Post by shedreamsincolor on Dec 8, 2016 14:35:07 GMT -5
LizInFL - I totally hear you. I'm sorry it has tough with your toddler too. I just keep trying to remember how much their little world has changed in the last month. That, along with holidays and lots of change to routines there, I imagine must be really stressful to them. Still it doesn't change the fact that my kid needs to get his act together.
Omg it was so nice not having to reject him when I wasn't in the mood the last 6 weeks. I'm actually not looking forward to the first time he tries to make a move.
tallblonde Yay for a good appt!! I didn't realize we are supposed to do tummy time already, I really need to be on some blog or email alerts for baby development. Does it count if you lay them tummy down on your chest and they practice that way?
Chest sleeping or laying definitely counts. Fwiw I almost never did formal tummy time with DS and he hit all his gross motor milestones early. I attribute this to the fact that he wouldn't sleep anywhere but on someone's chest for the first 3 months.
D is an easier baby and actually has times in the day where she is awake and happy so we are doing it for like 3-4 minutes a day. Most important thing is to not let it drive you crazy!
Omg it was so nice not having to reject him when I wasn't in the mood the last 6 weeks. I'm actually not looking forward to the first time he tries to make a move.
Omg it's already happening and I haven't had my appointment. 3 weeks pp and he is dropping hints I straight up told him hell no. At one point I was in bed desperately wishing for another hour of sleep and he ended up getting cozy and I was so touched out and exhausted I ended up in tears. If he knew I was or why he would have been absolutely distraught but I also felt bad for him too so I didn't say anything.
Re: sex, I'm in the same boat and laughing along with you ladies! I've still got just under a month off left.
Seriously though goldenlove3 don't be afraid to let him know that you might not be ready yet just because you are cleared. My 6 week PP appointment with DS was on DH's birthday and I know he was super hopeful lol. But I was nervous and just not emotionally ready until 11 weeks PP. Sorry H.
All + whatever for chest tummy time counting it's most of what ds is going to get with dd around. She likes to kill him with kindness when he is in the floor.
Y'all are way better women and wives than I am for even contemplating sex. Like, it literally hasn't crossed my mind since C was born.
I think we waited til 3-4 months PP to try after DS was born, and it was so painful that we couldn't finish and I was in tears. We DTD maybe 5 times that first year.
I would just say, use all the lube. Nursing really dries things out. And don't be afraid to talk to your doctor if things don't improve...mine ended up prescribing an estrogen cream to apply down there because she thought the scar tissue might be to blame. Also right around that time (1 yr PP) DS weaned, and I think that was a huge help; I didn't feel so 'touched out', plus my hormones regulated and libido returned somewhat.
I'm going to try and do better this time; my poor H is super patient but I know he probably wasn't thrilled about his year of near-celibacy.
Tuesday night, I was snuggling with DH and before we went to sleep he asked if I wanted to have sex. I laughed and then said I'm not allowed to yet. Lol. I think he's counting down the days, but honestly I'm still bleeding off and on and everything still feels weird down there so I think it's gonna be a while. Sorry dude. I also had weird scar tissue last time and I'm concerned I might have some again.
My mom just left, I ate 3 cake balls, and I'm watching episode 8 of This Is Us. I think I'll be caught up tomorrow afternoon. Should we have a thread for it since so many people watch it? Just a thought. Going to make pizza for dinner tonight. Yum.
Oh, also I'm on shirt #3 and I need a shower because I've been spit up on so much today. I think I need a raincoat. And a haircut.
So I'm the weird one that wants sex apparently. Like I'm afraid of the possible pain but otherwise I think I'm the one counting down v H. Actually one better, sex followed by a glass of wine in bed with comfy (non spit up) PJs on - that's my dream.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Dec 8, 2016 19:07:53 GMT -5
I definitely don't want sex right now, but I'm not even 2 weeks PP yet. I don't think H and I had sex last time until 3-4 months PP. Thankfully MH doesn't ask, he knows that I'll initiate when I'm ready.
I have a This is Us question: I saw first two episodes (maybe 3) and loved most of it as a whole but didn't like that Kate was so obsessed with her weight. I mean, I am obese and obsess too but it doesn't look that way. Not every minute of my every day is about my weight. Do they eventually reduce that aspect of her? I know they are going for the extreme (I hate pictures of myself, and try to avoid being in them and I will be going back to weight watchers in January ) and maybe I'm sensitive but that's not how I do life. So that was my only pet peeve with that show and i want to binge on it if her story line changes in that little way.
Post by cookswithwine9 on Dec 8, 2016 20:04:50 GMT -5
Re: all the topics: My H is also feeling frustrated that he can't calm O. He tries but I know it's only a matter of time before I have to take him and give him the boob. Usually the only thing that works.
I have thought about sex... But I'm only 3 weeks pp so I have a way to go plus I don't feel physically up for it yet.
I want to start watching this is us!
O took a bottle! I couldn't wait any longer. I thawed 2oz of breast milk and he drank it right down and still seemed hungry so I thawed another 2 oz which he drank and is finally sleeping. The child has been awake for 5+ hour stretches the past 2 days. He's either crying or nursing. I have no idea what's going on... I can only assume a growth spurt bc all he wants to do is nurse.
cookswithwine9 Watch it! I'm really enjoying it so far. I agree with cheshie6 that Kate's obsession with her weight is a bit extreme, but I think it's actually connected to a psychological issue not just an "oh I hate how I look so it's my life to think about it" kind of thing.
The 3 week growth spurt is a thing so maybe that's what you're dealing with. They literally grow in big jumps so if that's what it is, it should only last a few days.
Just had my PP appt. All is well! Got the IUD. My OB said it takes a week to become effective but I think I heard a month.. atleast that's what I'll tell DH.
I'm starving. I'm having tator tots and wine for dinner.
I'm late to offer ((hugs)) danib but glad to hear you're feeling a bit better ATM. FX that H lets you get some good sleep tonight! cookswithwine9, we have the 3 week growth spurt going on over here as well. She has been much more wakeful and wanting to eat way more frequently.
cookswithwine9 Agree with others, the 3-week growth spurt is definitely a thing! I remember thinking "what is wrong with my baby all of a sudden??" with DS, and then learning about it later and putting 2+2 together.
So I'm the weird one that wants sex apparently. Like I'm afraid of the possible pain but otherwise I think I'm the one counting down v H. Actually one better, sex followed by a glass of wine in bed with comfy (non spit up) PJs on - that's my dream.
So the crazy thing with me is that the first couple weeks PP, I felt like I wanted sex. I might have even had a sex dream pretty early on. I can only guess that it was hormones or something they did down there was causing it. But once it healed, that feeling went away. So backwards. I do miss having a nice night with H but I can only imagine it's going to be hurried and possibly painful right now.
Forgot to mention this earlier, but was funny. Our doctor asked if we had personalized diapers for N since her diapers have an 'n' on them. Lol, that is N for newborn - definitely not special diapers, just up&up brand.
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