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[obi]

Mar 15, 2017 12:45:45 GMT -5 renegadewhit said:

Mar 15, 2017 11:21:58 GMT -5 obi said:

I started looking into IUDs last night and I feel a thousand percent not excited for more vaginal invasiveness.

I took the BCP after having C and it made me feel terrible. I was on depo Provera prior to C and can't go back on it. I feel like the copper IUD is my only option. It seems like a perfectly good option but ugh.

Someone please tell me having it placed it isn't awful.

my doc mentioned something about how it's easier to place if you do it soon after delivery (I think at your follow up appointment) because the cervix is still a little bit open, so it's not as invasive. I've heard anecdotal stories about it not being that bad, but no personal experience.

This is reassuring. DD has her well check on Friday with our family Dr and I wanted to have my mind made up by then so I can ask him for an rx.
That way I can have it with me for my follow-up and ask to get it placed then.

I've heard some real horror stories but I know they are the exception, not the rule. H's aunt had one poorly placed that caused symptoms similar to appendicitis. Her appendix was removed before they figured out it was the IUD placement. So much DNW.

[obi]

Mar 15, 2017 12:50:12 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Well now I'm catching shit from the "extra" family of dh's. We were literally just texting 30 minutes ago about DD's weight check, she asked how I'm feeling, and if they could come visit in a couple days. I said of course just let us know when. She texted mil and said she doesn't feel like she's considered a grandparent.

I don't know if I said I could let her know how the check went, but they were here for 2 hours
on Sunday and we got home Saturday evening and dd slept a total of 1.5 hours not on me. I barely remember Sunday. The only grandparent I texted was my own mom because that's just what I do.

Is this the family friend that has known your H since he was iddy biddy?

She needs to relax. Like, a Xanax and some vodka level of relax.

[obi]

Hey FedEx....

WHERE THE F ARE YOU?

I'm already online shopping for dining chairs but I kinda need you to show up with mah monies before I can buy anything. Total fwp but this is torture. It was easier to wait when I wasn't basically the only one to have not received it.

[obi]

Of course the friendly FedEx lady shows up within 10 mins of me posting that. Oops.

But yay!!

[jnow]

I'm so fucking done.

WAH

[obi]

I was losing patience because C was in his room playing instead of napping. I was considering letting him out since it had been 2hrs already when suddenly I hear him scream and cry.
I rush in thinking he hurt himself.

Nope.

He had taken a big crap and stuck his hands into his diaper. He was freaked out by the poop on his fingers.

Ugh.

[erinshelley21]

Mar 15, 2017 13:08:59 GMT -5 obi said:

Mar 15, 2017 12:50:12 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Well now I'm catching shit from the "extra" family of dh's. We were literally just texting 30 minutes ago about DD's weight check, she asked how I'm feeling, and if they could come visit in a couple days. I said of course just let us know when. She texted mil and said she doesn't feel like she's considered a grandparent.

I don't know if I said I could let her know how the check went, but they were here for 2 hours
on Sunday and we got home Saturday evening and dd slept a total of 1.5 hours not on me. I barely remember Sunday. The only grandparent I texted was my own mom because that's just what I do.

Is this the family friend that has known your H since he was iddy biddy?

She needs to relax. Like, a Xanax and some vodka level of relax.

Yes. Her and mil are bff's and mil doesn't even know what to do with her anymore. We are the least dramatic of the kids and I guess that means we don't like them?

[erinshelley21]

obi at least he was freaked out?

[obi]

Mar 15, 2017 14:07:06 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

obi at least he was freaked out?

Lol, I guess that is the silver lining. He could be one of those kids that decide poopy fingers means time to finger paint on the walls.

[kristhegirl]

erinshelley21 you are not responsible for anyone else's feelings. Especially other adults.

[britab]

Mar 15, 2017 14:01:18 GMT -5 obi said:

I was losing patience because C was in his room playing instead of napping. I was considering letting him out since it had been 2hrs already when suddenly I hear him scream and cry.
I rush in thinking he hurt himself.

Nope.

He had taken a big crap and stuck his hands into his diaper. He was freaked out by the poop on his fingers.

Ugh.

I'm letting DD1 read books in her room because she won't nap. She didn't Monday and I put her back in bed one million times.

DH has a second interview today for a good position! They asked him this morning to come in this afternoon, so I had to drop off a suit.

Then I had to take both kids out to lunch. We were starving! DD1 spent an hour eating a breakfast burrito for lunch at McDonald's. She also face planted into the door. DD2 needed to nurse and then spit up everywhere. Fun times!

[erinshelley21]

kristhegirl this is true. I'm not really bothered by it because when I do have to do things for them it's usually inconvenient for me. Examples being taking ds to their thanksgiving by myself at 6 months pregnant and it was our 3rd stop of the day. Or taking him to Easter when I felt like shit and ended up having bronchitis.

It's just ridiculous.

[cosmicav]

Mar 15, 2017 9:40:59 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

Any hot tips for getting poop stains out of literally everything?

This reads like the title of a newborn magazine article

Hot Tips for Getting Poop Out of Literally Everything
A How-to Guide on Body Odor
Sweating on Everything you Love
Projectile Spit-up and You: a Beginner's Guide

[moutonrouge]

Mar 15, 2017 15:31:56 GMT -5 cosmicav said:

Mar 15, 2017 9:40:59 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

Any hot tips for getting poop stains out of literally everything?

This reads like the title of a newborn magazine article

Hot Tips for Getting Poop Out of Literally Everything
A How-to Guide on Body Odor
Sweating on Everything you Love
Projectile Spit-up and You: a Beginner's Guide

Lol at Sweating on Everything You Love - I keep waking up and there are droplets of sweat all over my skin. I've never woken up looking like I just hopped out of the shower - some next level night sweats.

[mikaela20]

Mar 15, 2017 13:07:25 GMT -5 renegadewhit said:

I cancelled my lactation consultant appointment. It makes me sad that this baby won't be ebf, but I can't give up dairy (I don't want to, but more so because my diet is already pretty restrictive, and dairy is a staple). I am going to try to pump more and up my supply a little bit in hopes of maybe doing 2 bottles of bm per day instead of just 1 and see how he tolerates it.

I just had to run to the kitchen midpost when I realized I forgot I was hardboiling eggs. It remains to be seen if they're ruined, because I truly have no idea how long they were in there - it could have been 10 minutes, it could have been30 (or more?).

Sorry if I missed this but how did you know you had to cut out dairy?

I think my baby has reflux and I worry if it's something I'm eating like milk/cheese that is causing him to throw up alot right after he drinks. But it happens with both formula and breast milk.

Sorry you are having to deal with this feeding struggle too. Hugs.

[caer]

Mar 15, 2017 15:56:06 GMT -5 mikaela20 said:

Mar 15, 2017 13:07:25 GMT -5 renegadewhit said:

I cancelled my lactation consultant appointment. It makes me sad that this baby won't be ebf, but I can't give up dairy (I don't want to, but more so because my diet is already pretty restrictive, and dairy is a staple). I am going to try to pump more and up my supply a little bit in hopes of maybe doing 2 bottles of bm per day instead of just 1 and see how he tolerates it.

I just had to run to the kitchen midpost when I realized I forgot I was hardboiling eggs. It remains to be seen if they're ruined, because I truly have no idea how long they were in there - it could have been 10 minutes, it could have been30 (or more?).

Sorry if I missed this but how did you know you had to cut out dairy?

I think my baby has reflux and I worry if it's something I'm eating like milk/cheese that is causing him to throw up alot right after he drinks. But it happens with both formula and breast milk.

Sorry you are having to deal with this feeding struggle too. Hugs.

mikaela20 - does your LO have any other symptoms other than the extra spit up? Often reflux babies will arch their backs during and/or after feedings and show general distress related to eating. I mentioned this before but DS spit up A LOT. We tried all the reflux things (at my urging, not my pedi's, because I was a freaked out FTM!), including sitting up after eating, two different types of reflux meds and me going dairy free. None of it worked and he ended up just being a heavy spitter. I don't think it would hurt to talk to your pedi but I wouldn't stress too much if it's just the spitting up. DS gained and thrived despite spitting up what seemed like whole feedings.

FWIW, intolerance to dairy isn't usually connected to reflux, it's its own animal. IRRC, it usually presents as green or bloody poop.

Hang in there. Feeding babies is hard!

[Deleted]

Mar 15, 2017 11:21:58 GMT -5 obi said:

I started looking into IUDs last night and I feel a thousand percent not excited for more vaginal invasiveness.

I took the BCP after having C and it made me feel terrible. I was on depo Provera prior to C and can't go back on it. I feel like the copper IUD is my only option. It seems like a perfectly good option but ugh.

Someone please tell me having it placed it isn't awful.

If you've had a vaginal delivery it really isn't that bad.

If you have any pain meds left you could save one or two cause you'll be a little crampy. For me, it was no worse than a period both times.

[Deleted]

I just made a real dinner.

I want a gold star.

[Deleted]

I keep thinking about taking bath with a glass of wine.

Then I remember that I'm still not supposed to get in the tub...

I feel normal but I know I'm not.

[mls5871]

For poop stains I love the oxyclean max gel sticks. They have gotten every stain out for me.

I've been asked 3 times in the last 2 days when I'm due.... Well, I had the baby last week. :/ ready for this belly to go down!

I have a nasty sinus headache, is it wrong that I took some of the pain medication they prescribed me from the hospital to knock it out?

[obi]

Mar 15, 2017 16:43:45 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Mar 15, 2017 11:21:58 GMT -5 obi said:

I started looking into IUDs last night and I feel a thousand percent not excited for more vaginal invasiveness.

I took the BCP after having C and it made me feel terrible. I was on depo Provera prior to C and can't go back on it. I feel like the copper IUD is my only option. It seems like a perfectly good option but ugh.

Someone please tell me having it placed it isn't awful.

If you've had a vaginal delivery it really isn't that bad.

If you have any pain meds left you could save one or two cause you'll be a little crampy. For me, it was no worse than a period both times.

My first delivery was so hopefully that makes the difference.
Thanks for the pain medication tip! I wouldn't have thought to bring any.

[mikaela20]

caer it seems to just be throw up after eating. Sometimes it's spit up where it just easily comes out and other times he is clearly throwing up and gasping for air while it's coming out.

We are also dealing with constipation where he cries when trying to push something out but nothing comes out.

I will bring it up next week at his one month appt. But Omg feeding this baby has been such a struggle.

[mikaela20]

My handsfree pumping bra came in today. Worth the $60- I wish I bought it sooner. I'm able to hold him on my hip and pump both sides while sitting up straight. Such a relief!

[Deleted]

Mar 15, 2017 17:58:50 GMT -5 obi said:

Mar 15, 2017 16:43:45 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

If you've had a vaginal delivery it really isn't that bad.

If you have any pain meds left you could save one or two cause you'll be a little crampy. For me, it was no worse than a period both times.

My first delivery was so hopefully that makes the difference.
Thanks for the pain medication tip! I wouldn't have thought to bring any.

You could take it before ad well. I really didn't think the insertion was that big of a deal. I've had Mirena and Paraguard and they were both the same insertion wise.

[caer]

(((Hugs))) mikaela20. I hope you get some answers. Feeding issues are really hard. FWIW, if it's reflux, the meds are NBD.

[Deleted]

Mar 15, 2017 18:07:44 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

Mar 15, 2017 17:24:40 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

I keep thinking about taking bath with a glass of wine.

Then I remember that I'm still not supposed to get in the tub...

I feel normal but I know I'm not.

+1 to feeling normal but knowing I'm not. I keep thinking about having sex (or taking care of things myself), but then remember that I'm only 2.5 weeks postpartum and that doing so would be a very bad decision at this point.

Lol same.

But, I'm not having sex until I get my tubal. Sorry DH, it sucks for me too.

[meggypoo1]

Mar 15, 2017 17:09:31 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

I just made a real dinner.

I want a gold star.

I'm impressed!

[obi]

Mar 15, 2017 18:12:32 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Mar 15, 2017 18:07:44 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

+1 to feeling normal but knowing I'm not. I keep thinking about having sex (or taking care of things myself), but then remember that I'm only 2.5 weeks postpartum and that doing so would be a very bad decision at this point.

Lol same.

But, I'm not having sex until I get my tubal. Sorry DH, it sucks for me too.

+2
But waiting for paraguard.

I don't even want to think about being pregnant again for a few years... if ever.

[erinshelley21]

Mar 15, 2017 16:36:03 GMT -5 Fearsy said:

Mar 15, 2017 14:06:26 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Yes. Her and mil are bff's and mil doesn't even know what to do with her anymore. We are the least dramatic of the kids and I guess that means we don't like them?

But...she's NOT your child's grandparent! She needs to calm her damn tits.

I wish she would. Now she's overcompensating and bringing 2 dinners on Friday.

[Deleted]

Mar 15, 2017 18:22:52 GMT -5 obi said:

Mar 15, 2017 18:12:32 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Lol same.

But, I'm not having sex until I get my tubal. Sorry DH, it sucks for me too.

+2
But waiting for paraguard.

I don't even want to think about being pregnant again for a few years... if ever.

DH is getting fixed too. After my bc failing so epically I have no faith.