Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Dec 22, 2016 10:17:09 GMT -5
I figured I'd start this now that we're getting farther along.... I fully expect those inappropriate comments to start rolling in now that the bump is getting noticeable
My mom asked me if we planned the pregnancy. I just looked at her and said that after being married over 6 years and together for 13, I think we had figured out how birth control worked and what happened when you stop taking it. She was mostly just surprised because she thought we would wait until H is done with residency, but it came out as a very weird question.
No one besides our immediate families and close friends know and I'm not showing so no other comments yet.
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Dec 22, 2016 10:31:14 GMT -5
marshian I love when people ask if its planned. Like what do they expect as an answer?
Last pregnancy for fun I responded sarcastically "nope... We weren't going to have kids but we got hammered and the condom broke and welp here we are now!" It was a college friend so we all had a good chuckle!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Dec 22, 2016 10:37:45 GMT -5
It feels good taking over this thread and getting my anger out!
Last time, we told my FIL at 12 weeks. We showed him the ultrasound pic and he responded
"I can't believe it. That's my Grandson in there"
I was particularly annoyed because we didn't know the sex yet and because it seemed like it was more special to him because he assumed it was a boy, like what if it was a girl? Would you be less excited? I just wanted him to be wrong just to piss him off. And of course when we found out we were having a boy, he actually said "I told you so!" Like he was so smart for knowing before we did.
At least this time around FIL is no longer in our lives so I don't have to deal with that shit anymore. He won't even know we are having #2.
starsandshamrocks123 - That's a great response! I already have some saved up for stupid questions I"m sure I'll get all the time. Adding that to the list.
starsandshamrocks123 - I hope no one tries to use my hormones as an excuse for a reasonable response to ridiculous behavior. Not that my response at that point would come off as sane.
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Dec 22, 2016 10:51:01 GMT -5
lindsay I hope it stays that way. Some of my coworkers are the worst. I've avoided telling some specific people because of the comments. I might start a new thread "awkward things that Gerry says" just for him once he finds out. He was the one who asked me at 8 months if my cervix was dilated yet. Looking forward to that again
Wow, starsandshamrocks123, it sounds like you have a lot of people who talk before they think in your life, I hope you don't let them get to you My family is all really great, I have no complaints there thankfully.
I look a lot younger than I am, so when I start to show I always get unreasonably nervous that people are looking at me thinking I'm a pregnant teenager and I try to make my wedding ring look obvious. No one has ever actually said anything to me about my age and pregnancy, but I've gotten multiple comments about my age in other contexts so I don't think it's all in my head.
I did have a clueless coworker my first pregnancy who asked dumb questions, but he honestly didn't know better and I figured I was making him a better future husband/father by explaining things to him!
mreve - I hope no one makes weird age comments! I also look younger than I am and have gotten comments on it as well, so fingers crossed nothing weird comes with the pregnancy!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Dec 22, 2016 13:13:23 GMT -5
marshian I hate to blame it but I think it might be a cultural thing he doesn't get. Sometimes I pretend he isn't saying what he's saying since it's tough to understand him.
I also think I usually have an IDGAF mentality so people are probably more comfortable sharing their thoughts with me?
Thankfully I've never had to deal with any unwanted belly touching. That would piss me off more!
starsandshamrocks123 - You're nicer than me. I don't care if it's cultural or whatever, I won't hesitate to tell people that to me, their questions are rude/nosy/etc. It's different for different people, and I hope others would tell me if I'm the one prying. Though I try really hard not to!
Heaven help the stranger who tries to touch my belly. They'll get their hand slapped. And if they protest to that, I'll ask them if they have a problem with unwanted touching. My family and friends are all welcome to touch, at least that's how I feel right now. We'll see what happens when I actually have a bump.
teachermomtobe - That comment must grate every time you hear it. I wish you could have some sort of selective mute where you never hear it again.
I've also gotten that comment in a general sense of "It will be summer and not winter and so nice!" Hello, we would have been happy with a baby any month of the year.
Post by violetrose on Dec 22, 2016 14:51:16 GMT -5
Oh man where do I begin. I get some great comments almost daily.
"Don't you guys know how this works yet?" "Were you trying?" "Your husband must be a lucky man! *wink wink*" "But how will you do it?" "You will have your hands full!" "Are you sure this is what you want to be doing with your life?" "You poor thing."
This isn't original or anything, but last pregnancy a woman on the elevator at work was like, "You must be having a Christmas baby! You're due any day!" (like a week before Christmas). When I told her I was due in late February, she said, "No way! You're HUGE!" and had a disgusted look on her face.
I wanted to cry and I was so stunned that I barely got anything out - I said something about how my baby is growing right on target and a perfect size - but the biotch in my wishes I'd just said, "you too!". WHAT.IS.WRONG.WITH.PEOPLE? I wasn't even huge.
Oh man where do I begin. I get some great comments almost daily.
"Don't you guys know how this works yet?" "Were you trying?" "Your husband must be a lucky man! *wink wink*" "But how will you do it?" "You will have your hands full!" "Are you sure this is what you want to be doing with your life?" "You poor thing."
Gah! It's no one's business how often you do it, if it was planned, or if you have 20 kids. People had much larger families when our parents were young, why do people think it's so strange?
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