Thursday Chat

[goldenlove3]

Warning - lots of ranting about work ahead..

Driving to work this morning sucked. I forgot about how awful the high school traffic is getting out of my sub. Then there was closed road so I had to take a detour. And the close parking structure was full so I had to park far. It does feel good to walk more than the distance between my couch and kitchen but it was cold! OK, enough ranting.

Today I need to start packing up my desk and emptying my file cabinet. Then I'm sitting down with Mr. Backup to go over what he's got left to do for the next 3 months. It really sucks to be going through all this effort to train this guy (who has been here for over 30 years btw) when he's not going to be doing this job after I get back. We have at least 2 job openings in this group that we should have filled instead. Blah whatever. We're having our group holiday luncheon this afternoon so we're all taking a long lunch then going home after. And I have tomorrow off! Just a couple more days of this crap...

[goldenlove3]

starbuck27 Sounds like you have a pretty good plan so far! How are you feeling about staying home?

[dashook]

goldenlove3, LlT for support. Nice that you have tomorrow off!
danib crossing my fingers that YH gets a little extra time home! And I hope H's congestion is short-lived.
starbuck27, it sounds like you have a pretty good plan in place!

[kleigh]

danib I hope the cold is short lived and that your H gets delayed! Alec is a little congested nasally as well and I'm hoping that passes shortly.

starbuck27 Those all sound like great things to do. Did I miss an update or has it been decided what will happen with your job/Hs job and the SAH options? As far as other things to do, our local Home Depot has classes for kids - perhaps see if any suit his interests. Only thing is that I believe they are on weekends.

goldenlove3 Just keeping reminding yourself one week, one week, one week... Well I know it's one plus 2 days but you've got a nice leave coming up and hopefully you'll be able to just say screw it, I'm not thinking about this while I'm out.

[kleigh]

waitwhat Sorry you're going to be solo most of the day. Will the snow affect YHs Christmas party (as to whether it might be cancelled?). I'd still make those cookies with the kids, well, on second thought I guess that could difficult.

[sophiegrace]

I've been researching graduate programs all morning, am I insane?!

[sophiegrace]

That drive to work would have ruined my whole day @goldenlove. Enjoy that luncheon! You're so so close to that 12 week leave.

Those activities sound fantastic starbuck27. I've been trying to figure out how to get M started with some foreign language exposure/lessons when she hits toddlerhood but so far I haven't had much luck, I don't know if your area offers something like that?

Christmas cookies sound great waitwhat. If you make a few extra I'll bring the wine!

FX for a delay danib! I hope everyone is feeling better asap

[ClassyMrsA]

starbuck27 That sounds like a great plan to get out and about. We are joining the local gym that offers childcare and asking for classes for Lillian for Christmas (dance and soccer I think). I love that she gets so much free social time, but I'd like her to have some structured stuff, too. Also, totally get feeling mixed about staying home. I love being home, but I struggle with not having something that's just mine.

Speaking of...sophiegrace I don't think looking at graduate programs is insane. I have thought about doing something online to get some more certifications under my belt while I'm home. I just need to figure out what I want to do...

danib I hope H gets better really quick.

waitwhat I feel ya. My DH is going to see Star Wars tonight so I have to do bedtime alone with 2 kids for the first time. Not excited. But I get to go out tomorrow night. With the baby, but still.

[ClassyMrsA]

We are going to a kid's white elephant in a few. DH will be home early, but then he's going to abandon me for Star Wars tonight. We thought maybe my mom would come over, but she's leaving tomorrow to see my brother graduate from nursing school and will be busy getting ready to leave (my understanding is that he's valedictorian). We decided not to go because a) very expensive, b) ridiculously cold, and c) do not want to be on an airplane/sit through graduation with a 2 year old and 1 month old.

[kleigh]

sophiegrace I was going to suggest foreign language programs too!

Although I'm admittedly a little salty that ILs, mostly MIL, speaks polish when she's over. Like I had to live by her rules and deal with not knowing what was being said for a year and a half, now that we're in my (our) house all I want is for English to be spoken so I can understand what's being said. On the other hand it'll be good for the kids to grow up with a second language but yeah I'm salty.

[kleigh]

starbuck27 Woo hoo!!!! I knew he got the promotion but last I read money wasn't yet spoken of. Either way congratulations !!! I think we are looking at (in this order of preference):

- me working full time (2 days in office / 3 days from home with assistance. There are two universities in my town so I thought about hiring someone who can help out with the twins while I work in the other room)

- me working part time in office and sending them to in home care

- me working full time and putting them in daycare full time

[dashook]

Dec 15, 2016 11:00:50 GMT -5 waitwhat said:

I wish I could just go to a movie by myself without clearing it with anyone. Or a happy hour. Or a work Christmas party. But nope. The guy would lose his mind.

Right?? Or just hop in the shower whenever I feel like it. This shit makes me stabby.

[aggiebug]

Dec 15, 2016 8:24:36 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

dashook, I miss NYC too, especially MOTN food! Also the variety!

I totally cheated last night and let L sleep on me! I got 5 hours and it feels good. It is bitterly cold outside and of course one of the dogs has a vet appointment this afternoon! I tried to reschedule but she is due for rabies and her 1 year appointment so I couldn't put it off for too long. Grr

This isn't cheating this is surviving. Have you tried the rock n play? With DD she would only sleep on us or the rnp.

[cheshie6]

aggiebug, No to the RNP as well! It's me or no sleep...

[kleigh]

Well shit. I'm camped out on my bathroom floor with a sleeping baby in my arms.

After another glorious nights sleep (9:30p-2:30a and 3a-6a) little miss has been up since with just a half hour nap at 8am (it's now 12:25p)... She's being mostly sweet but I can tell she's tired but won't nap. Currently in my arms but we tried RnP, bassinet, couch, bouncer, etc.

So I cue up a bath and a bottle - moms secret weapon.

And just as I sit on the bathroom floor to put her in the tub she falls asleep. What to do... Wake a sleeping baby, I think not.

[dashook]

cheshie6, L really sounds a lot like the way my DS was. If it's any consolation, he is now the best sleeper of any kid I know. He does 11-12 hours overnight plus a 2-3 hour nap every day. He slept til 9:20 this morning!

[kleigh]

Pic bc what else am I gonna do sitting here waiting for her to wake.

[dashook]

Does anyone else's baby hiccup a ton? D does and it pisses her off so much but there's nothing I can seem to do about it.

[aggiebug]

Dec 15, 2016 12:23:28 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

aggiebug, No to the RNP as well! It's me or no sleep...

I think it took a month before DD would sleep there either. Hugs momma it really sucks but it does get better

[ClassyMrsA]

waitwhat To be completely fair, I've known he was going tonight since the date was released. But yeah, I get a bit resentful that he just does what he wants without having to think about who's watching the kids/taking the baby vs only leaving for a short time. He doesn't think about it because it's what I do. He does ask if it's cool with me, but what am I going to say? No, please be trapped here with me all the time?

[kleigh]

Dec 15, 2016 12:30:43 GMT -5 dashook said:

Does anyone else's baby hiccup a ton? D does and it pisses her off so much but there's nothing I can seem to do about it.

Both babies ALL OF THE TIME. It bothers Alec and he cries about it but Adeline doesn't seem to care as much.

[kleigh]

How are you and Monty doing @sarahwithanh ??

[goldenlove3]

Dec 15, 2016 12:30:43 GMT -5 dashook said:

Does anyone else's baby hiccup a ton? D does and it pisses her off so much but there's nothing I can seem to do about it.

C gets them a lot. It doesn't bother him but if it's after he eats, it causes him to spit up quite a bit.

[dashook]

Dec 15, 2016 12:31:51 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Dec 15, 2016 12:30:43 GMT -5 dashook said:

Does anyone else's baby hiccup a ton? D does and it pisses her off so much but there's nothing I can seem to do about it.

Both babies ALL OF THE TIME. It bothers Alec and he cries about it but Adeline doesn't seem to care as much.

Okay so she just had an epic meltdown after nursing and then hiccuping for a few minutes. Like purple-faced, can't breathe or make a sound screaming. Wtf? She burped during and after eating and everything. Now she's sound asleep.

[buckyb]

Dec 15, 2016 12:30:43 GMT -5 dashook said:

Does anyone else's baby hiccup a ton? D does and it pisses her off so much but there's nothing I can seem to do about it.

All the time! Nursing and the pacifier help but sometimes we just have to wait it out.

[kleigh]

dashook Awww poor D, I hate when they go purple faced on me from crying - really only Alec does it but he upsets himself so much sometimes (diaper changes and gas). At least she's sleeping now.

[dashook]

Dec 15, 2016 12:52:23 GMT -5 kleigh said:

dashook Awww poor D, I hate when they go purple faced on me from crying - really only Alec does it but he upsets himself so much sometimes (diaper changes and gas). At least she's sleeping now.

I know, it's awful!

Really hope she stays asleep because we are at the 99 now having lunch...

[ClassyMrsA]

Dec 15, 2016 12:30:43 GMT -5 dashook said:

Does anyone else's baby hiccup a ton? D does and it pisses her off so much but there's nothing I can seem to do about it.

Add us to the hiccups crew. She hiccups a few times a day, usually after spitting up a bunch. It doesn't seem to anger her, but they keep her awake and I think that makes her sad sometimes. She gets this pitiful look on her face that breaks my heart.

[aggiebug]

I used to get really resentful of H and his activities, he was always curtious and asked if it was OK and frankly he didn't do a ton but I was still feeling resentful and yet guilty that I had those feelings. We had some discussions and a lot of it was I wasn't getting the same opportunities, in part it was fault not scheduling me time and in part it was his. We have since become more intentional of getting the other one out of the house which has been huge. Unfortunately with a newborn especially one that is breastfed it just not equal at the moment hell right now I would just be happy not to hold him for a few hrs during the day.

So just be open with your H about your feelings and why and remember you deserve self care too so ask for it.

[tjanca22]

Yes to hiccups all the damn time. I can't remember when that goes away. Sometimes she gets angry about I and sometimes it doesn't phase her.

I also have a husband makes plans without thinking about who would watch the kids. I think my H forgets that I work full time too, just because you work 2 jobs H doesn't mean my job is any less important than yours. Ugh, men.

AFM: we found out Dh's grandpa passed away last night. He had been battling cancer and we knew it was coming, but it's still hard. H seems to be doing okay with it, which means he's trying to stay occupied by working non-stop. We have friends stopping by tonight to meet L and they are bringing us dinner. I should probably clean up a bit so our friends aren't scared by the mess that our house is.