Man the morning feels like a sprint. I wish I didn't get so anxious about being late. Seems we're always teetering on late.
What happens "if" you're late? I always judge by consequences. If it's just a stare or something you personally feel I wouldn't be so hard on yourself. Overall you're a new mom of 2 so don't be so hard on yourself.
We had a rough night. Bub was up at 10:00 because he had to pee (this has never happened. He usually just pees in his pullup while he's sleeping). Then he wanted to sleep in our bed. H wasn't in bed yet so I let him. I thought he fell asleep and H would be able to move him, but when H came in he was wide awake. Then he wanted to go back to his bed. So I laid in his bed with him and ended up falling asleep. Got back to my own bed around midnight. At 1:00 he's screaming bloody murder. No apparent reason, but he felt really warm. I took his temp and it was 99.5. When he finally calmed down he said he wanted me to lay with him. So I did. Until about 2:00 when he said he wanted dad. Well, dad was sleeping so we compromised with Bub coming back to our bed, where he didn't fall asleep until nearly 3 am.
I'm exhausted. H said he thought he felt warm this morning also, but his temp was normal. It seems like this is how fevers usually start for him, so I'm fully expecting a call from DC this afternoon.
Man the morning feels like a sprint. I wish I didn't get so anxious about being late. Seems we're always teetering on late.
What happens "if" you're late? I always judge by consequences. If it's just a stare or something you personally feel I wouldn't be so hard on yourself. Overall you're a new mom of 2 so don't be so hard on yourself.
So we have the phone schedule and it starts at 8- the team is either on the morning or afternoon. If I'm on morning and I'm not here by 8- yes I get a stare and probably a memo to some file I've never seen. I also would be leaving my coworkers with more work... it's kinda of just one of those things they're sticklers about here. We also do timesheets down to the minute- have to get 80 hours in exactly. It also seems like no one gives new moms a break around here. You're expected to keep up like everyone else.
JoBub my sister had her oldest in the bed when the second baby came. Second baby was in the bassinet beside the bed and never woke the oldest when he fed. Not how she pictured her life lol.
Good morning! Sorry for the rough morning/nights everyone. Headed to play date with sil in a few. I'm going to chase her toddler since she's ku and could probably use a break. Also I saw they are building a Starbucks drive thru not far from me, much excite!
Sorry about the rough morning becole. Is there a way to request afternoons to give yourself more flexibility in the mornings?
Agree. Who does drop off in the morning, you or H?
I do drop off and H does pick up right now. We switch if H has an early meeting. Life sucks a little bit with jobs right now. I just came back from maternity leave - I'm trying to prove myself with the promotion and get caught up to where everyone else is. H took this new job right when I came back to work. some days he leaves at 7:00 and is home at 5:30 or 6. I'm used to having him help a whole lot more. I also have to travel to Louisville this week. But it's like everything I have to do is second to whatever meetings H has. They pretty much only do meetings. It's crazy. It was like that in his other job too. These people schedule meetings at 7am and from 4-6pm. He has one on next week from 6-8pm. Wtf. I'm frustrated.
Anyway- part of the problem is that H gets scheduled into meetings last minute but my phone schedule is set the week before. So nothing is jiving. This morning I wouldn't have been late if it hadn't been raining and a total backup on 75.
Hi all. Crazy busy here. It's review time at work. FX for a good bonus. I should know later today.
#2 has had a hacky cough but her temp was normal this morning so she went to daycare. They've been writing notes about it for a couple of days, but there's nothing a doc can do for a cough and it can last for 3 weeks.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Feb 22, 2017 10:13:53 GMT -5
Hi, we had a rough night here too. Well I should say I had a rough night. I was having a power struggle with a cat for bed space when M got out of bed. Thankfully H took care of M while I tried to go back to sleep, but I think all the stress/movement jacked up my temp this morning; right in the middle of my fertile window. Grrr....
becole Are your H's meetings tele-conference, where he could drive home before the meeting and take the call from there? Even though you would be solo while he's on the phone, at least you wouldn't have to wait for him to get home to tag him in.
Well either falling asleep on the floor is magic or my kid is really fighting this cold because he slept in his own room all night! I had to wake him up this morning to go pick up W.
Good morning! Sorry for the rough morning/nights everyone. Headed to play date with sil in a few. I'm going to chase her toddler since she's ku and could probably use a break. Also I saw they are building a Starbucks drive thru not far from me, much excite!
Wait tell me where lol -- send me a text lol I'm been waiting for this day to come lol
What happens "if" you're late? I always judge by consequences. If it's just a stare or something you personally feel I wouldn't be so hard on yourself. Overall you're a new mom of 2 so don't be so hard on yourself.
So we have the phone schedule and it starts at 8- the team is either on the morning or afternoon. If I'm on morning and I'm not here by 8- yes I get a stare and probably a memo to some file I've never seen. I also would be leaving my coworkers with more work... it's kinda of just one of those things they're sticklers about here. We also do timesheets down to the minute- have to get 80 hours in exactly. It also seems like no one gives new moms a break around here. You're expected to keep up like everyone else.
Ahh ok that makes sense -- does your H have more flexibility with start and end times than you ?
An idea just came to me! Command center on the right wall? I'm thinking a big magnetic chalk board where I can put family calendar, meal plans, important papers, etc.
In other house news, my basement playroom is going to be a Harry Potter Theme. I want this to be the reading nook
JoBub my sister had her oldest in the bed when the second baby came. Second baby was in the bassinet beside the bed and never woke the oldest when he fed. Not how she pictured her life lol.
I know it's a terrible habit to let him sleep in our bed. I keep finding ways to justify it, and right now it's really not bad. Just maybe once a week he gets up MOTN and comes to our bed, and usually don't disturb anyone. But I'm afraid it'll get worse when baby comes. So I know I should really put a stop to it, I just don't want to.
So we have the phone schedule and it starts at 8- the team is either on the morning or afternoon. If I'm on morning and I'm not here by 8- yes I get a stare and probably a memo to some file I've never seen. I also would be leaving my coworkers with more work... it's kinda of just one of those things they're sticklers about here. We also do timesheets down to the minute- have to get 80 hours in exactly. It also seems like no one gives new moms a break around here. You're expected to keep up like everyone else.
Ahh ok that makes sense -- does your H have more flexibility with start and end times than you ?
Since he's starting the job he's having to learn a lot so he's working extra because there's just so much to do. The meetings I hope will get better over time- he said right now he's going to all of them because he has no idea what they do at them yet and whether he really needs to be there. They work with the doctors so they have to do meetings at times when doctors aren't meeting patients. So if he doesn't have meetings, he's flexible. But one day they scheduled a 7:30am meeting and a 4:00 and 5:00pm meetings. I'm like- do they think you work 12 hours? I have everything set out the night before but the baby wakes at 6:30 and I have to feed him before I can get ready and then H gets DS ready and I need to be out the door by 7:20 or so to make it to my work by 8. I wish there was a closer daycare option- the interstate really messes things up. It's just not consistent. So some days I'm early and others late.
Post by babylove518 on Feb 22, 2017 10:40:47 GMT -5
becole, now is when a Nanny would be super helpful! Sorry you guys can't get into a good groove with work and DC.
Sorry about the rough nights and sick ones. mom2boxers I've had a cough for a couple of weeks now. It's really unavoidable with this weather. Hopefully DC knows that!
JoBub my sister had her oldest in the bed when the second baby came. Second baby was in the bassinet beside the bed and never woke the oldest when he fed. Not how she pictured her life lol.
I know it's a terrible habit to let him sleep in our bed. I keep finding ways to justify it, and right now it's really not bad. Just maybe once a week he gets up MOTN and comes to our bed, and usually don't disturb anyone. But I'm afraid it'll get worse when baby comes. So I know I should really put a stop to it, I just don't want to.
If it's not fixed before baby, it will still probably be okay. It was for my sister. The oldest is 7 and still comes to their bed if she wakes. If she sleeps all night she stays put. It's just one of those things. No need to fix it if everyone is okay with it.
dogmama22, go for it! There's tons of command center ideas on Pinterest. I spent way too much time looking at all the ideas, and ended up with just a simple dry-erase calendar from Target and a cork board underneath it. I'm also going to put a magnetic board (probably just simple metal drip trays) on the bottom part of the wall for Bub's magnetic letters that can no longer go on the fridge. So it'll be a whole floor-to-ceiling thing, but I haven't gotten that far yet.
becole, now is when a Nanny would be super helpful! Sorry you guys can't get into a good groove with work and DC.
Sorry about the rough nights and sick ones. mom2boxers I've had a cough for a couple of weeks now. It's really unavoidable with this weather. Hopefully DC knows that!
Yes, a nanny would be helpful with this part for sure.
dogmama22, go for it! There's tons of command center ideas on Pinterest. I spent way too much time looking at all the ideas, and ended up with just a simple dry-erase calendar from Target and a cork board underneath it. I'm also going to put a magnetic board (probably just simple metal drip trays) on the bottom part of the wall for Bub's magnetic letters that can no longer go on the fridge. So it'll be a whole floor-to-ceiling thing, but I haven't gotten that far yet.
Please show it off when you can! I want to Pinterest, but I'm scared of the rabbit hole haha Ok...I'm convinced. Off to pin
I know it's a terrible habit to let him sleep in our bed. I keep finding ways to justify it, and right now it's really not bad. Just maybe once a week he gets up MOTN and comes to our bed, and usually don't disturb anyone. But I'm afraid it'll get worse when baby comes. So I know I should really put a stop to it, I just don't want to.
If it's not fixed before baby, it will still probably be okay. It was for my sister. The oldest is 7 and still comes to their bed if she wakes. If she sleeps all night she stays put. It's just one of those things. No need to fix it if everyone is okay with it.
Yeah that's how he is. Most nights he sleeps all night in his bed. Sometimes he wakes up and yells for us, and sometimes he wakes up and comes in our room. We never had him in our room as a baby, and I'm not really sure what we're going to do with this one. I'm leaning toward putting a bed in the nursery, or putting a bassinet in the guest room instead of bringing baby in our room.
Post by babylove518 on Feb 22, 2017 10:49:37 GMT -5
dogmama22 do it! We also just have a dry erase calendar and I love it. We also have a separate dry erase board that I use as our "chore chart" because DH is a child and needs to visibly see what I would like him to do around the house to help me out. Lol I like the magnetic idea jobub said as well so we can get the ABC bus thing off our fridge.
becole , now is when a Nanny would be super helpful! Sorry you guys can't get into a good groove with work and DC.
Sorry about the rough nights and sick ones. mom2boxers I've had a cough for a couple of weeks now. It's really unavoidable with this weather. Hopefully DC knows that!
Yes, a nanny would be helpful with this part for sure.
I wonder if you can find a daytime sitter or a student that lives close enough that would want to help you for a few hours in the morning? My neighbor was just telling me about a student that helps her in the morning before going to school she pays her a flat $25 to help get both kids up and ready and do something else around the house. It's only like an hour of work but she loves it.
*snip* DH is a child and needs to visibly see what I would like him to do around the house to help me out. Lol I like the magnetic idea jobub said as well so we can get the ABC bus thing off our fridge.
We have had so many arguments over this. It's so frustrating, that they can't figure out chores. i guess these things do themselves. Even when I had everything posted on a magnetic chalk board he still couldn't figure out things to do because he wouldn't look at it. I gave up, but now I'm thinking I should just put post-its all over the tv
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