Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jan 20, 2017 22:07:19 GMT -5
And since I'm already on PW roll here, I have another confession.
I went to Walmart this evening to buy some heavier hand weights for my workout video, all I bought were the two 8lb weights. I pushed to weights in the cart back to my car even though I was only about 4 parking spaces away from the exit. The thought of carrying 16lbs in weights, a car seat with a baby in it and trying to hold my toddler's hand at the same time was too exhausting. I'm lazy AF, apparently.
Not my original confession: We upgraded to a queen bed when we bought our house back in May. I miss our full size bed. It's nice to stretch out but we hardly cuddle anymore. It was a simple way to connect most days and I miss it.
And since I'm already on PW roll here, I have another confession.
I went to Walmart this evening to buy some heavier hand weights for my workout video, all I bought were the two 8lb weights. I pushed to weights in the cart back to my car even though I was only about 4 parking spaces away from the exit. The thought of carrying 16lbs in weights, a car seat with a baby in it and trying to hold my toddler's hand at the same time was too exhausting. I'm lazy AF, apparently.
I did return the cart though.
I think I would have taken the cart to the car just with a toddler and a carseat! Let alone weights!
Not my original confession: We upgraded to a queen bed when we bought our house back in May. I miss our full size bed. It's nice to stretch out but we hardly cuddle anymore. It was a simple way to connect most days and I miss it.
we bought a king and I've never looked back. DNW cuddling. I want sleep.
This. I like to cuddle occasionally but only on my terms...i.e., if I'm cold, I'll snuggle to warm up, and then I want to be back on my own side of the bed without anyone touching me.
starbuck27 I'm legit dying over that dream. I think it has to mean something. Have you googled the interpretation of casual anal fisting dreams? Is that weird?
Not my original confession: We upgraded to a queen bed when we bought our house back in May. I miss our full size bed. It's nice to stretch out but we hardly cuddle anymore. It was a simple way to connect most days and I miss it.
we bought a king and I've never looked back. DNW cuddling. I want sleep.
We have a king, too. We upgraded a little over a year ago from a queen because with Lillian in the bed it was very crowded. It's so nice to have my own space when I sleep now. But I do miss cuddling before we go to sleep. We still do sometimes, but not as much as I'd like. I need to speak up I guess.
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 20, 2017 23:44:52 GMT -5
cheshie6 Ours is up out of pure laziness! All the ornaments and other decorations are put away but H hasn't taken the tree down because it's heavy and he doesn't feel like it (says the guy about to sign up for a gym membership 😂). And I wish I knew the pictures don't work half the time! I'll have to try something else.
starbuck27 OMG that is the funniest thing I've heard all day!!
kleigh You are truly awesome! I have been trying to be more present with C well. It's already going so fast and I don't want to miss anything. It sounds like you're doing amazing with 2!!
Thank you girls so much for the support. I realized something needed to change when I was sitting here every day in tears because of their crying/screaming. And then I'd be a massive bitch when H got in from work just thinking about how lucky he was to be able to shower in the morning, pee in peace and quiet at work, walk to grab lunch with a friend. On more than one occasion I daydreamed about running away or locking myself in a bathroom - plus other borderline PPD stuff. Having been through depression before I knew I had to get my thoughts and feelings under control before I spiral/gets worse. It's a challenge but I am just focusing on building my confidence, realizing I'm already succeeding even though it may not always feel like it, and trying to remember that they are doing their job as babies and I need to focus on doing my job as a mom.
ClassyMrsA I can clarify, they did little whimpers occasionally but not full on cry like I wasn't meeting their needs (which was previously happening multiple times a day and makes me feel like I'm failing and their yelling at me). I was able to anticipate them eating and napping and get prepared before they really had a chance to start the full on waterworks.
We have a king, too. We upgraded a little over a year ago from a queen because with Lillian in the bed it was very crowded. It's so nice to have my own space when I sleep now. But I do miss cuddling before we go to sleep. We still do sometimes, but not as much as I'd like. I need to speak up I guess.
I wish that cuddling was just cuddling and not anything more. Like, if I want to cuddle can't we just cuddle and thats it? Every time I've tried to just snuggle with DH he starts getting frisky and I'm like "nope sorry you misread my signals". But to my DH cuddling is like an unspoken invitation for sex. And I guess thats why I don't like to cuddle anymore.
Are we the same person? All of this. Mine is so aggressive too. FFSC: I hate him seeing me get undressed at all because he'll like rush at me and try to start something. If I'm in the bedroom changing into pjs and I hear him coming up the stairs, I run into my closet and quickly cover up so he doesn't see me. I think he thinks it's a compliment but I dread it.
Are we the same person? All of this. Mine is so aggressive too. FFSC: I hate him seeing me get undressed at all because he'll like rush at me and try to start something. If I'm in the bedroom changing into pjs and I hear him coming up the stairs, I run into my closet and quickly cover up so he doesn't see me. I think he thinks it's a compliment but I dread it.
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 21, 2017 11:44:29 GMT -5
H seems to pick the worst times to initiate. Like in the morning (no thank you) or when we go to bed after I was just passed out on the couch and barely made it up the stairs. When we were TTC, I used to get so mad when he didn't pick up on my signals during my FW. Men..
Wait a second. If you google lazy dog it's not the position I thought it was. I've been misled this whole time. I thought it was like big spoon / little spoon.
He did not start doing that until like a year ago. I actually asked like hey do you want me to reciprocate and he was adamantly against it.
Win win.
Ok so my late confession: I don't like oral. Giving or receiving. It feels great, but freaks me out.
I feel the same way. Luckily, dh isn't into it either. I do wish he initiated sex more, but right now we are both so exhausted by the time both kids are asleep I'm ok with just passing out at the end of the day. I would take some sign he's still attracted to me, though.
He did not start doing that until like a year ago. I actually asked like hey do you want me to reciprocate and he was adamantly against it.
Win win.
Ok so my late confession: I don't like oral. Giving or receiving. It feels great, but freaks me out.
I used to enjoy receiving but after giving birth, I won't let him down there. I'm still not used to how things feel physically after my tear and I'm weirded out by it.
Ok so my late confession: I don't like oral. Giving or receiving. It feels great, but freaks me out.
I used to enjoy receiving but after giving birth, I won't let him down there. I'm still not used to how things feel physically after my tear and I'm weirded out by it.
+1
It's been a few years now. He offers all the time but I just...can't.
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