wannabmama do you plan on shopping at all before or after dinner? I was thinking of heading down early....
Hmmm, if I can get stuff done around the house, I might head up early. I don't know that mall at all...but I can always do some shopping I'll let you know how things are going!
Sounds good, just text me. I looked at the list of stores and was sad for no motherhood because I haven't purchased new yoga pants or nursing bras like I wanted to. I did however spend too much money on M lol.
Hmmm, if I can get stuff done around the house, I might head up early. I don't know that mall at all...but I can always do some shopping I'll let you know how things are going!
Sounds good, just text me. I looked at the list of stores and was sad for no motherhood because I haven't purchased new yoga pants or nursing bras like I wanted to. I did however spend too much money on M lol.
I may have talked mh into going to the outlet mall today before our BBQ. I hope there are some nice gender neutral clothes I can snag!
Me too. Although he has way more of it than I do, so I probably should stop complaining. I want him to share his, but I don't want to share mine, lol!
I make more money than MH now so I think I should have all the control.
MH always wants us to combine and I'm dragging my feet...I made waaaay more than he did for the first three years, but now I make less. Still, I don't like him knowing every penny I have and where it goes. I said I'd put all but a certain part a month in joint and I want my own savings, which I'm fine with...I also know that he is unlikely to make any efforts to make anything happen, because...lazy. So nothing is likely to change anytime soon.
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Post by mustloveerica on Feb 20, 2017 11:33:55 GMT -5
As far as spending for baby goes. MH and I have one checking account and separate savings accounts. We don't make equal incomes but we've worked out how much fairly goes to checking and savings each month. Anything NEEDED for baby I pay for straight from our checking account. If I go on a random baby clothes shopping spree I might take it from my savings because it's more stuff I want than stuff baby needs. Either way MH doesn't care and has never said anything about my spending (baby or otherwise). And likewise me for him. If he wants a video game he usually takes it out of his savings. Anything for the family/house/pets comes out of the joint account no questions asked. The system works for us. But we are also both extremely careful with our money and having the same mindset definitely helps.
Sounds good, just text me. I looked at the list of stores and was sad for no motherhood because I haven't purchased new yoga pants or nursing bras like I wanted to. I did however spend too much money on M lol.
I may have talked mh into going to the outlet mall today before our BBQ. I hope there are some nice gender neutral clothes I can snag!
I make more money than MH now so I think I should have all the control.
MH always wants us to combine and I'm dragging my feet...I made waaaay more than he did for the first three years, but now I make less. Still, I don't like him knowing every penny I have and where it goes. I said I'd put all but a certain part a month in joint and I want my own savings, which I'm fine with...I also know that he is unlikely to make any efforts to make anything happen, because...lazy. So nothing is likely to change anytime soon.
Lol yes. We didn't combine until Year 3 of our marriage. I still have a very small personal account that I buy lunch from when I don't want him to know.
Hmmm, if I can get stuff done around the house, I might head up early. I don't know that mall at all...but I can always do some shopping I'll let you know how things are going!
Sounds good, just text me. I looked at the list of stores and was sad for no motherhood because I haven't purchased new yoga pants or nursing bras like I wanted to. I did however spend too much money on M lol.
Is destination maternity same/similar? There's one right near the mall I think (I know nothing about these stores yet
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by akraus2015 on Feb 20, 2017 11:41:02 GMT -5
Speaking of toys...I have a rant, and maybe I'm being a little irrational here...feel free to tell me so if that's the case.
My mom keeps texting me (over the last month or so) about things she and my step dad want to buy for Oliver. Recent ideas have included a $4,000 Go-kart that he can't ride until he's 5, a dirt bike, and yesterday, a large backyard treehouse/playplace thing with a slide and such.
At first it was funny, but now I'm just annoyed. Yesterday's text of "look what grandpa is pricing" and the like $1,000 treehouse/playplace just about sent me over the edge. I get that they want to be cool grandparents and all, but we're breaking our necks charging necessities to our credit card and buying diapers to prepare for...you know...WHEN HE'S ACTUALLY BORN.
My ILs graciously bought us nursery furniture over the weekend, and I'm so thankful because that's stuff he actually NEEDS. What I really want to tell my mom is to stop f***ing around with go-karts and actually be helpful if she wants to spend her money. We could use a co-sleeper, or a car seat, or a stroller, or a million other things we can't really afford right now. She "let" me use her Kohl's credit card for $60 worth of crib bedding, but then made me pay her back for it right away. But wants to buy the kid a treehouse...
I know it's not her job to buy necessities for us, and we'll be absolutely fine if we do end up needing to buy them ourselves. I guess I'm just frustrated because she's always been really irresponsible with money and our still-in-utero son does not need a $4,000 go-kart that he won't be able to ride until 2021. I want to tell her to f-right-off with every dumb text I get...
Post by mustloveerica on Feb 20, 2017 11:46:19 GMT -5
akraus2015 if I were you I would send her the car seat or whatever that you want and say something like "that treehouse is really cool, but isn't this car seat nice?" Or "look at this Stroller I just found, it has a cup holder and all these accessories!" I would trick them somehow into shopping for the right stuff. They want to be cool grandparents? Steer them towards cool strollers or the best car seat or encourage her to pick the fabric for the glider. Then maybe they'll still feel like they're finding this really awesome new cool stuff but it ends up being stuff you need now and not later.
akraus2015 if I were you I would send her the car seat or whatever that you want and say something like "that treehouse is really cool, but isn't this car seat nice?" Or "look at this Stroller I just found, it has a cup holder and all these accessories!" I would trick them somehow into shopping for the right stuff. They want to be cool grandparents? Steer them towards cool strollers or the best car seat or encourage her to pick the fabric for the glider. Then maybe they'll still feel like they're finding this really awesome new cool stuff but it ends up being stuff you need now and not later.
I've tried that a few times and always get a response like "that sure is an expensive [whatever I picked out]. we didn't have those things when you girls were young and we did just fine". I think it's more just my annoyance at her irresponsible spending habits. It's no big deal for them to randomly go finance some tractor or fancy mower or something that my dad wants, and I think they have the same mindset about stuff "for Oliver" that will live at their house. She can't justify dropping $400 cash on a stroller system that I'll use for him regularly, but a $4,000 go-kart seems like no big deal because "you can make payments on it!". [Insert biggest of eye roll emojis here.]
akraus2015 I'd have no problem putting my foot down on my mom/parents if they pulled this shit.
No, my child does not need something that will wear and rust for five years. If you want to buy it, don't give it to me, because I'm not taking it. I need x and x and x for when he's born and I'm not going to waste my time or limited storage space on your midlife crisis.
Sounds good, just text me. I looked at the list of stores and was sad for no motherhood because I haven't purchased new yoga pants or nursing bras like I wanted to. I did however spend too much money on M lol.
Is destination maternity same/similar? There's one right near the mall I think (I know nothing about these stores yet
Yes Destination Maternity has motherhood and pea in a pod. Maybe I'll hit that up before dinner.
akraus2015 I'd have no problem putting my foot down on my mom/parents if they pulled this shit.
No, my child does not need something that will wear and rust for five years. If you want to buy it, don't give it to me, because I'm not taking it. I need x and x and x for when he's born and I'm not going to waste my time or limited storage space on your midlife crisis.
Or if you buy it, make sure you give me the receipt. I also have no problem *gently* letting them know that it's not the best idea for now.
Yes Destination Maternity has motherhood and pea in a pod. Maybe I'll hit that up before dinner.
Ooooo there's a maternity store at the outlets too. I'm not even showing yet, but I'll need clothes at some point, right?
I've bought a few things this week already...great sales I couldn't pass up. Plus, I am actually "showing" or just fatter, whichever...but either way I need more forgiving clothing and I might as well get maternity at this point, ha!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
akraus2015 my ILs are the same way. They buy all this useless crap but anything we actually need? She waits until we buy it and then complains "but I wanted to get that!!eleventy!!" while purchasing stuff they can't use for years to come.
It's actually really pissing me off lately since we ended up forking up the money for all the big stuff and she's barely acknowledged this baby exists but she's all over seeing DS1 and visiting constantly.. 🙄
FFMC: as much as I loathe the "just wait" comments and refuse to say them, I had to really bite my tongue over the weekend in Buy Buy Baby where a mom-to-be was talking about how her baby will never be rocked when the grandma-to-be was looking to buy her a glider...
<-- still uses glider for two year old every nap and bedtime (he goes down awake, we just have a routine of rocking during sleep time story time)
Ooooo there's a maternity store at the outlets too. I'm not even showing yet, but I'll need clothes at some point, right?
I've bought a few things this week already...great sales I couldn't pass up. Plus, I am actually "showing" or just fatter, whichever...but either way I need more forgiving clothing and I might as well get maternity at this point, ha!
I still fit into my jeans, so I feel silly buying maternity clothes. But then I think, well it can't hurt to give the baby a little more space. Lol
FFMC: as much as I loathe the "just wait" comments and refuse to say them, I had to really bite my tongue over the weekend in Buy Buy Baby where a mom-to-be was talking about how her baby will never be rocked when the grandma-to-be was looking to buy her a glider...
<-- still uses glider for two year old every nap and bedtime (he goes down awake, we just have a routine of rocking during sleep time story time)
Lol what's so wrong with rocking your baby? That's an odd thing to get upset about.
akraus2015 ugh that IS frustrating! Well if she drops 4K on a go-cart just return it haha.
Wouldn't that be nice?! I'd return it and buy literally everything on my baby registry. But she plans to keep these things "at grandma and grandpa's house for when he comes to visit". Side eye.
FFMC: as much as I loathe the "just wait" comments and refuse to say them, I had to really bite my tongue over the weekend in Buy Buy Baby where a mom-to-be was talking about how her baby will never be rocked when the grandma-to-be was looking to buy her a glider...
<-- still uses glider for two year old every nap and bedtime (he goes down awake, we just have a routine of rocking during sleep time story time)
Lol what's so wrong with rocking your baby? That's an odd thing to get upset about.
I don't know.. we've rocked him since they day he got home and gradually transitioned from "rock to sleep" to "drowsy but awake" to "awake and down on his own". He loves rocking and I don't mind
FFMC: as much as I loathe the "just wait" comments and refuse to say them, I had to really bite my tongue over the weekend in Buy Buy Baby where a mom-to-be was talking about how her baby will never be rocked when the grandma-to-be was looking to buy her a glider...
<-- still uses glider for two year old every nap and bedtime (he goes down awake, we just have a routine of rocking during sleep time story time)
The glider was the thing I was most excited about purchasing! I'll be using it for myself before he even gets here, lol.
Lol what's so wrong with rocking your baby? That's an odd thing to get upset about.
I don't know.. we've rocked him since they day he got home and gradually transitioned from "rock to sleep" to "drowsy but awake" to "awake and down on his own". He loves rocking and I don't mind
I guess to me, it seems like a natural movement to make with a baby. Like swaying or bouncing. Lol
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