Wednesday Wondering

[kartish]

I'm full of questions today.

Anyone else's kid obsessed with pajamas? V freaks out lately when we get him dressed in the morning, so much so that if he is just home with us, we leave him in them.

Also, for those mom's of two, what do you do when you are taking care of one and the other one freaks out wanting you? V flipped out this morning when DH was with him, only wanting mom. Makes me wonder what if I was nursing the newborn, how I would deal.

[agm04]

kartish DD loves putting her pjs on, but hasn't had freakouts over taking them off (yet). I have the same concerns about having a second and wondering how to handle it.

[lilyelayne]

kartish G wants to keep his PJ shirt on. I usually have success if I let him pick his own shirt and then help take his PJ shirt off. But sometimes it's not worth it if we're staying home.

Not a mom of two, but a common strategy is to have a basket of special toys that toddler can only play with while you're nursing. Or if he'll sit next to you, you could read to him. Or he gets phone/tablet/tv time while you nurse. Babywearing so you can have a hand or two free to interact with toddler can help too.

[lilyelayne]

Library this morning, another fairly successful music hour. Hoping the strike is over.

2/3 of the way through our yoga video, G got up, turned off the Xbox, and told me "time for nap, mom." Oh, okay. Not gonna argue with that!

[dreemkin]

kartish A is not noticeably into her pjs yet. Regarding the two kids dilemma: N was really easy going but when she wanted me I just let her help me feed her (but A was bottle fed). I remember suggesting that she feeds her baby doll sometimes. I don't remember N freaking out to the point I couldn't lay down A and address her needs if necessary. I know Nor wanted to help with EVERYthing. Diapers, burp rag, pacifier retrieval. Put V to work lol!

Also, I think you'll find a balance. Newborns lay around and sleep a lot so that's when I gave N more attention so she didn't feel like a 2nd priority (which of course she never was). A was in a bouncer probably more often then N but she seemed to like it! She could watch everything going on.

[kartish]

I'm sure it's just me having last minute panic thoughts, but pretty much every little thing with V

ETA, hit post too soon!

What I was going for is that I'm looking at everything during my day with V and either mourning or freaking out about all the things.

[dreemkin]

kartish totally normal feelings! I know nothing I say will really calm those fears bc you'll have to see for yourself. But your love as a family will grow so much that it just works out and you re-adapt. It really is a new normal!

ETA: things will change as V grows anyway, whether you have a second child or not. My mom always says that "the girls are changing" and it comes across as a negative thing (soooo my mother) and I always think that's such an odd comment. Because of course they will. Life marches on! And for the better!

[seamonster]

DS likes his PJs, but he's not obsessed with them.

Any sleep training tips for toddlers out of the crib? We're not closing his door and using a baby gate instead. But I need him to go back to sleep and quit this 90 minute awake business. And I'm afraid he'll just scale the gate.

[dreemkin]

aggiebug, Happy 2nd birthday to S!

[mishka29]

Jan 25, 2017 10:19:04 GMT -5 kartish said:

I'm full of questions today.

Anyone else's kid obsessed with pajamas? V freaks out lately when we get him dressed in the morning, so much so that if he is just home with us, we leave him in them.

Also, for those mom's of two, what do you do when you are taking care of one and the other one freaks out wanting you? V flipped out this morning when DH was with him, only wanting mom. Makes me wonder what if I was nursing the newborn, how I would deal.

I'll add to what was already said by suggesting a book we got. I liked this one bc it's wasn't all yeaaa a sibling. It points out things that will change as well and even says when moms feeding the baby you'll just have to wait lol. But done in a fun rhyming way.

It's called you're getting a baby sister by Sweeney. They have brother one too.

[mishka29]

Jan 25, 2017 16:56:46 GMT -5 seamonster said:

DS likes his PJs, but he's not obsessed with them.

Any sleep training tips for toddlers out of the crib? We're not closing his door and using a baby gate instead. But I need him to go back to sleep and quit this 90 minute awake business. And I'm afraid he'll just scale the gate.

Is there a reason you are going with the gate instead of closing the door?

[aggiebug]

Jan 25, 2017 17:38:03 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

aggiebug, Happy 2nd birthday to S!

Thanks. It's a good day to turn two over here . We have had such a fun day together, and it is hard to believe we have a two year old in the house.

[seamonster]

Jan 25, 2017 17:59:00 GMT -5 mishka29 said:

Jan 25, 2017 16:56:46 GMT -5 seamonster said:

DS likes his PJs, but he's not obsessed with them.

Any sleep training tips for toddlers out of the crib? We're not closing his door and using a baby gate instead. But I need him to go back to sleep and quit this 90 minute awake business. And I'm afraid he'll just scale the gate.

Is there a reason you are going with the gate instead of closing the door?

We've always had the door open so he can hear us (our door is open too) and we don't use the monitor with sound (he's a loud kid). Plus the airflow in our house is better with the door open and he's blocked off to his bathroom sink area by a gate (no door there).

[seamonster]

Jan 25, 2017 18:04:56 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

Jan 25, 2017 17:38:03 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

aggiebug, Happy 2nd birthday to S!

Thanks. It's a good day to turn two over here . We have had such a fun day together, and it is hard to believe we have a two year old in the house.

I'm so glad she's having a good birthday.

[lilyelayne]

aggiebug happy birthday S!

[dreemkin]

seamonster we have used a door monkey in the past but it basically leaves the door open a crack so it might be hard to hear still. My cousin's installed a whole screen door in their daughter's doorway (they said to keep a climbing cat out). That's all I've got.

ETA: you might just need to work on his behavior. Like sleep training all over again 😣 I might be in the same boat when A wants out of her crib. I'm thinking she will not want to stay in her room either...but no experience with a resistant toddler yet.

[aggiebug]

Cupcakes I made

And someone is excited for her birthday trip to the aquarium.

[seamonster]

Jan 25, 2017 19:25:18 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

seamonster we have used a door monkey in the past but it basically leaves the door open a crack so it might be hard to hear still. My cousin's installed a whole screen door in their daughter's doorway (they said to keep a climbing cat out). That's all I've got.

ETA: you might just need to work on his behavior. Like sleep training all over again 😣 I might be in the same boat when A wants out of her crib. I'm thinking she will not want to stay in her room either...but no experience with a resistant toddler yet.

The screen door is a good idea since I haven't been able to find a Dutch door for under $800 and H doesn't particularly want to cut to cut a door and build it ourselves.

[dreemkin]

Omgosh, aggiebug! Adorable - to both pics! Glad you had a fun day.

[mishka29]

Jan 25, 2017 18:31:05 GMT -5 seamonster said:

Jan 25, 2017 17:59:00 GMT -5 mishka29 said:

Is there a reason you are going with the gate instead of closing the door?

We've always had the door open so he can hear us (our door is open too) and we don't use the monitor with sound (he's a loud kid). Plus the airflow in our house is better with the door open and he's blocked off to his bathroom sink area by a gate (no door there).

Double gates? Stack one on top of the other. Lol

When we moved dd1 to a bed we stared at a nap time and she got out of bed 6 times. We went back in, put her in and walked out. After that she never got out of bed unless we told her she could. That lasted for a year and a half. And she was 18 months when we did the big bed (needed the crib). Now it's a shit show in her room and anything goes. But the door is closed with a kid proof handle.

For the training part I would just do it the super nanny way. Put them back in and walk away as many times as it takes.

[kartish]

Jan 25, 2017 20:33:22 GMT -5 seamonster said:

Jan 25, 2017 19:25:18 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

seamonster we have used a door monkey in the past but it basically leaves the door open a crack so it might be hard to hear still. My cousin's installed a whole screen door in their daughter's doorway (they said to keep a climbing cat out). That's all I've got.

ETA: you might just need to work on his behavior. Like sleep training all over again 😣 I might be in the same boat when A wants out of her crib. I'm thinking she will not want to stay in her room either...but no experience with a resistant toddler yet.

The screen door is a good idea since I haven't been able to find a Dutch door for under $800 and H doesn't particularly want to cut to cut a door and build it ourselves.

My brother made us a Dutch door and said it was a pain in the butt to do. But it is really nice to have for naps and when I need to contain him temporarily.

[kartish]

Happy birthday to S aggiebug, I hope you all had a great time at the aquarium!

I'm going to check that book out mishka29, thanks for the recommend.

dreemkin thanks, I need to remember that change is coming any which way, and I'm sure V will be a great big brother. It's just hard to see that right now.

V flipped out again with the pjs today. Took him forever to calm down too. No idea what is it about his pjs. We try to get him to pick his shirt, but once the jammies come off, it's a struggle. Who knows.