Post by tuscanlatte on Dec 29, 2016 9:56:55 GMT -5
I came here with the plan of doing no work and now the power is out... so I really can't do anything. Handy that I have a backpack full of bujo supplies 😂.
If I didn't have a coffee date I'd peace out of here.
None!!! That's another reason I've been mostly titting. I'm feeling anxious and like I only have complaints to offer lol. I'm going to email HR today and ask wtf (very nicely lol).
None!!! That's another reason I've been mostly titting. I'm feeling anxious and like I only have complaints to offer lol. I'm going to email HR today and ask wtf (very nicely lol).
I know how you feel. Complain away, you listened to me go through that!
@janetheconquerer I'm sorry you're dealing with this too. I feel like a fucking teenager going truth mood swings again. I mean I'm upset over a fucking sandwich. I need wine.
DH is making me crazy. He can't plan anything or think ahead which has become even more evident over the last week while I've been out of commission. It's turning into a shitshow over here, which would sort of be okay, but his lack of consideration for other people's time is starting to impact our nanny and that's not okay. He has been totally flaky with her about schedule this week, so I just decided we're paying her for all of the time whether she's here or not.
I'm really losing patience with him. Trying to release it to the universe and accept that planning is not one of his strengths. Channeling Frozen, let it go, let it go... lol
@janetheconquerer, I'd rather let it be the shitshow that it is. Maybe he'll start to realize what I do for this family. That's probably wishful thinking though, haha.
H and planning is a topic that gets heated in our house. He gives me shit about ensuring things are planned but won't do it himself 😠 Things have got to get done, last I checked we don't have gnomes that come at night and do everything for us. It's me, I plan everything and make it happen. If you want me to stress less then freaking help!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Dec 29, 2016 15:04:03 GMT -5
tuscanlatte FX for good news about the job. I remember it took forever for me to be offered my current job. Ive been here now 3 years and I'm so tempted to ask what took so long! Like I think either myself or my counter part were not their first choices, so there were delays with that. But then I don't want my feelings to get hurt if that's the case. lol
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Dec 29, 2016 15:06:06 GMT -5
aydee ,+1 to organizing not being DH's strong suit. Which is hilarious because he works for a logistics company (which I think requires constant organizing and time management) but at home it all falls apart! lol. Like this morning I was busy getting ready to have DS2's bio-brothers and their family for lunch and a visit, and he is over there folding laundry but hasn't showered. Um, the laundry can wait, they are going to be here in 10 minutes! lol. I agree to let it turn to a shit show so he can appreciate all that you do for the family and keeping the household running smoothly.
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Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Dec 29, 2016 15:12:25 GMT -5
So we had our visit with DS2's bio-brothers and their family. I try so hard, but they are so unfortunately awkward. Like I get that this situation is unique and awkward in itself (complete strangers now family due to our adoptions), and the fact that they live 6 hours away, makes visits limited, so difficult to form relationships. But it.is.so.awkward. I can't even describe how strange these visits are. Like they are absolutely lovely, kind people, just so very social awkward. But I am glad that we are able to have the boys get to know each other, and it will hopefully help us share M's story with him as he grows.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Dec 29, 2016 15:15:15 GMT -5
DH and I are going on a date tonight to the movies (using up passes that are about to expire the end of the week....like we never go out). We are having DS1 babysit. I am strangely calm about it. This is the first time EVER that DS1 will babysit for us. M will be asleep, so it should be an issue, but it is a big step for us! lol. Debating on either seeing Collateral Beauty (and most likely ugly crying) or Why Him? (the trailer looks really funny! and this one is showing at a new theatre that has a liquor license, so beer during movie). Anyone seen either one? Recommendations?
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
redandblue it makes me happy each time you talk about M getting to spend time with his bio-family. I'm sorry it's awkward now, hopefully that will fade some as he gets older. Enjoy your date tonight!
Post by redandblue on Dec 29, 2016 15:22:23 GMT -5
ampaints, thanks! I love that we are building our relationship with their family. In some ways I wish they lived closer so we could have play dates with maybe just the boys (maybe that's my FFTC). I do really like the parents, they are amazing people, very educated, kind, and i believe are very much in line with our values/morals (as I've noted from their FB posts, they are VERY active on FB). They are just so socially awkward. We keep trying. DH has a harder time with it than I do, I wish there was something more that I could do to make it less awkward, but I think it is just time.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
redandblue, I'm sorry the visits are so awkward. I think it's a great thing you're doing to maintain the connection to his bio siblings. Although it's awkward now, keeping the visits going preserves the ability for him to have a choice later on about how role he wants them to have in his life.
No input about the movies since I can't remember the last time I went to a theater, but have fun tonight!
I have a list of activities to work on with M after physical therapy now. He was in a decent mood at the start, but not really willing to work terribly hard. We're going to do it earlier next month and from there decide if we'll meet monthly or bimonthly. I was kind of sad that he didn't really show how well he's doing. It's silly, but I guess I kind of wanted to hear from a professional that he's improving. But I know he is and now I have activities to help him even more.
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