Oh wow W! It's sad the first time they take him away and especially for that, but all 3 of my DS's came back to me fairly quickly without any crying or anything.
I have no idea what I would do about the wedding. Ugh! I'd hate to miss my brother's wedding too. Of course the pedi will say no. What's the weather like where you are? If anything, I might see if I could walk down the aisle, stay for the ceremony and go home. But also not sure how you'll be feeling by then. Will you be up for it? Will you want to put on a dress and get all done up? But yeah, I definitely wouldn't take him to a reception.
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
DS ate like 2 hours ago. He's up again. He keeps falling asleep on the boob and sounds all congested. I think I'll hit the early mass today before the ILs come back over. They couldn't wait to go back to the hotel last night because they'd "been here ALL day since the morning." You know, even after her nap on the couch. DH never ended up asking them about DS1 staying at the hotel with them, but I'm sure they wouldn't have taken them. But especially after she told me "the nice thing about grandkids is you can give them back." You didn't do anything with them so day!!!
DH TOLD her that we're going up there to visit my father. He wasn't going to since we wouldn't have enough time to visit them. He said maybe we can meet them for lunch a day. Nope. My mother had said to tell them they could come to the house a day, but I told DH (and he said too) that we should see how my father's feeling after starting chemo and radiation. They had their time here to see the baby. Let my parents have their weekend.
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
Post by lastnamewithheld on Jan 8, 2017 7:27:52 GMT -5
W, I know I was a mess when they took DS to get his circ. But like mrswillie said, he came back to me just fine. Hang in there! That's really a tough situation re: your brother's wedding. Would your brother understand if you guys skipped it?
mrswillie you need a medal or a trophy after putting up with your IL's. Sheesh.
I'm freaking myself out re: cloth diapering. Like, I've gotten so used to disposables, and now that we're not Vaseline-ing the penis anymore, DS has filled out some, and my incision is starting to feel better (I can go up and down the stairs to do laundry every other day or whatever) I was thinking that it might be time to break out my stash. I'm so afraid they'll leak and just be a general nightmare.
Ugh. Why do I need to overthink everything? Can't I just *do* something?
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
lastnamewithheld I haven't cloth diapered, but I think a few ladies here do. Also have you checked out the Not Just Cloth Diaper board? I think that's the name.
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 8, 2017 10:13:03 GMT -5
I think I must have been going through something right after I delivered because I honestly don't remember snuggling with my babies and I don't remember feeling bad when they took DS away to the NICU or for the circumsision. It's giving me all the feels today.
Speaking of circs...does anyone know if insurance usually covers some of the cost? We got a bill for ours bc a different doctor did it, and $$$! But idk If insurance typically covers some of it. With DS1 it was just lumped into my whole hospital bill.
Ours was covered....well, at the same rate the other stuff was covered (like 80%)
In laws are coming over today, I have no idea how the day will go with the baby. Hopefully she's not cranky the whole time.
We're giving her gas drops in almost every bottle and following with gripe water up to the daily max. Hoping this helps. We actually had an awesome evening last night and just hung out with her, seemed like she was feeling a little better. Today has been pretty fussy so far, so we'll see.
W, I don't think I'd go especially being flu season.
That 36 hour break from breastfeeding has set us back a bit. DD is struggling to remember her latch and has some nipple confusion. My milk has come in so I'm pumping a decent amount I think. We're hoping now that I don't have to dump it we'll be able to bribe her back to the boob. Also, my feet are looking and feeling like feet again which is nice.
Oh wow W! It's sad the first time they take him away and especially for that, but all 3 of my DS's came back to me fairly quickly without any crying or anything.
I have no idea what I would do about the wedding. Ugh! I'd hate to miss my brother's wedding too. Of course the pedi will say no. What's the weather like where you are? If anything, I might see if I could walk down the aisle, stay for the ceremony and go home. But also not sure how you'll be feeling by then. Will you be up for it? Will you want to put on a dress and get all done up? But yeah, I definitely wouldn't take him to a reception.
DH mentioned all the things you did. It's cold here right now, 11 degrees this morning. We are mostly worried about flu season.
Oh wasn't sure if you were in the frozen tundra with the rest of us or somewhere warm. I wouldn't want to bring him out in freezing weather, but also wouldn't want to miss the wedding.
Did you tell them you'd definitely be there or did they know there was a chance you might not? You said you're both in the wedding ... did you have to buy a dress and rent a tux or is it a less formal wedding?
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
Speaking of circs...does anyone know if insurance usually covers some of the cost? We got a bill for ours bc a different doctor did it, and $$$! But idk If insurance typically covers some of it. With DS1 it was just lumped into my whole hospital bill.
I haven't seen a bill from the hospital yet. I did get one from the anesthesiologist for the epidural which was cheaper than the fee to knock me out for egg retrieval (go figure!!) anywhoo... now I'm going to overthink about this now, thankyouverymuch! Haha!
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
In laws are coming over today, I have no idea how the day will go with the baby. Hopefully she's not cranky the whole time.
We're giving her gas drops in almost every bottle and following with gripe water up to the daily max. Hoping this helps. We actually had an awesome evening last night and just hung out with her, seemed like she was feeling a little better. Today has been pretty fussy so far, so we'll see.
The good thing about grandparents is that even if she is fussy, they will still hold her. Try to get a nap in!
Unless you have mrswillie, 's ILs...thats another story.
requiressnacks 2 months already?! Time flies when you're having fun. how much longer do you have on maternity leave?
I go back March 1. Some days it feels like an eternity away....some days it feels like tomorrow.
I do have a daycare question for you guys....should I put the twins in daycare the week before I go back? (They are going to DC 3 days/week) Did any STMs find it beneficial to start the routine early? I don't have the option to phase into work, so that's not an option.
The only reason I wouldn't is because of money. Twins in DC is pricey, obvi.
Ours was covered....well, at the same rate the other stuff was covered (like 80%)
Really. That's good to know! Looks like it wasn't run through insurance yet so hopefully it will be cheaper.
Two months later and I'm still waiting for the final bills for the twins (I got my bill for the C-section). I hope they allow me to go on a payment plan because I don't have many thousands sitting around for this....
Post by lastnamewithheld on Jan 8, 2017 13:40:45 GMT -5
@cahistoryteacher I'm glad the swelling is going down! I hope you're able to get DD back in the swing of BF!
mrswillie, yes I've pretty much lurked around every CD resource. I've been really into the idea for so long and now that I'm up against it I'm just second-guessing. I mean, if it's awful I can always stop... irrational. I'm being irrational.
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
Post by lastnamewithheld on Jan 8, 2017 13:43:23 GMT -5
I want some baked goods. Like donuts or an apple fritter or something. Hmmm. I gave DS like two little drops of gripe water this morning during a hiccup spell and... they... stopped!! IDK if it's dumb luck or something that works but hey I'll take it.
IVF+ICSI March 2016 (6R/5M/5F - 3 embryos on ice) 4/7/16: first ever BFP! EDD: 12/17/16 DS Arrived via C-Section 12/19/16! FET #1 June 2019 - 1 embryo didn't survive thaw & the one that did didn't stick around. BFN FET #2 September 2019 - last embryo didn't survive thaw.
Post by WineNChocolate on Jan 8, 2017 14:13:58 GMT -5
Hi ladies..my Lil man is 2 weeks old already. But I am struggling with the sleeping arrangements for my Lil man. He hates swaddling and he hates every crib or bed that is not mommy at night. I am trying to figure out what to do there.
W I wouldn't go..unless a family member like mil or mom could watch your lip man. But that's me.
Rant: I hate the bleeding and freaking pads. If I could stop bleeding I would be totally a happy girl. Oh and we tried to go to home depot with the toddler and NB. Oh buddy that was a trip...we came straight home with half our needed items. Lmao. DD was being well a two year old and DS decided feeding should be happening.
@kc295905 he's such a cute little squish. We've given him quite a few bottles and thankfully he's ok with it.
WineNChocolate I'm so over the bleeding and pads too. I also informed my OB the other day that I don't know what he did that I still have it this time around. Lol
requiressnacks re: daycare... depends. It means 3 less days with them or 3 days for you to enjoy to yourself. It can be easier to ease into the new schedule by bringing them week earlier. Personally, I brought them when I returned because I didn't want to give up any time with them.
Baby's in a milk coma, but I'm hiding in his room with him because nobody knows he's done. I'm getting a beer when I do go out because I can't deal with these people much longer.
I hate this stupid nipple shield. Like HATE! Why won't he let me just get rid of it? Waaahhh!
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
In laws are coming over today, I have no idea how the day will go with the baby. Hopefully she's not cranky the whole time.
We're giving her gas drops in almost every bottle and following with gripe water up to the daily max. Hoping this helps. We actually had an awesome evening last night and just hung out with her, seemed like she was feeling a little better. Today has been pretty fussy so far, so we'll see.
The good thing about grandparents is that even if she is fussy, they will still hold her. Try to get a nap in!
Unless you have mrswillie, 's ILs...thats another story.
She's cooking dinner because DH told her she was. I bet she's going to be sooooo tired because she had to cook!! LMAO!
Oh and his dad took a nap today. I looked over and he was passed out while she was playing on her iPad. And yup, I sent pics of it to people just the same as I sent pics of his mother sleeping. Hahahaha!!!
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
Post by catherineoctober on Jan 8, 2017 16:23:42 GMT -5
I'm focusing on pumping and feeding until Jane starts daycare. I go back to work Feb 2nd, but I work from home until the 6th and she gets her 2 month shots on the 3rd so I'm not telling work but I'm keeping her home with me until the 6th. I've been afraid I wouldn't have enough milk to take with her to daycare, but I read some stuff online and my office has a mother's room so I think as long as I start making more milk we'll be fine. I do not want to buy formula, but we will if we need to. I've noticed that when I pump right before I feed her when she eats my nipples hurt like hell. Could it be that I drained my milk and she's trying to get more? It subsides after a while.
catherineoctober thanks! Likewise. You could try to put nipple butter, coconut oil or lanolin on before you pump. Also, you really only need enough milk for that first day of work, but I know it's nice to have a cushion if you don't pump enough at work.
That's good to know. So do I just get in a routine of pumping at work for the next day?
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