STM+, what are you planning to do with you littles while in the hospital? This is what I'm thinking, but not sure if I'm crazy...
Want DH with me through labor/delivery. We are living with my mom right now so she will be able to watch DD, plus use daycare to not interrupt her routine to much. After baby comes I'd like my mom to bring DD to the hospital, and then have DH take her home for dinner and bedtime each night. My mom can stay with me in the evenings at the hospital. I figure DH can sleep at home and not the uncomfortable hospital couch-bed. Then he can come up to the hospital early. My mom can do mornings with DD, bring her by the hospital, then take to daycare or home if the weekend. Then come back at the end of the day so I can see DD and for DH to take her home.
With DD we planned on having her room with us at night, but we were exhausted, and ended up sending her to the nursery and they just brought her to me for feedings. Planning on doing that again. I think I'll be ok at night by myself (with nurses help).
Post by kristhegirl on Feb 24, 2017 0:12:48 GMT -5
That honestly sounds like a lot of back and forth for your mom and husband for no real gain. Plus you may not be there long; I was released at noon Monday after checking in early Sunday. Also, no kids under 12 were allowed to visit due to flu season restrictions at my hospital.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 24, 2017 6:52:31 GMT -5
DS will stay with mil. He likes her best and thinks he lives with her anyway lol.
I like the idea of DH eating dinner with him though so I may use that. But I'm going to want DH at the hospital with me. He'll go home and shower and such, but this is the only one on one time we'll get with this new baby. Plus he was gone for a few hours help his dad with something (his dad worked at the hospital and there was a storm) and in that couple hours DS had his first "I'm crying and you can't make me stop" episode and I was by myself and really overwhelmed. Not that it was dh's fault because I told him to go.
I can't trust DH to sleep at home lol. He'll sleep until 9:30.
I agree with kristhegirl. It seems like a lot. Clara is staying with my SIL. After the delivery if she is having some issues with mommy and daddy not being around MH will go to her and then come back to me. But the plan is for him to be with me the whole time. Clara will visit and we will Skype before bedtime but that's it. I checked into the hospital at 10 PM Sunday and was out by 11 AM Wednesday (it will be an extra day I need a c section). So not long at all
My brother came over in the MOTN while we headed to the hospital. Then my mom drove down (2 hours away) and stayed until both babies were released from the nicu. DD1 came to see me once in the hospital and she could only go to the nicu once because it is cold and flu season. My H went home to put her to bed one night but otherwise he stayed with me and went back and forth between my room and the nicu. I was in the hospital for 3.5 days. It was easier to keep DD1 in her regular routine at home with grandma.
Post by madameovary on Feb 24, 2017 9:40:04 GMT -5
We are hoping to be in and out as fast as possible. MIL is on call to come over and keep our toddler. If we are there long enough they will bring him to the hospital, but if it's a short turn around we will probably just come home ASAP.
I've really gone between extremes of him being totally fine without me and thinking his little heart will be so confused and crushed. I do worry about MIL not sticking to our routines (especially bedtime) and making it harder transition for everyone when we come home with baby.
We are hoping to be in and out as fast as possible. MIL is on call to come over and keep our toddler. If we are there long enough they will bring him to the hospital, but if it's a short turn around we will probably just come home ASAP.
I've really gone between extremes of him being totally fine without me and thinking his little heart will be so confused and crushed. I do worry about MIL not sticking to our routines (especially bedtime) and making it harder transition for everyone when we come home with baby.
This is kind of where we're at. Though DD's current sitter will be the one on call (our closest family is 3 1/2 hours away). She'll stay with sitter until we have the baby. Then my mom will get her and take her to our house once baby boy is born (mom will be in delivery room if she makes it in time). My hope is for a short hospital stay. If we're there long enough though, I'll have my mom bring DD by to meet DS. Otherwise, we'll wait for their first meeting until we're home.
I'm a bit stressed about the whole thing. It would be a lot easier if my mom wasn't planning on being in the delivery room. I hate to leave DD with my sitter for too god awful long.
We knew when we were going in, so my parents picked up DD and she stayed at their house, about two hours away. They brought her home to us after we were discharged.
When we head to the hospital, DS will stay with a friend until my parents can get here (they live 5 hours away). My parents will take care of him at our house, they know his routine well and he's most comfortable here so it will disrupt him the least. If all goes well, I'll only be in the hospital for 24 hours after birth. Depending on time we will likely have DS brought to the hospital to meet the baby. If we have to stay longer we may need to work out other plans with DH going to spend time with DS and my mom helping me or something but we won't make those plans unless we have to.
Thanks for the input. I didn't think about it being so much back and forth for everyone . DD will be 19 months next week.
I guess I was thinking visiting before and after daycare as the daycare is on the hospital property. But it is still far enough that they would have to get in the car and drive to the other side.
I'll have to call the hospital today to check on young visitors because of cold/flu season. They never said anything about it at my pre-admission but I didn't ask.
Maybe I'll just have her come by after daycare, let DH take her home for dinner and bedtime, and then he can come back up with me. Only visit once a day. We'll see how that works and modify if still to much.
Post by daisylola11 on Feb 24, 2017 10:38:53 GMT -5
Also playing it by ear since it depends on time of day and day of the week. But the ultimate goal is to get someone over to our house to stay w toddler (friends are close, my mom is 1.5 hours away) and head to hospital w DH and my sis will meet us there as she is 2 hours away.
I'm also hoping to be discharged asap and depending, DH will pick up toddler to come visit or we will be home sooner.
If I stay in the hospital longer, w DS I was there for 2 total nights, I'm hoping DH does go home to be w the toddler more. I trust my mom but there was not much he could help me with at the hospital last time, I'd rather he go be w the toddler and sleep so he can be helpful during the day. I function way better w less sleep than him.
I expect to be in hospital for 48hrs so I am not too concerned with details outside of where C is staying. He will be at my mom's since she lives closest to the hospital. My H will likely leave the hospital at some point to bring C for a visit. If he isn't missing us and if we are too tired then we wont do this. If we do, itll probably just be once. Really we are just playing it by ear and trying not to overthink it. He will be fine.
I feel like I needed another person here to help at night with DD2 or me. The nurses can't always come right away.
It's nice I can have DH grab me a drink, snack, robe, chapstick, etc. The room service brought dinner and I was feeding the baby and couldn't help set up the tray or eat for a longtime when DH was eating with my family.
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