obscurereference & sammysam I think my oldest watches them to get to me. He'll point and go "aw I want one of those mommy, ours is all grown up now". Sure kid, I'm trying.
Hahaha. My DD says she wants a "real" baby...but she said that she wants to be the mommy, not me. When I ask her if she wants a brother or sister and if mommy and daddy should have another baby she says "No,you already have a baby. You have me." and adamantly says she does not want a brother or sister. I'm worried that if we get pregnant she is going to have a very hard time adjusting...
obscurereference & sammysam I think my oldest watches them to get to me. He'll point and go "aw I want one of those mommy, ours is all grown up now". Sure kid, I'm trying.
Lol sounds familiar. My oldest has been recently asking me when I'm going to have another baby. She wants twins this time..... I asked her if she wanted another brother or sister and to my surprise she said yes!
CD/DPO: 21/7 according to Fertility Friend, but this is my first time using it and first month off BC so I'm not convinced that was my true ovulation day.
RRCS: We are just letting things happen for now.
GTKY: I control what she watches but she's recently discovered Barney. And there are definitely parts that drive me crazy.
scoutradley DD is an only right now and has never had any desire for a sibling. She HATES when I hold other people's babies...and even if I'm playing with one of her baby dolls she gets jealous and says "No mommy, play with me. I am the baby"...she always tells me not to have another baby. But it's encouraging that your oldest loved having a new baby. I'm hoping that if we do get pregnant again that DD will surprise me...
ldubhawksfan, I was so over baby signing time by the time we stopped watching it. MH randomly started singing one of the songs the other day (it's time to eat, eat, what a treat!) and I was worried DD would start asking for them again. DDs sign language skills are great though, so they totally served their purpose.
lol it's bad when you start singing those damn songs. I've totally found myself singing the eating one. The cheesiest I think was the diaper dance. 😂 DD does a lot of signing and loves the videos so I'm very happy we have them. I wish they did please and thank you though!! I've tried adding that in this month.
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
lol it's bad when you start singing those damn songs. I've totally found myself singing the eating one. The cheesiest I think was the diaper dance. 😂 DD does a lot of signing and loves the videos so I'm very happy we have them. I wish they did please and thank you though!! I've tried adding that in this month.
There is a please/thank you/sorry song on one of them. Maybe the second DVD. Colors is what I always wished there was. We found a video and she's got those down pretty well now too.
I didn't see good reviews on the second one, so I only bought the 1st and 4th. Maybe I'll have to buy t after all
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
I'm not sure where to put this, but is anyone nervous to have another? I almost feel guilty as if I'd be taking time/attention etc from my DD. Did any of you BTDT moms feel this way when you were trying for a second child? I obviously know it will change the family dynamic but I go back and forth with feeling guilty.
Post by obscurereference on Jan 19, 2017 15:46:40 GMT -5
izz67 No I did not feel guilty. I grew up as an only child and hated it so I actually felt like I was doing her a favor! Toward the end of my pregnancy, I did get sad when I thought about how she wouldn't get my full attention anymore. But that passed quickly and once my second kid arrived, I'm pretty sure I didn't think about it again.
@moonandback141 and obscurereference, I am also an only child and I always wanted a sibling growing up so I do know that I really want her to experience the sibling bond that I didn't experience. She's 18 months old so I know she won't remember what life was like before a sibling (that is if TFAS goes well of course). I stay at home with her so I'm not sure if that's where the guilty feelings are stemming from as it's always been just me and her while MH is gone.
Post by scoutradley on Jan 19, 2017 15:59:26 GMT -5
izz67 my friend and I both talked about how we felt bad for our first ones losing our attention, guilty when it felt like our attention wasn't being decided properly and sad for the loss of one on one time for ourselves and them. It gets better and sometimes worse again. Phases in and out. At least for me.
Post by obscurereference on Jan 19, 2017 16:06:06 GMT -5
I mean, I am not very sentimental, so take my opinion with a grain of salt! I feel like the benefits for the kid far outweigh any sad feeling I have about it. I stay at home as well, and I really think it has been fantastic for my kids to not be the center of my attention. That's just not how life works. May as well get some practice!
RoLoMa please let me know if this is overstepping. But what made you decide to seek testing and medicated cycles so early on in the process? Did you require treatment the first time, which is what prompted you to just go straight for it this time?
I realize this is a very personal question and will not be offended if you don't want to answer!
You are not overstepping at all! We tried for 3 years for our first before visiting the RE. I am AMA and we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We got pregnant on a femara and IUI treatment cycle. Given that I am almost 2 years older than when I was "old" and the likelihood that we won't conceive on our own again, we decided to go ahead and just go back.
I have no problem discussing so don't worry about asking something too personal. I am sorry it took so long to respond, work is a bit crazy right now.
I mean, I am not very sentimental, so take my opinion with a grain of salt! I feel like the benefits for the kid far outweigh any sad feeling I have about it. I stay at home as well, and I really think it has been fantastic for my kids to not be the center of my attention. That's just not how life works. May as well get some practice!
I agree, the benefits definitely outway any feelings I have about it. I think it will help if I think of the benefits anytime I start to feel bad about it. I don't dwell on it by any means, but the thoughts do creep up on me once in awhile. Thanks for the input!
RRCS: I think I ovulated 2 days ago. I had a nearly postive OPK, the line was almost as dark as the control line, and that's the darkest I have EVER had in the over a month I have been using OPK. I have nothing else to go by apart from the OPK as we were on honeymoon (got back this afternoon) and didn't do BBT or my clearblue ovulation test. I done another test 5 hours after that OPK, and then the following afternoon, and they were both lighter, but still darker than I have ever had. So I'm counting that as a positive, as quite a lot of people have said it is one. Plus my CM was very noticeable. Would be great if it was actually ovulation, as since it was a kid free week and our honeymoon, we baby danced everyday since CD30 and it's now CD37, and if the OPK was right I ovulated on CD35. Would be great if it was as I've been waited for a positive OPK for 5 months.
How was your wedding beefinch??? I've been wondering when you were going to check in
It was wonderful, thank you for asking! Went by SO fast. Here's a pic, my BIL took it during our first dance. We aren't getting our professional ones back for multiple weeks yet!
I'm not sure where to put this, but is anyone nervous to have another? I almost feel guilty as if I'd be taking time/attention etc from my DD. Did any of you BTDT moms feel this way when you were trying for a second child? I obviously know it will change the family dynamic but I go back and forth with feeling guilty.
I am not a BTDT mom but I feel this way all the time. I was quite firmly OAD and thought SO was too. I had a traumatic birth experience with DD and had no intention of repeating it. She is almost 3 now and for the first time I don't get really sad thinking about her having to share me with a little one. She is so much more independent now and I can see how much she loves babies and other kids. It is SO's choice to have another (because of his work schedule it is just me and DD most of the time so I don't think he fully gets the bond we have formed) but now that she has started school I feel good about trying to add a second. I hope some of that made sense.
I'm not sure where to put this, but is anyone nervous to have another? I almost feel guilty as if I'd be taking time/attention etc from my DD. Did any of you BTDT moms feel this way when you were trying for a second child? I obviously know it will change the family dynamic but I go back and forth with feeling guilty.
I felt guilty every single time. I ended up not being able to go back home and kiss my girls before my third was born (the hospital I delivered at was just over an hour away and my doc wouldn't let me leave because of BP issues) and I was absolutely devastated. But the reality is they didn't care because they were with Grammy and I absolutely love having three. Do they get less attention than if there was just one or two? Of course. But we have a lot of fun and I wouldn't change it for anything.
I'm not sure where to put this, but is anyone nervous to have another? I almost feel guilty as if I'd be taking time/attention etc from my DD. Did any of you BTDT moms feel this way when you were trying for a second child? I obviously know it will change the family dynamic but I go back and forth with feeling guilty.
I am not a BTDT mom but I feel this way all the time. I was quite firmly OAD and thought SO was too. I had a traumatic birth experience with DD and had no intention of repeating it. She is almost 3 now and for the first time I don't get really sad thinking about her having to share me with a little one. She is so much more independent now and I can see how much she loves babies and other kids. It is SO's choice to have another (because of his work schedule it is just me and DD most of the time so I don't think he fully gets the bond we have formed) but now that she has started school I feel good about trying to add a second. I hope some of that made sense.
That makes sense. It's helpful to think of how my DD will be in a few years as she will only get more independent. She loves playing with other kids so I know she'll enjoy a sibling. I think of all the time I had with her as a newborn and I know I wouldn't have that with a second. I guess I worry about have the quality time with both. I'm sorry you had a traumatic birth experience but glad that you are feeling ready for another.
Post by pearlvirus on Jan 20, 2017 14:45:12 GMT -5
Age of LO(s): 14 months and almost 3
Month/Cycle: tta
CD/DPO: cd14/iud still implanted
RRCS: We are nearing the end of a very long renovation project on a very old home and the contractor now says we will be moving in end of next month. He also said October and July, so we'll see. I just so badly want to stop living in limbo and get settled!
GTKY: Eh, we don't let the kids watch much. I saw this documentary called screenagers last month that made us clamp down even more. Figuring the right amount of technology to allow to kids is going to be scary hard. So I'll answer for my husband. He loves sponge bob square pant and I think it's about as annoying as it get. Enter mandatory headphones....
Post by obscurereference on Jan 21, 2017 18:09:03 GMT -5
@thatgolfbitch I don't really know the answers to your questions but I think it's a year of trying if you're under 35 and 6 months if you're 35 and up. I'm not sure how the long cycles factor in, though. Have they always been long? How long have you been off of BC? I think it can take awhile to get back to normal after BC. Sorry I'm not much help.
@thatgolfbitch I don't really know the answers to your questions but I think it's a year of trying if you're under 35 and 6 months if you're 35 and up. I'm not sure how the long cycles factor in, though. Have they always been long? How long have you been off of BC? I think it can take awhile to get back to normal after BC. Sorry I'm not much help.
This is the best I know as well. Your cycle can do weird things all the time. Before kids I was pretty much always a 30 day cycle. After my first they have ranged from 30-55 days, for no apparent reason. I've gotten pregnant 4 times since my first was born (and brought home two more babies), so it doesn't necessarily mean a bad outcome. Just less chances trying in a year. Annoying, but not necessarily a problem.
@thatgolfbitch, the other ladies had some good info. I wanted to add that I believe they say that any cycle up to 60 days can be considered "normal" but if your cycles are over 60 days I would seek out a doctor. I personally would go to a RE if you meet one of the 6 month or 1 year marks of trying or if you are having irregular cycles. Of course, that depends on your insurance and whatnot but I feel like the best decision I made was to go directly to the RE.
Thank you, this really helps. I will have to see how it goes. My cycles have not been super irregular, just a little long. Between 38-40 days and O between 23-26. I am 30 so I guess i wouldn't necessarily need to ask about it until the year mark of trying. I want to say the NP I talked to when I got my Nexplanon out said 8 months so maybe I will call at that mark if we are still trying. My insurance is pretty good but we all know fertility stuff gets dicey with insurance.
It can sometimes take 1-2 cycles to get all of the testing in that the RE wants to do so if you feel like 8 months is when you would like to start, I would say see what they say. Fertility coverage is very strange and hard to figure out sometimes when it comes to insurance. Mine covers testing but if I were to submit any treatment to insurance, all coverage (including further testing) terminates. We use my insurance for the testing but then I pay out of pocket for my meds and IUI. I want to say it was something like $500 OOP (I used my flex spending dollars). My H has his own insurance and he had to pay some co-insurance for his testing but it covered a portion of his sample wash for the IUI as well.
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