Hey all, DW had a bunch of little things add up to big things with fertility after 6 iui tries. Endometriosis, cysts on an ovary, collapsed fallopian tubes...So it looks like I'm going to try and get pregnant for us. I'm back on acupuncture and prenatals. We're looking to get started in May or June. I'm still sad to think that DW won't have the pregnancy experience, almost more sadder than she is. How many of you out there have had to switch to the other person after fertility issues?
Post by rosesquared on Mar 20, 2017 9:28:09 GMT -5
So sorry you've been going through all that!! I know it's crazy expensive financially and don't know with her issues if it's even possible but could you have harvested her eggs to implant in you to carry? My DW had zero interest in being pg so for us the decision was easy but we did harvest her eggs to use at a later date in me.
Me: 32, Wife: 38, Together for 5 years, Married for 2 years IUI #1 (8/2016): Letrozole, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN IUI #2 (9/2016): Letrozole, Ovidrel, Endometrin = BFP!! EDD 5/26/17
We had to switch even before DW got to try (original plan was for her to have #1 and for me to have #2.)
We went for a consult with the RE for her the day before her job was relocated to the west coast. Because we didn't want to move to LA, she was out of a job 3m later. A little more than a year later that we were ready to try, but in that year, L was dx with uterine fibroids and ovarian cysts, she was 42y - almost 43y, and her younger sister had a son with Down Syndrome. Because of all of those factors, we chose not to have her try and just went with me.
It is still a bit of a sore spot that we don't really talk about. That isn't to say she doesn't adore our sons to pieces, but there will always be a part of her that mourns never experiencing pregnancy, and there will always be a part of me that feels guilty for being able to do it.
We switched to me after two IUIs. J has endometriosis and we knew it was a long shot anyway, but she really wanted to try. The IUIs were actually so painful for her that she decided that she was OK with me trying. Then it took 2 years for me to get pregnant, so much for the two uterus=easy to get pregnant theory!
After she did almost all my IM shots for our FET she isn't interested in trying to carry one of our frozen embryos so all the pregnancies will be on me. I'm ok with that, but I feel very sad for her that her dream of carrying won't happen.
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
We switched to me after two IUIs. J has endometriosis and we knew it was a long shot anyway, but she really wanted to try. The IUIs were actually so painful for her that she decided that she was OK with me trying. Then it took 2 years for me to get pregnant, so much for the two uterus=easy to get pregnant theory!
After she did almost all my IM shots for our FET she isn't interested in trying to carry one of our frozen embryos so all the pregnancies will be on me. I'm ok with that, but I feel very sad for her that her dream of carrying won't happen.
Your last sentence is very accurate for me right now!
It is still a bit of a sore spot that we don't really talk about. That isn't to say she doesn't adore our sons to pieces, but there will always be a part of her that mourns never experiencing pregnancy, and there will always be a part of me that feels guilty for being able to do it.
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