DS has been up for 7.5 hours and has slept for 56 min today (3 naps already). I'm at my breaking point. Everyday the naps get shorter and shorter. He only slept for 10 hours last night (his norm is 12 hours), so he should have had good naps today. He's spent more time screaming because he's tired than not. And DH just went out of town for work for 3 days today.
Do you think it would help to swaddle him for a few naps, just to get him some sleep? You could keep an eye on him if you're worried about rolling. Maybe it's teething and you could give Motrin? I just want something to work for you!
DS has been up for 7.5 hours and has slept for 56 min today (3 naps already). I'm at my breaking point. Everyday the naps get shorter and shorter. He only slept for 10 hours last night (his norm is 12 hours), so he should have had good naps today. He's spent more time screaming because he's tired than not. And DH just went out of town for work for 3 days today.
Do you think it would help to swaddle him for a few naps, just to get him some sleep? You could keep an eye on him if you're worried about rolling. Maybe it's teething and you could give Motrin? I just want something to work for you!
Thanks. We've rarely swaddled him because he hated it, but I'm willing to try anything. I tried Tylenol, but I'll try motrin next. He did finally sleep for an hour late this afternoon, presumably just out of sheer exhaustion. I'm hoping tomorrow is better.
R started sleeping in his room on Sunday night. This means that when he cries, H doesn't hear him at all and even though he is in charge of "sleep training," he doesn't do much. Instead, I am awake...he has been nursing at 2 am, 5 am, and 7:30 am, but crying in between those times too. When I go back to bed, I have to deal with a snoring H after already having been up so much for the baby. Ugh. He says he's getting such good rest...at my expense. So annoyed.
Also, last year, I told him to get all his medical stuff done since we were going to hit our out of pocket max. After lots of pushing, he still didn't get all his sleep stuff done and won't be getting his CPAP until February. Ugh. So that means more waiting and more money.
I wake DH when he snores. He tells me no other wives do that. You are proving his point.
Am I a selfish wife? DH doesn't do kid night duty due to severe insomnia if woken (and yes, my waking him when he snores can trigger it).
R started sleeping in his room on Sunday night. This means that when he cries, H doesn't hear him at all and even though he is in charge of "sleep training," he doesn't do much. Instead, I am awake...he has been nursing at 2 am, 5 am, and 7:30 am, but crying in between those times too. When I go back to bed, I have to deal with a snoring H after already having been up so much for the baby. Ugh. He says he's getting such good rest...at my expense. So annoyed.
Also, last year, I told him to get all his medical stuff done since we were going to hit our out of pocket max. After lots of pushing, he still didn't get all his sleep stuff done and won't be getting his CPAP until February. Ugh. So that means more waiting and more money.
I wake DH when he snores. He tells me no other wives do that. You are proving his point.
Am I a selfish wife? DH doesn't do kid night duty due to severe insomnia if woken (and yes, my waking him when he snores can trigger it).
I also wake H when he snores because then I can't sleep.
H also doesn't have night kid duty because he is crabby if he doesn't get enough sleep and I don't want to deal with him when he's crabby. So it's just easier for me to get up and lose sleep.
R started sleeping in his room on Sunday night. This means that when he cries, H doesn't hear him at all and even though he is in charge of "sleep training," he doesn't do much. Instead, I am awake...he has been nursing at 2 am, 5 am, and 7:30 am, but crying in between those times too. When I go back to bed, I have to deal with a snoring H after already having been up so much for the baby. Ugh. He says he's getting such good rest...at my expense. So annoyed.
Also, last year, I told him to get all his medical stuff done since we were going to hit our out of pocket max. After lots of pushing, he still didn't get all his sleep stuff done and won't be getting his CPAP until February. Ugh. So that means more waiting and more money.
I wake DH when he snores. He tells me no other wives do that. You are proving his point.
Am I a selfish wife? DH doesn't do kid night duty due to severe insomnia if woken (and yes, my waking him when he snores can trigger it).
i wake my DH up. normally i just kind of kick or push him. 50% of the time he'll just roll over, the other 50% he's like "huh?" and i tell him he's so loud. i handle the night duty though, once I hear something i'm up, so even if he did do it, I'd be up anyway.
so you can tell you aren't the only wife who does that
But, he gets up with the baby when I can't. I mentioned earlier today that I do overreact in the middle of the night and will say really unfair things. My husband senses when I'm reaching the edge and will get up to take care of her. This is naturally a tense conversation...
"No, I'll do it. I always fucking do it." "Joy, get back in bed." "No, you sleep. You always get to sleep." "Just get in bed!"
In the morning, I apologize and thank him and he laughs.
R started sleeping in his room on Sunday night. This means that when he cries, H doesn't hear him at all and even though he is in charge of "sleep training," he doesn't do much. Instead, I am awake...he has been nursing at 2 am, 5 am, and 7:30 am, but crying in between those times too. When I go back to bed, I have to deal with a snoring H after already having been up so much for the baby. Ugh. He says he's getting such good rest...at my expense. So annoyed.
Also, last year, I told him to get all his medical stuff done since we were going to hit our out of pocket max. After lots of pushing, he still didn't get all his sleep stuff done and won't be getting his CPAP until February. Ugh. So that means more waiting and more money.
I wake DH when he snores. He tells me no other wives do that. You are proving his point.
Am I a selfish wife? DH doesn't do kid night duty due to severe insomnia if woken (and yes, my waking him when he snores can trigger it).
Well, I have severe insomnia. If i wake up, I'm up. Our solution is room sharing to minimize my wake time with little ones. But I don't just eschew all MOTN responsibilities
I wake DH when he snores. He tells me no other wives do that. You are proving his point.
Am I a selfish wife? DH doesn't do kid night duty due to severe insomnia if woken (and yes, my waking him when he snores can trigger it).
Well, I have severe insomnia. If i wake up, I'm up. Our solution is room sharing to minimize my wake time with little ones. But I don't just eschew all MOTN responsibilities
Having seen how sick DH got when his insomnia was at its worst, it works best for us this way. It was very scary times a few years ago when he was getting less than 3 hours of sleep every single night. We had this agreement before we decided on DD3.
That said, I did not agree to snoring after I tended to the baby .
Well, I have severe insomnia. If i wake up, I'm up. Our solution is room sharing to minimize my wake time with little ones. But I don't just eschew all MOTN responsibilities
Having seen how sick DH got when his insomnia was at its worst, it works best for us this way. It was very scary times a few years ago when he was getting less than 3 hours of sleep every single night. We had this agreement before we decided on DD3.
That said, I did not agree to snoring after I tended to the baby .
I wake MH when he snores so you're not the only one. If he's snoring I can't fall asleep and since I take on all MOTN duties that's not ok. Although honestly I've always woken him up if his snoring has bothered me.
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If H starts snoring, I just change positions in bed very dramatically and flop around more than is necessary. Usually it disturbs him enough that he moves and stops snoring, but doesn't really wake up. Sneaky.
If H starts snoring, I just change positions in bed very dramatically and flop around more than is necessary. Usually it disturbs him enough that he moves and stops snoring, but doesn't really wake up. Sneaky.
I try this before waking DH up. waking is a last resort...unless I have reached the point if grumpiness which joy mentioned. I am trying to be better about the grumpiness.
Post by pbandjelly on Jan 11, 2017 10:17:02 GMT -5
Man, you guys are serious baby whisperers. I have a question about DS and sitting up. He's gotten to the point where he can sit up on his own for several seconds, except that he hates sitting down. He just prefers to stand. Whenever I try, he turns into a stiff board and refuses. He'll sit just fine in a highchair, but not on his own and just recently no longer in our laps. I've tried to entice him to sit by putting toys on the ground in front of him and that will last a few seconds. Any ideas? He goes for his 6 month check up tomorrow (which is super late because he'll be 7 months in 10 days) and I will ask his pedi too. I'm just curious if you all have any ideas or experience.
I just did this and they gave back so much info and activities, as well as what babies his age can do or start to do. Thanks for the tip!
Do you know the name of the site? I googled but couldn't find anywhere to fill it out except a page that said they would send me the result within two weeks.
ASQOregon. They said that, but I had them a few minutes later via email.
Do you know the name of the site? I googled but couldn't find anywhere to fill it out except a page that said they would send me the result within two weeks.
ASQOregon. They said that, but I had them a few minutes later via email.
Yup, that's the one! Can't you download the results too?
Post by redhead610 on Jan 11, 2017 15:38:54 GMT -5
Our state actually started (new with ds2, didn't with ds1) sending questionnaire from ages & stages. I filled it out at 4 months and then they sent it back saying it looked good. It gives some ideas of developmental things to try with them. It also gives a good starting point for things to ask the doctor about if needed.
I feel like DD is not very flexible. She sits well if her legs are hanging down, like on my lap or a high chair, back straight, can lean forward. But if I put her on the floor it's like her body won't bend that way. If she's laying on her back she can't touch her toes. I can hardly get her foot up to her hand.
I feel like DD is not very flexible. She sits well if her legs are hanging down, like on my lap or a high chair, back straight, can lean forward. But if I put her on the floor it's like her body won't bend that way. If she's laying on her back she can't touch her toes. I can hardly get her foot up to her hand.
I feel like DD is not very flexible. She sits well if her legs are hanging down, like on my lap or a high chair, back straight, can lean forward. But if I put her on the floor it's like her body won't bend that way. If she's laying on her back she can't touch her toes. I can hardly get her foot up to her hand.
Maybe it is a core strength issue and not flexibility? Try propping her rear up on a rolled burp cloth and giving her something to kick (tie Mylar balloons tied on her ankles or rattles on her feet) to practice the feet in the air position?
DD3 just discovered her feet this week. Last week she started to show interest but she can only now grab them.
Post by bocaburger on Jan 11, 2017 20:44:56 GMT -5
Back from our trip. The return flight thankfully went much more smoothly.
By the end of the trip I passed my stomach bug along to H, MIL, SIL, and BIL. FIL was the only adult who didn't get it but he injured his ribs before the trip so he was bedridden on Day 1. So basically, we couldn't do anything the first 4 days we were there. And then the babies went on a sleep strike as soon as we all started feeling better. Definitely not the relaxing vacation we had in mind. But the weather was nice and we managed to enjoy the last couple days.
I'm really happy that the babies didn't get sick. And I can't help but feel that they must have been protected by the antibodies in my breastmilk. I feel so good about this. It really validates my decision to EBF and all the effort I put into it. I don't say this to disparage anyone who didn't or couldn't BF... I am just really excited to see tangible benefits from it.
Man, you guys are serious baby whisperers. I have a question about DS and sitting up. He's gotten to the point where he can sit up on his own for several seconds, except that he hates sitting down. He just prefers to stand. Whenever I try, he turns into a stiff board and refuses. He'll sit just fine in a highchair, but not on his own and just recently no longer in our laps. I've tried to entice him to sit by putting toys on the ground in front of him and that will last a few seconds. Any ideas? He goes for his 6 month check up tomorrow (which is super late because he'll be 7 months in 10 days) and I will ask his pedi too. I'm just curious if you all have any ideas or experience.
M really likes to sit, G loves to stand and stiffens her legs when I try to get her to sit. I figure they're individuals and I'm going to let them lead and not worry unless my pediatrician tells me to. She still uses neck and back muscles while standing.
I feel like DD is not very flexible. She sits well if her legs are hanging down, like on my lap or a high chair, back straight, can lean forward. But if I put her on the floor it's like her body won't bend that way. If she's laying on her back she can't touch her toes. I can hardly get her foot up to her hand.
Maybe it is a core strength issue and not flexibility? Try propping her rear up on a rolled burp cloth and giving her something to kick (tie Mylar balloons tied on her ankles or rattles on her feet) to practice the feet in the air position?
DD3 just discovered her feet this week. Last week she started to show interest but she can only now grab them.
It could be. She can lift her legs straight up, pulls herself up straight from leaning back and in tummy time she gets on her hands and attempts to pull her knees under her so I thought she was fairly strong but maybe not in feet lifting muscles, lol. She also does supported kneeling fairly well. Only reason I thought flexibility is because when I play with her it's like her legs can't bend that way. She just feels not very bendy? It's just something I've noticed.
Back from our trip. The return flight thankfully went much more smoothly.
By the end of the trip I passed my stomach bug along to H, MIL, SIL, and BIL. FIL was the only adult who didn't get it but he injured his ribs before the trip so he was bedridden on Day 1. So basically, we couldn't do anything the first 4 days we were there. And then the babies went on a sleep strike as soon as we all started feeling better. Definitely not the relaxing vacation we had in mind. But the weather was nice and we managed to enjoy the last couple days.
I'm really happy that the babies didn't get sick. And I can't help but feel that they must have been protected by the antibodies in my breastmilk. I feel so good about this. It really validates my decision to EBF and all the effort I put into it. I don't say this to disparage anyone who didn't or couldn't BF... I am just really excited to see tangible benefits from it.
Sorry about the stomach bugs. That really sucks.
I love the second half of your post. Twice now DH has caught a horrible cold since DS was born and passed the cold to me. DS never got sick the first time and has very mild sniffles and cough now. I like to think it's the antibodies from my being sick being passed to him. The human body does some amazing things.
Post by bocaburger on Jan 11, 2017 20:54:25 GMT -5
Sorry for the million posts in a row, I'm just catching up.
We are pretty sure M is teething (I know, I've said that before) and since he has been sleeping so badly, we decided to give tylenol before bed. Is there any downside to this? If he's not actually teething, am I just unnecessarily drugging my baby? I come from a family where non-essential medications are frowned upon so I feel really weird giving pain relievers to a baby who can't actually confirm that he is in pain.
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