Monday (womp womp)

[dashook]

At least it's the last one before the holiday. Good morning, ladies!

[aggiebug]

Morning. We are headed back to the dealership to tie up a few loose ends and then to the grocery store. Then I need to sort through maternity clothes and get out my old clothes since the friends borrowed some is coming over tonight and is the last time I see her before she moves. Busy day here.

[LizInFL]

Good morning!

Caroline slept from 11:30 - 5:30 last night...an early Christmas miracle! I don't know if we've turned the corner or just lucked into 2 decent nights in a row, but I'll take it.

Not much on our agenda today. B and I are currently lining up all his cars to "race". He has a 'megaphone' (charming) and he asked if I'd make a checkered flag (I obliged). He says, "Racers, start your engines! On your mark, get set, GO!" and waves his flag. And the cars, of course, just sit there Too funny.

ILs arrive mid-afternoon, but I have some errands and a bit of housework to take care of before then. And a trip to the grocery store, aka Dante's forgotten level of hell. Not excited about that.

[goldenlove3]

Back to work this morning. I must be really off my groove because my drive sucked again. This time it wasn't weather related but I made it 2/3 of the way to work before I realized that I left my laptop at home! I had to turn around and go get it. I'm just happy that I stopped for coffee otherwise I would have gotten all the way to work before realizing it.

H has the whole week off before the holidays so he's home with C by himself. It will be interesting to see how he handles it. I'm sure he'll be fine but he has a lot of things he wanted to do during the day and I think he'll be surprised at how much time C takes up. Then again, C's been sleeping for 4 hours at a time and when I went back to get my laptop, they were both fast asleep again.

[goldenlove3]

Dec 19, 2016 9:18:10 GMT -5 waitwhat said:

Lol goldenlove3 my DH forgot his laptop today too! Except he got all the way to work and sat down at his desk before realizing it. And wife of the year here totally walked by it sitting on our island, oh I don't know, atleast 5 times and never noticed it!

Haha Mine was right next to the garage door. I practically tripped over it on my way out the door!

[hangry]

We have a pedi appt today. It was supposed to be for vaccinations (done early for us to travel for the holidays) but now just for a check up following her illness. E is doing better this morning, less wheezing and congestion. I really hope she's on the uphill.

I had just got into a good morning routine with getting O ready and out the door to daycare before being in the hospital all last week. But now after that week off, he was all over the place this morning. I hope I can get him back into a schedule so that every step isn't a struggle. Deep breaths.

[goldenlove3]

I really hope E is doing better hangry! Let us know how the appointment goes.

[ClassyMrsA]

aggiebug We are going to look at cars this week or next, too. My CRV is just too small for the 5 of us (dog is 60lbs and comes on road trips). Plus, it'd be nice to fit more than 1 other adult in our car. DH wants to stay a Honda family so we'll be looking at the 2017 Pilot first.

LizInFL That is awesome sleep! Lilah has had one 6 hour stretch. Mostly we get 4 or 5 to start which I'm happy with since Lillian was almost always just 2 or 3. For like a year.

@goldenlove Realizing you forgot something you need is never fun. I don't work right now, but one time I took Lillian grocery shopping and left my wallet at home. I didn't realize until I'd already checked out. I had to drive home and then drive back to the store with a baby (I want to say she wasn't even walking yet). It was awful and embarrassing. Glad you realized before you got there and could go back to get it.

waitwhat I walk by stuff I need all the time and can't seem to find it when I need it or just completely forget it. Like, I've left Lilah's newborn paperwork from the hospital at home both times I've taken her to the dr despite setting it out so I wouldn't forget it. Luckily, they said it was fine and I could provide the information myself.

hangry That is good news! Glad to hear she seems to be getting over the virus.

[aggiebug]

ClassyMrsA size was a big reason for us too. We now have a 2016 Acadia yay! DD also won a raffle for a Denali truck power wheels. She said 'I wuv it' so help me.

[ClassyMrsA]

As for us, I'm worried Lilah is getting a cold. She woke up a little snotty, was coughing, and didn't want to be flat. I sectioned out some clear snot and now she seems fine. I hope it was just random. We'll see.

Last night I ended up doing bedtime for both girls. Lillian was having a fit and I had to go make her go to sleep. DH asked me how I did it and I was like, I didn't let her climb out of the crib, told her I was going to sleep and she could scream if she wanted, and then I waited. She did scream for maybe 5 minutes...possibly 10. And then she stopped and decides to go to sleep. I guess he just wasn't firm enough? Then Lilah was uncomfortable (I suspect gas since she had a ton) and wouldn't go to sleep until nearly midnight. Fun times. At least she slept until nearly 5 once she was asleep and went back down really fast. So I ended up with probably 7 hours since we got up at 7:30. Not bad.

Today we are going to the store, the mall to pick up mil's present, and the spice store to get my dad's present. It's still pretty cold here, but the sun is out and it should get into the 40s. I live in Texas partly because I hate being frozen. I like our extended fall. Winter is only allowed if it results in school being cancelled.

[shedreamsincolor]

Morning all! Actually getting to drink a hot cup of coffee this morning soooooo winning? DS1 is eating breakfast and DS2 is asleep in his RNP.

goldenlove3 - bummer about your computer but glad you got it before getting to work.

ClassyMrsA - Hopefully that's just a fluke and L is feeling better!

waitwhat - sounds exactly like many of our days around here!

AFM - the polar vortex has finally left the state which means it is "warm" again (20s). Going to try to get the kids outside today for some fresh air since they have been cooped up for over a week. Wish me luck - winter gear and two kids is no joke!!

[kleigh]

LizInFL B is so cute!!! I have to hit the grocery store also today. My only hope is that going during the day will be less busy than other times of the day although this week leading up to Xmas I'm sure it's always busy. I don't even know what we need, we need food - but what.

waitwhat I have to get all my medical bills in order too and paid. Like I practically do that for work but getting my own crap together always ends up coming last. I got my L&D Bill, my personal cost after insurance is a few hundred dollars but the billed total was like $32k - and that was no complications - ouch. And I didn't get paid last week at work (on short term disability) and have no clue why but have zero time to call and hash it out.

goldenlove3 Can I just say that I hope your delayed start with having to go back only makes your day feel like it's shorter and faster.

[kleigh]

We went out for lunch/dinner and drinks last night our friends (the ones with the IF) and it was awesome!! I had a couple watermelon martinis and it was so nice to have that normal adult interaction. The babies were wth us but they slept almost the whole time.

And they invited us over for NYE to their house. They normally have us over with several others for a NYE party but this year they are going through IF treatment and they just want to be low key so they didn't invite anyone else.

**trigger warning M/C** this past cycle had worked (I think I mentioned here se was having low, but doubling betas) but she had an early miscarriage, no heartbeat when they went in for their 6wk ultrasound 💔💔 so after a month of waiting it out she started a new cycle this week. **end trigger**


So I'm kind of surprised they even want us there with the babies and stuff, but what a testament to our friendship and the fact that they feel as close to us as we do to them - I love these people so much. I've asked H about making them guardians and Godparents but he's still "thinking about it".

[LizInFL]

ClassyMrsA my FIL works for Honda and says the new Pilot is really nice, apparently they can't keep them in-stock. My friend just got a new Odyssey with the vacuum...I don't really want a van but I am green with envy over that vacuum!

I have a Volvo SUV, which has a small 3rd row that works in a pinch. I don't want to get much bigger, but I think DH's next vehicle will be a Tahoe (or similar). He has a 4-door truck now, which is usually fine, but not really ideal for trips. With two car seats there's just no interior storage space.

[goldenlove3]

waitwhat +1 to having to pay medical bills. H is supposed to take care of that today so we'll see.

kleigh It definitely is going by fast today. It's already lunch time! And your friends sound like great people. I don't even know them but I'm hoping so bad that their treatment works this cycle.

[dashook]

My baby is FINALLY asleep again after about 3 hours wide awake this morning! I think all that sleep overnight threw her off. Plus her big brother has been extra loud and needy today (I suspect it's because DH is back at work and our nanny is here).

She and I are about to run out and do a few errands. FX she stays asleep in her carseat the whole time! She definitely needs it.

[tjanca22]

Hi everyone. DS started his 48hr EEG today to see if we can get any additional information as to why he has febrile seizures. He did really well sitting still while the lady put all the Leeds in place and now he's sleeping, but he has to keep everything on until Wednesday morning. Please tell me how to keep an 18mo old from pulling these wires off his head for the next two days?

[dashook]

Dec 19, 2016 13:58:32 GMT -5 tjanca22 said:

Hi everyone. DS started his 48hr EEG today to see if we can get any additional information as to why he has febrile seizures. He did really well sitting still while the lady put all the Leeds in place and now he's sleeping, but he has to keep everything on until Wednesday morning. Please tell me how to keep an 18mo old from pulling these wires off his head for the next two days?

Oh wow, I have no clue. How is that even a thing??

[hangry]

The appt went well! Ped said she didn't hear any wheezing. She was also breezy about travelling for the holidays when i said we were thinking of cancelling it. Ultimately, E had a cold and a strong reaction to it, but no major illness. We can get vaccinations later this week. So now I'm torn. I had almost decided that we shouldn't go anywhere. Now I'm thinking, well if the doctor said it was ok...

Otherwise, I've almost put my house back in order. Apparently my H couldn't manage that and taking care of O in the evenings while we were at the hospital last week. Even though O goes to bed by 7, at the latest 8. Even the thermometer I used on E before going in Sunday evening was in the same place on the table I left it. Was it really hard to bring it back to the medicine cabinet???

[tjanca22]

Dec 19, 2016 15:04:04 GMT -5 dashook said:

Dec 19, 2016 13:58:32 GMT -5 tjanca22 said:

Hi everyone. DS started his 48hr EEG today to see if we can get any additional information as to why he has febrile seizures. He did really well sitting still while the lady put all the Leeds in place and now he's sleeping, but he has to keep everything on until Wednesday morning. Please tell me how to keep an 18mo old from pulling these wires off his head for the next two days?

Oh wow, I have no clue. How is that even a thing??

It isn't 😕

It's basically a new level of parenting hell here right now.

[dashook]

tjanca22 ugh I'm so sorry. Wishing you the best of luck. And lots of wine.
hangry I'm so happy to hear the appointment went well!

Today went pretty well with the two munchkins. In the afternoon MIL was supposed to take DS but when she came over I decided to give her D instead because I felt like DS really needed some solo mommy time. It was really fun. We even baked muffins together.

Of course, in the middle of the baking project, I had to run to the store with him because I realized we had no baking powder or baking soda. MH tossed them during one of his needless purges of our house while he was on leave. I was irate and sent him a nasty text about it. Now he's home and I'm regretting doing that because we're going to have to have A Talk once the kids are in bed.

Oh and right now he is upstairs disassembling the guest bed in DS's room even though it's the time when he should be giving DS a bath. Why, you ask? I can only surmise that it's because I commented yesterday on how I wish we could not have that bed taking up half of the poor kid's room. So maybe this is how he's trying to make up? Except he ignored the part where a) I never said I actually wanted it out and b) my next statement was that it unfortunately made sense to have it in there for now.

And clearly it's lost on him that the reason I was so mad about the baking stuff is because I'm so over him making unilateral decisions about things in the house. This is going to be a worse Talk than I thought.

[dashook]

Aaand D just rolled herself from belly to back 😳

[ClassyMrsA]

Poor Lilah does in fact have her first cold. We bought a new nose frieda thing since our old one disappeared. She's been very fussy today, too. I feel bad for her. Hopefully it's mild. I think Lillian had it since she had a runny nose for a couple of days recently. DH thinks he's getting it now and I thought maybe I had allergies yesterday, but maybe it was a cold after all. We are going to have our fresh ginger, lemon, and honey tea tonight.

Otherwise my day included shopping with a crying baby and a defiant toddler, finding a lizard in my living room while vacuuming, the grocery store, and Lillian trying to kill herself by wrapping a dog leash around her neck (she's ok, it just freaked us out). I'm ready for bed.

[ClassyMrsA]

dashook Ugh. I hope your talk goes better than expected. And way to go D! Rolling over already. Lilah did it exactly 6 times at 4 weeks and hasn't again since.

[dashook]

waitwhat and vinolove I hope you and your LOs are all soundly asleep right this minute! D was all over the place with naps today but is sleeping well tonight so maybe you will have the same luck.

So DH and I talked a little and it wasn't that bad at all, though I suspect he was holding back a little. I'm relieved though to have avoided a fight.

::long self-analysis ahead...2:30 a.m. deep thoughts::

It was a stupid little thing that happened today, but what I told him is that my anger comes from a place of self-doubt because I wonder sometimes if I'm too diplomatic to the point of sacrificing my own convictions. The thing is it always seems like he cares so much more about x or y (e.g. I must purge the cabinets right meow! or I want this dresser over here, not the spot that you already picked out for it) than I do so I am always the one to just be like, "okay, fine, not worth arguing over."

But this happens with big life decisions too (e.g., that we would settle in the Boston area even though I had always pictured myself eventually back in NJ...in fact we never even really discussed this because it was so clear that he was immovable on it).

It's not that he's overcoming my will; it's my choice to change or acquiesce time and again. But at a certain point it makes me feel sad and/or resentful and I need to figure out when to draw a line and stand by it, because right now I barely even resemble the person I was 10 years ago, and I have almost nothing (hobbies, activities, etc.) to call my own.

Honestly all I really have now is my mommy groups (online and IRL). Is that a hobby? That's really all I've got.

[dashook]

waitwhat nope you're spot on and that's what I was trying to say with my long rambling post. I am still annoyed by the little things he did yesterday but my reaction was disproportionate and I realized that the reason it was is because of an issue that's totally my own. I explained this to him and maybe that's why we were able to avoid a fight.

Etf tag

[jubilantsquirrel]

dashook and waitwhat, I can completely relate to what both of you are saying.

I can't seem to type out anything that makes sense right now, but I'm right there with you ladies.

[ClassyMrsA]

Dec 20, 2016 7:00:27 GMT -5 jubilantsquirrel said:

dashook and waitwhat, I can completely relate to what both of you are saying.

I can't seem to type out anything that makes sense right now, but I'm right there with you ladies.

This is me as well. Being a sahm I feel like I have nothing that's mine. And I didn't work long enough to feel like I accomplished much of anything before I had kids. I basically spent my 20s going to school, worked a couple of years, and then became mommy. And that's all I am. I have things I want to do. Travel, get back to riding horses, paint, go hiking. But it all seems so hard to fit in with being a mom 24/7. And with DH, I get jealous of the things he does which leads me to find things to be upset over. There are legit things that irritate me, but I let them go because I don't want to fight over it. Or I'll be really passive aggressive instead of just saying how I feel. I feel like on some level he's sacrificed being near his family so I could be near mine (and not live somewhere that gets snow and ice from October-May) and he does work while I'm out at playdates or shopping or something so I get this sense like I don't get to complain about anything.