Post by fikafairy67 on Feb 4, 2017 23:43:33 GMT -5
I'm not sure the best place to ask this, but I wanted to get some thoughts from all of you about next steps.
We desperately want to bring home another living child someday after our loss in September. We have a LOT of options that we have to consider, and I feel like every day I feel a different way.
Our cause of loss has a 50% chance of reoccurring again, with roughly 80% survival rates if treated correctly with no lasting issues (only an issue during pregnancy). We obviously fell into the bad end of those odds...
Since our odds were supposed to be "great" - we were told about 90%, obviously we didn't think we would fall in there - we didn't ever think this would happen. But now we have to make some difficult decisions...
We can do IVF with PGD to the tune of $25k roughly for ONE round, we can adopt an embryo or baby (ranges from $6-40k depending on who tells us) we can use donor sperm with IUI (less than $8k, most likely) or just gamble and hope things work out. There is a treatment that is only offered/covered by insurance after a loss, which has been successful in all other cases I know about except two, which had other factors. But it's invasive and still anxiety provoking.
What would all of you do? The cost of IVF is staggering/almost impossible, but the emotional cost of another loss is just too much. My insurance won't cover any infertility treatments (regardless of the reason, and I had no issues conceiving/carrying) and I don't live in a state where it's required.
I just feel stuck and like none of the options are possible... I thought about posting this on the IVF board, but didn't feel like it was appropriate.
We desperately want to bring home another living child someday after our loss in September. We have a LOT of options that we have to consider, and I feel like every day I feel a different way.
Our cause of loss has a 50% chance of reoccurring again, with roughly 80% survival rates if treated correctly with no lasting issues (only an issue during pregnancy). We obviously fell into the bad end of those odds...
Since our odds were supposed to be "great" - we were told about 90%, obviously we didn't think we would fall in there - we didn't ever think this would happen. But now we have to make some difficult decisions...
We can do IVF with PGD to the tune of $25k roughly for ONE round, we can adopt an embryo or baby (ranges from $6-40k depending on who tells us) we can use donor sperm with IUI (less than $8k, most likely) or just gamble and hope things work out. There is a treatment that is only offered/covered by insurance after a loss, which has been successful in all other cases I know about except two, which had other factors. But it's invasive and still anxiety provoking.
What would all of you do? The cost of IVF is staggering/almost impossible, but the emotional cost of another loss is just too much. My insurance won't cover any infertility treatments (regardless of the reason, and I had no issues conceiving/carrying) and I don't live in a state where it's required.
I just feel stuck and like none of the options are possible... I thought about posting this on the IVF board, but didn't feel like it was appropriate.
