. My girls love their CD player and use it often, but I'm just not sure it's exciting for kids who are use to tablets and streaming stuff. I have no clue about what to get my parents and only a few ideas for dhs parents. I've made zero cookies. I guess that's good for my waistline.
Has anyone heard of the book Intentional Families? We heard about it in my baby class last night and I think I will check it out. Anyone interested in perhaps doing a book club?
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 8, 2016 10:43:24 GMT -5
silverspoon, yay for diapers that worked! Boo for puke. So sorry.
Also, I broke out DS's old M&D latchboard for DD and she loves it. I have to open all the doors for her and the she just opens and closes them. So cute! I also brought out the wooden blocks. She's not stacking them yet on her own but she loves knocking my buildings down!
I'm so sorry dizzycooks. Is there a safe place you can put her until her tantrum is over? A bedroom or something? Even if you are late, I think it's best that you brought her. A change of scenery for her and a break (kindof!) for you.
Post by scorpioscuba on Dec 8, 2016 10:46:14 GMT -5
DS complained of a sore throat last night. Cue seal like hacking all night long. Poor kid. DD decided to have another one of her 2 hour middle of the night parties. I am sure I jinxed her good sleep by talking about it here yesterday.
DS woke up with a 101 degree fever. FML. Thankfully H finished his last final yesterday so he gets to be home with both kids. I am at work and kinda happy about that. He has to get better by Saturday for the Nutcracker or I will have the major sads....
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