Post by wineallthetime on Jan 10, 2017 19:50:20 GMT -5
I loved my wedding but would've invited less people. We had 175 which is pretty standard, but I hated having to take time out from the party to talk to guests that I really didn't care were there (as mean as that sounds).
Post by wineallthetime on Jan 10, 2017 20:00:25 GMT -5
Wedding planning on the other hand, my in-laws made it a huge nightmare. We seriously almost called it off and eloped. Daily phone calls, tears, drama, ect. Examples:
-MIL through a hugh fit that we were having 5 people on each side of our bridal party and not an even number -FIL had their priest call MH to tell him how he was sinning not getting married in their church and how he wouldn't see our marriage as real (we got married in a different church) -MIL/FIL drove to where I got my dress, had them pull it out, then took pictures to show people -SIL cried and said I wasn't being fair to our guests by not registering for fine china -MIL/SIL cried and said I needed to wear a tiara. Then texted me daily pictures of tiaras telling me how bad I'd look without one. -MIL called and changed our flower order the week of the wedding (florist called me) -MIL called and changed our cake -MIL told me the day of the wedding that I'd lost SOME of the weight I needed to.
I could seriously go on and on. And on. But I'll stop boring you!
Re: any changes to wedding/reception itself, no. It was so much fun, and we still get compliments 5 years later. The one thing I might have changed was the b'maid dresses. I loved the color (a smokey aqua) but the style wasn't anything special--it was just kind of 'there'. But fine for pictures and everyone looked nice, so not mission critical.
Worst wedding gift: a pink and green ceramic flower-shaped chip and dip platter. If a 3rd grade girl designed a chip and dip platter, this is what it would look like. It was promptly Goodwill'ed.
Annoying/weird thing: during the rehearsal dinner, which my ILs hosted, a woman followed me into the restroom and introduced herself. She hadn't been invited to the wedding...but my ILs had invited her and her H to the rehearsal dinner. Hello, awkward. They did the same thing at the engagement party some friends of theirs hosted for us in their hometown. I was pretty appalled. My MIL prides herself on propriety and etiquette so I have no clue what they were thinking.
Post by wineallthetime on Jan 11, 2017 7:50:48 GMT -5
LizInFL, that's so weird. Isn't the rehearsal dinner pretty much just for the bridal party/immediate family or anyone else who has a role in the wedding (like a reading)?
@anyone ... sticking with weddings, weirdest/worst wedding gift you received?
Oh I remembered one. We mostly got cash for our honeymoon. But my SIL/BIL's got us a print from an artist we already have a piece hanging in our living room. The thought was nice, the print wasn't, Jesus hanging from the cross. Neither of us is religious, quite the opposite even. It's in our attic.
LOL at giving a picture of Jesus on the cross to someone not religious!
I got this from MIL's cousin. I tried to return it but she must have gotten it the year before because Macy's wouldn't take it back. So now I have a turkey platter.
OMG wineallthetime, how did you put up with that? You're a saint.
We were the first to get married out of our friends so it was very much a party by the end of the night. A couple of people emptied the huge vase centerpieces and filled them with beer and a bunch of people were drinking out of them, including my aunts and uncles. And I think it was during the garter toss that some of the tulle got pulled from the ceiling. I was not pleased by these events, but looking back, it was pretty funny and everyone was having a good time.
The night before, after the rehearsal dinner, we were at the hotel visiting out of town family who came up early. My niece, who was about 8 at the time and not a very good swimmer, was in the pool. She got a little too deep and was struggling so I jumped in in my dress to get her.
LizInFL, that's so weird. Isn't the rehearsal dinner pretty much just for the bridal party/immediate family or anyone else who has a role in the wedding (like a reading)?
Traditionally, yes, but my ILs wanted to invite all the wedding guests, since most people were traveling from out of town. Not everyone came so it was smaller than our actual wedding, and it was casual. It was a fun event. But also inviting their random friends who just happened to live there? Odd. We were pretty generous with guest #s...if they had wanted them at the wedding, we would've had room.
LizInFL, that's so weird. Isn't the rehearsal dinner pretty much just for the bridal party/immediate family or anyone else who has a role in the wedding (like a reading)?
Traditionally, yes, but my ILs wanted to invite all the wedding guests, since most people were traveling from out of town. Not everyone came so it was smaller than our actual wedding, and it was casual. It was a fun event. But also inviting their random friends who just happened to live there? Odd. We were pretty generous with guest #s...if they had wanted them at the wedding, we would've had room.
My MIL invited all of the OOT relatives to the gift opening brunch but not to the rehearsal dinner.
I got this from MIL's cousin. I tried to return it but she must have gotten it the year before because Macy's wouldn't take it back. So now I have a turkey platter.
I kind of like it. You can put side dishes in it during the fall if you don't have Turkey.
It's huge, like probably 2 feet across. I've used it twice, both times for turkey.
LizInFL, my MIL did invite people to my shower who were not invited to my wedding. It was so awkward and I felt bad. So gift grabby.
Ooh yikes! That is not delightful. Your ILs do not seem to have much in the way of social graces.
My MIL did the same thing for our engagement party. I don't think it seemed gift-grabby (hopefully!) but just was very inconsiderate. Like, you're not good enough to make the final cut, but we'll invite you to the party in our hometown. I'm sure she had good intentions but it felt rude. But we weren't involved in the planning, etc (some of their friends hosted it) so I found out what has happened AT the party :/
While we're talking about weddings, what was the best wedding favour you ever got and what was your own (these might be the same 😉)?
This is a good one!
Hmm... my favorite was maybe bags of gourmet popcorn.
At our wedding we had a table set up near the exit with amazing giant cookies from a local bakery with to go bags. I thought they ended up being a good snack on the way out and they tasted great.
Goldilocks (my mom and sisters, and weirdly, strangers have called me this on several occasions), Birdie (my dad), Apes (sisters and friends), The Pink Wonder (I wear a lot of pink and my friends used to joke that would be my name if I were a superhero).
I didn't do favors at my wedding. We did have a chocolate fountain with things to dip in it so that was good enough for me. I don't think I have a favorite wedding favor, at least nothing is sticking out to me. My least favorite wedding favor was a little acrylic heart with the b&g picture and wedding date. That is not something I would display in my house so to the trash it went.
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