danib this should be in the other thread but why is it so hard for our H's to just say, yea, I was wrong. Sorry about that. My H gets all defensive and feels "attacked" all the time. Then he sulks or just plain won't admit he's wrong, when in fact, he is. You don't have to be perfect buddy. Just some a little accountability for your actions and how they effect me.
So finally my toddler stayed in bed last night after I flipped out on him telling him how mad I was and that it was his fault. Childish I know, but I had nothing left in me. We "talked" this morning about how he wasn't helpful to mommy and it hurt my feelings. He is not allowed to watch any shows today because of it. Punishment for me to, but it's much easier since he goes to daycare. I hope he has the ability to relate the consequences and do better tonight. My H isn't back until tomorrow so I'll have to battle him alone again tonight. I'm also annoyed because it interferes with any attempt at starting E on a bedtime routine. Le sigh...
Getting ready to drop nearly a grand on a new compact washer today too.
I need to center myself so starting yoga today is well timed. I hope E sleeps through the whole class.
starbuck27 Glad you got some rest! And glad your H stepped up.
danib Ugh. Sorry you're having to deal with that. I agree with hangry. Why can't men just admit they were wrong and say sorry? My DH is similar in that he feels "attacked" and gets defensive instead of addressing my feelings and talking about the issue like an adult.
hangry Sorry your ds isn't sleeping well. I know if feels bad to get to that place with them where you flip out. I've been there, more often than I'd like. I hope he does better tonight.
It's cold and overcast, but our playdate it outside? I'm dreading it. Why can't it be inside? I have a not quite 2 month old and I really hate having her out in the cold like that. But Lillian needs to play so I guess we'll just bundle up and go. I also am going to look for ballet shoes and a couple of dance outfits for Lillian. Her dance class starts next week! This afternoon, I'm picking up DH early so we can go to the dealership for our check. We didn't put all of our equity down so we get a pretty check back. Yay.
Lilah is hitting her next growth spurt I think. Last night she woke up a bunch, was fussy, and wanted to nurse a ton at each wake up. I hope this one goes by fast, but I'm scared because this was the leap/growth spurt that made Lillian's sleep go from bad to super awful and we didn't recover until she was like 10 months old.
Morning - finally got the pump out and got 6 ounces pretty quick! I got all the parts set up in a little cart in the corner so I don't have any excuses every day. I hated seeing the dishwasher rack and grass drykng rack, but it is time.
Also I could almost feel a teeny tiny flat spot on the back of her head, so we did our first night of bassinet and dockatot on an angle instead of the RNP...And she had her best night yet! Figures. Thank goodness the halo is getting used, it was a gigantic clothes holder otherwise.
Glad y'all had a good night of sleep tallblonde. Hopefully N will keep it up!
Morning! DS went back to preschool this morning and it is DELIGHTFUL. Not that I don't love him to pieces, but we were both ready. It's nice having some one-on-one time with C.
We hit the grocery store to stock up, and are now back at the house doing some laundry and tidying up. We'll probably go to the park this afternoon, it's cool but sunny today so I want to get the kids out to enjoy it.
I'm losing my shit this morning. Why do my children refuse to sleep until I am so far at my wits end that I am crying with them? Why? Like they sense this. starbuck27 I have NOOOO clue how you do this and manage a toddler.
Of course right now they are sleeping but they were so upset they wouldn't eat before these naps so God knows how long they'll actually be down for until they wake up screaming hungry.
Just enjoying the peace and quiet ATM - don't even want to get up and make myself food bc that would take away from my time to just sit here a second.
This is not how I envisioned having babies would be. It's been two days and one or the other is always screaming so I'm never in a cheery, smiley mood. Then when that one settles, the other one is screaming - they just take turns.
kleigh I'm sure you've thought of these things , but is it possible they are hungry or tired before you think they are? Try more frequent feedings or putting them to sleep before they even seem tired. I give you so much credit though. It is hard enough to read cues and act on them for just one. I can't imagine balancing two. You will eventually get into a groove, promise.
kleigh Jason can put himself down, usually. Just lie him down with a paci and for the most part he will fall out on his own. Kara...is another story. Sometimes in the R&P she can do it. But like I've been trying to get her to sleep for 40 minutes and nada.
This is part of the reason I try to go out everyday. Driving knocks them out and then they typically take a long nap in the car seat whenever we get where we are going. It makes life easier and I don't feel so trapped at home. So I don't have to manage every nap every day.
If your kids tolerate driving, I'd advocate for you putting them in the car and taking a drive. Go get some Starbucks drive-thru or whatever sounds good.
At night when MH is getting Wyatt down I will just lie in bed with one on either side of me. They're under the covers and snuggled up next to me and usually that's enough to drift off. Then when they're pretty solid we transition them to the crib. Maybe you can try that during the day?
+1 on the car seat nap. E always falls asleep there. So at least one of her naps is achieved there. And I keep the cover over her head (I have the same jj cole one as you). She'll stay out taking her in/ out of the car.
I'm so well rested! And caught up on the Bachelor! L slept from 11:00pm to 11:30 and I thought I was in for a bad night! He fed till 12:40 and slept from then till 6:40!?! He was up till 8:20 and we both got a 3 hour nap!?!
kleigh I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I also recommend trying the car. For whatever reason, even if she cries some, just leaving the house and getting myself a drink helps me calm down. And usually one or both kids pass out.
@kleigh sorry you are having a rough few days, definitely good suggestions from everyone. It's hard to believe but this too will pass and it will be a distant memory.
For flat heads, it's not confirmed, but I think for my son he learned to sleep without moving his head at all in the RNP, so even when we moved him to the crib at 2 months, he would sleep with his head in the exact same spot. He also gained weight rapidly and I think that contributed to it. His was flat enough that insurance even covered his helmet.. so I'm paranoid about making sure N rotates her head while sleeping and keeping her off her back as much as possible.
Thank you all so much for the support and suggestions. Believe it or not before I even checked back here I got desperate and fed them and put them in the car seats and took a ride to grab lunch from a drive thru. I figured I need to eat so I'll kill two birds with one stone. And the verdict is that they both passed right out!
hangry it's possible but not likely because I'll offer them more food and they'll turn it down. Also, wth Adeline (she's the bigger issue of the two) it takes her like 45 mins to eat, which eats up into her "awake" time so if she isn't able to get to sleep in the next 15 mins then we start the countdown to craziness. Or sometimes she'll fall asleep in middle of feeding and wake up hungry a half hour later.
Post by sophiegrace on Jan 5, 2017 14:57:16 GMT -5
Can I just come sit on your couch with you and our angry babies kleigh? I'll bring wine.
Gorgeous bathroom goldenlove3! I'm so glad it's finally done, enjoy it! You got the heated floors, right? Perfect timing.
Please share pictures of L in her dance gear next week ClassyMrsA. That's going to be a whole pile of adorable.
Go L cheshie6!! Send the sandman to my house next, please! It's been a long 9 weeks of no sleep.
So glad the dockatot is working for you tallblonde! It was working great for us as well until we decided sleep is the worst thing in the world a few days ago. Hope to get her back in it this weekend. In my dream world maybe she'll nap there too.
H mentioned doing a show the other week danib. I laughed.
I hope the 1 hour wake ups continue to work starbuck27. I really need to get M to sleep more....
sophiegrace I will for sure share a pic of Lillian in her dance outfit. She got little pink ballet flats and a 2nd pink leotard today. I want to possibly pick up a 2nd pair of ballet shoes and some tights at Target if they have her size. Also, your pic of M was us yesterday. I hope blowouts do not become a thing here. With Lillian is was every. Single. Day. For months. Eta: On top of the blow out, Lillian pooped 4 freaking times yesterday. I could not believe it.
aggiebug Just, how? If you're unsure which symbol is which, it's easy to look up. That cover is ridiculous. I know a handful of people going. There's a "sister" rally here that day, too. I won't be going because of crowds and such.
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