I come here when I'm sensitive to bfp type posts, and even seeing a general bfp check-in would trigger me on those days.
I'm just still confused as to what a "BFP checkin" is. It seems like just a permanently stickied Big Fat pregnancy announcement, which seems really inappropriate for an infertility support board.
This makes sense. I was trying to come up with a compromise. But I can see that it would still be hurtful.
The TTCA and Pregnancy check-ins are pretty short threads to lurk especially compared to the newborn, infant or breastfeeding check-ins. I lurk them because I enjoy offering support and I don't want to miss the news.
I'm done having LO's and while BFP's wouldn't be upsetting to me now, I'm sure it probably would be really upsetting for me to come here and see BFP's plastered all over the place if I weren't done.... especially if I'd done a few cycles with BFN's or losses.
What does 3T/IF do? Are their BFP's kept to the check-ins?
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I come here when I'm sensitive to bfp type posts, and even seeing a general bfp check-in would trigger me on those days.
I'm just still confused as to what a "BFP checkin" is. It seems like just a permanently stickied Big Fat pregnancy announcement, which seems really inappropriate for an infertility support board.
+1
And it's not that hard to lurk the TTCA and Pregnancy check-ins. As PP said, they're short.
The TTCA and Pregnancy check-ins are pretty short threads to lurk especially compared to the newborn, infant or breastfeeding check-ins. I lurk them because I enjoy offering support and I don't want to miss the news.
I'm done having LO's and while BFP's wouldn't be upsetting to me now, I'm sure it probably would be really upsetting for me to come here and see BFP's plastered all over the place if I weren't done.... especially if I'd done a few cycles with BFN's or losses.
What does 3T/IF do? Are their BFP's kept to the check-ins?
Yeah, at least for the last year or so, they are kept in the check-ins.
I don't know; for some reason even the individual BFP threads seem different here than on 3T. Maybe because our sole purpose for being on that board was to root for each other to get pregnant (usually for the first time). So when someone did, seeing an individual thread about it never bothered me. FINALLY that person made it off that damn island! Whereas here... subsequent pregnancies deserve congratulations, sure. But we've all already made it off that island once, and the purpose of this board isn't to graduate to another one. KWIM?
TTCA and Pregnancy threads seem to cover the bases for pregnancy announcements.
Can I call a consensus that enough women on the board care that they shouldn't be a stand alone announcement or have their own thread? All BFPs should remain in the ttca or PG check in and those who want to see the news can commit to reading the checkins.
If anyone strongly disagrees please say so. But ifnot, I think we are agreeing we want women to be as comfortable as possible in this regard and that sounds like leaving things as is is most appropriate.
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