Someone the other day told me I have a "Rich man's family." I've never heard that before.
I've been asked several times if we are going to "try for a boy." Apparently when you have two of the same sex, it then becomes appropriate to want to try for another. Ugh.
I cannot properly express into words how fortunate and tremendously, amazingly lucky I feel to have had twins following an easy twin pregnancy. After so many years of infertility and extreme measures with experimental RI treatments, to have two children is really something I didn't think would ever be possible. And we have two. It's beyond words amazing and incredible.
That being said, we have always envisioned a family of three, so we will try for a third. If it's another girl - I'm 100000% ok with that. I just feel so incredibly lucky to have kids at all. I hate when people assume we will try for another for a boy. No, just no.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who has contemplated TTC after twins. Everyone assumes I'm done. Honestly, I'm not sure!
requiressnacks @wineandcupcakes Everyone assumed I was done after the first set of b/g twins. Now with a second set people are telling me "you know that's enough, right?"
If you are considering something that could give you a second set of twins: Just like I've heard with single babies, twins are easier the second time around. You know what to expect and you've debugged a bunch of the basic parenting stuff. And your life is already adjusted to having multiple kids. Those were big system shocks for me the first time.
MH and I will probably go back for a third transfer at some point (yes, I'm saying that less than a month out from the second set's birth because I know it gets easier after the fourth trimester) and we'll again transfer two. If we end up with a third set of twins, fine. BTDT.
Post by LydiaDeetz on Mar 11, 2017 13:31:37 GMT -5
nomnom , I hope the comment and gif I shared the other day didn't come off as rude, and if I did hurt your feelings, I am sorry. I would never want you to think I was one of "those people" that have to judge and make comments about others reproductive choices. I was only trying to be sarcastic and silly. I agree wiith requiressnacks , I really admire your passion for motherhood.
LydiaDeetz If I were offended easily I'd be pissed off a lot. No worries 😊
ETA: I finally found the post your talking about. I get that a lot. It also reminded mme of some comments on my earlier BMB. A few of the women are pregnant again and they've commented about how upset they would be if there were more than one baby cooking. I sit over here thinking "yep, it's just awful to have twins." However, I understand that I am lucky to be in a situation where it doesn't strain our finances too much and we have plenty of space in our house. A lot of that is because my husband is 24 years older than me and he's been financially responsible. There are a lot of non-normal things in this household, now that I think of it.
I often run across comments from twin parents about how surprised they were to find out they were having twins. I never considered being surprised because the doctor gave me a 25% chance of having twins. One more way in which IVF changed the way I experience TTC and pregnancy. Identical twins would be the only surprise when it comes to number of babies.
I was shocked to find out we were having twins. It was our 3rd IUI with the same number of follicles as prior cycles and a lower sperm count. Life is funny that way.
I often run across comments from twin parents about how surprised they were to find out they were having twins. I never considered being surprised because the doctor gave me a 25% chance of having twins. One more way in which IVF changed the way I experience TTC and pregnancy. Identical twins would be the only surprise when it comes to number of babies.
Well We only transferred one embryo so I cannot even describe the shock when we saw two sacs!!!
I know I'm late to this discussion, but I daydream of TTC often. My IUD keeps me in check, but I would love another! Hopefully in a few years.
I have an IUD too....so maybe we can revisit in 2019 or so. Haha.
I keep telling myself I have to wait at least until I've paid off the hospital bills for these kiddos before we go adding more! Ha! Payment plan goes until July 2018. Woof. So maybe once they're in school because, ahem, daycare isn't cheap either. Damn.
I have an IUD too....so maybe we can revisit in 2019 or so. Haha.
I keep telling myself I have to wait at least until I've paid off the hospital bills for these kiddos before we go adding more! Ha! Payment plan goes until July 2018. Woof. So maybe once they're in school because, ahem, daycare isn't cheap either. Damn.
Haha....I'm paying $50/month...per kid and also for me. I have no clue when we will be done! Oh yeah....and daycare....maybe we will win the lottery?
I keep telling myself I have to wait at least until I've paid off the hospital bills for these kiddos before we go adding more! Ha! Payment plan goes until July 2018. Woof. So maybe once they're in school because, ahem, daycare isn't cheap either. Damn.
Haha....I'm paying $50/month...per kid and also for me. I have no clue when we will be done! Oh yeah....and daycare....maybe we will win the lottery?
Right?! That would help! I think they broke ours down to $300/mo for 2 years. Le sigh. I just tell myself to be thankful for good insurance and healthy babies! And at least it's no interest! 😂
@feegan R has been having epic meltdowns for no apparent reason. During one of them tonight he also stuffed his mouth full of bread while he was screaming and damn near choked. 😑
OMG one of my fav videos of A is when he shoved an entire Hawaiian roll in his mouth mid-tantrum.
requiressnacks, I always make sure I have someone come over when MH is out of town. Especially when they were very little, I'd have a neighbor sit at my house for 30 minutes while I ran to the store just so I could run out ALONE after they went to bed.
requiressnacks, I always make sure I have someone come over when MH is out of town. Especially when they were very little, I'd have a neighbor sit at my house for 30 minutes while I ran to the store just so I could run out ALONE after they went to bed.
I really need to do that for future weekends when he works nights. Granted, he is here....but not in a normal, awake capacity. He was here and awake from 6:30-7:30am (babies were sleeping) and from 2:30pm-4:00 (babies napped from 2:30-3:30). So that's a grand total of 30 minutes that he was here and awake and they were awake.
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