Morning! I have my mom's group this morning. It's at someone's house instead of the church today so we can have brunch and let the kiddos play. My plan of taking mini quiches fell through though. Good thing I have a bottle of champagne to take to compliment the orange juice
aggiebug I'm sure you won't disappoint with the champagne ☺️
We are supposed to have my mom and sister over tonight to watch the babies so we can "get out of the house" for a date night. But major blow up last night has me rethinking if I want to sit in silence with H.
LSS, Alec is sick - cough and nasal congestion. And it breaks my heart. H is so blasé about it and it pisses me off because he shows more concern for the dog I swear.
Anyway, the reason it pisses me off is because I can't help but feel like it's bc he's so passive about Alec crying. Not that he lets him CIO or anything but he's so gdamn slow to respond and doesn't do a good job of consoling him (or Adeline; just lack of skill I hunk) and I feel like he is congested as a result of his crying. Might not be the case but that's what I was feeling when the blow out occurred.
kleigh that sucks. MH is the same way; always was with DS too. No sense of urgency, none. It's infuriating. I hope Alec's congestion clears up in any event.
Not much going on today. My nanny is coming over at 10 to take DS to an indoor play place for a couple hours. Hopefully D will be mellow so I can finish wrapping some gifts and paying some bills. Then I have my new moms group at 1:30.
It's been rough going with the toddler the past several days. Fortunately he is falling asleep better now (as opposed to screaming for hours for me to come rock him), but now he's having meltdowns throughout the day, especially around meal times. New working theory is that he is cutting his two year molars.
It's annoying as hell though and exactly what I feared when his daycare closed in September and I realized he'd be home while I was on maternity leave. Like I can't get anything done because he only wants me if I'm in the house and I feel guilty leaving to go anywhere with just D. I end up doing a ton with him throughout the day which results in a) D being plopped in her swing for longer than I'd like and sometimes left to cry, which I hate, and b) me wondering if we're wasting money to have our nanny right now while I'm off.
FX it really is the molars and he'll chill out after that. I have 3 months left and I'd like to enjoy them.
I fell asleep around 5, woke up to cough crying at 6:30. She nursed and I shot some milk into her nose. She's breathing better, but we went ahead and scheduled an appointment for 10am. We probably don't need it, but I'll feel better knowing it's just a cold.
Lillian is eating breakfast and watching Doc McStuffins, dh is going for a run, and here I am with my tea next to a sleeping baby. My mom is going to come over at some point. She just got back from Denver last night.
danib what personal space? H and I had sex for the first time since baby. He asked if I felt OK I told him I felt fine it's waaay mroe about being tired and touched out. I need space and unfortunately you are the only one I can push away dh. Sorry H.
kleigh hugs momma. It will be OK. Congestion happens and honestly it probably more due to it being dry out or reflux than crying. And just try and remember he is in this with you, the hormones and sleep deprivation bring out our worst and dull our rational thoughts ( both of you). So try and give both of you some grace, his response is probably just fine and yours is too. Take advantage of tonight even if you sit in silence it is good for both of you.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 21, 2016 9:21:37 GMT -5
Yesterday was my last day going into work! Today I'm working from home. I was planning to just be signed on and not do anything but of course something comes up right away this morning. But it's my last working day then I'm officially on leave again until the end of March!
Later today we're going to my parents for dinner. My brother is back at home from medical school and he really misses C. So that'll be fun.
We still haven't put our tree up. Last night we were trying to decide if it's worth it but since it's only two pieces and pre-lit, we'll probably put it up real quick and throw the special ornaments on it. At least the mantle is decorated.
Sorry to hear DS is sick kleigh. My H is the same way. I'll ask him to get C if he is crying and it drives me nuts that he doesn't have the same sense of urgency.
You made me cry aggiebug an actual full on cry. Thank you so much.This morning I thought about the fact that we both want what's best for the kids and parenting is bound to bring out some differences in us but our end goal is the same. I need to relax and realize he is probably stressed just as much as I am seeing as how we are both on leave and cooped up in here 24/7 (except little side trips out). You're right that we need even five minutes alone, I don't know the last time we even hugged - just out of pure go go go. Thank you a million times over.
I can't believe how fast the last month has went. My SIL left this morning so we have a few days with no visitors until after Christmas.
We got some bad news yesterday that I'm still trying to wrap my head around. We had our follow up appointment to look at Calvin's left kidney. It is very enlarged and low functioning. The pediatric urologist is recommending we remove it. He said it is not worth repairing and could impact his other organs if we don't remove it due to its size. We won't schedule anything until he is three months olds. He has to undergo general anesthesia and they prefer to wait until at least three months unless it becomes medically necessary before then. We knew that this was an outcome from all of our prenatal visits but it is still scary knowing he has to have surgery.
buckyb Oh my goodness I am so sorry that you got that news... Is it worth a second opinion or do you and H trust/support the doc's recommendation? what are the long term risks?
buckyb Oh my goodness I am so sorry that you got that news... Is it worth a second opinion or do you and H trust/support the doc's recommendation? what are the long term risks?
We trust our doctor's recommendations. It was pretty obvious from the tests they did yesterday that the kidney isn't functioning.
Long term: there is a slight chance that the normal kidney could lose some function later in life but everything I read said it is pretty mild. There is also a risk for developing high blood pressure as an adult. He won't be able to play contact sports (football, wrestling, hockey). He should be able to live a normal, healthy life.
Post by ClassyMrsA on Dec 21, 2016 11:33:24 GMT -5
Drs appointment went well. Dr said her lungs sound clear and no signs of infection. Just a cold. We are getting saline drops for her and she'll be sleeping in the RnP until it passes.
Re sex: if I'm cleared tomorrow, we'll try the first opportunity we get. After Lillian I had no interest for a while, but I've been feeling some interest the last week or so...
dashook, molars really do suck. We just finished 1yr molars over here and are working on eye teeth. I want a little brake before we hit the 2yr molars. I also want a nanny.
danib, I "think" I remember what personal space is? Sounds like a magical land this personal space you speak of 😉.
Yay goldenlove3, you made it!! Enjoy the time off starting tomorrow!
Nice goldenlove3 . H has zero interest in his activity mat and just cries.
He needs to be in the perfect mood. We usually have a 10 minute window when he's not hungry, sleeping or trying to poop where he will sit there and play for a few minutes.
Oh buckyb I am sorry. What unbelievably overwhelming news. I hope the specialist can help calm some of your fears and many thoughts and prayers as you prepare for and he undergoes surgery.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 21, 2016 13:40:47 GMT -5
Tree is finally up! It has a bow topper and a total of 12 ornaments on it, but we're calling that good for this year. I feel better putting it up for C's first Christmas and actually having his ornament on it.
I made 10 chocolate chip zucchini cake loaves out of a doubled 9x13 cake recipe. They are all growing together oops! But they smell so good. And I have my first batch of cinnamon roll dough ready to roll out and cut into to rolls although DD just woke up so it might wait until later. Just one more batch of cinnamon rolls and a double batch of Irish cream and I will be happy, maybe I can squeeze in some oatmeal chocolate chip cookies if I am feeling spunky crazy.
Hi everyone! I miss all of you. We've had a hectic few weeks. We decided we had to sleep train E... she was waking DH every 20 mins all night and taking hours to go down. So we started about a week ago and it worked amazingly. She was very upset the first night, but now is going to sleep within 5 mins and sleeping 11-12 hours. Now just have H to worry about at night. She's currently sleeping on my arm all night long. But I've recently noticed she sleeps a lot better after having a bath (E HATED baths until she could sit unassisted and play, around 7m). But H is so smiley in the bath and relaxed after. So we're going to start bathing her nightly and start the swaddle too to see if she can sleep on her own a bit at night. This is our current situation.. E is at my mom's for the day.. H spit up and had a poopsplosion simultaneously so I took a bath with her and she fell asleep after. I'm about to attempt to remove the blanket so I can nap too.
Oh & here's E. She loves these sunglasses. Every time we put them on her and say "super cool," She laughs hysterically and puts her thumbs up. she also started walking (finally at 16mo) about a week ago!
Post by cookswithwine9 on Dec 21, 2016 18:38:10 GMT -5
My morning hanging out w O and C. O has started losing his hair in the front and sporting the old man look. People think his hair is going to come back blonde! We will see. *poof*
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