Post by sleepymonkey on Feb 8, 2017 20:22:12 GMT -5
mcp6286 and hpnegirl, I think my issue with the snoogle is that I'm really picky about my pillow and that just doesn't do it for my head. I liked my snoogle mini that I had last time better because you could use your own pillow for your head but I got the regular one this time.
- being sick (this sinus infection is my 6th sickness this pregnancy and is not gone yet) - being tired all the time - running out of breath - being constipated and basically pooping every 2-3 days - constant indigestion and heartburn no matter what I eat
- a boy and a girl? You're done... a rich man's family...two for one... a perfect family... and it goes on. I was done regardless after this, thanks to my crappy ovary and age, but the people rooting for an even sex split baffle me. - people telling us how hard it will be. I have no idea how hard it will be, but we're preparing for the worst. We've been together for 17 years, just us and dogs, so even one baby would be a shock to our normal. - this boy in my ribs. Move, young man. He's been there for a couple of months, but as they grow, the pain is getting worse.
sleepymonkey I feel like the snoogle makes me end up on my back more often.
...of heartburn. Though out of all the possible symptoms I guess I'll take it.
...of having to be on multi-week trials while pregnant. It's exhausting. I have 2-3 more before leave.
...of my mother wanting to give me name suggestions. We never tell the name, you don't get to pick, I also don't want to have to fight not wanting to use a name you pick if it's one I already like because rebellion, I love you but staaaahhhhp.
...of feeling like I'm zero help around the house because I'm so pooped after work.
...of working in general, anyone have a spare trust fund lying around?
Post by rosesquared on Feb 9, 2017 10:10:54 GMT -5
I'll add one more. For some reason the most common question I keep getting is have you picked a name yet. And I'm like no but we won't be telling anyway. But it's annoying cause it stresses me out like there's something wrong with us that we don't have a name yet! This is a major decision that will impact our daughter for the rest of her life lol! It takes time!
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- sinus infections - not sleeping (love/hate relationship with the snoogle) - related to above: being exhausted - my family telling me how big I am (I think they mean it as a compliment...?) - being cranky
Basically, I'm done being pregnant. I want her to cook till the end, of course, but I am glad that we have no plans to do this again. I am just not one of those "The best I ever felt was during pregnancy!" women.
- sinus infections - not sleeping (love/hate relationship with the snoogle) - related to above: being exhausted - my family telling me how big I am (I think they mean it as a compliment...?) - being cranky
Basically, I'm done being pregnant. I want her to cook till the end, of course, but I am glad that we have no plans to do this again. I am just not one of those "The best I ever felt was during pregnancy!" women.
I'm convinced those women are not human. 99% of women I know were not those kinds of women.
icedteasleepymonkey I've had multiple people go "i just loved being pregnant!" I want to punch them all. I do not enjoy this process; it's a means to an end for me.
I'm over the weight gain. I'm the heaviest I've ever been and it's irritating I can't workout and lose the weight. I was doing good with working out all summer but then I got pregnant and injured so my hard work has been undone. I currently weigh what I did when I delivered DS and it's a hard pill for me to swallow (I've always had body image issues..)
I'm also over the comments "you HAVE to breastfeed because X/Y/Z." STFU. My decision is made and all you are doing is making me feel like something is wrong with me. Again.
When I was pregnant with DS1, I had two workmates who spent half an hour trying to convince me to pump so I could "have the best of both worlds!" Neither of them have kids.. I got shamed by another workmate when I went back to work for not breastfeeding. It made me feel like something was wrong with me for not wanting to in the first place
I'll add one more. For some reason the most common question I keep getting is have you picked a name yet. And I'm like no but we won't be telling anyway. But it's annoying cause it stresses me out like there's something wrong with us that we don't have a name yet! This is a major decision that will impact our daughter for the rest of her life lol! It takes time!
+1 what is it with people all asking about the name?!? We haven't decided either, it's a huge decision. I also told MH no one is going to know the name until he's born now because I'm tired of getting asked. Lol
Post by sleepymonkey on Feb 9, 2017 10:53:10 GMT -5
hpnegirl, I started out this pregnancy only 12 pounds less than my highest weight ever so I have been ultra-sensitive to weight gain. I just found out that I have gained 15 lbs so far, which for a normal weight person would be good but I'm only supposed to gain 15-20 lbs so I'm a little freaked about what is going to happen in 3rd trimester. I'm already stressed about how I'm going to get all this extra weight I have been carrying off, while working full time and dealing with 2 kids. Also, even if I do end up attempting to BF baby boy, he will be on formula by the time I go back to work. I know several women who have pumped at work and they hated it. Plus, my building at work is basically over-capacity and they have taken over the "privacy rooms" to use as offices so there would basically be nowhere for me to pump. All of the midwives at my practice and the pedi have said they don't care how the baby is fed, as long as it's fed. Why do other people feel like their opinions matter on the way we feed our babies?
emmalynn you should start responding with "well we're hoping for a puppy this time, but we'll see". I get that one all the time too. I'm not sure why people are shocked when you're going to wait. It's not like our parents were able to find out beforehand.
irish14 I can't imagine doing a trial right now. I barely make it through my docket afternoon and am in pain for 2 days after.
rosesquared and txcatlady +1 for not having names picked out. I don't know why people are so obsessed with knowing every detail!
hpnegirl I feel your pain with the weight gain. I was losing weight before I got pregnant and injured my foot last year at this time. It was just getting to the place where I could start doing low impact exercise when we got pregnant so I haven't started again.
Also, I'm sorry you've been shamed before about not breastfeeding. That's not cool. I also don't see how pumping is the best of both worlds. Being stuck to a machine for how long just so someone else can give a bottle sucks.
I'll add one more. For some reason the most common question I keep getting is have you picked a name yet. And I'm like no but we won't be telling anyway. But it's annoying cause it stresses me out like there's something wrong with us that we don't have a name yet! This is a major decision that will impact our daughter for the rest of her life lol! It takes time!
+1 what is it with people all asking about the name?!? We haven't decided either, it's a huge decision. I also told MH no one is going to know the name until he's born now because I'm tired of getting asked. Lol
I wish we had done this last time.. our first name never changed but we went through 4 middle names. When we finally settled on the middle name, we didn't share it.
hpnegirl, I started out this pregnancy only 12 pounds less than my highest weight ever so I have been ultra-sensitive to weight gain. I just found out that I have gained 15 lbs so far, which for a normal weight person would be good but I'm only supposed to gain 15-20 lbs so I'm a little freaked about what is going to happen in 3rd trimester. I'm already stressed about how I'm going to get all this extra weight I have been carrying off, while working full time and dealing with 2 kids. Also, even if I do end up attempting to BF baby boy, he will be on formula by the time I go back to work. I know several women who have pumped at work and they hated it. Plus, my building at work is basically over-capacity and they have taken over the "privacy rooms" to use as offices so there would basically be nowhere for me to pump. All of the midwives at my practice and the pedi have said they don't care how the baby is fed, as long as it's fed. Why do other people feel like their opinions matter on the way we feed our babies?
Our pedi and my MWs are the same way. Our old pedi and my old OB were also the same way. I got asked once at an appointment if I thought about it, said I wasn't interested, and that was that.
hpnegirl one of the names we're considering is DHs first name (also his grandfathers name) and my dads first name (also both of my grandfathers names) as the middle name, Ro.bert Ja.mes I know our families will get stuck on wanting us to use that name and I don't want them pushing us in any way. If we choose to not use a family name at all we have others that we both like
hpnegirl and sleepymonkey, yes! My mom and MIL (and a good friend) are all "pregnancy was great!" types. And I just want to glare at them, even though I know they don't mean it maliciously. I'm truly glad it was so positive for them, and I'm thrilled to be pregnant, but no. I'll be happy at the end of May when the little girl is out.
I'm sorry for everyone who has gotten crap about breastfeeding. I hate that we (general society "we") feel the need to judge over that. I plan on attempting to BF, but it'll be what it is.
I am struggling with the weight a bit. I've gained ~25 lbs (I'm not exactly sure how much I weighed when I got pregnant). I was on the smaller side to start, and my doctor isn't worried at all, but it's rough for me mentally. Especially since I know I'm not making the best food/exercise choices.
hpnegirl J.ames and Ale.xander (please let me know if you want those deleted) are so so high on my list. I actually was planning on doing that as a full name but then Owen popped in my head and it seems to fit.
Post by sleepymonkey on Feb 9, 2017 14:11:21 GMT -5
hpnegirl, Those are great names! lupincat, I am 99% sure that Owen will be DS's name. It's the only name we keep coming back to, though I also really like Andrew but MH nixed that name based on an old childhood enemy. His middle name will be Lee after my dad's MN but my parents do not know that yet.
Post by sleepymonkey on Feb 9, 2017 14:15:45 GMT -5
icedtea, I was "normal weight" when I got pregnant with DD. I ended up gaining 50 lbs and was so disappointed in myself. My ob at the time didn't see an issue at all, but he was very lax in his "rules". When I looked at the scale the morning I went in for my induction, my jaw about hit the floor. I lost about 20 of it pretty quickly after DD was born but then life happened and I had a hard time adjusting to being a FTM and my weight ballooned. Because I know this is our last child, I am already trying to figure out my weight loss plan after delivery. I figure is I keep to only gaining a total of 20 lbs this pregnancy, I can get back down to my start pretty quickly. But it's the other 50 lbs that I need to lose that I'm concerned about.
I feel like you all are living my life. My pregnancy pillow has not helped at all this pregnancy. I'm so done with being pregnant. I just want to sleep and wake up and it be May.
sleepymonkey, I'm in the same boat for weight. I started out my highest weight ever. I was normal weight before DD and then gained 50 pounds. Then I lost 30 pounds gained 30 pounds, etc. yoyoing because of anti-depressants. I'm the hugest I've ever been and am depressed about it. I can't wait until my body is mine again
Here are things I am sick of:
1. Braxton effing Hicks. They hurt now. Because I'm dehydrated. But if I drink too much water and have a full bladder, then I get more contractions. NO.
2. My feet becoming water balloons by the end of the day. Permanent cankles.
3. My hips separating because bodies are rude.
4. The fact that my support belt makes my bump look lumpier.
5. The look I get when people ask me when I'm due and I say May. I get it, I'm big.
6. Pretty much everything. I hate everything while pregnant, haha. I'm also glad that this most likely my last pregnancy. And I feel guilty about that since I had IF....
I also hate the "now you'll have a perfect family" because we're having a boy after DD. Even the OB said it, for goodness sake.
We didn't share our name for DD, and don't plan on sharing our ideas for this one either- people are too annoying with their comments.
We get shocked looks when people find out we don't know if we're having a boy or girl. The last couple people who've asked what we think we'll have or hope we'll have, has been given 'human' as the response. It usually makes them laugh and stop asking questions.
@setsuna The comments on baby's sex really bug me. Who dictates that the "perfect" family is one boy and one girl? FFS...
I keep getting "you're going to have a third, right? So you can try for a girl?" Um.. if we do decide to go for a third, it won't be to try for a girl. They always look taken aback when I retort that we actually wanted a second boy. People are idiots
Post by BabyStandish on Feb 9, 2017 18:12:57 GMT -5
nikonine OMG I freaking hate that question too. People always ask us "what we hope to have"....seriously people?? I usually just laugh at them and say we don't care, just a healthy baby would be great. I'm also tired of the shock people give us that we are team green. They are always like "what? that would drive me crazy!" ...and the "then how are you doing the room?"
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