Post by starsandshamrocks123 on May 7, 2017 8:07:24 GMT -5
agm04 frustrating for you just reading that. I couldn't agree more. I would plan things around DS schedule and it drove family nuts but I'm glad I did what I could to make his life/our lives easier. Life revolves around kids schedules: accept it, I say!
My favorite was my parents would plan to visit us on Sunday's. It's a 2 hour trip so they weren't just stopping by. They'd plan to arrive at, say, 11am even when I told them DS naps from 11-1, fully expecting we would keep him awake for their visit. DS has never slept well so I clearly let them sit on my couch while he napped upstairs
Omg this is by far my favorite! Will never forget when my coworker asked me that last time! Do you really want to know the status of my cervix right here in the break room???!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on May 7, 2017 8:15:32 GMT -5
I didn't get any rude pregnancy comments at my family party yesterday which was nice.
My weird uncle did say something highly inappropriate "when are you going to have this baby? It seems about time. You and H should go home and have some crazy sex tonight... that definitely induces labor. Worked with 3 of ours" I was dying!!! Like it's not like I'm overdue... I'm not even 36 weeks yet, so no rush. And thanks for suggesting crazy sex with DH that's so bizarre coming from a family member!
I didn't get any rude pregnancy comments at my family party yesterday which was nice.
My weird uncle did say something highly inappropriate "when are you going to have this baby? It seems about time. You and H should go home and have some crazy sex tonight... that definitely induces labor. Worked with 3 of ours" I was dying!!! Like it's not like I'm overdue... I'm not even 36 weeks yet, so no rush. And thanks for suggesting crazy sex with DH that's so bizarre coming from a family member!
I really hate being told I look tired. Why?! And my mil's impatience as to when baby will get here. There is no need to schedule an induction right now so cool your jets.
And regarding travel and summer plans.. We have my grandpa's birthday party with a photographer for family photos scheduled for just days after my due date. And we're expected to drive 14 hours to see family with a 4-6 week old later this summer.. I definitely reserve the right to back out of any of this. They can be mad if they want, I gotta take care of myself and kids.
I really hate being told I look tired. Why?! And my mil's impatience as to when baby will get here. There is no need to schedule an induction right now so cool your jets.
I almost posted the exact same thing about looking tired last week. EVERY time I see my MIL (which can be daily some weeks) she has to make a comment on how tired I look. Well no $#!+, I sleep like crap and don't nap when the crazy toddler naps because then nothing in my house would get done. Plus, I always just look tired (I think it's a genetic thing. My dad and brother are the same way.) If you won't say that to a normal non-pregnant person, why the F is it ok to say it to me!?
Re: looking tired. I've taught my husband that he's never allowed to tell someone they looked tired. He can say they look sleepy and that's it
Re: dilating questions - that's one reason I never get cervical checks. I truly have no idea if I'm dilating/if things are starting to move along. It really means nothing anyway - people walk around significantly dilated for a month+ all the time.
And lastly, re: travel. When we had kids we told family we were no longer traveling cross country to see them at the holidays and they were welcome to come to us. I will say that the easiest travel with kids that we've ever done was when we had one six-month-old. We took 6-hour flights when DD was 6 months and I seriously read an entire book on the plane. We bought a seat for her and brought her carseat and she slept, woke up to eat and play for like an hour, and then went back to sleep. So for anyone on the fence, it may be worth the trip this Christmas, and then next Christmas when kids are 18 months- which I find one of the hardest times to fly - you have an out! By the following Christmas, when the kids are all 2.5 years old, they will at least start to be entertained by TV/an iPad
We have zero family within driving distance so being expected to make driving trips isn't an issue for us....as much as I wish we did have family within driving distance!
My mom last night: Your pregnancy is progressing exactly the same as mine with you, and you were born two days early! Get ready!
First, I doubt you remember exactly how your pregnancy 31 years ago went (in fact, I know she glosses over things because my grandmother remembers some parts of it differently). Second, even if they are similar, doesn't mean this kid is coming out at the exact same point.
Post by lotsoflotts on May 8, 2017 12:24:03 GMT -5
sabrinaml give yourself some grace - you can totally forgo the housework in favor of a nap!! I give you permission most days I lie down for a bit during my toddler's nap, because if I don't, I won't make it until bedtime.
sabrinaml give yourself some grace - you can totally forgo the housework in favor of a nap!! I give you permission most days I lie down for a bit during my toddler's nap, because if I don't, I won't make it until bedtime.
Unfortunately it's not just the house work that needs to get done. It's business stuff (computer work) that needs to get done and my shower time. It's impossible to open the laptop if C is awake- he just wants to hit all the keys, and I don't trust him enough for me to take a shower and let him roam the upstairs.
My MW is apparently as sassy as I am and told me her favorite responses to tell her patients to use. Thought I would share with you guys.
Random Stranger: Touches your belly You: Touch them inappropriately (boob, butt) Them: "What was that about?" or similar reaction You: "Do you get it now?"
Random Stranger: "You're ready to pop!" / "You look huge!" / "Are you having twins?" You: "You've got one foot in the grave!" / "Looks like time for more Botox!" / "Oof, off the diet again?"
Cleaning ladies today asked if I knew the sex. Told them no, it's a surprise. Asked if I had a feeling. Told them no. To which the response was: "The mom always knows" with a smile. Um, nope. I know plenty of people who swore they were having one sex to end up with the other.
But they left telling me I looked small for 35 weeks. I'll take it.
marshian hahaha those are great. i was one of those moms who "knew" she was having a boy, btw. i know if we'd had a boy i'd be saying how much i love being a boy mom, but now it's my favorite thing i've ever been wrong about, bc having DD is the best.
Post by trebletrouble13 on May 17, 2017 9:33:09 GMT -5
marshianagm04 - I was also one of those moms who "knew," but I was right. I was correct for both DS and DD (this baby). I know many other moms who "knew" but were wrong.
Post by applemuffins on May 17, 2017 10:33:36 GMT -5
I was totally wrong. Thought DD was a boy. And i think I thought this one was a boy too, but I was hoping for a girl so it swayed my thoughts. Basically, I was 0/2. Ha.
Got my first "you sure it's just one in there?" today. Thank God I'm almost at the end of all this.
Cleaning ladies today asked if I knew the sex. Told them no, it's a surprise. Asked if I had a feeling. Told them no. To which the response was: "The mom always knows" with a smile. Um, nope. I know plenty of people who swore they were having one sex to end up with the other.
But they left telling me I looked small for 35 weeks. I'll take it.
I was always right until I wasn't. With my first 4 I knew the baby's sex by like 8 weeks each time. This time I swore it was a girl until the scan at 16 weeks showed a penis. Even then I googled incorrect early scan. Nope still a boy! 80% accuracy ain't bad tho mirite??
I just got my first "are you sure there's only one in there?" But the person saying it was the chairman of my firm. So no ability for me to use a snarky retort
Oh you're having a C-section? Don't you want to try and have the baby naturally?
No, no I do not and it's really none of your business. That's between me and my Dr.
so people think a mom super close to delivery hasn't thought about the birth that's best for her/baby and might say, "omg, i hadn't considered that! tell me what i should do!"? like wtf.
not birth related, but i will admit that i've had one big parenting foot in mouth moment: my neighbor/friend turned her son's car seat forward facing when he turned 1. we were at the gym together so i saw her putting him in (and she hadn't told me she turned him - our babies are just weeks apart), and i was just so shocked. she's way more laid back than i am in general, but i wasn't expecting it so i was like, "wait, you turned him forward facing already??" and said something about the recommendation being forward facing until at least 2. in retrospect it was a total asshole comment, and none of my business. she's a good mom (and a nurse) and doesn't need my input.
agm04 I probably would have made a comment about that too because of being shocked. Now it's the law in a lot of states though, so here it would be illegal if she turned him before 2.
We rode with a friend the other day to go on a hike because she has extra seats in her van. But I didn't realize the seat she had for DD was a booster seat. DD meets all the legal and size requirements for a booster but I was still nervous the whole ride because a 5-point harness is still so much safer...car seat stuff is tough.
sdlaura SO tough! harder to keep my mouth shut where safety is involved, but still...not my kid and she is totally capable. DH has been asking why DD is still rear facing, but she's barely 24 lbs, so turning her is really not even on my radar.
sdlaura i know mine just doesn't research these things and uses "common sense" to form his opinions. plus a large dose of 'i turned out fine and it wasn't like that when i was little'...which annoys me to no end.
sdlaura and agm04 the car seat stuff is tough. I was actually more lax about switching to FF before we had DS, but MH is like the rear face police. Our 3 and a half year old son is 36 lbs so he's quickly approaching the 40 lb limit and we will need to turn him soon but not with four pounds to go. We just finagled the seating in our CR-V to fit his next fit and baby sisters base for the bucket seat this past weekend.
It's probably from my anxiety issues but I'm nervous about turning him around. I also agonized over the placements in the car. 🙄 I have problems.
wineoclock I think logically car seats make more sense to obsess about than just about anything else I obsess about . Unintentional injury is the #1 cause of death for kids and car accidents are the #1 cause of unintentional injury. So it is pretty logical to worry about it!
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