YAY Monday

[erinshelley21]

My glucose test results came back as elevated, so I have to do the 3 hour test this week. I'm so disappointed. I am barely holding it together with the stress of work and preparing for this baby that I do not want to add this to my plate.

[kristhegirl]

suelou18 that line about daycare makes me so mad. Such bullshit!

[mosdub]

missi hang in there, I'm sure it's hard to feel so helpless. It's all temporary though!! Keep growing and developing baby boy!

[mosdub]

Sorry erinshelley21 I really hope you pass the 3 hour

[erinshelley21]

suelou18 I will rage if someone EVER says that to me. Like, do people think the working parent of a family that has a SAHP doesn't raise their kid and that just the parent that stays home does the "raising." I've had this argument ready to go for 3 years in preparation.

[moutonrouge]

I'm feeling sensitive for no reason. DH worded something poorly and I'm holding it against him. I know that rationally, but tired and hormonal me wants to assume the worst. Ugh.

[glb30]

suelou18 what?? Who are these people who say stuff like that??

erinshelley21 I feel you. I was totally overwhelmed when I failed the 1 hr. I hope you pass the 3 hr with flying colors!

moutonrouge I basically am sensitive all the time right now. My H makes me cry on the regular. (Obviously, he is not trying too) Hugs though. Logically knowing I am overreacting doesn't actually make me feel any better.

[obi]

Jan 9, 2017 16:00:13 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

suelou18 I will rage if someone EVER says that to me. Like, do people think the working parent of a family that has a SAHP doesn't raise their kid and that just the parent that stays home does the "raising." I've had this argument ready to go for 3 years in preparation.

Im a SAHM and always feel so uncomfortable when people find out and say "good/youre doing the right thing/thats best for kids/etc". Like, wtf? No. Just no.
First, my kid is a maniac and I really worry about him adjusting to school when the time comes. I constantly feel guilty for not having him in daycare to learn things and develop social skills. I think the situations are probably equal but I actually would hazard a guess that a good quality daycare is better.
Also, im a SAHM because we cant afford for me to work. It would cost us money for me to return to work. Im scared all the time about what that means for my future. Because, you know, I am still a person apart from being a mom.

I guess the bottom line is that people need to mind their own fucking business and stop acting like we can/are failing our children at every turn. Fed, clothed, sheltered, loved. Thats what matters.

/rant

[obi]

I forgot to add (bc i went off on a tangent) that I get full blown RAGE when people say dad is babysitting, or "uh ohhh" when I say C is home alone with him. FUCK THAT. He is a wonderful, capable parent. Not a fucking babysitter. Not a secondary parent. Gtfo with that garbage.

[obi]

Jan 9, 2017 18:29:53 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

I'm feeling sensitive for no reason. DH worded something poorly and I'm holding it against him. I know that rationally, but tired and hormonal me wants to assume the worst. Ugh.

Im sorry. Maybe say exactly that to him and give him the chance to reassure you?
I hope you're feeling better about it soon no matter what.

[obi]

So anyway Im clearly on a tear today haha.
Im actually not in a bad mood. I just have a sore throat and ears and am congested so im a cranky pants. I almost never get sick so when I do i verge on man-cold territory.

My H and I watched some show on netflix last night about swingers and it was so crazy. I cannot imagine being so open with your partner sexually. Like, hell no to anyone laying a finger on my husband I WILL CUT YOU HOOKER.

........but really. TETO and all but I could nevaaaaarrrrrr.

I do not mind when people tell me how good looking he is though. That just helps my ego. Like yeeeeeeeah he is

[glb30]

I've never had a UTI before, and I think I might have one. Regardless, I'm really uncomfortable. Going to the doctor tomorrow, but is there anything that relieves the uncomfortable feeling? (Basically, I feel like I have to pee even when I am still on the toilet having just finished peeing!)

[obi]

Jan 9, 2017 19:21:00 GMT -5 glb30 said:

I've never had a UTI before, and I think I might have one. Regardless, I'm really uncomfortable. Going to the doctor tomorrow, but is there anything that relieves the uncomfortable feeling? (Basically, I feel like I have to pee even when I am still on the toilet having just finished peeing!)

Nothing but antibiotics helped for me, unfortunately.
On the bright side I felt better fairly quickly after starting meds!
Hopefully if it is a UTI you get some relief soon

[obi]

Jan 9, 2017 19:11:15 GMT -5 corinne said:

Jan 9, 2017 19:01:22 GMT -5 obi said:

So anyway Im clearly on a tear today haha.
Im actually not in a bad mood. I just have a sore throat and ears and am congested so im a cranky pants. I almost never get sick so when I do i verge on man-cold territory.

My H and I watched some show on netflix last night about swingers and it was so crazy. I cannot imagine being so open with your partner sexually. Like, hell no to anyone laying a finger on my husband I WILL CUT YOU HOOKER.

........but really. TETO and all but I could nevaaaaarrrrrr.

I do not mind when people tell me how good looking he is though. That just helps my ego. Like yeeeeeeeah he is

You're feisty today!

I agree, no sharing for me. I would freak out.

I think this cold has gone to my head. Im gonna go drink some tea and do some deep breathing

[obi]

Braxton hicks are no joke this time around. Holy moly.

[cosmicav]

So then if you send your kids to school for x hours a day, then you aren't raising your kids either? I have heard that day care comment before and it is honestly so trifling. Whoa how dare you make money to help feed your kid. Whoa how dare you decide what is best for your family. Rude AF..... sorry that happened suelou18

[cosmicav]

I've heard some crazy shit from people when they find out that *I* am the one in our family who works and my H stays home with the kid. We can't afford day care and my job pays more than H's did so we did what we had to. But dear god the comments. "Does he feel emasculated?" "Omg I could NEVER do that" "So you're the man then?"

Or even better, when they give my H congratulations on being so progressive while at the same time giving me the "I could never" or "babies need their moms"

My brain is going to explode if I give it anymore thought.

People can be so ignorant and rude sometimes

[cosmicav]

HATERS TO THE LEFT because not only am I providing for our family, but I am physically growing it too. I dare someone to talk to me about this while I am angry and pregnant. I have a lot of feels about this issue obv

[obi]

Jan 9, 2017 19:52:29 GMT -5 cosmicav said:

I've heard some crazy shit from people when they find out that *I* am the one in our family who works and my H stays home with the kid. We can't afford day care and my job pays more than H's did so we did what we had to. But dear god the comments. "Does he feel emasculated?" "Omg I could NEVER do that" "So you're the man then?"

Or even better, when they give my H congratulations on being so progressive while at the same time giving me the "I could never" or "babies need their moms"

My brain is going to explode if I give it anymore thought.

People can be so ignorant and rude sometimes

Its amazing how the concept of "doing what you have to do" seems to be so complicated to people. Why would you give up the higher income just to satisfy some archaic gender roles?

If I made more money than my H then I would be the one working. But, he makes more than double what I did so... No contest. I actually think that would be a better scenario sometimes. My H would be an awesome SAHD. I think a lot of dad's would be great at it, really.

[kristhegirl]

Jan 9, 2017 18:45:05 GMT -5 obi said:

Jan 9, 2017 16:00:13 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

suelou18 I will rage if someone EVER says that to me. Like, do people think the working parent of a family that has a SAHP doesn't raise their kid and that just the parent that stays home does the "raising." I've had this argument ready to go for 3 years in preparation.

Im a SAHM and always feel so uncomfortable when people find out and say "good/youre doing the right thing/thats best for kids/etc". Like, wtf? No. Just no.
First, my kid is a maniac and I really worry about him adjusting to school when the time comes. I constantly feel guilty for not having him in daycare to learn things and develop social skills. I think the situations are probably equal but I actually would hazard a guess that a good quality daycare is better.
Also, im a SAHM because we cant afford for me to work. It would cost us money for me to return to work. Im scared all the time about what that means for my future. Because, you know, I am still a person apart from being a mom.

I guess the bottom line is that people need to mind their own fucking business and stop acting like we can/are failing our children at every turn. Fed, clothed, sheltered, loved. Thats what matters.

/rant

This, from me, too. Well, my kid is not wild, but the "this is how we afford kids and I wonder if it's the right choice."

[cosmicav]

Jan 9, 2017 19:58:15 GMT -5 obi said:

Jan 9, 2017 19:52:29 GMT -5 cosmicav said:

I've heard some crazy shit from people when they find out that *I* am the one in our family who works and my H stays home with the kid. We can't afford day care and my job pays more than H's did so we did what we had to. But dear god the comments. "Does he feel emasculated?" "Omg I could NEVER do that" "So you're the man then?"

Or even better, when they give my H congratulations on being so progressive while at the same time giving me the "I could never" or "babies need their moms"

My brain is going to explode if I give it anymore thought.

People can be so ignorant and rude sometimes

Its amazing how the concept of "doing what you have to do" seems to be so complicated to people. Why would you give up the higher income just to satisfy some archaic gender roles?

If I made more money than my H then I would be the one working. But, he makes more than double what I did so... No contest. I actually think that would be a better scenario sometimes. My H would be an awesome SAHD. I think a lot of dad's would be great at it, really.

That's how our situation was--my job paid so much more than H's because I have a Masters degree and H does not. So it was an obvious decision for me to work, even though I enjoyed SAH more. My H is an amazing SAHD though and I will brag on him all day. He has also become an amazing cook incidentally lol.

[erinshelley21]

I couldn't be a sahm. We couldn't afford it and we have free childcare. If we had to pay for childcare life would be rooooough.

[moutonrouge]

Jan 9, 2017 19:21:00 GMT -5 glb30 said:

I've never had a UTI before, and I think I might have one. Regardless, I'm really uncomfortable. Going to the doctor tomorrow, but is there anything that relieves the uncomfortable feeling? (Basically, I feel like I have to pee even when I am still on the toilet having just finished peeing!)

There's an over the counter pill you can take that relieves the pain from peeing - I think it's called Azo. It turns your pee bright orange but it's worked for me before. I think it's okay while pregnant - maybe a category B? at most.

[obi]

Jan 9, 2017 20:14:48 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

I couldn't be a sahm. We couldn't afford it and we have free childcare. If we had to pay for childcare life would be rooooough.

Weird how random strangers think we all just make these choices based on our own self interest. "She doesnt want to raise her own kids and give up a career" or "she would rather sit at home with her kids than have a real job". More often than not it is just what we have to do. Often times, there never really was a choice in the first place.

[britab]

Jan 9, 2017 14:41:19 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

Had a duh moment at the pediatrician's this morning. We were leaving Fin's 18 month appointment and she said see you in a month or so and I was so confused why. Then she said "You are expecting right?!" Lol. Oh yeah. Another kid. More pedi visits. Totally wasn't even on my radar.

Sold more clothes and I am itching to see what else I can take to them!

My mom is ridiculous and drives me crazy being a pessimist and is convinced everything horrible possible (weather, timing, etc, not health) will happen with the arrival of this baby and she makes me want to pull my hair out.

I am organizing my house and it feels good. I seriously think I may be addicted.

That happened at DD's 30 month appointment. I said to tell the doctor you're going to be a big sister and he said see you soon then.

I hadn't thought about it before that.

[britab]

I will lose it if I hear the "I could never leave my kid all day" again. Well, I am the primary breadwinner and have benefits.

I could never leave my family homeless or starving, so I guess I'll work. I'm a teacher, so I do get most of the summer home. Which I love!

I try not to think about if I would want to sah because it's not a viable option for us.

[callmeKD]

I love my kid and I love to work! (Most days but you know what I mean). My H and I both busted our butts to get to where we are in our careers. And DD loves to learn - she is much better off in an environment where she is learning and being taught by people who are experts in early childhood education. #teamdowhatsrightforyourfamily

[erinshelley21]

I just posted about 20 pieces of DS's clothes on a buy/sell group on FB. I hope I wake up in the morning to people wanting to give me money.

[daisylola11]

Jan 9, 2017 19:21:00 GMT -5 glb30 said:

I've never had a UTI before, and I think I might have one. Regardless, I'm really uncomfortable. Going to the doctor tomorrow, but is there anything that relieves the uncomfortable feeling? (Basically, I feel like I have to pee even when I am still on the toilet having just finished peeing!)

A ton a ton of water since ur appt is tomorrow, I've heard a teaspoon of baking soda helps w the ph as well and straight cranberry juice not the cocktail stuff w sugar. Hope they give ya something tomorrow asap! It's such an uncomfortable annoying feeling

[cosmicav]

We were scheduling DS' 2year appointment (which will be in April) and my H was like "well we need to schedule it on a day that you are getting your progesterone shot because then we will be in town." Umm no we don't because we will have a new baby by then and not have to worry about the shots anymore! Hallelu!!