Post by sstwinklinglites on Dec 23, 2016 9:49:47 GMT -5
Here. I was thinking of doing a no call / no show today, but I just don't have it in me. Why, why, why do I have to be so responsible?
Unless they try to stick me with work, I don't really have anything to do though, so I just took a call, and plan on picking up the house the rest of the day. mominthemaking14 took DS to Pogo Play, so that gives me some time to get things done uninterrupted.
Post by chrispy1122 on Dec 23, 2016 10:22:56 GMT -5
Woke up with the worst sinus headache. H is downstairs making Christmas cookies and Chex mix. I'm trying to rally so that I can start making some memories. We also need to squeeze in stopping at Menards and IKEA for floor tile and cabinets because sale/coupons expire tomorrow. I also have to get a gift for my brother's gf. I'm sure I'll be back to see how you all are doing!
Post by sstwinklinglites on Dec 23, 2016 10:29:36 GMT -5
I have to either today or tomorrow get some Christmas gift for our hosts for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Yes, as last minute as it gets over here.
Post by vlagroupie on Dec 23, 2016 11:43:09 GMT -5
I"m here. I'm having a rough day, parenting is hard guys. My kid has just been an absolute terror lately, it is so depressing. She just does not listen to us and throws a fit over everything. I should want to be around my kid, but when she is like this, I just want to get away. I know people say its toddlers being toddlers, but she is definitely above and beyond that, I'm at a loss. I'm going to start looking into a behavioral therapist at Childrens. I guess I just kinda needed to get that out, but I'll also take any advice, books to read, anything!
I"m here. I'm having a rough day, parenting is hard guys. My kid has just been an absolute terror lately, it is so depressing. She just does not listen to us and throws a fit over everything. I should want to be around my kid, but when she is like this, I just want to get away. I know people say its toddlers being toddlers, but she is definitely above and beyond that, I'm at a loss. I'm going to start looking into a behavioral therapist at Childrens. I guess I just kinda needed to get that out, but I'll also take any advice, books to read, anything!
I'm sorry - parenting is so tough sometimes. I always hear good things about "The Whole Brain Child" and "No Drama Discipline." They're both by Daniel Siegel. I haven't gotten around to reading either yet.
That sounds super tough vlagroupie. Maybe she is a very strong willed, independent girl, and will grow up into a great leader. What do you guys do for discipline? Has anything worked, not worked, or are you just at a loss?
I'm sorry she's giving you a hard time vlagroupie. I wish I had some advice, but I have no idea what I'm doing in this whole parenting thing. Does she have behavior problems at school or when grandparents watch her, or is it just with you?
We only see my parents a couple times a year, but when we do they spoil the shit out of my kid. Latest shenanigans: my dad is concerned that Bub would be worried that Santa wouldn't find him at their house. The solution: we're going to light fireworks on Christmas Eve to be sure Santa finds us. I was like seriously? We can't just write Santa a letter?
I"m here. I'm having a rough day, parenting is hard guys. My kid has just been an absolute terror lately, it is so depressing. She just does not listen to us and throws a fit over everything. I should want to be around my kid, but when she is like this, I just want to get away. I know people say its toddlers being toddlers, but she is definitely above and beyond that, I'm at a loss. I'm going to start looking into a behavioral therapist at Childrens. I guess I just kinda needed to get that out, but I'll also take any advice, books to read, anything!
That sounds super tough vlagroupie. Maybe she is a very strong willed, independent girl, and will grow up into a great leader. What do you guys do for discipline? Has anything worked, not worked, or are you just at a loss?
She is a very strong willed girl and super independent. I'm sure these will be great qualities when she's older. I feel like she goes through these phases where she is super defiant and you can't tell her anything and she cries or gets upset at the drop of a hat. I give her warnings and try time outs, she will go to timeout kicking and screaming, and she'll cry so much she makes herself cough. It's just too much right now.
Post by mominthemaking14 on Dec 23, 2016 14:51:27 GMT -5
vlagroupie hugs no advice I literally make stuff up as I go. We've done time out when she's been an absolute peach but generally when I raise my voice she cries lol
I wonder if it's just you guys (I know that doesn't make you feel better) but how is she at school maybe the teachers have advice.
Side note: Little A stayed dry the entire freaking time this am and asked for potty when we got home. I guess she's ready I didn't read my books yet so this will be a shit show lol literally lol diaper for naps and bedtime otherwise panties wish us luck lol
That sounds super tough vlagroupie. Maybe she is a very strong willed, independent girl, and will grow up into a great leader. What do you guys do for discipline? Has anything worked, not worked, or are you just at a loss?
She is a very strong willed girl and super independent. I'm sure these will be great qualities when she's older. I feel like she goes through these phases where she is super defiant and you can't tell her anything and she cries or gets upset at the drop of a hat. I give her warnings and try time outs, she will go to timeout kicking and screaming, and she'll cry so much she makes herself cough. It's just too much right now.
Maybe stop giving warnings? We had to do that for a bit. Set expectations, tell her she gets no warnings ahead of time and follow through with your discipline of choice.
I'm sorry she's giving you a hard time vlagroupie. I wish I had some advice, but I have no idea what I'm doing in this whole parenting thing. Does she have behavior problems at school or when grandparents watch her, or is it just with you?
That's the thing, she doesn't have behavior problems at school. This all came about at the school Xmas party yesterday. Within a minute of me arriving there she started acting out. I turned to the teacher and asked if she acts like this, and she said no. I was so embarrassed in front of the teachers and other parents. I don't feel like I let her get away with stuff all the time, but it was obvious that she was acting out with me there.
vlagroupie hugs no advice I literally make stuff up as I go. We've done time out when she's been an absolute peach but generally when I raise my voice she cries lol
I wonder if it's just you guys (I know that doesn't make you feel better) but how is she at school maybe the teachers have advice.
Side note: Little A stayed dry the entire freaking time this am and asked for potty when we got home. I guess she's ready I didn't read my books yet so this will be a shit show lol literally lol diaper for naps and bedtime otherwise panties wish us luck lol
Read my other post. She acted like a complete terror at the Xmas party. Her teachers looked at her like she was crazy.
Post by sstwinklinglites on Dec 23, 2016 15:43:45 GMT -5
I'm sorry it's so hard with her vlagroupie. I commend you for having such patience with her and keeping it together thru pregnancy. Is it possible she's jealous of the upcoming baby? I know she's always been a bit defiant, but could the big change coming be ramping things up?
I've found myself losing my patience with DS a lot lately, and for really stupid things that usually wouldn't bother me. I think my hormones are just making everything 20 times worse right now, so again, you're doing great with her being so close to birthing another human.
I"m here. I'm having a rough day, parenting is hard guys. My kid has just been an absolute terror lately, it is so depressing. She just does not listen to us and throws a fit over everything. I should want to be around my kid, but when she is like this, I just want to get away. I know people say its toddlers being toddlers, but she is definitely above and beyond that, I'm at a loss. I'm going to start looking into a behavioral therapist at Childrens. I guess I just kinda needed to get that out, but I'll also take any advice, books to read, anything!
My kid is a jerk too. That's all.
Maybe I'm just more irritated with it being pregnant. Like I can't stand her crying/whining and I'm not physically capable of picking her up and leaving the situation if she's misbehaving in public. Thanks for the laugh though, I giggled when I read your post.
I'm sorry it's so hard with her vlagroupie. I commend you for having such patience with her and keeping it together thru pregnancy. Is it possible she's jealous of the upcoming baby? I know she's always been a bit defiant, but could the big change coming be ramping things up?
I've found myself losing my patience with DS a lot lately, and for really stupid things that usually wouldn't bother me. I think my hormones are just making everything 20 times worse right now, so again, you're doing great with her being so close to birthing another human.
Thanks, although I think I'm totally losing it today and not keeping anything together. But yes, I think hormones and being so pregnant isn't helping the situation. My mom thinks the excitement of the holidays are causing her to act out. I can only hope she calms down a bit once baby is here. Or this baby will be the calmest baby ever, bc with 2 screaming children I might just go insane.
Maybe I'm just more irritated with it being pregnant. Like I can't stand her crying/whining and I'm not physically capable of picking her up and leaving the situation if she's misbehaving in public. Thanks for the laugh though, I giggled when I read your post.
Yes absolutely. It's very hard. And it's going to get worse unfortunately. I'm sure she knows you're too uncomfortable and tired to follow through every time with discipline and she's taking advantage. Your h has to step it up with the follow through now and once baby is here. Your hands will be tied and she needs to know you still mean business. I am also embarrassed by behavior I see in my son that I don't see in others kids. But these are their personalities, it is who they are and not just how we are doing as parents so remember that. We might be more consistent and disciplined with our kids than someone whose kid acts an angel, but that's not a reflection because it could just be that kids personality to follow rules and listen and be quiet. That's not every kid. It will get better as they get older. Age will do a lot for a stubborn child. I was the most stubborn. My mom said no amount of discipline or spanking stopped me from doing whatever and I just had to grow out of it. It's all going to be okay. You are tired and pregnant and she's getting less attention and acting out. And she's about to get less attention and act out even more.
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