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Jan 13, 2017 12:55:27 GMT -5 obi said:

Also can I get a HALLELU that my vagina wont be blown wide open and left in disarray?!
There really has to be something said for not having your undercarriage all jacked up.

And hey, planned C-sections are usually easier to recover from! So I'm told.

[missi]

Jan 13, 2017 12:54:21 GMT -5 obi said:

Jan 13, 2017 12:27:58 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

obi yay for a plan! I feel like knowing in advance has to be better than a surprise C. Now you can research all the best ways to ease recovery.

Not sure what your hospital's policy is, but at mine, planned C's still do immediate skin-to-skin, obviously barring a medical intervention need. If that's something you want you might ask about it.

Youre absolutely right about knowing in advance! I think it is just the finally knowing that has me a little weirded out. Im sure once I do some reading I will feel more at ease. I knew deep down that this was the best route and I am happy it is the plan.
I definitely want to do skin to skin. Our hospital is very pro skin to skin/breastfeeding etc so I would be surprised if that isnt doable. I know that they get the spouse to do skin to skin if mom cant so thats nice.

I get you on the weirded out.  My doctor scheduled mine with the hospital and I've been accepting it since  

Sadly, I outright asked my doctor about the c-section being easier to recover from if it is planned.  She knows I want the straight truth.  She told me that perhaps psychologically, but physically there is no difference.  That is when I really started wanted a vbac.  Ah well  

Soo.. I should tell you horror stories about the section on Feb 1st, right?  ~wicked grin~

[cosmicav]

Jan 13, 2017 10:00:11 GMT -5 ugaqueencity said:

I had the worst heart burn last night so I ended up sleeping sitting up on the sofa but now I'm having serious pelvic pain. All my friends told me about a point in pregnancy when you're so uncomfortable that you're no longer dreading labor, I think I'm rapidly approaching that point

I never got to that point last time, but my kid was born early.

I am at that point already this time. I want to get to term obviously but sometimes my skin just crawls with discomfort and I want to scream. I can't get comfortable. I can't breathe sometimes. Food sets off inferno heartburn on a regular basis. Walking has ranged between painful and agonizing for months now. Idk why it's already like this when I am just 33w--maybe because I am short? Like, baby is just crowding TF out of my business?

I am just trying to focus on the good stuff and counting down the days to term.

[cosmicav]

Jan 13, 2017 12:55:27 GMT -5 obi said:

Also can I get a HALLELU that my vagina wont be blown wide open and left in disarray?!
There really has to be something said for not having your undercarriage all jacked up.

Congrats on your vagina not having to be in shambles!

[cosmicav]

My mom STILL talks about how she went 2.5 weeks overdue with me. She used to mention it regularly while I was growing up as a way of guilting me into things. #classy The dates were probably off but I'm sure the frustration was intense either way

[moutonrouge]

Jan 13, 2017 11:40:17 GMT -5 ugaqueencity said:

I'm about to freak out, this is seriously the bathroom renovation that will never end. My contractor came by today and was suppose to do the last couple things to finish everything and we noticed not all the floor tiles line up so now we're ripping them all out and redoing them next week. This is the worst

Ugh, at least you won't look at the tiles in a month and realize they are off but it sucks that new things keep cropping up for them to continue to work on. How long will retiling take?

[jnow]

Jan 13, 2017 12:37:30 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Jan 13, 2017 12:35:35 GMT -5 corinne said:

For the same doctor?

He's the only one at this practice today. His nurse practitioner is here, I'm letting it go.

OMG you are justified in saying something when you wait that long.

[ladytiffany24]

Sitting at the theater getting ready to watch La La Land!

[amacbaby]

To all the post-dates stories, thank God for inductions these days My MIL's close friend had a still birth (years ago) because they didn't want to induce her... 3 weeks past her due date.

[obi]

Jan 13, 2017 13:11:43 GMT -5 missi said:

Jan 13, 2017 12:54:21 GMT -5 obi said:

Youre absolutely right about knowing in advance! I think it is just the finally knowing that has me a little weirded out. Im sure once I do some reading I will feel more at ease. I knew deep down that this was the best route and I am happy it is the plan.
I definitely want to do skin to skin. Our hospital is very pro skin to skin/breastfeeding etc so I would be surprised if that isnt doable. I know that they get the spouse to do skin to skin if mom cant so thats nice.

I get you on the weirded out.  My doctor scheduled mine with the hospital and I've been accepting it since  

Sadly, I outright asked my doctor about the c-section being easier to recover from if it is planned.  She knows I want the straight truth.  She told me that perhaps psychologically, but physically there is no difference.  That is when I really started wanted a vbac.  Ah well  

Soo.. I should tell you horror stories about the section on Feb 1st, right?  ~wicked grin~

That does make sense. Although, I wouldn't be surprised if some of the trickier emergency c-secs could be a tougher recovery.
Im sure there will be no horror story for you, so I'm not worried

[kristhegirl]

I always thought the hardest recovery would be the people who labor for a V delivery for a long time and need a C after all anyway - like you just ran a marathon and are now having emergency abdominal surgery. And now you're a mom, congrats! Here's your newborn.

The emergency C's that come up quickly are probably comparable to recovering from a planned one. Physically, at least.

[missi]

Jan 13, 2017 14:38:47 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I am c section all the way. There are no variables. No horrible surprises. And you have a huge crew of people in a nice clean room focusing solely on you and your baby.

No waiting on a doctor, or having to call for a nurse, or unwanted family members, and the drugs are amazing.

From my reading stories with other bmb members, my recoveries were much easier. But of course everything is subjective.

I had 1 unpleasant thing happen with each delivery, but nothing that concerns me enough to worry about it happening again.

This definitely illustrates that each experience is different   My first two girls were vaginal and the recovery was 1000x easier than my c-section.  We'll see what this one is like in comparison to twins. 

[amacbaby]

Jan 13, 2017 14:55:26 GMT -5 missi said:

Jan 13, 2017 14:38:47 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

I am c section all the way. There are no variables. No horrible surprises. And you have a huge crew of people in a nice clean room focusing solely on you and your baby.

No waiting on a doctor, or having to call for a nurse, or unwanted family members, and the drugs are amazing.

From my reading stories with other bmb members, my recoveries were much easier. But of course everything is subjective.

I had 1 unpleasant thing happen with each delivery, but nothing that concerns me enough to worry about it happening again.

This definitely illustrates that each experience is different   My first two girls were vaginal and the recovery was 1000x easier than my c-section.  We'll see what this one is like in comparison to twins. 

I totally agree each experience can be so different. My wife had a terrible recovery from her vaginal birth of our twins but never had a C so nothing to compare to.

I have heard a number of anecdotes that a planned C was easier for those women than the emergency C (after a long labor).

It wouldn't be the worst outcome for me, but a very long labor with a C at the end is my least favorite from the "happy outcomes" category.

I should REALLY be studying right now! Third tri exhaustion has definitely hit.

[meggypoo1]

I am so tired again. Today is so busy. First time checking my phone! So busy! But free lunch was had at work today!

[glb30]

As a FTM, I'm having trouble convincing myself to WANT a vaginal delivery. My friends with the horror stories were all vaginal births, my c-section friends and family seem in general more chill when talking about the birth. A few have described it as "easy."

I've had abdominal surgery, and it wasn't pleasant, but with pain meds, I was fine. Pain meds also don't make me super out of it.

And I have the same fear as ugaqueencity- I'll need a c-section anyway. My grandma, mom and sister all needed c-sections bc of small bone structure, and I've got the same hips.

(My grandma actually lost her first baby Bc they didn't do it in time...of course, this was 60 plus years ago, so I'm not worried about that....more just that I'll labor forever and have one anyway).

I've been reading more about vaginal birth though, and I'm getting more on board. I'll be real interested to see how it all turns out. I feel like as a FTM, I'm totally in the dark about how my body (and mind!) will handle all this. I have no clue when to estimate when this baby will come, or if she'll be big or small. It's all so crazy!

[suelou18]

glb30 - To hopefully give you some peace of mind, I had an easy recovery from my vaginal delivery and that was with tearing. I have narrow hips and a DD with a large head, but with some assistance she was able to come out. I was prepared to have a c-section because I knew my kid would have a large head and narrow hips, but I was still able to deliver vaginally.

[kristhegirl]

glb30 look into various birth positions, too. Laying on your back can narrow your birth canal by around 30%. If you have an epidural you won't have any options, of course, but if you don't, you should be able to squat, push on all fours, whatever is best for you.

And also anecdotally, I had a pretty easy recovery from an epidural V delivery. I had a 2nd degree tear but it wasn't any big deal. I immediately felt better to not be pregnant, I think I've posted that before.

[cosmicav]

I didn't have a great recovery experience BUT i remember that the placenta coming out after the baby was like the most relief I have ever felt in my life. Just, instant relief.

[erinshelley21]

Jan 13, 2017 17:28:22 GMT -5 . said:

Jan 13, 2017 8:58:24 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

I would pay large sums of money to be able to take some good cold meds and go back to bed. DS slept through the night for the first time in only god knows how long and I was up 3 times with leg cramps. One of them made me foot go in a weird direction and I had to walk to the bathroom like that because I was about to pee. I'm hoping for a less eventful night tonight. I may take a Benadryl or unisom to help knock my ass out.

My ob okayed Tylenol cold (regular or extra strength).

I found mucinex-d on the list of meds I can take.

Dh, the paramedic, failed to read the "nasal congestion" category on the list of meds my Ob gave me when I asked him to check what cold meds I could take when he called me at work today.

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Jan 13, 2017 17:02:51 GMT -5 glb30 said:

As a FTM, I'm having trouble convincing myself to WANT a vaginal delivery. My friends with the horror stories were all vaginal births, my c-section friends and family seem in general more chill when talking about the birth. A few have described it as "easy."

I've had abdominal surgery, and it wasn't pleasant, but with pain meds, I was fine. Pain meds also don't make me super out of it.

And I have the same fear as ugaqueencity- I'll need a c-section anyway. My grandma, mom and sister all needed c-sections bc of small bone structure, and I've got the same hips.

(My grandma actually lost her first baby Bc they didn't do it in time...of course, this was 60 plus years ago, so I'm not worried about that....more just that I'll labor forever and have one anyway).

I've been reading more about vaginal birth though, and I'm getting more on board. I'll be real interested to see how it all turns out. I feel like as a FTM, I'm totally in the dark about how my body (and mind!) will handle all this. I have no clue when to estimate when this baby will come, or if she'll be big or small. It's all so crazy!

I think trepidation is really normal. Last time I was extremely nervous, because people only seem to share horror stories!

[amacbaby]

Jan 13, 2017 18:03:40 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

glb30 look into various birth positions, too. Laying on your back can narrow your birth canal by around 30%. If you have an epidural you won't have any options, of course, but if you don't, you should be able to squat, push on all fours, whatever is best for you.

And also anecdotally, I had a pretty easy recovery from an epidural V delivery. I had a 2nd degree tear but it wasn't any big deal. I immediately felt better to not be pregnant, I think I've posted that before.

Not to get too nitpicky, but (depending on your situation/OB), it's not necessarily true you don't have options with an epidural. My wife tried squatting, the "typical" push position, and side-lying (which worked the best for her) when giving birth to our girls and had an epidural. Obviously there are some limitations (can't push standing up), but it is something to talk to your doctor about.

[kristhegirl]

Jan 13, 2017 21:28:48 GMT -5 amacbaby said:

Jan 13, 2017 18:03:40 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

glb30 look into various birth positions, too. Laying on your back can narrow your birth canal by around 30%. If you have an epidural you won't have any options, of course, but if you don't, you should be able to squat, push on all fours, whatever is best for you.

And also anecdotally, I had a pretty easy recovery from an epidural V delivery. I had a 2nd degree tear but it wasn't any big deal. I immediately felt better to not be pregnant, I think I've posted that before.

Not to get too nitpicky, but (depending on your situation/OB), it's not necessarily true you don't have options with an epidural. My wife tried squatting, the "typical" push position, and side-lying (which worked the best for her) when giving birth to our girls and had an epidural. Obviously there are some limitations (can't push standing up), but it is something to talk to your doctor about.

Man, I couldn't feel my legs at all, lol. But my hospital's policy was any pain meds (even IV) meant constant monitoring and bed confinement.

I'm glad your wife was still able and allowed to change positions!

[amacbaby]

kristhegirl, I re-read my comment and sorry if it came off bitchy at all (did not mean it that way!). Yeah, she definitely wasn't walking or anything but the nurses helped her move positions on the bed. They also turned down the epidural quite a bit to push so that probably helped. I haven't talked to my OB about it yet but I'm hoping she has the same philosophy because I do not want stirrups! (and frankly, I'll probably get an epidural)

[britab]

I had my last formal observation of the school year! I should be tenured starting next year! It went well!

DH is taking me out to celebrate my 30th this weekend. Fancy hotel just hope my big preggo butt can enjoy it!

For pushing, I think I sort of pushed on my side with an epi. I have wide hips though, so they are good for birthing!