Well, we have one home visit under our belt! I felt like it went ok. No issues with the house. The interview got invasive, which I was expecting but not actually prepared for if that makes sense. It left me feeling a bit less confident than I went in feeling. We have our next visit in two weeks, and it's an even more in-depth personal interview so that will be *super fun.*
I'm trying to rember that this is about placing vulnerable kids into the best circumstances they can find, and not at all about judging me personally. That's just really hard!
DH and I had our interviews today... our next home visit will be the inspection... I had to remember that it was really about the kids and not trying to judge me too!
Still fostering the same two sisters. Just hit the 3-year mark on Valentine's Day. Caseworker says the girls will go live with their dad "soon." Who knows.
Still fostering the same two sisters. Just hit the 3-year mark on Valentine's Day. Caseworker says the girls will go live with their dad "soon." Who knows.
I'm sorry to hear there still hasn't been any progress for your case. FX things are resolved soon.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Feb 26, 2017 13:13:27 GMT -5
ceejay, Congrats on having the little one join your family. Newborns are hard, but so amazing. I hope that you get the status changed for the older two boys, and think it is so wonderful that they are all together.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Feb 26, 2017 13:17:13 GMT -5
wesleycrusher ugh, that is SO SO frustrating. Like I'm trying to think about all the possible 'reasons' why that worker is handling things so poorly, but seriously I have nothing. The system is so incredibly broken on so many levels, and the children are the ones who ultimately suffer. I can't get over the level of incompetence. Like why would she seriously not already have that information??? I know in our province our children's aid societies are undergoing a major 'reform' (again) to help try to strengthen the system, but it takes so much time. One of the things I have heard they will be implementing is protection workers having to have specific certification to be in the position that will have to be evaluated and renewed on a regular basis. The hopes being that there will be a greater level of accountability on the work they provide. Can't come soon enough in my opinion.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by redandblue on Feb 26, 2017 13:22:19 GMT -5
@coffeeismylyfe, lvlyldybmp, I know the process is so invasive. One thing that helped me when they are asking all the questions and going through whole family histories, it does feel so invasive and feeling like "wow my family is dysfuntional", but those experiences are actually good when adopting or fostering through a CAS. The people who go into adopting and fostering who have had 'perfect' lives (not that there is such a thing, but never experienced much adversity) often don't do well fostering or adopting, because they truly can't relate. They want to see that we have been faced with life's challenges and how we have been able to be resilient through it all. It helps make a better match.
And absolutely the stories that are shared during the training classes are definitely scary, but i think they want people to be completely prepared with how challenging it might be, but often it is not as scary as they present.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Post by daffodilsandcoffee on Feb 26, 2017 17:01:00 GMT -5
Update on my nephew. We are going to call the social workers tomorrow and withdraw our names from consideration for placement. We had the opportunity to speak with the foster parents and the GAL. His medical condition is much more precarious than we had been led to believe and we feel like he has bonded with the FPs and is better off with the team of doctors that he has been with since the beginning. My family is really taking it hard but they understand. We just want what his best for the boy, and talking to the GAL really helped us make that decision. I still have to tell my sibling. That's going to be rough for sure.
Since we are only one class from licensure (this week!) we are going to continue with social services and try to help a child in need here.
Update on my nephew. We are going to call the social workers tomorrow and withdraw our names from consideration for placement. We had the opportunity to speak with the foster parents and the GAL. His medical condition is much more precarious than we had been led to believe and we feel like he has bonded with the FPs and is better off with the team of doctors that he has been with since the beginning. My family is really taking it hard but they understand. We just want what his best for the boy, and talking to the GAL really helped us make that decision. I still have to tell my sibling. That's going to be rough for sure.
Since we are only one class from licensure (this week!) we are going to continue with social services and try to help a child in need here.
((Hugs)). Perhaps there can be some level of openness also. And it's wonderful that you are moving forward on fostering.
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