Post by macaronmama on Feb 27, 2017 9:17:37 GMT -5
Kiddo was up multiple times last night and is still super talky, so very little sleep here. We were trying to move his bedtime up to around 7pm rather than 9pm, but I think 9pm was working better for all three of us in terms of his sleep and ours. So we're gonna move it back to 9pm, at least until he's back to STTN.
Upside, my staffer brought in apple pie and I'm wearing my pie socks. :3
The little miss slept through the night, and is still currently sleeping at 9:20. The big sir woke up at 2:30 and 4:30, but was asleep both times by the 10 minute check in. It was weird waking up in my own bed lol.
We were going to go to playgroup, but as the baby is still sleeping not so much. Not really sure what our plans are today.
I'm up and about. Dropped the boys at daycare, went to Sam's for my sister, and am currently sitting in her office waiting to give her her stuff. Then I have to grocery shop and pick up primer so we can get to painting our basement, hopefully this weekend.
I have a lot of cleaning I'd like to get done around the house today otherwise. DH is on call again, so I'm solo parenting for dinner/bedtime.
I'm making it a priority this week to hopefully find a PCP. I really feel like I need some help.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Feb 27, 2017 9:50:47 GMT -5
It was really hard to get up and get moving today. I stayed up watching The Walking Dead and it went over 10pm by a little bit so I didn't really get to bed until 10:30ish and I normally go to bed by about 9:30. All 3 kids STTN again though, DS2 and the baby both woke up right around 6am but it was okay since I was already up and getting ready.
So as I was dropping the kids at daycare this morning, DS1 said he needed to go the bathroom so he went over to the main one in the cafeteria area and I was giving DS2 a hug/kiss and saying goodbye. DS1 seemed like he was taking a while so I walked over to check on him and I caught him peeing on the floor into the drain. I mean...what the hell? I realize the situation could have been worse but he definitely knows better - he is 6 years old. I told the director about it and I asked her to let him help clean something this afternoon when he gets back from school. I have no idea how to handle this or if I did the right thing.
The little miss slept through the night, and is still currently sleeping at 9:20. The big sir woke up at 2:30 and 4:30, but was asleep both times by the 10 minute check in. It was weird waking up in my own bed lol.
We were going to go to playgroup, but as the baby is still sleeping not so much. Not really sure what our plans are today.
You've made it past the hardest part just don't let your H go back to sleeping on the floor if you go out of town lol
I'm trying to work things out with my sister for birthday party dates and it's not going well. Our kids are born a week apart so the weekend between the two is almost always the same.
After having back to back kids, I'd only been going to my ob/midwives since 2014. We've moved since going to our pcp years ago, so I just asked my favorite midwife for a recommendation. Can you just call for a referral britta?
At my 6 week check up my OB gave me a couple names of IM docs he liked. I looked them up and they actually do peds. I'm not really sure what happened there, LOL.
I had actually been using my OB as my PCP since Jan 2013, but I got a letter over the summer stating that he was no longer able to do double duty. I should have started looking then, but pregnant, so I didn't really care. I'm half thinking of calling my OB and telling them I'm in crisis and really just need someone to deal with me until I can get in somewhere else. Idk.
Post by macaronmama on Feb 27, 2017 10:39:31 GMT -5
@snuff9861, glad the sleep situation is improving. Hope DS continues to adapat to the new routine. britta, call your OB. Do it. It's not that long after pregnancy that they shouldn't be willing to help you, especially in this situation. Reaching out is so hard and so proud that you are working to get yourself help.
Spending part of today trying to get our family financials in order. Realizing with the hiring freeze that unless DH is able to negotiate a higher paid contract come fall, we really don't have available funds after all our debts are paid for LO #2, bio or otherwise.
ksyknelvr73 - Oh boy. Boys do love to pee on things. I think you did the right thing in the way you handled it.
I don't know if it was a fluke or what, but DS slept from 7:30pm until 3:30 this morning, which is great compared to how he has been sleeping lately. He woke up briefly a couple hours before that, but he went right back to sleep without me even going into the room. He developed a stuffy nose overnight and I could hear the poor thing breathing over the monitor, but it didn't seem to bother him. I hope it doesn't turn into a bad cold.
I'm trying to work things out with my sister for birthday party dates and it's not going well. Our kids are born a week apart so the weekend between the two is almost always the same.
Not exactly the same but my two cousins who are sisters have 3 kids with birthdays in the same week between them. Then my BFF from high school/college's little boy has a birthday in that same week. I literally end up with 4 party invites each year and they all overlap. The parties are this coming weekend so it's fresh on my mind
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Post by sanibel21 on Feb 27, 2017 11:18:48 GMT -5
britta please please please call your ob today. Especially while the boys are in daycare and you can actually talk and think. Today sounds like the best day to do it.
Post by erien22846 on Feb 27, 2017 11:23:02 GMT -5
Thursday is Read Across America Day (Dr. Seuss’ birthday) so our daycare invited parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. to come read to the daycare classes this week. I signed up for Thursday, so in honor of Dr. Seuss’ birthday, I checked out a couple Dr. Seuss books from the library to read to the preschool class – “There’s a Wocket in my Pocket” and “Please Try to Remember the First of Octember”. I feels wrong to read books with so many made up words to a class of 3 year olds. But they are learning about rhyming so I also think the books are appropriate.
UO? I’m actually not a fan of Dr. Seuss books and don’t understand the appeal.
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Post by sanibel21 on Feb 27, 2017 11:23:02 GMT -5
We were supposed to go to the library for story time but DD2 took a 2.5 hour nap!! Of course it was right after I gave her cereal for the first time. I hope hope hope that's not just a crazy coincidence. Also she went into her crib and not the pack n play that she has been sleeping in. I know, we've been slow on the transitions. I'm so impatient when it comes to doing things multiple times to see what works or not. I told DD1 we'd go to the library after her nap this afternoon instead. Other than just hanging in the house alternating kid stuff with house chores stuff.
Post by smallpotato on Feb 27, 2017 11:24:57 GMT -5
Good morning!
We had a great visit with my mom this weekend. We didn't do anything except hang out, but it was nice to have another set of hands around. On Saturday I took the boys to Target so MH could finish cleaning, and made it out without any meltdowns or trips to the toy section. She left around 4:30 yesterday, and we'll see her again in a month for my nephew's birthday. On a related note, MH was FaceTiming with my ILs last night, and my MIL asked if there was a weekend coming up that they would be able to come up and visit. I was shocked, because they never ask if they can come visit. MH asked MIL if she was drunk, and it went right over her head.
I stayed up too late watching the Oscars (and only made it to about the halfway point as it was), and N was up at 5 again. He stayed in our bed until I got up to shower. He had peed through his pullup, so he couldn't stay in his bed. He's at school today, and MH is home with G. I have to run to Target after work and get a package of diapers for G for day care to drop off tomorrow.
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Post by britta on Feb 27, 2017 11:26:47 GMT -5
erien22846 DS1 loves both of those books so hard! I get it though. MH and I both cringe sometimes when he wants to read them. They're also very long, especially ones like Green Eggs and Ham and The Cat in the Hat.
erien22846 DS1 loves both of those books so hard! I get it though. MH and I both cringe sometimes when he wants to read them. They're also very long, especially ones like Green Eggs and Ham and The Cat in the Hat.
Wocket is a tongue twister. I'm going to have to practice a couple times before Thursday! I'm sure the kids will love them and, I guess, that's what matters.
Post by macaronmama on Feb 27, 2017 11:42:35 GMT -5
Wondering what you ladies would do:
I had a huge falling out with my roommate/best friend after college. To be honest, it was mostly my doing because I felt we weren't really that good for each other - we seemed to bring out bad qualities like complaining more, blaming others for things we brought upon ourselves, etc. She was passive-aggressive and when we did a year abroad (I went in the spring, she was gone in the fall), she alienated all of our old friends and insisted I somehow make her fit into my new group of friends who weren't really into the same things she was. I couldn't deal with the drama. I didn't handle the "breakup" well, I kinda ignored her, she blew up at me, I apologized, she unfriended me and we went our ways.
Fast forward eight years and my BIL suddenly invited her to his wedding (we all went to the same undergrad) and only gave me 2 days warning that she'd be there. I freaked out because I had/have some unresolved issues about the guilt in basically abandoning her when all of her other friends had (this sort of "dumping" situation had happened to her multiple times before and I knew that). She was fine at the wedding, kinda cornered me and was chipper. We didn't really talk about our friendship, just caught up a little. Very much the her I remember, though she was married with a kid (has two now). We left it at that.
It's now almost 2.5 years later and she's suddenly friended me on FB out of the blue. Not really sure what to make of it or whether to add her at all. I don't know what she wants out of the FB connection. I'm up for just being an acquaintance where we comment or like each other's stuff. But if she's looking to become close again, don't think I want that. None of our mutual friends knows what's up.
WWYD?
TD;LR: Former best friend from college who I had a lot of drama with suddenly wants a FB connection. To friend or not to friend?
EDIT: Gonna add that my anxiety is way spiked over this, which is why I'm asking for outside, non-partial to my drama advice. Our friends all got wrapped up into the breakup when it went down.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Feb 27, 2017 11:48:47 GMT -5
macaronmama having gone through something similar myself with my longtime BFF (this was...5ish years ago?) I would say do not accept the request. I don't wish ill on my old friend, I hope she is doing well, but she was a pretty toxic person and it's really best we aren't in contact. I have seen her at things over the years and we are cordial and generally friendly, but I don't want a relationship with her at all. It's best for me, personally, to not open that door if you will. Just my two cents.
I had a huge falling out with my roommate/best friend after college. To be honest, it was mostly my doing because I felt we weren't really that good for each other - we seemed to bring out bad qualities like complaining more, blaming others for things we brought upon ourselves, etc. She was passive-aggressive and when we did a year abroad (I went in the spring, she was gone in the fall), she alienated all of our old friends and insisted I somehow make her fit into my new group of friends who weren't really into the same things she was. I couldn't deal with the drama. I didn't handle the "breakup" well, I kinda ignored her, she blew up at me, I apologized, she unfriended me and we went our ways.
Fast forward eight years and my BIL suddenly invited her to his wedding (we all went to the same undergrad) and only gave me 2 days warning that she'd be there. I freaked out because I had/have some unresolved issues about the guilt in basically abandoning her when all of her other friends had (this sort of "dumping" situation had happened to her multiple times before and I knew that). She was fine at the wedding, kinda cornered me and was chipper. We didn't really talk about our friendship, just caught up a little. Very much the her I remember, though she was married with a kid (has two now). We left it at that.
It's now almost 2.5 years later and she's suddenly friended me on FB out of the blue. Not really sure what to make of it or whether to add her at all. I don't know what she wants out of the FB connection. I'm up for just being an acquaintance where we comment or like each other's stuff. But if she's looking to become close again, don't think I want that. None of our mutual friends knows what's up.
WWYD?
TD;LR: Former best friend from college who I had a lot of drama with suddenly wants a FB connection. To friend or not to friend?
EDIT: Gonna add that my anxiety is way spiked over this, which is why I'm asking for outside, non-partial to my drama advice. Our friends all got wrapped up into the breakup when it went down.
I would accept the request, and see where it leads. Honestly, if she ends up wanting more out of the friendship than you want to give, you can always unfriend. It also could be she knows you have a baby and she just wants to see how you are doing. I know it's probably hard to not read into it, but until you are given a reason to be skeptical of it I would try to give her the benefit of the doubt. She might surprise you
britta please please please call your ob today. Especially while the boys are in daycare and you can actually talk and think. Today sounds like the best day to do it.
Ok...but full disclosure, at my 6 week check up I had begun having symptoms already. My OB didnt inquire much and I was sort of treading lightly, still trying to decide if I really thought I needed help. He ended up renewing my Xanax script because he was who originally wrote for it when he was doing double duty as my PCP, but while I was sitting there quietly while he sent the script over and debating if I should *really* tell him how I felt, I ended up asking, "So if it turns out that the Xanax is cutting it after this point, I need to reach out to a PCP then?" To which he replied, "Yes" and then jotted down the names I referenced up thread.
I'm feeling like a jackass that I've waited this long to address it, especially after he clearly told me I'd need to see another provider to deal with it moving forward.
My nursing school BFF and I had a huge falling out about 9 years ago. We didn't speak (unless we had to at work) for another 4 years. When H and I were moving, for some reason I felt compelled to reach out and apologize for my part in the fallout. I messaged her on FB how I felt and she ended up responding back. We met for lunch and talked things out and then a bit later she friended me on FB. We aren't even close to as friendly as we were back in the day; we just keep up on each other's kids and text each other "happy birthday", blah blah. I'm good with that. I'm glad we reconciled and there's no bad blood, but I think both of us a) realize we weren't a good fit for each other and b) were in totally different places now with a different friend set, I'm not sure that even if it weren't for a) we'd be as close as we were before. Things change.
I'd bet your friend wants nothing more than to see what's happening in your life. Even if she does want more, the ball is in your court-you can control how much you see or hear from her and how much you share.
britta please please please call your ob today. Especially while the boys are in daycare and you can actually talk and think. Today sounds like the best day to do it.
Ok...but full disclosure, at my 6 week check up I had begun having symptoms already. My OB didnt inquire much and I was sort of treading lightly, still trying to decide if I really thought I needed help. He ended up renewing my Xanax script because he was who originally wrote for it when he was doing double duty as my PCP, but while I was sitting there quietly while he sent the script over and debating if I should *really* tell him how I felt, I ended up asking, "So if it turns out that the Xanax is cutting it after this point, I need to reach out to a PCP then?" To which he replied, "Yes" and then jotted down the names I referenced up thread.
I'm feeling like a jackass that I've waited this long to address it, especially after he clearly told me I'd need to see another provider to deal with it moving forward.
Your pride in not looking like a jackass is not worth sacrificing the help you want and need and deserve. People call my office about referrals from months ago all the time. Say you were better for awhile and now you're not. And the pops they gave were pedi. They are not going to think anything of it. At all.
Post by smallpotato on Feb 27, 2017 12:49:57 GMT -5
britta, I went through the exact same thing after N was born. I told my OB at my 6 week follow-up that everything seemed fine, even though it wasn't. I also did the Edinburgh survey at the pedi's office and there were no concerns there. I wasn't being honest with myself about needing help, and it wasn't until N was 6 months old that I figured it out. At that point, my OB sent me to my PCP because of the amount of time that had lapsed.
All of this to say that you are not a jackass for waiting so long. I also had to find a new PCP because the one I saw before I got pregnant moved from the area. I called the practice and luckily, the APRN was accepting new patients. If your OB doesn't have any other names for you, maybe try your insurance company's website to find a provider near you who takes your insurance. Sometimes they list if the provider is accepting new patients.
Post by smallpotato on Feb 27, 2017 13:00:18 GMT -5
macaronmama, I would accept the request and maybe limit what she sees if you're feeling uncomfortable. I agree that she may just want to see what's going on in your life, and I wouldn't think anything more of it unless she brings it up.
@snuff9861, if he seems tired, I would let him nap, but maybe keep it shorter than usual. We tend to have an easier time getting N to sleep when he doesn't nap, but he also turns into a monster leading up to bedtime if he doesn't nap. Keep up the good work; it sounds like last night went pretty well for you.
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Post by britta on Feb 27, 2017 13:07:53 GMT -5
I called my OB's office and straight up told the nurse that I was dealing with PPD. Told her my history and what my OB and I talked about at my 6 week check up. She's putting a note through to the on call (my OB is out through Wednesday) and, multiple times, said she was glad I called. She also didn't seem like she wanted to let me off the phone. I finally had to tell her that I felt pretty good today, but was trying to take advantage of a day off without my kids and a clear head. She seemed to feel better after that. 😳
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