Wtf Wednesday and Randoms

[musicallyinclined]

WTF in-laws, all my in-laws are making plans to come the week the baby is due to see the baby. I love them, I really do, but I don't need a house full of people while I'm a few days postpartum and I don't need my younger SIL giving me baby advice or trying to take the baby to soothe him like she did with DS. I can almost guarantee that if the baby is fussing he wants a boob and I am going to take him to my room and feed him. Sorry not sorry.
I'm trying to be nice about it since my mother is coming to help with DS and I imagine my sisters and dad will come soon after but they bring food, help with DS, and respect my requests.
UGHHHH!!!! At least SIL has the good sense not to bring her constantly sick 3 & 4 year olds. That shit will not fly. I can't have DS being forced to share with his cousins and have his baby brother come all in the same week.

[flyinghorses6]

Ughhhh coffeeonice I'm training too; my next 3 shifts. Soooo exhausting.

Also I work 10 more shifts and I'm due in 19 days. Seems like so many!!!!! That's my big WTF.

I want to be contracting and dilating.... come onnnnnnnn

[shellbell]

I woke up with a low fever this morning, and I'm feeling kind of yuck. I am probably going to go to urgent care this morning. DNW to be sick if I could go into labor.

Baby girl's heart rate was very high, and she was very active. I have a size check ultrasound scheduled for this afternoon, so if she hasn't calmed down I will need to have a NST. Hopefully she's chilled out a little. My dr wasn't worried and was comfortable waiting on the nst until this afternoon.

[notagoddess]

Labor watch! So exciting! I'm slightly jealous since I'm nowhere near ready, both physiologically and in terms of preparation. DNW to go into labor before having my childbirth class and the prenatal visits with my doula. On the other hand, I can't wait to meet my baby! And go on maternity leave! I just hope to have the baby by the end of February

[cosmicav]

Omg you guys on baby watch!!!!

[notagoddess]

WTF to my back. I've been borrowing a more ergonomic office chair but it's not cutting it anymore. How am I supposed to focus when I'm in constant pain? 5-6 more weeks of this seems completely unbearable. Please, baby, don't be late!

[littleredfish]

WTF to my body. Poop already. You'll feel better, I promise. Nothing is working except colace but even that is only sporadic relief.

Yay for all the baby watch starting. It means I'm almost done. I'M not ready to be done but my body is. My hips are so over this already. They've lasted about 2 weeks less per pregnancy.

[shellbell]

Jan 18, 2017 12:45:36 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

WTF to my back. I've been borrowing a more ergonomic office chair but it's not cutting it anymore. How am I supposed to focus when I'm in constant pain? 5-6 more weeks of this seems completely unbearable. Please, baby, don't be late!

OMG the phrase "5-6 more weeks" made me tear up for you.

[notagoddess]

Jan 18, 2017 12:53:19 GMT -5 shellbell said:

Jan 18, 2017 12:45:36 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

WTF to my back. I've been borrowing a more ergonomic office chair but it's not cutting it anymore. How am I supposed to focus when I'm in constant pain? 5-6 more weeks of this seems completely unbearable. Please, baby, don't be late!

OMG the phrase "5-6 more weeks" made me tear up for you.

My mom had both of her babies at 37 weeks, so I'm holding out some hope that will happen for me too!

[oldbaylover1024]

Jan 18, 2017 12:19:37 GMT -5 shellbell said:

What will the hospital do if you don't prepay? Why would they assume vaginal delivery? Aren't there all sorts of things that won't be included on that bill -- epidural, Motrin, etc?

They can't say no to me delivering, so I assume if I don't prepay they won't do anything. I'll go in on 2/10, have my schedule C-section, and get billed later.

The prebill is based on a vaginal delivery because it's a basic prebill - like, I wouldn't assume they'd bill me twice as much for an assumed C-section, KWIM? The bill is based on a typical, non-complicated, totally healthy baby being born.

And, well, yeah it won't include certain things.

I'm honestly surprised none of you were prebilled by your OBGYNs or hospitals. My OBGYN prebilled me based on my insurance coverage and the average prenatal costs associated with a healthy, uneventful pregnancy. Prebilling also depends on your insurance provider - some require it, some don't.

[shellbell]

oldbaylover1024 I was prebilled by my OB's office. I am wondering what happens if I deliver before someone from their group can get to me (positive thinking!). They were a little pissy when half my deductible went to the fetal echo and they didn't get to collect that money. Sorry? Too bad? Their goal was to precollect my deductible to put toward the delivery fee.

[crazycatlady6]

Jan 18, 2017 12:20:45 GMT -5 dancerspose said:

Jan 18, 2017 11:26:30 GMT -5 crazycatlady6 said:

Holy crap for the baby watching that is taking place! How exciting!

I am at a diner waiting for chocolate chip pancakes in between meetings. Yum.

I LOVE me some chocolate chip pancakes!

They were delicious! Lucky's diner on 202 next to the fire company.

[shawnabm1320]

Here's a wtf for my husband who has been sulking and pissy since 10:00 this morning when he had to clean up our vomit-soaked car and child while I went to the OB appointment. Deal with it, Mr. Its called parenting. There will be puke. There will be shot days. Be a grown up and recover.

And a wtf to myself - get it together! You can't be this tired! You have things to do! Gah!

On a related note, I've decided if we have a third, I'd prefer not to be due in winter. Winter is hard for me - and I'm not handling being pregnant-tired and getting/fighting the winter blues well. So, we'll be trying for a spring/summer baby next time. Oh my.

[staz]

Surprise shower at work today! Everything was so cute and all the guys were really excited because they've never been to a shower before lol!

[Deleted]

So my team is offsite all next week so due to 2doctor apts on Friday I am down to 15hrs left in the office before my maternity leave starts! Holy crap!!

[nomnom]

Unisom worked. I finally got some sleep. I think I was having contractions or period-like cramps at some point overnight and I meant to stay up for a bit and time them, but I fell asleep again. Apparently nothing happened because it was all gone this morning. I'm hoping all the activity was bottom baby flipping head down.

Today I'm going to try to do some work for the first time since 1/11 before Master R got sick and started the rounds of plague in our house. I feel reasonably functional, though still foggy from late pregnancy and sinus infection. All of my PTO that I was going to use for ML and pre-induction rest and baby prep is gone.

WTF goes to this persistent sinus infection. I figure it'll be the same as it is until at least Saturday since I can start a z-pak on Friday. Amoxicillin isn't doing anything and it seems to be lasting a long time for a viral infection.

[nomnom]

shawnabm1320 I'm with you on avoiding winter babies. Sick season while big pregnant is no fun. Although it may be worse to be sick during first trimester because medications seem to be even more limited then.

[coffeeonice]

Every time somebody's phone rings my trainee stops what she's doing, looks at me and says...what's that? 😳

The phone. 😂😂😂im dying here

[staz]

Glad you're feeling a little better nomnom!

[sweetieheart32]

Jan 18, 2017 14:37:02 GMT -5 coffeeonice said:

Every time somebody's phone rings my trainee stops what she's doing, looks at me and says...what's that? 😳

The phone. 😂😂😂im dying here

omg. wuuuuut?

[dancerspose]

Jan 18, 2017 14:37:02 GMT -5 coffeeonice said:

Every time somebody's phone rings my trainee stops what she's doing, looks at me and says...what's that? 😳

The phone. 😂😂😂im dying here

I'm honestly not sure what to make of this story...I think I'm frightened by it most of all...good luck!

[dancerspose]

nomnom glad you finally got some sleep at least!

staz aww how sweet of your coworkers, hope you had fun!

[musicallyinclined]

oldbaylover1024, we paid $2700 in prepay to my OB in like August. They push through all the billing for my OB costs after the baby is born, but require payment in full before 28 weeks. Also, that billing doesn't include ultrasounds or labs and those aren't fully covered by our insurance so we essentially have already paid my deductible for 2016 & 2017. YAY!
Also, it is my understanding that everything outside of delivery will not be on my bill but on the baby's and we are separate after delivery so we will likely pay his deductible too. I am desperately hoping we read our benefits incorrectly. I know the circumcision is separate, and that we will probably have to pay for him to be "in the nursery" during that recovery time for like 30 minutes.
Fingers crossed we won't have to pay too much more, I'm pretty sick of paying medical related expenses.

[oldbaylover1024]

Holy cow, musicallyinclined! I'm shocked! We paid $800 to our OB and an additional $350 for the anatomy scan since that was through the hospital, not the OB practice. I can't imagine $2,700.

For reference, the prebill I received yesterday was for about $1,300 and covered both mine and the baby's estimated costs. Based on our insurance, we'll quickly meet our deductible for 2017 (our deductible isn't high), but after that it's still 80/20 coverage (we pay 20%). Plus, a C-section is guaranteed more expensive than a vaginal delivery - longer hospital stay, more drugs, etc. etc. etc.

I hate insurance sometimes. But I'm always glad I have it!!!

[staz]

We have a high deductible plan through H's work. We priced it out a million different ways and our cheapest option is going to cost us between $6,000 and $8,000 out of pocket when we have this baby.  That includes all the OB appointments (we've only paid for the ultrasounds ~$2,000 and lab work ~$500 total so far). We pay low premiums, but we have a $5,000 deductible . And honestly, the higher premiums for a slightly lower deductible didn't reduce the bill (it was actually higher when you factored in what we would pay over the year).

So when people ask if we're planning another one right away, the answer is no. We actually cannot afford it.

[nomnom]

TMI: antibiotics sure help with pregnancy constipation.

[littleredfish]

Jan 18, 2017 13:04:52 GMT -5 @wineandcupcakes said:

Jan 18, 2017 12:52:59 GMT -5 littleredfish said:

WTF to my body. Poop already. You'll feel better, I promise. Nothing is working except colace but even that is only sporadic relief.

Yay for all the baby watch starting. It means I'm almost done. I'M not ready to be done but my body is. My hips are so over this already. They've lasted about 2 weeks less per pregnancy.

Have you tried a mix of plain Greek yogurt and prune juice?

ETA: I suggest drinking warm water in a mug and walking around the house for a while and then have the mixture. If that doesn't work, you have poop of steel.

I've tried the yogurt, prune juice made me throw up in my mouth so DH got me pear juice since that's supposed to help too. I've gone cold turkey on cheese for which I might actually go into withdrawal; it's my favorite food. Pre and probiotics added to my stupidly large vitamin/supplement regiment. Metamucil. DH bought these awful fiber bars and I force myself to eat one a day. I carry a 4L jug of water to keep me hydrated and counter all of this fiber so I don't make it worse.

TMI confession. I literally spent 10 mins in the shower last night using the massage feature on my shower head pointed on my anus at the suggestion of my midwife. She also suggested a step stool for my feet while I'm on the toilet but I cannot keep my feet up there and breath at the same time so I look like I'm doing step aerobics on the toilet alternating feet up and feet down.

I've gone back to colace and with that added I'm having a small BM every 2 days-ish so it's either a coincidence that something worked when I went back to colace or it's the colace, but my God I just want to have this baby so I can poop normally again. I have this constant feeling of a rock in my butt, trying to fall out that won't.

[coffeeonice]

staz I really thought your post started..."I'm sitting over here with a huge glass of wine" and at this point, I felt no judgement 😂😂 you do you.

[ls2012]

Alright, I am of the firmest opinion that prodromal labor SUCKS!!! I'm just sitting here, doing basically nothing and they're starting up again. Ouch! Seriously, if this lasts more than 1 week, I will break. I don't really want an early baby, but holy hell.

[dancerspose]

All this insurance talk is making me really nervous. I'm on DH's plan since his premiums are a tiny fraction of what mine are. I kept asking him what our out of pocket costs will be for the pregnancy and he just kept telling "should hardly be anything." Now I'm scared he missed something. TBH, I usually don't leave DH in charge of these types of things, but I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt because this was supposed to be one of the concessions to him switching jobs two years ago and taking a pay cut when he did. I may be the primary income, but his benefits are supposed to be much better. All that said, we haven't paid a dime out of pocket since we started with the OB. I kept waiting to at least have a copay or something, but nada. And no bills have come in the mail. I'll have to ask him to check again about the hospital costs or cave and call the insurance company myself.

Basically the short of it is I'm either clueless or we have the best insurance for L&D...