Post by ThankfulSnail on Feb 21, 2017 14:02:57 GMT -5
jennykat, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been feeling this way. And I'm sorry to hear you were in L&D this morning, I hope all is ok.
I have not walked a mile in your shoes so I won't begin to say that I can understand but I can empathize with how you must have felt to read comments so radically different from what you felt comfortable with at that stage in your pregnancy. I hope you know you are incredibly welcome here at any time and I think I speak for everyone when I say we'd love to chat with and support you if you ever felt more comfortable posting here.
jennykat I'm so sorry you've had struggles. My first pregnancy I was in and out of L&D for issues and was terrified. I'm glad everything looked good and you are home relaxing.
This pregnancy didn't seem like I'd ever relax until recently and even still I get moments of "but what if". I don't feel like I've bonded with the baby this time around as compared to my son because my losses in between have made me a bit jaded. And I have some major guilt flowing because of that.
Also I like the idea of a more private board where we can share more personal things if that is an option. I like GTKY threads and threads with photos but I censor mine a bit due to the openness of the forum.
My original EDD was 3/31, so I started on March and bonded with the ladies over there (a few of whom I got to know via GKU and TTCAL). I liked how on the March board we started up a PGAL weekly check-in which I really needed for the first couple trimesters especially. When my EDD got switched to 4/1 I intro'ed here and recognized many of you from around GKU but had a hard time keeping up with both boards. Since March was more active I just ended up posting there more often I guess.
jennykat I don't know if I was one of those people who supported the poster you mentioned or not, but I'm sorry that that made you feel like an outsider. I didn't struggle with IF but did struggle with a complicated 20 week loss and in my own way understand the "whytf are people buying baby clothes already?! How can you be planning your nursery already?!" feels. I'm just sorry and wish you had a place that felt like home sooner
Earlier in pregnancy I liked popping between March and April because symptoms and experiences are SO different early on, but now that we are all getting further along and some March/April babies have become February babies, and some will come later, I wonder if TCF might consider consolidating some of the BMB boards that have similar or low-ish numbers? Like a Jan-Feb board, a Mar-Apr board... but I suppose you'd still end up with people straddling the two boards. Just a thought!
Is it super awkward for me to intro here at this point?
Hi! My original EDD was in March so I started hanging out there even though it got changed to April 3 at my dating scan. I just never got around to switching. However as more and more March babies are coming early I feel so far behind everyone else that I started lurking here. I'm a STM with a 22 month old DS who I'm currently staying home with. We're a Canadian military family and will be moving about 3 months after this baby arrives.
Post by tarynleann on Feb 27, 2017 13:29:38 GMT -5
I'm an occasional poster here. (Very occasional). I was really involved with both of my previous bmb. 1 of which I'm connected to on FB. I don't know if the difference for me is this format or being a 3rd time busy mama. I would be totally interested in a fb group if that's the route anyone wants to go. I love seeing babies around my kids ages, what they are doing, and bonding over blowouts and vomit.
Hi. Not sure if anyone remembers me. I got pretty lazy with checking in but still stop by to see what's going on from time to time. Part of that was because it often seemed like not much was going on, and the other part is just life. I do have intentions of being more active as I get closer to my dd and actually have the baby. I'm still active on my 1st birth month board and found it a great support and outlet.
My first bmb is private and I like that. I've never been part of a fb group, so not sure how that works.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 1, 2017 14:33:57 GMT -5
My first BMB was all on The Bump then Facebook, we never really participated here. When people say they had "locked" sub-boards here, what does that mean? Like there would be a 2nd A17 to click on that you could only get into with a password? How do we get one of those?
I'm sure many of us will want to share names, pictures, birth stories, etc. after the babies get here and so I'd like to get that in place beforehand, but I don't know how to get started.
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