mrsbaldwin2012 good for you for reaching out to your OB for help. Your experience sounds a lot like what I went through with my first. I would sob when my H left for work in the morning. I just felt fearful all the time. This time I went on Zoloft a few weeks before delivery and it's made a huge difference.
Oh you guys want to hear something hilarious? Yesterday my H said he wanted a little "me time" before he went back to work today. Bahahahahahalolololololol.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Feb 27, 2017 14:39:23 GMT -5
PPD/A is no joke. Good luck to anyone struggling. I felt it with J and it's really hard. Huge hugs to those that need them.
We had a sorta rough night. C does a great job sleeping, but he'd rather be on someone and ain't nobody got time for that! So MH was up for 4 hours, then I've been up since almost 4 a.m. C slept, but obviously we didn't.
Then, we had his first pedi appointment this morning. So we dropped J off, went to the pedi, stopped by my office to show C off, then cruised the mall a little. All before 1 p.m. Phew!
The great news is C is 100% well! He's a normal baby according to the pedi. It was such a relief, like the last big step in this journey. He still has a little lump on his hand, but it's most likely from his IV and well disappear in its own in a few weeks. We may see a specialist in a few months, just in case, but it's not serious.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by flyinghorses6 on Feb 27, 2017 14:59:26 GMT -5
zcookiemonster I got both kids to nap at the same time today too. 90 minutes of glorious shut down. On the flip side the toddler is awake again and now the baby is up wanting to be fed. So while it was great, I'm back to attempting to entertain the toddler while stuck under a nursing babe.
Post by zcookiemonster on Feb 27, 2017 15:14:03 GMT -5
flyinghorses6 yea I'm gonna need to re-think timing once DH isn't here. Silence was nice tho! Props to you for making it work, I'm gonna be a mess once I'm solo with both.
mrsbaldwin2012 good for you for reaching out to your OB for help. Your experience sounds a lot like what I went through with my first. I would sob when my H left for work in the morning. I just felt fearful all the time. This time I went on Zoloft a few weeks before delivery and it's made a huge difference.
Thank you, this kind of just crept up on me and I want to enjoy this time with my girls and not be in this dark place just going through the motions. My mom and grandma were over today so I could sleep but of course I couldn't sleep so I decided to go to target and just walk around with a coffee. It was the best medicine for today that I could have asked for.
Post by crazycatlady6 on Feb 27, 2017 15:37:37 GMT -5
Waiting for transport to take us to the car then it's off to the pharmacy for a script for R since he has a rash under his neck and home.
My baby hates to breastfeed. He will not latch so we have an appt. for a LC tomorrow morning. Started supplementing with formula this morning. I was getting R ready to go home in his outfit and I got real anxious and couldn't pick him up when I was finished and he was crying. WTF is wrong with me???
Waiting for transport to take us to the car then it's off to the pharmacy for a script for R since he has a rash under his neck and home.
My baby hates to breastfeed. He will not latch so we have an appt. for a LC tomorrow morning. Started supplementing with formula this morning. I was getting R ready to go home in his outfit and I got real anxious and couldn't pick him up when I was finished and he was crying. WTF is wrong with me???
Sorry for the BFing troubles. I hope the LC can help. I'm pretty close to making the decision to go exclusively pumping here...
Incision check this morning. I can drive and I'm allowed to lift up to 25 pounds. Yay! R is closer to 28 pounds, so I'll cautiously fudge the lifting limit. But this means I can help MH with the big kids and I can go out anywhere with the babies! Maternity leave is no longer house arrest if I don't have a chaperone.
Waiting for transport to take us to the car then it's off to the pharmacy for a script for R since he has a rash under his neck and home.
My baby hates to breastfeed. He will not latch so we have an appt. for a LC tomorrow morning. Started supplementing with formula this morning. I was getting R ready to go home in his outfit and I got real anxious and couldn't pick him up when I was finished and he was crying. WTF is wrong with me???
Sorry for the BFing troubles. I hope the LC can help. I'm pretty close to making the decision to go exclusively pumping here...
Anxiety is tough. I had a moment this morning with C that tested me. He spit up twice in a row, then peed on me while I was changing him, all the while arching and clenching his body to the point I could barely move him to put clothes on him. Oh, and screaming the entire time. It was tough. So I yelled for MH and I walked away. Sometimes you have to run to Target alone or take a shower or just have a moment in the bathroom with the door closed. And that's okay. Ask for help.
And we're basically EP at this point. Not the plan, but whatever. I'm tired and don't feel like fighting with C. I actually pumped OTW to the pedi this morning. Thank God for the sling pump.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by flyinghorses6 on Feb 27, 2017 17:49:08 GMT -5
Despite my extreme lack of sleep last night, today went better than I expected. Both kids are bathed, dinner was cooked and I actually had a minute to eat. I even cleaned my house earlier. DH won't be home until after bedtime but, hopefully this good juju carries over into the night and we get a few longer stretches of sleep.
Post by linewifekat on Feb 27, 2017 18:07:14 GMT -5
DH gets off work at 430 and usually texts me that he's on his way home and I hadn't heard from him so I texted him to see if he was working late and he said no just talking to the guys. Geez, I understand you haven't seen them in 2.5 weeks but today was my first day alone and DS2 didn't want to be put down all day and I need a break.
Post by littleredfish on Feb 27, 2017 18:38:47 GMT -5
So a plus to being up for the day at 4am with DS, I scored a garbage bag full of free 6m+ clothes for DS. All of it is in amazing condition; stuff like 3 brand new pairs of overalls from the Disney Store. I love a bargain and free is the icing on the cake.
DH is supposed to be called in to work this week for a pre-deployment briefing. I'm hoping that means more info so I feel more mentally prepared.
Post by musicallyinclined on Feb 27, 2017 19:36:13 GMT -5
DH is being super grumpy. He gave a bottle to DS last night and was up for an hour ish then did wake up again until 7:30 or so. I understand not sleeping the amount you're used to is tiring and working and having 2 kids is tiring but damnit man, get that attitude out of here. I should also mention that he is never like this, or at least hardly ever. We are all tired. We are all adjusting.
Maybe our Hs need a group of their own to commiserate and vent too.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Feb 27, 2017 19:52:19 GMT -5
I'm really grateful my DH has been in good spirits. ((Granted he does nothing overnight, besides lean over and rub my arm every once in a while. It's because he works 12+ hour days, and what's he really going to do?? Watch me breastfeed?--)) I'm just grateful that he helps when he comes home. He is happy, plays with our toddler from the second he walks in, and helps out as much as he can to help me meet my own general needs. If he was grumpy it would totally bring me down, and I would be super upset. So hugs to everyone whose DH is grumpy, not helpful, or just dumb.
Ive also realized that people just cannot function when they don't sleep. I'm my case I haven't slept in more than 2-4 hour increments for most of almost 2 years. So I am used to functioning on little to no sleep (DH is not). Would I like more sleep? Yes! Would I feel better with more sleep? Yes. But right now feels about 100x better than what I was doing with my work schedule leading up to having this baby.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Feb 27, 2017 20:11:12 GMT -5
Huge hugs to those dealing with PPA/PPD. I've dealt with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and it's awful.
I know that if I hadn't made the decision to supplement, it would've taken me to a dark place with anxiety and depression. I was right on the edge when I decided to throw up the white flag.
Since then, I've felt 1000x better. Am hopeful that I can avoid the PPA/PPD altogether. Fingers crossed.
oldbaylover1024, you're so right. Sometimes put them down and walk away is the best thing you can do.
dancerspose, I'm right there with you on exclusively pumping. Since we've started supplementing with formula, I nurse maybe once a day. The rest of the time it's pumped bottles and formula bottles. And I feel absolutely fine with that. I miss her at the boob, but I don't miss wondering if she was starving.
flyinghorses6, what does your H do for work? Is he in healthcare too? Those are some long days!
My DH is helpful...sort of. He's great with the toddler. But it feels a lot like the toddler is ours and the baby is mine. I think that will get better as she gets older.
I try to respect that he works all day and doesn't get any break when he gets home...but let's be honest. No one is getting a break. I'm laying on the couch right now, yes, but I'm with a fussy baby. Not a break.
I received it as a shower gift. It's super convenient and small. Great for emergencies when you're out without baby for a while, or EP and want a backup on the go pump.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Post by allisong87 on Feb 27, 2017 21:56:53 GMT -5
Today we had an appointment in regards to N's umbilical cord again. This time we met with a team of docs - pediatric surgeon, radiologist, dermatologist, and hematologist to discuss a care/treatment plan for his cord.
They confirmed that they believe it is an umbilical hemangioma, which is extremely rare and there haven't been that many recorded cases. The dermatologist contacted a colleague who is one of the best to deal with in the country and even they said they've never actually seen one.
They were shocked as to how much the "mass" has shrunk in the last couple of weeks. Because it seems like it is self healing, they want us to continue to let it self heal. They feel it'll go away on its own but told us to keep a close eye on it and we would want to watch for seriously amounts of bleeding if/when the mass comes off. They said the bleeding would be very rare.
FX that they won't have to intervene with any sort of surgical procedures!! We go back in April for a follow up.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
I received it as a shower gift. It's super convenient and small. Great for emergencies when you're out without baby for a while, or EP and want a backup on the go pump.
Post by dancerspose on Feb 27, 2017 23:51:07 GMT -5
allisong87 that's awesome news that it seems to be clearing up on its own. Really interesting though that it's so rare. Were the doctors taking pictures of it and all?
allisong87 that's awesome news that it seems to be clearing up on its own. Really interesting though that it's so rare. Were the doctors taking pictures of it and all?
Oh yea they've taken a bunch over the course of this whole thing. I had to sign waivers saying it was okay if by chance these images made it into a book some day. I was like so do we get royalties?! Haha
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