Post by britab on Jan 23, 2017 23:12:12 GMT -5
I'm not sure of your specific situation, but there is no reason to do all middle of the night stuff, even if you're breastfeeding, even if you're going to be the one home with the baby and your husband is leaving for work. Wake his ass up to do diapers while you get situated to nurse. If you FF or even pump, he can do bottles while you get sleep.
Recovering from labor/delivery is no joke, and parenting should be a partnership every hour of the day.
There are of course some possible exceptions. but being the mom shouldn't ever automatically mean "I'll take all the broken sleep." If there are exceptions, other arrangements should be made for other hours where your partner can be primary caregiver regularly. It's important for everyone!
/Okay, off my soapbox.
This is also our first baby, so I really don't know what to expect but trying to set it up in a way that can work. The bed in the nursey worked for my SIL for the reason I want one, so we'll see if it works for us.
My mom will be over the first week to help while I'm recovering and my H will be off the following week. Hopefully I will be feeling ok to be alone during the day after the 2nd week.
For us:
I Bfed and we didn't do bottle night feedings at all. The first two weeks DH was home and got up when I did to help. He'd support me feeding, helping with positioning, snacks, diapers, refill my water, rock DD, etc.
When he went back to work I got up myself. DD was in our room for 3 months.
At 3 months DD went into her room. DH got up to soothe and I got up to feed. He'd do things like put her pacifier back in. When she smelled me she just wanted to nurse, even if she didn't need to.
You'll come up with your own rhythm.