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[SheilaTheTank]

Mar 15, 2017 10:23:10 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

It never fails. I thought I was in the clear when Brady's birthday party was over and my mom said "Oh his family was nice today" but then she turns around and tells me "they only talked to me because I talked to them first" WTF. Grow up people. I honestly do not care if any of them talk to each other. Probably more than half of my family didn't talk to me, who really cares?? There were 50 people at the party. And why do you need to keep track of who talks to you? My mom isn't the easiest person to have a conversation with, but she doesn't understand that. She's negative about everything and doesn't realize it. So tired of dealing with it and defending people's actions. Goodness!

My mother can be like this. My therapist told me to not even acknowledge it and change the subject like you are dealing with a small child. So far it has been working so maybe it will work for you? 

[paloslee]

I'm so sorry to hear rachelilly23 hugs!

[paloslee]

Mar 15, 2017 10:23:10 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

It never fails. I thought I was in the clear when Brady's birthday party was over and my mom said "Oh his family was nice today" but then she turns around and tells me "they only talked to me because I talked to them first" WTF. Grow up people. I honestly do not care if any of them talk to each other. Probably more than half of my family didn't talk to me, who really cares?? There were 50 people at the party. And why do you need to keep track of who talks to you? My mom isn't the easiest person to have a conversation with, but she doesn't understand that. She's negative about everything and doesn't realize it. So tired of dealing with it and defending people's actions. Goodness!

Family drama sucks. My SIL and BIL are still not talking to H. They didn't even come celebrate LOs 1st birthday.

[Missy0483]

Mar 15, 2017 12:11:08 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Mar 15, 2017 10:23:10 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

It never fails. I thought I was in the clear when Brady's birthday party was over and my mom said "Oh his family was nice today" but then she turns around and tells me "they only talked to me because I talked to them first" WTF. Grow up people. I honestly do not care if any of them talk to each other. Probably more than half of my family didn't talk to me, who really cares?? There were 50 people at the party. And why do you need to keep track of who talks to you? My mom isn't the easiest person to have a conversation with, but she doesn't understand that. She's negative about everything and doesn't realize it. So tired of dealing with it and defending people's actions. Goodness!

My mother can be like this. My therapist told me to not even acknowledge it and change the subject like you are dealing with a small child. So far it has been working so maybe it will work for you? 

I might have to do that. I love my mom to death, BUT this truly irritates me. I usually side with my DH and I think she gets upset. The last conversation when she changed her mind about them "being nice to her" I started defending DH and his family and she tells me "it's all good, let's not get all out of sorts" WHAT! This is why people can't/won't have conversations with you lol

[Missy0483]

Mar 15, 2017 13:20:31 GMT -5 paloslee said:

Mar 15, 2017 10:23:10 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

It never fails. I thought I was in the clear when Brady's birthday party was over and my mom said "Oh his family was nice today" but then she turns around and tells me "they only talked to me because I talked to them first" WTF. Grow up people. I honestly do not care if any of them talk to each other. Probably more than half of my family didn't talk to me, who really cares?? There were 50 people at the party. And why do you need to keep track of who talks to you? My mom isn't the easiest person to have a conversation with, but she doesn't understand that. She's negative about everything and doesn't realize it. So tired of dealing with it and defending people's actions. Goodness!

Family drama sucks. My SIL and BIL are still not talking to H. They didn't even come celebrate LOs 1st birthday.

Yeah it sucks! My aunt decided not to come to his birthday party and made up some dumb excuse the day of. My mom said it was because of DH and his family and how they don't talk to our family. So ridiculous. My mom said it's not just his family, it's the whole city we live in and all of our friends too. That's just "how they are" Lol ok mom, blame the entire city.

[SheilaTheTank]

Mar 15, 2017 13:23:16 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

Mar 15, 2017 12:11:08 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

My mother can be like this. My therapist told me to not even acknowledge it and change the subject like you are dealing with a small child. So far it has been working so maybe it will work for you? 

I might have to do that. I love my mom to death, BUT this truly irritates me. I usually side with my DH and I think she gets upset. The last conversation when she changed her mind about them "being nice to her" I started defending DH and his family and she tells me "it's all good, let's not get all out of sorts" WHAT! This is why people can't/won't have conversations with you lol

For YEARS my mother insisted that my mil hated her. This is going back to when we were dating. We get married and all of a sudden she says that my mil "warmed up to her". Now that we have a kid they are like best friends and text each other. My mil has never once changed the way she has approached or talked to my mother. 

It's taken many many months of the therapy to recognize when my mother is being manipulative and attention seeking. Our relationship has gotten so much better once I stopped catering to the bs. 

[Missy0483]

Mar 15, 2017 13:35:11 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Mar 15, 2017 13:23:16 GMT -5 Missy0483 said:

I might have to do that. I love my mom to death, BUT this truly irritates me. I usually side with my DH and I think she gets upset. The last conversation when she changed her mind about them "being nice to her" I started defending DH and his family and she tells me "it's all good, let's not get all out of sorts" WHAT! This is why people can't/won't have conversations with you lol

For YEARS my mother insisted that my mil hated her. This is going back to when we were dating. We get married and all of a sudden she says that my mil "warmed up to her". Now that we have a kid they are like best friends and text each other. My mil has never once changed the way she has approached or talked to my mother. 

It's taken many many months of the therapy to recognize when my mother is being manipulative and attention seeking. Our relationship has gotten so much better once I stopped catering to the bs. 

Thanks for the advice. A lot of this stems from wedding planning and everyone wanting to be involved. It was a mess! It's really funny how much my mom complains about what over people do/say and a lot of it she does herself and doesn't even realize it. She plays the victim card quit often. My dad and brother talk to DH about sports and stuff no problem, but really, what are you going to talk to my mom about? She has no hobbies and is a school bus attendant...nothing really to relate to there! My brother didn't come to the party...my mom said because she thinks he's upset that he's gained weight and his gf was also visiting from out of town. WHATEVER. My family does stupid crap like this and then wonders why DH's family doesn't really want to talk to them!

[rachelilly23]

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

[SheilaTheTank]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I am so sorry for your loss. We are here for you in any way we can help.

[carissa325]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I'm so sorry.

[cinnamonsmiles]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace ❤️

[jewel441]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Missy0483]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[paloslee]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I'm so so sorry.

[Deleted]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

[ltlbandito]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I am so sorry. Sending ((hugs))

[ltlbandito]

J only took one nap today. It was about an hour long. H is working late tonight. I need wine

[jewel441]

We are going on vacation! H was adamant that we take a vacation this year that is not just going back to Philly (where we are from). I was more iffy on it, but glad I agreed.

We are going to Sarasota where my aunt and uncle just retired to, we can stay with them and they can babysit!

[Deleted]

Insomnia may kill me. It started when J was in the hospital. I'm to the point where I don't really give a damn about anything because I'm just too tired to care.

[readinglove]

Mar 15, 2017 19:28:54 GMT -5 rachelilly23 said:

My aunt passed this evening. We are broken.

I am so, so sorry to hear this. Much love and many hugs being sent your way.

[sunshineshades]

Has anyone ever given their baby benedryl etc for the plane?
I will say I'm mostly leaning towards no, but it has crossed my mind. I would do a test run first.
I know it's one of those things that can be controversial.

[peachesncream]

Mar 18, 2017 15:28:37 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Has anyone ever given their baby benedryl etc for the plane?
I will say I'm mostly leaning towards no, but it has crossed my mind. I would do a test run first.
I know it's one of those things that can be controversial.

I think I have heard that some babies have a hyperactive reaction to it so it is best to test it first? I may be thinking of something different.

[sunshineshades]

Mar 18, 2017 22:40:42 GMT -5 peachesncream said:

Mar 18, 2017 15:28:37 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Has anyone ever given their baby benedryl etc for the plane?
I will say I'm mostly leaning towards no, but it has crossed my mind. I would do a test run first.
I know it's one of those things that can be controversial.

I think I have heard that some babies have a hyperactive reaction to it so it is best to test it first? I may be thinking of something different.

Yes it can. Definitely would test it out first. I've given it to dd1 when she has a bad runny nose and it does nothing to her at all lol. She was like 2-3 before she ever had it though.

[jewel441]

Mar 18, 2017 15:28:37 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Has anyone ever given their baby benedryl etc for the plane?
I will say I'm mostly leaning towards no, but it has crossed my mind. I would do a test run first.
I know it's one of those things that can be controversial.

My little has had Benadryl, but not on a plane... while it makes her tired, idk if it would make her sleep on a plane, maybe a little better... the first time I gave it to her was an accident it was MOTN and I thought I grabbed the Tylenol... fortunately you get more Benadryl than Tylenol so she only got a half dose and also it helped her sleep really well even though she was sick. My pedi oks it for a really stuffy nose, I have repeated that half dose for it a few times, but I tend to feel guilty about it so only when it was really bad. Then we had our allergic reaction and she spent like almost 2 days on mega doses of Benadryl... at the doctors they gave her almost a double dose and she didn't sleep after that until we put her to bed and I don't feel like she slept more during those days, so maybe diminishing returns...

How long is the flight? We have flown a lot with LO and have had good flights and bad... are you holding LO or did you get a seat? Most our flights are around 3.5-4 hours and I don't think it's worth it for that, but maybe if it was like 6+ hrs...

[sunshineshades]

Mar 19, 2017 7:19:28 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Mar 18, 2017 15:28:37 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Has anyone ever given their baby benedryl etc for the plane?
I will say I'm mostly leaning towards no, but it has crossed my mind. I would do a test run first.
I know it's one of those things that can be controversial.

My little has had Benadryl, but not on a plane... while it makes her tired, idk if it would make her sleep on a plane, maybe a little better... the first time I gave it to her was an accident it was MOTN and I thought I grabbed the Tylenol... fortunately you get more Benadryl than Tylenol so she only got a half dose and also it helped her sleep really well even though she was sick. My pedi oks it for a really stuffy nose, I have repeated that half dose for it a few times, but I tend to feel guilty about it so only when it was really bad. Then we had our allergic reaction and she spent like almost 2 days on mega doses of Benadryl... at the doctors they gave her almost a double dose and she didn't sleep after that until we put her to bed and I don't feel like she slept more during those days, so maybe diminishing returns...

How long is the flight? We have flown a lot with LO and have had good flights and bad... are you holding LO or did you get a seat? Most our flights are around 3.5-4 hours and I don't think it's worth it for that, but maybe if it was like 6+ hrs...

It's 3ish there and then 5 back. Both flights are during nap time. I likely won't give her anything. I didn't with Dd1 at the same age and she was fantastic. She stayed awake the whole flight there, but passed on the home from exciting week.

Just E is very busy and doesn't like to sit still.
I'm holding her.

Honestly I just have to learn not to give a crap about other people lol. With dd1 I felt so sick with nerves from flying, that everyone would hate me. The couple in front of us would turn and glare at me if she made a peep. She didn't cry once.
But when we landed everyone else on the plane told me how amazing she was.

[jewel441]

Mar 19, 2017 7:25:53 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Mar 19, 2017 7:19:28 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

My little has had Benadryl, but not on a plane... while it makes her tired, idk if it would make her sleep on a plane, maybe a little better... the first time I gave it to her was an accident it was MOTN and I thought I grabbed the Tylenol... fortunately you get more Benadryl than Tylenol so she only got a half dose and also it helped her sleep really well even though she was sick. My pedi oks it for a really stuffy nose, I have repeated that half dose for it a few times, but I tend to feel guilty about it so only when it was really bad. Then we had our allergic reaction and she spent like almost 2 days on mega doses of Benadryl... at the doctors they gave her almost a double dose and she didn't sleep after that until we put her to bed and I don't feel like she slept more during those days, so maybe diminishing returns...

How long is the flight? We have flown a lot with LO and have had good flights and bad... are you holding LO or did you get a seat? Most our flights are around 3.5-4 hours and I don't think it's worth it for that, but maybe if it was like 6+ hrs...

It's 3ish there and then 5 back. Both flights are during nap time. I likely won't give her anything. I didn't with Dd1 at the same age and she was fantastic. She stayed awake the whole flight there, but passed on the home from exciting week.

Just E is very busy and doesn't like to sit still.
I'm holding her.

Honestly I just have to learn not to give a crap about other people lol. With dd1 I felt so sick with nerves from flying, that everyone would hate me. The couple in front of us would turn and glare at me if she made a peep. She didn't cry once.
But when we landed everyone else on the plane told me how amazing she was.

H read a whole article about this before we flew for the first time. It said most ppl don't care if a baby cries etc as long as the parents look like they are making an effort. It's just when a baby won't quit and the parents just aren't doing anything... which I can't even imagine happening...

We got LO her own seat on our flight next month but that's the first time. LO will usually take a short nap about an hour after she should have gone down with nursing and cuddling. We do toys and also get up and walk with her and let her play on the floor and just kinda rotate through those things. Chances are you won't be the only family with kids on the flight! Don't let that stress you out.

[sunshineshades]

Mar 19, 2017 7:56:41 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Mar 19, 2017 7:25:53 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

It's 3ish there and then 5 back. Both flights are during nap time. I likely won't give her anything. I didn't with Dd1 at the same age and she was fantastic. She stayed awake the whole flight there, but passed on the home from exciting week.

Just E is very busy and doesn't like to sit still.
I'm holding her.

Honestly I just have to learn not to give a crap about other people lol. With dd1 I felt so sick with nerves from flying, that everyone would hate me. The couple in front of us would turn and glare at me if she made a peep. She didn't cry once.
But when we landed everyone else on the plane told me how amazing she was.

H read a whole article about this before we flew for the first time. It said most ppl don't care if a baby cries etc as long as the parents look like they are making an effort. It's just when a baby won't quit and the parents just aren't doing anything... which I can't even imagine happening...

We got LO her own seat on our flight next month but that's the first time. LO will usually take a short nap about an hour after she should have gone down with nursing and cuddling. We do toys and also get up and walk with her and let her play on the floor and just kinda rotate through those things. Chances are you won't be the only family with kids on the flight! Don't let that stress you out.

Yes with dd1 the was a couple at the airport taking the same flight with a2 year old and they kept telling me not to worry.

I also read what your DH read. I think most people would feel sorry for the parents, particularly if they have kids. Some though are just asses.

Dd1 obviously has a seat, so that will give us since more leg room and seat room, so E will be able to get on the floor better as well as sit on the seat beside her sister.

I'm bringing sippies of milk as well because I'm not sure she'll nurse on the plane with all the distractions!

[jewel441]

Mar 19, 2017 8:00:22 GMT -5 sunshineshades said:

Mar 19, 2017 7:56:41 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

H read a whole article about this before we flew for the first time. It said most ppl don't care if a baby cries etc as long as the parents look like they are making an effort. It's just when a baby won't quit and the parents just aren't doing anything... which I can't even imagine happening...

We got LO her own seat on our flight next month but that's the first time. LO will usually take a short nap about an hour after she should have gone down with nursing and cuddling. We do toys and also get up and walk with her and let her play on the floor and just kinda rotate through those things. Chances are you won't be the only family with kids on the flight! Don't let that stress you out.

Yes with dd1 the was a couple at the airport taking the same flight with a2 year old and they kept telling me not to worry.

I also read what your DH read. I think most people would feel sorry for the parents, particularly if they have kids. Some though are just asses.

Dd1 obviously has a seat, so that will give us since more leg room and seat room, so E will be able to get on the floor better as well as sit on the seat beside her sister.

I'm bringing sippies of milk as well because I'm not sure she'll nurse on the plane with all the distractions!

My LO is also very distracted and nearly impossible to NIP, etc, the plane is the only place it happens, maybe bc of the ears? Idk

[jewel441]

Is anyone else watching Planet Earth 2? It's great, obviously, but I have watched 4 of them now and they only show predators of mammals being unsuccessful. They show fish, bugs, and birds being eaten but the only mammal I've seen successfully be hunted is 1 mouse. Seriously. They have shown a ton of fails of big animals and no successes and I'm wondering why and also it's bothering me. I mean predators have to eat too!