WTDS 1/16

[penguin129]

This is the Waiting to do Something thread posted once a week (usually on Mondays - sometimes not) for those of us that experience long, extended cycles. Whether it's medicated cycles, long (45ish + days) cycles, postpartum/breastfeeding, TTA, on the bench, or something else, this is the place we gather throughout the week to discuss and vent about our slightly unique situation.


Numbers:


Circumstances:


Rants:


Raves:


No Flame No Shame Questions :


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments?

[penguin129]

Numbers: CD 5

Circumstances: TTA

Rants: I'm trying to decide if it even makes sense to temp when we are going to use condoms to avoid all the time anyway. I mean I like having the knowledge of when to expect AF with the temp drop. Decisions.

Raves: My first PP AF was here and gone with no cramps. That was really nice. It was shorter than I thought it would be too.

No Flame No Shame Questions:

QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? I have my new planner and want to use a modified bullet journal for fun stuff like quotes, bucket lists, etc.

[cnf2013]

I'm coming back here for a bit.

Numbers: Should be 2/2 TFAS but I'm not sure what I want to do yet.

Circumstances: I'm working my way through my first loss.

Rants: Fuck you, body.

NFNSQ: Is the first day of my loss cd1? I should probably temp and try to figure out how this is going to effect me, but I just don't really want to.

QOTW: I use the calendar on my phone and we have paper calendar at home we both jot things down on.

[Deleted]

Numbers: CD2, Cycle 2 TTA

Circumstances: TTA til late March due to career opportunity

Rants: well, this last cycle I was down to an 8 day LP again. I had been up to 11 for a while. It has me feeling pretty pessimistic and I started researching REs for when we stop TTA.

Raves: H has gotten so amazing at dealing with the bundle of raging hormones that come at the beginning of each period. I feel like I did as a teenager, with so many irrational feelings spiraling inside of me, all while having really painful and heavy CD1. My periods were so much better on the pill. But H does his best to be understanding, and last night made some good spiked hot chocolate and we watched Doctor Who.

NFNSQ: no questions today

QOTW: I mostly use a Google calendar. I've tried bullet journals, but it's one more thing to carry everywhere so it doesn't always work for me

[Deleted]

alwayscheese, make no mistake, he hasn't always! But I'm so grateful for when he is understanding.

[penguin129]

cnf2013 Hugs.
@bonzo2012 Hugs. Sorry for the shorter LP.
alwayscheese That's what I was thinking. Plus I don't want to have to set an alarm to temp yet. Hugs for the feelz.

[teraiin]

Numbers; 1/1

Circumstances: first pp cycle


Rants: cd 46. No sign of af. I'm thinking I didn't ovulate. Booo just waiting for af to come. I've only had two cycles longer than this.


Raves: nothing really


No Flame No Shame Questions : nothing


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? I have a dry erase board on the fridge.

[teraiin]

Never mind. AF just arrived, mystery solved haha

[gabride2010]

penguin129 If it were me, I would continue temping to know when to expect my period. I also hate condoms, so I wouldn't use them. When H and I were TTA, I used OPKs and temped.

cnf2013 I'm so sorry for your loss. Big hugs!

@bonzo2012 Sorry your LP was short again. Did you find a good RE?

alwayscheese Sorry you had to postpone your appt and for the pregnancy announcement.

Numbers: Cycle 9, Month 13, CD 8

Circumstances: TTC #1

Rants: I had to postpone my HSG which sucks. Insurance requires a prior authorization, and they can deny it if I've had it done already simply because I had it done. Also, I would have to pay $1184 up front. I won't have any time this cycle to do the HSG, so it will have to wait until next cycle. I hope that my body cooperates and has another shorter cycle!

Raves: H's SA came back completely normal!! So excited for that. He has a varicocele, and I figured that may be causing some sperm issues.

NFNSQ: Nothing today

QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? We have a dry erase calendar on the fridge, and I use the calendar on my phone.

ETA: Yay for CD1 teraiin!

[frecklesnbrains]

I'm just going to jump in here, if you'll have me.


Numbers: CD6, first postpartum cycle


Circumstances: I have a DS who is almost 8 months old. I'm 39 years old (and change) so I have always known that if we were going to TTC#2 then we'd get going pretty quickly, so here I am. We're going to NTNP for a couple cycles and take it from there.


Rants: I forgot how much of a PITA menstruating is.


Raves: I'm looking forward to getting to know you all!


No Flame No Shame Questions: none at the moment. This feels like familiar territory.


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? I keep a calendar on my phone and computer and Apple Watch and they all sync with each other.

[ajetter]

I think I'm going to hang out here or TFAS if you'll have me. I started on the dump in 2009, and have been and on and off member of this community since.

Numbers: CD11, 1st cycle AL

Circumstances: Mentioning a recent loss... I've got three girls, 6,3 and 17 months. We decided to see what happened in regards to number 4. I've always had irregular cycles. Took 7 months before we conceived our second, 5 months and one chemical pregnancy before our third. So we were surprised that I got pregnant after my first PP period, and felt like that meant we were supposed to have four. Did early genetics test and found out it was a girl. At 12 weeks I couldn't find the heartbeat on my home doppler, two days later went to the OB and they confirmed her heart had stopped. Had a D&C on 1/6. I'm 99% sure we're going to try again, just deciding how long we wait. ACOG states no need to wait after a first trimester loss, but doesn't mention D&C, docs office said to wait two full cycles. I asked why medically and all the nurse would say is so you don't miscarry. She couldn't give me a medical answer. Leaning towards TTA for one cycle.


Rants:


Raves: I deep cleaned my closet to distract my mind. It looks so organized and pretty.


No Flame No Shame Questions : If you've had a D&C how long did your doc ask you to TTA? I'm aware that I should follow doctors orders, but I'm just curious. I only had the lightest spotting for four days then nothing after. And the pregnancy tests are almost negative again.


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? I write everything on a large wall calendar in our mushroom, then input out of the ordinary stuff in my phone with reminders.

[Deleted]

gabride2010, I think I've found a good one. The best clinic in the area doesn't take our insurance, but there's another one that has very good reviews and stats that we can use. Now I just need to figure out how soon we start. It's weirdly nerve wracking.

That sucks that you had to postpone the HSG, but yay for normal SA!

[penguin129]

teraiin Yay for CD1
gabride2010 I'm glad your H's SA came back normal. At least you can rule that out.
frecklesnbrains Welcome!
ajetter I'm sorry about your loss. Hugs to you.
cnf2013 I'm sorry for your loss as well.

[ldubhawksfan]

Jan 16, 2017 15:46:27 GMT -5 ajetter said:

I think I'm going to hang out here or TFAS if you'll have me. I started on the dump in 2009, and have been and on and off member of this community since.

Numbers: CD11, 1st cycle AL

Circumstances: Mentioning a recent loss... I've got three girls, 6,3 and 17 months. We decided to see what happened in regards to number 4. I've always had irregular cycles. Took 7 months before we conceived our second, 5 months and one chemical pregnancy before our third. So we were surprised that I got pregnant after my first PP period, and felt like that meant we were supposed to have four. Did early genetics test and found out it was a girl. At 12 weeks I couldn't find the heartbeat on my home doppler, two days later went to the OB and they confirmed her heart had stopped. Had a D&C on 1/6. I'm 99% sure we're going to try again, just deciding how long we wait. ACOG states no need to wait after a first trimester loss, but doesn't mention D&C, docs office said to wait two full cycles. I asked why medically and all the nurse would say is so you don't miscarry. She couldn't give me a medical answer. Leaning towards TTA for one cycle.


Rants:


Raves: I deep cleaned my closet to distract my mind. It looks so organized and pretty.


No Flame No Shame Questions : If you've had a D&C how long did your doc ask you to TTA? I'm aware that I should follow doctors orders, but I'm just curious. I only had the lightest spotting for four days then nothing after. And the pregnancy tests are almost negative again.


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? I write everything on a large wall calendar in our mushroom, then input out of the ordinary stuff in my phone with reminders.

Hugs. I'm sorry for your loss. I actually had a d&c last Friday too for my 11 week miscarriage. With this one, my dr recommended we avoid for one cycle after I get my period (not the post surgery bleeding). My last loss and surgery, my other dr wanted 2 benched cycles. I believe the reason is to give your uterus time to heal.

I'm so sad to wait and that we won't have a 2017 baby.

[ldubhawksfan]

i guess I'll chill here too while I'm benched.

Numbers: TTA for a few months after our loss.

Circumstances: we had a loss and medicated IUI to conceive DD (14 mo) so we jumped on TTCA and were shocked to get KU on our own on our second cycle! Things were fine with the little gummy until I started spotting on the 5th at 11 weeks and the US no longer showed a heartbeat. I had a d&c on the 6th. My dr benched us for 1 cycle after my period returns, so we are probably looking at March. 😢

Rants: MC sucks

Raves:

No Flame No Shame Questions : no real questions today.

QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? my planner & work calendar

[penguin129]

ldubhawksfan I'm sorry about your loss. Sending hugs your way.

[gabride2010]

Welcome frecklesnbrains!

Welcome ajetter. I'm so sorry for your loss. I would imagine that your doc wants you to TTA for two cycles to allow your uterus to heal like ldubhawksfan said. Your lining needs to be thick enough to support another pregnancy.

Thanks @bonzo2012!! I'm glad you've found a good RE. FX you like them.

Thanks penguin129!

So sorry for your loss ldubhawksfan. Big hugs!

[ajetter]

ldubhawksfan I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like our docs are suggesting the same. She said two cycles from now. So that would be one cycle after first period since the D&C. I really don't want to wait, but it's probably the best. Just hoping I don't have to wait through two 45-50 day cycles.

[cnf2013]

ldubhawksfan, sorry you're benched. Big hugs.

[ldubhawksfan]

Jan 16, 2017 18:02:25 GMT -5 ajetter said:

ldubhawksfan I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like our docs are suggesting the same. She said two cycles from now. So that would be one cycle after first period since the D&C. I really don't want to wait, but it's probably the best. Just hoping I don't have to wait through two 45-50 day cycles.

It's hard to wait, and I'm sure even more so with longer cycles. I'm itching too as well, but I'm trying to remember that last time I had a lot of emotional heal to do and I'm not sure that was done in the 2 cycles. Plus there is a lot of anxiety with trying after loss, so I need to REALLY be ready for that.

It just sucks over all. But hopefully we can burn the benches soon enough together!

[nuggetrn]

Jan 16, 2017 18:02:25 GMT -5 ajetter said:

ldubhawksfan I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like our docs are suggesting the same. She said two cycles from now. So that would be one cycle after first period since the D&C. I really don't want to wait, but it's probably the best. Just hoping I don't have to wait through two 45-50 day cycles.

I have had historically long cycles and due to my OB telling me I had to wait three cycles before trying again I went ahead and automatically did a provera cycle to speed the process along. The only thing he said was because provera may not produce thick enough lining to support a pregnancy to not get pregnant the cycle I used it to induce a period. Turns out I ended up going in for another US two months later because there was some suspicion for a fibroid and he ended up clearing me before the three cycles were up because all looked good. Regardless, shortening at least one cycle with provera was worth it.

[nuggetrn]

Look at me, can't even exit for a week. Lol.

Sending you love and hugs cnf2013. I am so so sorry you are going through this ❤

[ajetter]

Jan 16, 2017 19:43:35 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

Jan 16, 2017 18:02:25 GMT -5 ajetter said:

ldubhawksfan I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like our docs are suggesting the same. She said two cycles from now. So that would be one cycle after first period since the D&C. I really don't want to wait, but it's probably the best. Just hoping I don't have to wait through two 45-50 day cycles.

I have had historically long cycles and due to my OB telling me I had to wait three cycles before trying again I went ahead and automatically did a provera cycle to speed the process along. The only thing he said was because provera may not produce thick enough lining to support a pregnancy to not get pregnant the cycle I used it to induce a period. Turns out I ended up going in for another US two months later because there was some suspicion for a fibroid and he ended up clearing me before the three cycles were up because all looked good. Regardless, shortening at least one cycle with provera was worth it.

Thats good to hear/something to discuss. My cycles ranged from 30-55 days with one random 70 in there, but that was my first cycle post baby 2 and I was still nursing. After my chemical Between 2 and 3 I ovulated on day 14, the earliest I'd ever ovulated since my first was born, so I'm hoping since my HCG is dropping at a reasonable rate (as far as I can tell) maybe it won't be too long. But it is definitely something I'll talk to my doc about at my follow up!

Do you feel like you know way too much of my history yet? Lol.

[nuggetrn]

Jan 16, 2017 21:12:15 GMT -5 ajetter said:

Jan 16, 2017 19:43:35 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

I have had historically long cycles and due to my OB telling me I had to wait three cycles before trying again I went ahead and automatically did a provera cycle to speed the process along. The only thing he said was because provera may not produce thick enough lining to support a pregnancy to not get pregnant the cycle I used it to induce a period. Turns out I ended up going in for another US two months later because there was some suspicion for a fibroid and he ended up clearing me before the three cycles were up because all looked good. Regardless, shortening at least one cycle with provera was worth it.

Thats good to hear/something to discuss. My cycles ranged from 30-55 days with one random 70 in there, but that was my first cycle post baby 2 and I was still nursing. After my chemical Between 2 and 3 I ovulated on day 14, the earliest I'd ever ovulated since my first was born, so I'm hoping since my HCG is dropping at a reasonable rate (as far as I can tell) maybe it won't be too long. But it is definitely something I'll talk to my doc about at my follow up!

Do you feel like you know way too much of my history yet? Lol.

Haha, you are totally fine.

[rosey06]

Numbers: -


Circumstances: healing from 2nd miscarriage in 5 months. Benched for atleast 6 months.


Rants: my hormones are so messed up, I've had headaches every day... currently trying to fight off another. I only get headaches during my period, so I know these are all hormone related. But I'm over it.


Raves:


No Flame No Shame Questions :


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? I have a small old school 2 year calender I put all bill due dates, appts, and off days etc in for the 3 of us. I've always done it this way so I could throw it in my purse or work bag. I'm sure I could figure out an app or use my phone but I like hard copies.

[rosey06]

penguin129 I've been debating the same. But I like knowing when my period is coming so one of these days I'll start temping again.

cnf2013 sorry for your loss. I use the first day as my cd1.

ajetter so sorry for your loss. After my first a few months ago, it wasn't a d&c and she didn't bench me. I got pregnant right away and lost that one this month also. I have no idea if it was cause we tried so fast.. since I didn't have a d&c. I do worry we tried to soon.
But this time I did have a d&c, and she told me 6 months. But I think it's a special situation cause she's questioning a molar and wants my thyroid is better condition.

@idubhawksfan so sorry for your loss and to see you here 😞

[thatgirlrachel]

ldubhawksfan, So sorry for your loss and being benched. Take care of yourself.
cnf2013, I'm hanging here too. Still sending you hugs, prayers, good vibes...whatever you need.
ajetter, I'm very sorry for your recent loss.

[thatgirlrachel]

Numbers: CD 23


Circumstances: TTA


Rants: My face is still breaking out horribly, just on one side. I will be glad when this nonsense settles down.


Raves: We are adding on to our house and the contractor started yesterday!


No Flame No Shame Questions: None this week...yet.


QOTW: What do you use to keep track of plans and appointments? Phone calendar so I can set reminders, dry erase calendar on the fridge, and my calendar at work.

[gabride2010]

rosey06 I'm so sorry for your loss. Big hugs! I hope your headaches go away ASAP!

thatgirlrachel I hope your acne goes away soon. What room(s) are you adding onto your house?

[thatgirlrachel]

Jan 17, 2017 8:58:32 GMT -5 gabride2010 said:

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thatgirlrachel I hope your acne goes away soon. What room(s) are you adding onto your house?

We are adding onto the full length of our house, going straight off of the back. It includes a new laundry room/mudroom, den, and new master bed & bath. Our current mudroom/laundry room will become a walk-in pantry and that is what I am most excited for!

BTW, can I assume from your screen name that you are in GA? I haven't run into many fellow Georgians on this forum.