He nurses about every 2 hours. I think I'm going to need a different dress because if he's making noise during the ceremony I usually put him to the breast with a cover. But maybe I'll pump before in the car on the way and have that ready.
We have a nice monitor that I never use. I got it mostly to use at our beach house this summer while she is asleep or napping and we are outside. I put her to bed on Saturday and DH had some friends over. One of the guys asked where the monitor was after I had laid her down. I said, I don't usually use one. He looked at me like I had 3 heads. She's not one of those baby's that you can soothe quickly if you catch her waking up on the monitor. If she wakes up, she's up. If she's that awake, we will hear her downstairs. He told me that he was not allowed to NOT use the monitor. If the baby was asleep, the monitor was in use. But the mom and her sister (both close friends of ours) both used monitors until their sons were over 4 years old.
But also keep in mind, our 5 month old is still in our bedroom every night. DH is not ready to move her yet. She is his kid too, so I told him he has until she's 6 months, then she's getting moved into her fancy crib that she HAD to have.
I think monitors are part of the reason babies don't self soothe because we don't give them the opportunity but teto. I use a monitor with my oldest but not the baby because he's right by our room. The oldest I use it to talk into and say "go to bed" without going in.
Post by smallpotato on Mar 8, 2017 11:48:10 GMT -5
MH just realized the monitor we have allows for two way talking. I was changing G one day, and I hear MH over the monitor from our bedroom. He was all amazed by it. Last night we listened while G talked himself back to sleep. I'm sure we'll use the talking feature when G is older.
@holachica I have an odyssey, even if you hate the look of a minivan (which I do!) you will never regret getting one. I don't think I've every heard anyone regret it lol they are just so practical.
becole I've never used the talk back feature with the monitor but that sound like the perfect solution when we switch to toddler bed! I've been wrestling with the idea of locking him in his room verses teaching him just not to leave his bed. I think telling him over the monitor to go to sleep/get back in bed will be super helpful!
I think we are finally getting over the cold! Dad slept in her crib from 9:30-6!!! After three nights of co sleeping because she was waking up every 45 minutes because she/we were so stuffed up.I can't even describe how amazing it was to sleep alone in my own bed all night long. I was almost giddy this morning. Funny thing is, I took her out of the magic Merlin so she could sleep on her stomach. A few weeks ago she was so mad if she accidentally rolled onto her tummy. But yesterday when we co slept she rolled onto her tummy and slept so I figured I would try last night. I guess it worked!
@holachica I have an odyssey, even if you hate the look of a minivan (which I do!) you will never regret getting one. I don't think I've every heard anyone regret it lol they are just so practical.
becole I've never used the talk back feature with the monitor but that sound like the perfect solution when we switch to toddler bed! I've been wrestling with the idea of locking him in his room verses teaching him just not to leave his bed. I think telling him over the monitor to go to sleep/get back in bed will be super helpful!
How old is your kid? It scared him when we used it as a like 18 month old- but now close to 3, he gets it.
I'm obsessed with being able to see and hear my kids while they're sleeping. I know it hasn't always been an option but I am so glad it is. The power went out the other day when a tree came down while the girls were napping and it was so annoying.
adouces06 did the milk smell sour or soapy? If soapy, it is actually still fine to use. It just means you have a high lipase content.
Nothing to add to the vehicle discussion since I dont drive. That is my goal before I head back to work.
Its so super windy here today. Its nice out, but the wind is bitter. I am SO tired. The baby wouldn't settle until after midnight and DS was up x one billion. Ugh.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Mar 8, 2017 13:26:22 GMT -5
I'm dealing with a bit of a sensitive situation with a family member and I just have no idea how to handle it. My aunt and uncle decided to foster and they are now adopting my new cousin who is 13. She absolutely has been through quite a bit and her background breaks my heart, but she is very inappropriately affectionate to my kids and I don't know what to do. My aunt and uncle are clueless. They see her doing this stuff and say nothing.
@snuff9861 sourish. I compared the smell to a bag of milk I pumped yesterday, and it was definitely off putting.
Hmm. Have you thawed frozen milk before? I just ask because when we used donor milk with DS, it had a high lipase content and it smelled soapy. Not sour, but it was definitely off putting.
I'm dealing with a bit of a sensitive situation with a family member and I just have no idea how to handle it. My aunt and uncle decided to foster and they are now adopting my new cousin who is 13. She absolutely has been through quite a bit and her background breaks my heart, but she is very inappropriately affectionate to my kids and I don't know what to do. My aunt and uncle are clueless. They see her doing this stuff and say nothing.
It's always tough with adoption, because these kids are missing out on so much affection growing up. This is definitely something that needs to be handled by your aunt and uncle, though. Can you talk to them, or have you and they're still clueless/in denial? How long was she fostered with them before they decided to adopt?
I'm dealing with a bit of a sensitive situation with a family member and I just have no idea how to handle it. My aunt and uncle decided to foster and they are now adopting my new cousin who is 13. She absolutely has been through quite a bit and her background breaks my heart, but she is very inappropriately affectionate to my kids and I don't know what to do. My aunt and uncle are clueless. They see her doing this stuff and say nothing.
It's always tough with adoption, because these kids are missing out on so much affection growing up. This is definitely something that needs to be handled by your aunt and uncle, though. Can you talk to them, or have you and they're still clueless/in denial? How long was she fostered with them before they decided to adopt?
She has been with them since last June and the adoption will be finalized later this month. They are totally clueless...and an extra piece of information is that I feel like she has inappropriate affection with my uncle as well. He reciprocates. I honestly get such red flags from all of it.
Post by macaronmama on Mar 8, 2017 13:41:21 GMT -5
So... need some advice from ya'll (I seem to be asking this a lot).
Persian New Year is a biiiiig thing in my culture/family and I sent out a super fancy e-invite to all our friends in the area to celebrate at our place with catered Persian food, asked for an RSVP, etc. It's two weeks after the actual Naw Ruz day, but it's the only weekend DH and I could do after we get back from seeing my folks and before he leaves for Mongolia for two weeks.
Turns out I sent the invite and half of our friends group was planning on a birthday party for one of our friends that same day. They hadn't sent out an invite yet, just sort of unofficially decided. I'm confused as to what to do because his wife RSVP'd yes to my party, then texted me 15 minutes later to say that they had planned the birthday party on that day, she was sorry, and they'd have changed it had they known earlier...
Is she asking me to cancel or change the date? Should I? I have no clue how to respond but I've already sent out the invite to a lot of our friends, not just to this friends group. I don't want to change the day either, like I said, it's really the only day we can do it. DH says to go ahead and encourage our friends who belong to that particular group to go to the birthday, but that we should go ahead and party with the rest of our friends.
It's always tough with adoption, because these kids are missing out on so much affection growing up. This is definitely something that needs to be handled by your aunt and uncle, though. Can you talk to them, or have you and they're still clueless/in denial? How long was she fostered with them before they decided to adopt?
She has been with them since last June and the adoption will be finalized later this month. They are totally clueless...and an extra piece of information is that I feel like she has inappropriate affection with my uncle as well. He reciprocates. I honestly get such red flags from all of it.
I would possibly mention it to your aunt and uncle, maybe approach whoever you are most comfortable with first. Explain that you love your new cousin and definitely don't want her to feel unwelcome, but that you would be grateful if they could talk to her about expressing different levels of affection with individuals on a case by case basis. Comfort level is a matter of preference, and each family is different, but I also don't want to assume what is going on with your family without being witness to it.
Adoption/fostering is hard all around because kids read really heavily into behavioral cues about rejection/acceptance, so sending hugs for walking that tricky line when bringing it up.
@snuff9861 sourish. I compared the smell to a bag of milk I pumped yesterday, and it was definitely off putting.
Hmm. Have you thawed frozen milk before? I just ask because when we used donor milk with DS, it had a high lipase content and it smelled soapy. Not sour, but it was definitely off putting.
Ya, we use frozen milk every week for daycare. Not a huge problem, just dumping BM sucks. I could have saved it for other uses, but I didn't think of that until after it was down the drain *facepalm*
macaronmama I would keep your party the date you had planned; it's not like you intentionally picked the same day as the other event. Is it something where people could come to your place for a bit and then to the other birthday party? If you and H are cool with your party possibly being smaller than usual, then stay the course. And if you need seat fillers, I will volunteer!
It's always tough with adoption, because these kids are missing out on so much affection growing up. This is definitely something that needs to be handled by your aunt and uncle, though. Can you talk to them, or have you and they're still clueless/in denial? How long was she fostered with them before they decided to adopt?
She has been with them since last June and the adoption will be finalized later this month. They are totally clueless...and an extra piece of information is that I feel like she has inappropriate affection with my uncle as well. He reciprocates. I honestly get such red flags from all of it.
Can you have your parents deal with it? I'm assuming it's one of their siblings. Someone needs to talk to her- she needs to learn appropriate interactions. Maybe she's just trying to hard to fit in or make things natural.
She has been with them since last June and the adoption will be finalized later this month. They are totally clueless...and an extra piece of information is that I feel like she has inappropriate affection with my uncle as well. He reciprocates. I honestly get such red flags from all of it.
Can you have your parents deal with it? I'm assuming it's one of their siblings. Someone needs to talk to her- she needs to learn appropriate interactions. Maybe she's just trying to hard to fit in or make things natural.
Maybe...I will be with my parents this weekend and I DO intend to talk to them and get their input as well. It's my dad's sister. I have a feeling my dad will be very..."It's pointless to say anything to them because they just don't get it". And really, they are that way, so I get that response, but I need some help here. DH has offered to talk to them for me and kind of take the brunt of it so to speak if I want. DH is the kind of person who is not even remotely afraid of confrontation and he is a high school teacher so I feel like he might hold a little more basis with them anyway.
She absolutely needs to learn appropriate interactions - I feel like it should be on her parents to do so, but I don't see that happening b/c they are incredibly socially awkward themselves and oftentimes inappropriate.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Mar 8, 2017 15:13:30 GMT -5
macaronmama she tries to force my kids to give her hugs, sit in her lap, and she tried to make my DS2 kiss her on the mouth this past Sunday. Beyond not okay with me. In addition, she volunteers in the 2 year old room at our church when DS2 is in there and he screams and cries when we drop him off - he literally NEVER does that at daycare. He can't stand her and hides behind me when she is around. This just...makes me so uneasy.
We are going to be repainting our house this year. It's peeling badly, so it needs it, and we'd like to change the color. I had picked out a color last year, but now I'm trying to decide between that color and a slightly darker color. Which one do you like better?
This is our house as it currently is (minus the snow, at the moment):
And here are the colors I'm trying to decide between. I do want to change over to black shutters because I like the way it looks with the blue. We'll keep the white trim and we will paint the trim around the windows white, too.
jwinct, hmm tough choice. Blustery sky will look nice in the winter, but granite peak looks better with green grass but may be dreary in the winter. I still vote for granite peak.
Post by macaronmama on Mar 8, 2017 17:19:28 GMT -5
ksyknelvr73, I love becole's idea of getting your parents involved. In my family, all that is pretty normal stuff, but it should never, ever be forced on someone who doesn't like it, no matter how young they are. I didn't have a say when I was younger (lots of pinching/poking "in jest", have to hug/kiss all my elders) and I don't intend to let my kid be exposed to it.
Definitely get someone, even if it is DH, to get them to understand, it's okay if they want to do it at home, but she shouldn't be affectionate to that degree unless it's invited.
jwinct, without knowing what color your roof is, I like the Granite Peak as well.
jwinct I would go with the lighter color. Our neighbors went for dark grey, and it's just too dark and almost looks black. They scarred me from dark house colors.
@kstknelvr73 I agree with macaronmama that it should be addressed. It sounds like your DH might be a good person to address it since teachers handle sensitive subjects with kids/parents a lot and are often very good with their words. He's also removed a little more from them and I think that 'outside' perspective is often received better.
Also trust your Mommy gut. If it feels wrong to you there is probably a reason, even if it's just her learning appropriate affection and body boundaries.
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.