Needing a Christmas vent *rainbow mentioned*

[heartpresidents]

****rainbow mentioned***


Anyone else need to get some frustration out this Christmas? 
Here's mine...

My mother in law bought my husband and I one of those "family" ornaments with names on it. How many names were on it, you ask?
Three. Me, my husband, and our rainbow.
I really, really wish I could go back in time and just nonchalantly say "Weird, they forgot Lincoln's name". But I was dumbfounded. I couldn't think of a single word to say, my mind honestly went completely blank with shock. I just put it back in the box and closed the box without commenting at all. 
Unfortunately, she gave it to me after all the other presents were opened, kind of as an afterthought, so my husband wasn't there. He didn't actually take a look at it until we were in the car on the way home. He's going to call her and say something like "Oh, Lincoln wasn't on that ornament you gave us, that was weird". We're not going to start a family issue over it, but we're certainly not ok with it happening again. 

If you're curious, we threw the ornament away as soon as we were home. I was so mad, I wanted to throw it out the car window, but I hate to litter.

[professormcgonagall]

That sucks heartpresidents.
I would have thrown it away too.

My FIL made a post with a picture of my 1 year old niece saying Newest and Cutest "Lastname. Which isn't true because Alex is the newest.

It's sad that our angels aren't remembered or regarded the way they should be. They deserve to have their name on an ornament or just to be remembered during the holidays.

[heartpresidents]

Dec 28, 2016 13:30:15 GMT -5 professormcgonagall said:

That sucks heartpresidents.
I would have thrown it away too.

My FIL made a post with a picture of my 1 year old niece saying Newest and Cutest "Lastname. Which isn't true because Alex is the newest.

It's sad that our angels aren't remembered or regarded the way they should be. They deserve to have their name on an ornament or just to be remembered during the holidays.

Ugh, I'm sorry he did something so stupid! It's like they can't comprehend the grief and that it's something we live with every day. They want things to be "normal" and "fine". It'll never be that way and they need to come to terms with it.

Sometimes I think my in laws would prefer to "move on" and "get over it", which I'll never understand. 

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I'm so sorry she did that. I would have thrown it out, too. It's just rude.

[fknhostile]

I'm sorry that happened. It would hurt me too and I also would have tossed it.

Whenever I bring up Ryker everyone gets silent around me and changes the subject. I understand they maybe don't want to say the wrong thing and upset me but I would like him to be remembered and talked about. I wouldn't bring him up if I didnt.

[iheartbroccoli]

I am so sorry Lincoln wasn't included on the ornament heartpresidents. I would have thrown it away too, that is very hurtful. Big hugs.

professormcgonagall Ugh, I'm so sorry for that. It's awful when our children aren't recognized. Big hugs.



***TW: pregnancy***

There hasn't been any "big" moments of Theo being overlooked by others, but a few little things that made me pause. Mostly though I was irritated by how many people expected me to be super duper excited it's Christmas. Like just because I'm pregnant again, I'm supposed to be as happy as I was before Theo and act like nothing happened. Just too much pressure to feel what I wasn't feeling.

[heartpresidents]

fknhostile, people do that to me sometimes, too. They don't understand that if we're talking about kids, Lincoln pops into my mind just as much as any other parents' child. We like talking about our kids!

iheartbroccoli, yes, that too! More last year than this since last year was the first Christmas with our rainbow. People acted like him being here should have made it all better. Ugh!

cardhard, I'm sorry, what a terrible thing to get an ornament for! So annoying that she thought more of the championship that day than her grandchild being buried. Hugs to you!

[peaseblossom55]

I'm so sorry. It can be so frustrating. I would have tossed the ornament too.