AFM not much on the agenda today. DH was supposed to be off today but he's at work. Apparently they moved a meeting to today that he can't miss so he sort of got screwed. But he's taking off tomorrow so we will be taking B to see santa tomorrow.
J slept 10:30-4 last night. Then I put him back down at 5 after nursing and holding him upright but awoke to him at 6 spitting up so I picked him up and held him until 7. So now we are all up. And I'm hangry.
Well that excitement was short lived. Looks like they just switched around some stuff between me and DH. So he will be getting a bill for a balance owing and we'll most likely just break even. Boo.
waitwhat That sucks your H has to work today. Lillian woke us all up at about 7, too. She decided to play with her singing puppy thing. Fun times.
Not much on the agenda for today. I have my pp appointment later this morning. I'm a little anxious about it, but hopefully it'll go well. I'm taking Lilah with me while DH handles toddler wrangling at home. I have to stop on the way home to get the containers for DH's present. It has to stay in the fridge, so I'll be writing him a serious of clues to find it starting with a giant present to trick him. He might hate it? But it could be fun, too. This afternoon I'll tackle my next project: cleaning the refrigerator and mopping the tile.
So far during DH's break I have reorganized my tupperware cabinet, cleaned the wood floors in the living room, dusted the entertainment center, reorganized the pantry, reorganized Lilah's dresser, and washed the couch covers.
Post by ClassyMrsA on Dec 22, 2016 10:06:00 GMT -5
vinolove We are basically in the same situation as waitwhat. We start Lillian's bedtime routine at about 8:30. DH goes with her to her room and I take Lilah. I get her pajamas on, swaddle, put on white noise, and then we nurse in bed. She has been pretty fussy lately (gas and just unknown random fussing) from about 6:30/7 until she falls asleep. It takes from 8:30ish when we start "bedtime" until 10 or 11 for her to relax and go to sleep. Last night, she basically cried off and on for no discernable reason for an hour and then nursed herself to sleep at 10. This has been a pattern for about 1 or 2 weeks. We used to be able to put her down by 8:30/9, so it's been an adjustment. But, we are also getting the longer stretches of sleep. Eta: I agree with danib too. Our best nights are the most fussy to start. She also cluster feeds starting at about 6.
vinolove our sleep is a disaster, so you can feel better hearing about that. We don't have any bedtime or bedtime routine right now. I am not getting any long nighttime stretches. She is not sleeping alone, only with me in one way or another. There is no consistency or predictability. I realize a lot of this is on me and I need to make the change. But my point is, getting any stretches of sleep by yourself sounds glorious right now. My pedi recommending trying to keep her awake more during the day and feeding a little more so that she's more tired and less hungry during the witching hours. I haven't put great effort into doing that yet, but maybe that would work for you.
So we decided to go to Maine for the holidays!!! We'll be leaving tomorrow so I will be in a frenzy today with packing, cleaning, getting E her vaccinations, and installing car seats in H's work car (which is bigger than my car).
vinolove I know I'm late to the party but those hours from 8-11 are also when C is the most fussy. Once we get her to sleep she does well (we're getting a 5-hr stretch and then a 3-4 hr stretch right now) but she's usually not out for good until 10:30-11. Last night was midnight, which I attribute to being overstimulated due to having guests and being out of the routine a bit; she's def been more gassy lately (in the last week or so), which also contributes to the late bedtimes. LSS...you are not alone.
Hi! I've missed you ladies this week but we've been busy with houseguests. They left this morning so I have my house back; I think I want to put a 'Not Welcome' mat at the front doorstep for the next few months 😈 I need a break from guests for a bit.
We're just being lazy for the next couple days; I have a few small errands to run but hopefully can take care of that this afternoon or tomorrow morning.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 22, 2016 12:52:03 GMT -5
I'm about ready for a nap. H is getting ready to go to the mall to finish Christmas shopping and then get a haircut. Me and C are snuggling on the couch. He's being super cute right now talking and giving me smiles. But he is getting sleepy so I'm going to lay down when he does. I think we're just spending the day at home before all the Christmas madness starts again.
Hola! This morning was spent dropping off goodies with friends and then it is a warm 40 degrees so I got the kiddos in the stroller and the dog on a leash and we went for a walk. It was lovely to be out.
Now it's nap time for both kiddos and hopefully C man will sleep in his rnp so I can get some laundry done and get another batch of cinnamon roll dough prepped.
vinolove we also go to bed at 10 and between 7-10 we are generally dealing with a fussy kiddo who will eventually fall asleep at some point but the timing and longevity of that nap is wildly irratic. I have read we are in the prime time for the 'witching hour' to start or escalate so I think it's just normal even if they aren't classically inconsolable during that time.
I likely won't be around much over the holidays because the kids are out of school/daycare as of today and we'll be doing some travelling. So Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays/Merry Everything to N16!! I hope those babies give you all at least one or two Silent Nights over the holidays!
Post by tallblonde on Dec 22, 2016 13:35:05 GMT -5
Hi! Trying to get presents wrapped and packed for the week. J, N, and I are supposed to drive to my mom's after her 1 month appt tomorrow at 8:30am.. so need to be all packed and everything in cars before then. MH will head over after work. We are only going 45 min away, but will stay there for the week since J is out of school and my sis will be in town.
I just got some jeans and new flannels in the mail, so I'm excited to have some new clothes to wear next week. I was getting tired of my rotation of nursing shirts.
Also, I got NOTHING for N for Xmas! Am I a horrible mom? I made a gift list and our families cleared it out. I can't think of anything else she needs, she's getting presents in the mail still.
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 22, 2016 13:38:00 GMT -5
That stinks so bad danib. That was such a range of emotions I felt for you. Damn taxes.
I'm always hangry it seems waitwhat. I guess I can blame nursing?
vinolove I'm continually a little green with envy reading about good sleep. M still eats every 2.5 hours and is wide awake now from 4 pm until at least 11. From 4 to 7ish she's happy and then gets crankier from that point on. She cluster feeds from 8-11 most of not all nights. It's takes 1-2 hours to get her into a good sleep and even then she's still waking to feed. I will say that she at least goes down immediately after a quick snack, which is why we're cosleeping. If I try to put her somewhere not in the bed it's a catastrophe and the 1-2 hour cycle starts all over. After having her barnacle herself to me all day everyday I can't mentally handle having her scream at me nonstop because she's over tired. Also...best Santa picture, hands down.
Enjoy Maine hangry! Hope everything in the to do list goes smoothly and you have a safe trip. I'm so glad it all worked out and you get to go.
I'm so sorry @sarahwithanh. I hope M's reflux gets controlled soon. Did they by any chance mention which PPI they plan on prescribing? Adding one in is our next step too.
Pick up an extra 'Not Welcome' mat for me, please LizInFL. I'm done having my house destroyed!
Hi ashleysyn! Happy holidays to you and your family as well! Safe travels!
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 22, 2016 13:40:43 GMT -5
Attempt #6272932 of the week to put sleeping baby down so I can do something, anything, with two hands is about to start. Wish me luck. I don't know if it's because she feels so crummy, but not even the carriers are acceptable this week and the Dad strike continues.
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 22, 2016 13:49:57 GMT -5
I feel like I do need to mention how incredibly much I love this baby. Every time I get a chance to log on here I spew what comes out sounding like complete negativity. I truly treasure every second I have with her, but can't help but feel like I've done or am doing something wrong. The food allergies, the reflux, the poor sleeping, not going to anyone but me, and refusing to put down...it's just...a lot.
Also, I got NOTHING for N for Xmas! Am I a horrible mom? I made a gift list and our families cleared it out. I can't think of anything else she needs, she's getting presents in the mail still.
Not horrible in my book.
Santa is bringing Caroline a fabulous new...laundry hamper! I wrapped up a couple spring outfits for her from DH and me, but there is absolutely nothing she *needs*.
I feel like I do need to mention how incredibly much I love this baby. Every time I get a chance to log on here I spew what comes out sounding like complete negativity. I truly treasure every second I have with her, but can't help but feel like I've done or am doing something wrong. The food allergies, the reflux, the poor sleeping, not going to anyone but me, and refusing to put down...it's just...a lot.
That goes without saying! Newborn days can be HARD. You are definitely dealing with a lot and IMO this is a great space for venting, getting feedback and advice, and just commiserating with one another. Hang in there, all of this WILL get better
Post by ClassyMrsA on Dec 22, 2016 13:59:35 GMT -5
All the hugs sophiegrace. You aren't doing anything wrong. You are an amazing mother. Babies are hard and having the other issues on top of typical newborn stuff just makes it harder. It won't last forever. I've been there before with Lillian. Take care of yourself and know we are here for you.
tallblonde no not terrible! Smart I'd say. DD only got something from us for her first Christmas because we needed to establish we were Santa not my in laws and it was a little people nativity because I knew we would want it in the house anyway.
DS is only getting something in his stocking and under the tree because DD is old enough to put things together to some extent.. So he is getting sippy cups and cute plates and silverware oh and a toothbrush.
I feel like I do need to mention how incredibly much I love this baby. Every time I get a chance to log on here I spew what comes out sounding like complete negativity. I truly treasure every second I have with her, but can't help but feel like I've done or am doing something wrong. The food allergies, the reflux, the poor sleeping, not going to anyone but me, and refusing to put down...it's just...a lot.
Girl you sound exactly like me with DD. I swear to you it does get better, you will eventually be able to put her down somewhere so you can pee without her crying. Eventually you will feel like more than a glorified couch potato I promise. And I fully admit there was a lot I did not enjoy about her first 2 months, I was so thankful to be a parent and in awe of what I made, but the heart bursting love and adoration of that little person came a little later for me.
tallblonde Definitely not horrible. If she's getting the things she needs from other people, that's great! We are in the same situation with both girls so we got them each a board book for their library. I'm of the opinion you can never have too many books.
sophiegrace Sooo many hugs momma. Totally not doing anything wrong, newborns are freaking hard, and then add the "issues" some of us are having to this stage - it's a recipe for stress. My mom and sister watched the babies last night so H and I could grab a glass of wine and dinner and when we came back the two of them came and hugged me. Apparently both babies decided to show their wild sides and my mom (having 6 kids and 13 grandkids) and my sister (having a 3.5 yr old and 1.5 yr old) were like - you guys need to get out more, I can't believe you're dealing with this, not typical newborn stuff. They think they both have reflux and colic (maybe an insensitivity to the formula) and neither would let them put them down - so they both held one the whole time. But the thing they both said was IT GETS BETTER. As hard as it is to have to watch the time go by, they said we should see improvements around 3 months, 6 months and then 10/11 months (right before they hit the one year mark).
Post by cookswithwine9 on Dec 22, 2016 14:47:53 GMT -5
I came on here to talk about sleep too lol. Lately I can't get O down until mid night! That has got to change. I told H our goal tonight is 10:30. I think I need to be more careful about when I feed him. Make sure to space them out appropriately. Also naps. This baby fights the nap so much until he's overtired and hysterical. After rocking, nursing, paci (repeat) I decided I was done so I just set him in his rnp where he immediately fell asleep...
E is getting a noisy microphone thing that Santa gave to us when they did rounds one day at the hospital. So I bought nothing. Only wrapping it so that O sees she is also getting gifts.
vinolove I was reading some stuff yesterday at the dr office. 10pm is a normal bedtime for this stage. It says by 3-4 months you want to get closer to 7 pm.
Ooh, thanks for this! I was trying to remember when our pedi in KS talked to us about getting B down for the night earlier than 9/10 pm.
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