Grumpy Monday

[icedtea]

I slept like crap and had weird dreams, then woke up to people making mountains out of molehills at work. If I had the PTO available I'd probably go right back to bed. How's everyone else doing?

I also offer this, which was the only thing to make the smile this morning: Funny tumblr comments about history.

[emmalynn]

That was a fun read!

DD was up coughing on and off last night. She's awake and sounding better, no fever or anything. Our January thaw must be kicking up allergies. We desperately need nap time today!

H and I started a name list last night. He has done seriously... Horrible name opinions. Yikes.

[rosesquared]

emmalynn yeah we need to get on our name list too. We talked about it a lot in the beginning but haven't revisited since we found out it's a girl.

icedtea sorry about your rough start of the day! Bad sleep and annoying people at work suck!!

[icedtea]

emmalynn, H's initial picks were...not good. Lots of "unique" names (read: not real ones) and the most trendy ones he possibly could have think of. But it got better and I think we have a good short list now. Maybe I'll ressurect our name thread. Good luck!

[jmcbick]

Morning all! So grateful to have today off, DS and I definitely needed one more recovery day before heading back to work/daycare. Especially because I definitely now have whatever lovely respiratory virus caused his croup. Toddlers are so good at sharing just laying low here for the day

Picked up the first outfit for baby girl yesterday. I was trying to hold off on buying stuff for now because I know we are getting a ton of hand me downs from my niece, but I couldn't resist for $1.77 on the Target clearance rack!

[jmcbick]

icedtea I hope your day gets better from here!

[icedtea]

Thanks jmcbick, I hope you feel better! And that is adorable.

[jmcbick]

On the name thing... my H has had a girl name that he has wanted FOREVER, before I even met him. It's for a really sweet reason (he had a really serious lung surgery when he was a teenager and it was the name of his favorite nurse who took such good care of him through some scary situations). I don't hate it, but I don't love it either... it's a classic name it just sounds a little old to me for a little girl. I tried to float the option of using it as a middle name but it made him sad and I felt like a jerk so I think I'm just going to have to learn to love it. 4 months to get on board! But I have free reign over middle name for that reason haha.

[sleepymonkey]

Good Morning! DD was up early at 5:30 this morning because she went to bed so early in her Benadryl haze last night. But the swelling and redness on her forehead has gone down a lot so that's good. I'm at work wishing I was still laying on the couch in my pj's watching mindless TV.

jmcbick, that's a tough one with the name because your H has such a sweet reason for wanting the name. I didn't absolutely love DD's name when we picked it but it was the only name we kept coming back to. Now I think her name is beautiful and couldn't imagine loving any name more. I think kids can just "become" their names and that makes you like the name more.

[sleepymonkey]

icedtea, those comments made me laugh - especially the last one about "traditional marriage".

[icedtea]

Haha sleepymonkey, I think that might be my favorite, though I have a hard time choosing.

[sleepymonkey]

I need some advice. Well, more of a "would you be comfortable with this situation?" advice. We booked a 3-day cruise with my family (parents and my brother's family) before I got pregnant. Of course now I can't go so I cancelled myself from the booking but MH and DD are still on there with final payment or cancellation due this week. I don't love the idea of DD having this experience without me but my parents are getting older and my brother's kids are also getting to the age where family vacations won't be "cool" for much longer so this is probably the last opportunity for a family vacation. My main concern is that I will be 36 weeks the weekend of the cruise and my whole family would be gone if something were to happen. MH's parents are an hour and a half away so not too terrible. Would you be comfortable with your SO being gone for 3 days when you're that far along? My dad said they could take DD with them and both MH and I could stay home but my mom is not completely comfortable with that and I'm not sure I am either.

[hpnegirl]

sleepymonkey it was around 37 weeks, I think, that I asked DH to stop traveling when I was pregnant with DS1 (he was 4 hours away when he traveled). This time around, with DS1 to care for, I asked him to not travel after 34 weeks since he would also need to fly. It's really what you're comfortable with, but I personally would say no

[icedtea]

sleepymonkey, I would not feel comfortable with H being that unreachable at 36 weeks. I don't know how I'd feel about DD going since I don't have kids yet, but I don't think I'd be okay with it. I'm blanking on her exact age, but I know she's quite young. I don't think she'd get enough out of the trip to make it worth the discomfort.

Does your H really want to go?

[sleepymonkey]

icedtea, DD is 3 and it's a Disney Cruise. Her cousins (11 and 13) are so excited about her going and I know she would have a blast even though she likely won't remember it when she's older other than having pictures. I just feel bad about denying a vacation when it's probably the only opportunity for a big family vacation (my family has never done anything like this.) H wants to go for her to have the experience but it's my family and he's not a huge cruise fan. I was ok with DD just going with my parents since I thought it could be a nice quiet weekend for me and MH to have together but my mom is clearly uncomfortable with it and I think my dad is pressuring her to do it because he wants DD to go.

[icedtea]

sleepymonkey, ah I see. Has your mom explained why she's uncomfortable? If it's a safety things (which I get, 3 year old on a cruise is intimidating) maybe bro can say he'll help too? Either way, I don't think you should feel bad if she ends up not going.

[sleepymonkey]

icedtea, DD has never been away from me and MH at night so my mom worries that she'll be really nervous. But DD is 100% comfortable with both sets of grandparents so I'm not sure it would be an issue. I kind of think it's my mom's issue - she thinks it's weird for young children to spend a few days away from their parents. I told her that we were thinking of sending DD down to my in-laws house an hour and a half away for a weekend so we could get a bunch of work done around the house uninterrupted and my mom was aghast that we would do that. My parents didn't leave me and my brother until we were 16 and 19. And I grew up with separation anxiety so there's that.

[icedtea]

sleepymonkey, oh if it's more of a "that's not the parenting choice I would make" thing from her, then meh. She had her time and blah blah.

[txcatlady]

sleepymonkey I personally would not feel comfortable with DH away at 36w. My DH was planning a weekend trip with his BFF and I asked him not to go after 33w but this is my first and they were going to be a 4 hr flight away. If your parents aren't comfortable taking your DD alone I wouldn't send her.

[BabyStandish]

sleepymonkey That's a tough one. Since it sounds like your mom is uncomfortable with the idea I'd probably just not let her go. Especially since that makes me feel uncomfortable knowing my daughter wouldn't be in capable hands. She's still pretty young there will be plenty of opportunities for her to go.

[sleepymonkey]

I think I'm going to tell him I would prefer he not go. If something were to happen when he was away, it's not like it would be easy for him to just hop on a plane to come home. If it was just him, I would be ok with him going at 36w, but with my parents and brother gone as well, I'm not sure. And I'll tell my parents that they can discuss it further and if they are comfortable with taking DD, we will pay for them to add her to their room since I think you can usually do that after final payment is due.

[txcatlady]

I wish I was asleep in bed and not at work. We had crazy storms last night from about 8-10pm. The power kept flickering on and off and we had tornado warnings so we had to hang out in our tiny 1/2 bath with our 2 cats twice, which was interesting. I woke up at 1:30am and heard something but couldn't figure out what it was, one of our cats was freaked out too... eventually went back to sleep. Woke up to find one of our garage doors open this morning so that has me a little worried. Nothing seemed to be missing, but I'm definitely going to be keeping a close eye for a while. DH on the other hand is not worried about it at all.

[icedtea]

Eek txcatlady, that would freak me out too. Was the door locked in any way?

[txcatlady]

icedtea we have an electric garage door opener so somehow it was opened with that, but our remotes for the garage doors were still in our cars this morning inside the garage. Still freaks me out though!

[txcatlady]

The door to the inside of our house was locked and not messed with so at least that's comforting

[jmcbick]

Jan 16, 2017 9:44:56 GMT -5 sleepymonkey said:

I think I'm going to tell him I would prefer he not go. If something were to happen when he was away, it's not like it would be easy for him to just hop on a plane to come home. If it was just him, I would be ok with him going at 36w, but with my parents and brother gone as well, I'm not sure. And I'll tell my parents that they can discuss it further and if they are comfortable with taking DD, we will pay for them to add her to their room since I think you can usually do that after final payment is due.

I think this is what I would do, too. It's one thing for just H to be gone, but for the rest of your local support to be gone too is tough at 36w, even if it's only 3 days. For DD, I think if your parents decide they feel 100% comfortable, then go for it and send her. If your mom still has hesitation, I would keep her. She's only 3, she will have other chances to go on fun trips and it's not like she's old enough to have been looking forward to this like if she were your nephews age. It's definitely a tough spot, though!

[mcp6286]

sleepymonkey personally I wouldn't mind DH taking DD for just a weekend at 36w but I am a hospital "regular" so I've been there by myself several times for issues that (for me) were way worse than childbirth. However, I don't think DH would go regardless of my opinion and I def wouldn't let anyone else take my child on a cruise. You just never know what accidents might happen on a ship and I don't think I'd ever be able to forgive someone, regardless of who it was, if something tragic happened to my baby. I feel like that setting is just way riskier than most others, especially if your mom is uncomfortable to begin with.

DH is working from home today and I'm off. DD is starting to get cabin fever and will be glad that she gets to go back to daycare tomorrow lol. My goal for the day, other than entertaining DD, is to track down my tax documents from previously employers...I worked for 3 schools in 3 states in 2016, so this should be a fun tax season!

[rosesquared]

I def wouldn't be ok with DW being gone that close to my EDD especially with the rest of my support system gone, but sleepymonkey it sounds like you have a great plan!

This registry stuff is killing me!! I know it's supposed to be fun and everything but it's just stressing me out lol. We went to BRU yesterday and added a whole bunch of stuff but now I'm price comparing some things with amazon and it just doesn't make sense to leave them on BRU... We're only using BRU since some people like to have a physical store to go in, otherwise we'd do the whole thing on babylist. Ugh. And I wasn't going to have to go to school until Wednesday but I just got asked to go to a meeting tomorrow! Blahhhh.

[lupincat]

I really need to go grocery shopping today but I so do not feel like it. I wish we had online ordering or peapod delivery but we're too rural. I'm going to try meal planning to help cut down on the bill but I find it overwhelming.

I made banana bread this morning and it's taking so much will power not to just eat the whole thing.

[jmcbick]

Jan 16, 2017 11:02:10 GMT -5 rosesquared said:

I def wouldn't be ok with DW being gone that close to my EDD especially with the rest of my support system gone, but sleepymonkey it sounds like you have a great plan!

This registry stuff is killing me!! I know it's supposed to be fun and everything but it's just stressing me out lol. We went to BRU yesterday and added a whole bunch of stuff but now I'm price comparing some things with amazon and it just doesn't make sense to leave them on BRU... We're only using BRU since some people like to have a physical store to go in, otherwise we'd do the whole thing on babylist. Ugh. And I wasn't going to have to go to school until Wednesday but I just got asked to go to a meeting tomorrow! Blahhhh.

This really stressed me out for awhile with DS' registry. Eventually I realized that prices are going to change, people are going to have coupons one place or another, or people will prefer online vs store or vice versa, etc etc. I eventually stopped messing with it and figured as long as it was on A registry and people can choose to buy it where they see the best deal! It took away a lot of stress once I let it go (and realized it was a silly thing to have been stressed about haha!)