sophiegrace hang in there mama. Newborn phase is something that sucks and then you forget very quickly; I'm positive we block out this phase for a reason! It really does get easier. Vent as much as you need!
L is getting some bottles, an outfit and a book for Christmas, so nothing fancy!
I had high hopes of accomplishing a lot today and none of it happened. DS has another ear infection which of course means he was running a fever last night which led to another seizure. Only my kid would have a seizure 10 hours after we take his EEG equipment off. DH was working overnight, so this afternoon I basically collapsed on the couch from being so mentally drained and took a nap. Maybe the presents will wrap themselves?
tjanca22 Oh, i'm so sorry to hear about your DS. I hope he's feeling better today. I know you must be exhausted after all that, plus taking care of a baby. Here's hoping the next few days are much smoother.
Post by shedreamsincolor on Dec 22, 2016 19:22:37 GMT -5
Ugh I am kind of freaking out. DS1 has a high temp and just coughed so hard he puked. I feel like it's inevitable baby will get it plus we are having to cancel Christmas plans with my in laws tomorrow. Waiting for the pediatrician to call me back so I can have a plan in case baby gets sick over the holiday. Such a bummer.
ClassyMrsA - I'm pretty sure you accomplished more today than I have all week. Seriously I wish you lived closer so some of your ambition would wear off on me!
sophiegrace - man I hear you. The NB phase is so hard. My first was not an easy baby. Thankfully DS2 is much more chill. Some kids are just hard- nothing you did or are doing that would change that. I promise it will get better in time (both as baby gets older and as you adjust to being "mom")
@sarahwithanh - hope you start seeing improvement in the reflux. Poor M!
tjanca22 - Hope you LO gets feeling better soon. Seizures are so hard to see in LOs.
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 22, 2016 20:24:52 GMT -5
danib that's awesome. You motivated me to start doing squats at every diaper change!
Had to use google to completely understand your post @sarahwithanh even though I know you've explained it all before. You're navigating this whole experience with such grace. It's pretty amazing to see how much ass you kick to get M all the love, care, and help he needs! Omeprazole was the one mentioned to me as well.
That is so scary tjanca22. Just thinking about going through that makes my stomach drop. I hope the nap helped a bit and your DS is all better for Christmas.
Healing thoughts to your DS as well shedreamsincolor!! That sucks so bad. All the crossables crossed that it's a short lived thing and he's feeling better in the morning and the baby never gets hit with it.
DH and my conversation on the way home from seeing Christmas lights:
DH: I didn't eat dinner mind if I stop for food? Me: We really should get the kids home and get them ready for bed. L is going to wake up soon. DH: I'll just stop at Taco Bell, it will be quick. (Continues to pull into drive thru even with 6 cars ahead of us) Me: are you sure this is going to be quick? (L is starting to cry) DH: (15 mins in drive thru) so are you putting DS to bed or do you need to feed L? Me: blank stare... our kid has been crying for 15 mins waiting for you to get damn Taco Bell, I think she should probably eat some time soon.
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 22, 2016 20:28:49 GMT -5
Thanks for, once again, making me feel normal ladies.
Anyone want to come relieve me of the dozens upon dozens of holiday cookies and treats we've been gifted this week that I can't eat? It's all sitting on my counter taunting me. I wonder if you can freeze cookies and have them not taste weird when they're defrosted?...
FYI when MSPI safe cookies have 'improved taste' on the label it's a pretty good indication that they taste like poo!!
Ugh I am kind of freaking out. DS1 has a high temp and just coughed so hard he puked. I feel like it's inevitable baby will get it plus we are having to cancel Christmas plans with my in laws tomorrow. Waiting for the pediatrician to call me back so I can have a plan in case baby gets sick over the holiday. Such a bummer.
Sorry your little guy is sick and I hope it's short-lived. FX DS2 stays healthy.
Anecdotal, but my DS has had two gross colds (including one that started the day after we brought DD home from the hospital) and the baby has not gotten sick (knock on wood). Which is truly a miracle, considering DS's love for cuddling "Baby Sister", and promptly coughing all over her
Post by tallblonde on Dec 22, 2016 21:09:43 GMT -5
Glad to hear I'm not the only one with minimal gifts! Some of the things I know she's getting - a baby book, coordinating monthly stickers (which I need to use immediately since she's 1m on the 24th), a pink jellycat, an angel dear curved pillow, and a baby briefcase to keep track of all her documents.. so basically everything we had for J that I want one for her.
Somehow it took me the whole day to read and comment this thread.
tjanca22, I'm so sorry about your DS. So many hugs to you, mama. That must be so scary. amberlie lol I uploaded that exact meme today thinking about posting it.!
We had a great night last night and I'm hoping for a repeat tonight. i'm getting in bed soon but first I should probably go say hi to MH for 5 minutes.
I feel like I do need to mention how incredibly much I love this baby. Every time I get a chance to log on here I spew what comes out sounding like complete negativity. I truly treasure every second I have with her, but can't help but feel like I've done or am doing something wrong. The food allergies, the reflux, the poor sleeping, not going to anyone but me, and refusing to put down...it's just...a lot.
Girl you sound exactly like me with DD. I swear to you it does get better, you will eventually be able to put her down somewhere so you can pee without her crying. Eventually you will feel like more than a glorified couch potato I promise. And I fully admit there was a lot I did not enjoy about her first 2 months, I was so thankful to be a parent and in awe of what I made, but the heart bursting love and adoration of that little person came a little later for me.
sophiegrace all of this. Except honestly for the first 6 weeks I didn't even like DS or love him half as much as you love M so you are already light years ahead of where I was with him. And I'll +633864 to what everyone else has already said about this being our safe space to help us get through this challenging time and all the ones to come.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 22, 2016 22:58:04 GMT -5
I keep coming here meaning to reply to everyone but things keep coming up. Right now it's almost 11 and C is wide awake. He's swaddled and laying in the PnP but the kid won't fall asleep. At least he's content just laying there for now.
We didn't buy anything for him for Christmas. I feel a little bad but there's nothing he really needs. Plus I'm sure we're going to get a ton of stuff from the family.
Post by ClassyMrsA on Dec 22, 2016 23:03:45 GMT -5
sophiegrace I've been debating getting the windi. I take it that it works? Also, my MIL makes about 10,000 cookies before Christmas and she freezes several containers of them. They still taste good to me when we visit. I'm not sure how she protects them from freezer taste. I can ask if you want.
tjanca22 That sounds so scary! I hope he feels better quickly. Hugs!
shedreamsincolor I hope your ds gets better quickly, too, and that the baby doesn't catch whatever he has.
So, I managed to only clean one shelf in the fridge and cleaned the front of the kitchen appliances. Boo. I'll have to do better tomorrow. My appointment was fine. I'm "90%" healed so I've got 2 more weeks of pelvic rest. Lilah and Lillian both went down earlyish so I'm about to go to bed. It's only 10! Tomorrow I need to plan dinner for Christmas, research classes for Lillian, finish DH's christmas present, wrap stuff, and continue my cleaning rampage.
Best picture ever vinolove!! hangry, what area in Maine will you be? Don't answer if too personal, my ILs live there so I was curious! ashleysyn, I hope you have a wonderful holiday that isn't too crazy! sophiegrace, what do you mean the dad strike continues? I'm always feeling like I'm doing everything wrong! But like the others have said, it's highly doubtful we are doing something wrong! You can send those cookies my way if you'd like. @tgrimes, I'm really off on bedtime! I'm lucky if we get to bed by 11:30 and by the time L is done fussing and crying, it's 2am!! danib, I barely had time to plow, how you are fitting in a workout is inconceivable to me! @sarahwithanh, I'm finding having someone to talk to, vent to, etc. is helpful whether it is PPD or not! When my dad passed away suddenly, it took me a few months to realize I needed help, but that help was already in place when I had my miscarriage. Between Monty and helping your grandpa, you may need someone who is not in the thick of it with you to get you through the muck!
I seem to be able to log on during the day but can respond mostly at night! Trying to feed L every 2-3 hours as he doesn't seem interested in eating until night time is wearing on me. He's very blasé till 11pm and then he's starving and can't eat enough and therefore won't let me sleep. I've been trying to keep up and you ladies are super women in being able to! I had to plow the driveway today and it's a lot of ice! I'm learning there's nothing like motherhood to make one feel even more insecure! I wasn't prepared for the soft loose skin on my belly. I wasn't prepared to feel kicked in the gut at every turn. The advice... why does everyone have an opinion? And why isn't mine good enough? Just grr
Is anyone using a nursing app? Anyone have recommendations?
cheshie6 you are doing great! Babies def have their own schedule, so pop in whenever works for you. On N13 there's a lady in Europe and she's more active on her schedule, and we respond on ours. Plowing the driveway sounds like a ton of work, you are a rockstar for doing that! I am pretty spoiled in apartment living that I only have to clear off a car, in the rare event that it snows.
@sarahwithahn I'm glad you got to the pedi and are going to get the reflux taken care of, that sound scary. I'm also glad to hear that your h and your doctor are looking out for you, but am sorry to hear you are struggling. Definitely something to be proactive about if there's a hint of it. Thinking of you.
sophiegrace totally freeze the cookies! Pop them in a zip lock freezer bag or you can put in Tupperware and line with wax paper. I freeze lactation cookies (well not this time, that's perpetually on the to do list) and just toss in a bag and pull out a few at a time. Some cookies are better frozen, like thin mints, mmmm. Just try to get out as much air as possible.
So of course the night I complain to you ladies about L not sleeping till 2am, he falls asleep at 01:30!?! He was up again at 03:30 so not awful in my opinion. That's 30 minutes more than last week so yay L! Maybe an 11pm bedtime is in our grasp in the next few weeks... fingers crossed!
cheshie6 I tried using a feeding app with DS but it was too much to keep up. I also found it wasn't giving me much info since I was breastfeeding and there was no way to measure what babe was actually getting. Are you still pumping and giving bottle after BFing? Sorry, I'm of no help. Also , I'll be in the greater Portland area.
We had more of a witching hour(s) tonight but she went down easier. We are on wake up #2 (1 and 4 am) but this actually feels like a schedule, which I would love. DS had 2 wake ups for 4 months but was predictable and easy to get back down. I could handle that again. I really hope it's going towards that rather than the unpredictability and need for rocking to sleep that it has been. Fingers crossed.
waitwhat No one has the right to suggest how you manage feeding the baby. I only say this with compassion and commiseration. Hs job is to support you then if they wanna say something about it. MH is similar, rather than being like, "well people might say something but I'll take care of it", he'd focus on the fact that they're saying something in the first place, not the fact that they should keep their opinions to themselves. Anyway, when H snores I nudge him (to wake him so he stops) and then pretend I'm sleeping as he grumbles and adjusts his position. In the morning he'll ask if I woke him, I made the mistake of saying yes one time and he was all "that's so rude".... UMMMM so I'm supposed to listen to snoring all night?! So now I deny deny deny lol.
hangry, no, not pumping and breastfeeding because doctor wants to see what he can do on his own. So by Tuesday, we need a 3.5oz to 7oz weight gain. waitwhat, would buying those tester strips help YH visually see there's no alcohol in you breast milk?
waitwhat To your point that you had some at thanksgiving but it was your family so he didn't care. Seriously H right there. Like excuse me dear, but at what point do you consider maybe the problem is your family not [insert subject]. Anyway, enjoy your wine and tell them to shove it. Make sure you make big exaggerated faces and sighs as you gulp each sip.
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 23, 2016 8:11:43 GMT -5
cheshie6 she's only content if I'm holding her. The only time she's ok with H is if he's giving her a bath. It sucks because it really gets to him and I can see him slowly pulling away from even wanting to try.
@sarahwithanh big hugs. It sounds like your instincts with M are spot on. I hope the breathing and reflux issues can be resolved soon. cheshie6, I use an app called Baby Tracker to record D's nursing and diapers (you can also record sleep but I haven't been doing that with her because I know from experience with DS that it'll drive me crazy). I like it because it keeps track of total nursing time plus how much on each side. You can also track how much you pump, how much you feed by bottle, and how much expressed milk is in your stash. waitwhat big hugs to you as well. That's a shitty argument and YH is on the wrong side for sure; he should be ready to support you against nosy family members. Is there any literature you can find online that you could bring with you to show ttem it's perfectly safe? I wish you wouldn't have to do that at all but maybe it'd help get them to stfu? hangry if you have any spare time during your trip and want to gtg, let me know! We are only like a 1.5-2 hour drive from southern Maine
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 23, 2016 9:08:35 GMT -5
cheshie6 I use the same app as dashook. It's useful for us because H and I sign into the same account so we can see what happened while the other want around. It's especially nice at night when one of us gets up. We can see the last time he ate, etc without waking up the other person.
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