Does anyone else ever feel alone?

[professormcgonagall]

My husband and I just made an international move due to him being military. Everywhere where I go there are pregnant women and babies. I see signs for mom groups, resources for new moms and seminars for pregnant women to attend. Out of the four spouses in my newcomer meeting today, two were pregnant. 
I asked about support groups for other mothers who have been through loss and they don't do that. They said I can go to individual counseling, which I don't really want because I wasn't a fan of it a few months ago when I went, or I would have to look up local resources myself. 
I just feel so alone. They have all these resources for women who can successfully reproduce but apparently if you can't, you have to figure something out yourself. It's so frustrating.
I just needed to get that out. Sorry for the vent. 

[fikafairy67]

Yes, I feel the same way a lot. No one I know IRL has been through the same thing as us, and no one I know IRL has to make some of the same decisions about trying for more children that we do. No one I know IRL has the same fears about EVERYTHING now that I do.

It's exhausting and draining in so many ways.

[aprilz81]

I'm so sorry your don't have ways of getting the support you want and need.

I'm fortunate (unfortunate?) that I know several people in real life who have lost babies so I can lean on them and ask questions when I need to.

We are here for you if you need us. We may not know you in real life, but we're all walking the same path.

[rslh10]

I'm on Instagram and I have found TONS of support that way. I text daily with a bunch of different Loss mom's in different stages of grief. Please PM me if
You'd like more info. The community on there is amazing and it's worth checking out. ((Hugs)) momma.

[iheartbroccoli]

Echoing rslh10, I have connected with so many loss parents online that have really helped me. You are also welcome to PM of you want. 🙂

Finding support IRL can be harder, and I imagine especially tough when you are in a foreign country. If you speak the language there, can you check out local hospitals and churches? In my area at least, support groups tend to be held there because these places offer spaces for free, even if they aren't affiliated with the church or hospital. My funeral home has a list of local support groups for different kinds of losses, including child loss, so maybe a funeral home there too would be able to help you.

Big hugs. It sucks to feel alone. You do have us though. ❤️

[heartpresidents]

Yes, and I can't imagine how much more difficult it is being in a foreign country! Being a loss parent is isolating enough on its own!

I don't know what women did before we could at least go to the internet to find others who understand.

[jennifer123]

Hey, I can understand how hard this must be for you. Infertility jealousy is a thing and therefore, you are not alone in this. Don't lose hope. Such incidents do make one weak. However, you have to think positively. Divert your mind! Think positively. Research about the good clinic. Make sure that they have a high success rate. Research about their website and blog. Read through the posts. To gain a better understanding of them. Good luck to you. If you need any help let me know. Sending baby dust.

[hindee]

I am extremely sorry to hear about your loss. I can understand how hard it must have been for you. However, don't worry I am sure things will get better. You can always talk here about your feelings. It is sad that there aren't any groups in the city. The thing with me is I am quite shy to visit such groups in real life. Mainly because I am not that social. However, online forums have been a huge savior for me. It is in fact through the forums that I discovered about the clinic that I am currently in contact with. They turned out to be absolutely amazing. The clinic was extremely nice to us. They have really been helping us out. I am hoping for the best. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.