Post by obi on Jan 14, 2017 20:22:05 GMT -5
H is leaning toward circ, whereas I'm leaning away from it. It's such a difficult decision with a lot of passionate views from all angles and it's stressing me out a little. I don't know if it's my nature of being a mediator in general, but sometimes I can see the validity of both sides too well and it makes it hard for me to land somewhere.
I am very similar with seeing both sides to everything.
When it came to circ I left it up to my H but was very happy he was for it.
I did not take the decision lightly and I was commited to being present for the procedure.
It was not bad. My son didn't cry one bit. The urologist was clearly very good at what he does. He slowly and carefully injected the local anaesthesia to avoid any burning sensation. He also gave us a little medicine cup of corn syrup to dip his soother in. The sweetness on his soothie as well as H and I right next to his face to relax him seemed to really help. I would really encourage you to be in the room with your son if you choose to have it done. I mean, wouldn't you want that if it were you?
He never really seemed to have any pain while it healed as long as we were gentle. He also seemed to heal very quickly- within a matter of days.
Really do your research when choosing someone to perform the circumcision because horror stories exist and we shouldn't ignore that. We waited a few weeks to get an appointment with a highly recommended uro instead of going to the earliest available one. You dont want them to remove too much foreskin because that seems to be what leads to sensitivity issues later on.
These are kind of gnarly so I will spoiler.
Reasons we chose to circ:
we know someone who ripped his foreskin back during sex.
He was drunk, not enough lubrication and... Yeah.
Family friend had recurring infections, despite being careful with hygiene. He was eventually circumcised at 18yrs old and said it was the most excrutiatingly painful experience of his life. He wished it had been done as an infant.
I also asked my H how he felt. I dont believe in the "to look like daddy" reasoning so I wanted to know any other reasons he had to be pro-circ besides appearance. He does not feel he was mutilated or that his mother took something from him. He is happy that she made that choice. He has no sensitivity issues and has never had any trouble with infections of any kind.
He was drunk, not enough lubrication and... Yeah.
Family friend had recurring infections, despite being careful with hygiene. He was eventually circumcised at 18yrs old and said it was the most excrutiatingly painful experience of his life. He wished it had been done as an infant.
I also asked my H how he felt. I dont believe in the "to look like daddy" reasoning so I wanted to know any other reasons he had to be pro-circ besides appearance. He does not feel he was mutilated or that his mother took something from him. He is happy that she made that choice. He has no sensitivity issues and has never had any trouble with infections of any kind.