I'm so glad to read some of these same gender family remarks. We are having our second boy with this pregnancy. I will admit to feeling a little sad about not having a girl, but thinking about brothers to me is just awesome. I don't know if it's because it's another boy or just because it's my second child but people just don't seem as excited. However, my MIL really took the cake. She was the first person we told the sex to, and it was via face time. We said "do you want to know the sex?" And she said "IS IT PINK?!?!" Then when we said "it's a boy" she said "oh.... I wanted a girl". Like flat out disappointment. That was two weeks ago and I haven't spoken to her since. I was SO angry and sad because she was the first person we told. Plus she has two boys of her own!!! Of all people I would have thought she would have said something like "two boys is great" but instead she made me feel like it was going to be awful. H said she was "joking" but I feel it was totally inappropriate. Then she said to me "I will tell you all about two boys" again as if it was horrible. Thanks MIL. I'm feeling awesome now!
A co-worker that happens to be my site leader in a meeting about an upcoming expansion this summer told me my timing for maternity leave wasn't the greatest. Sorry I didn't plan my life around the office growth which was supposed to happen last year. I told my boss who reported him to HR for his inappropriate comment. Oops #sorrynotsorry
A co-worker that happens to be my site leader in a meeting about an upcoming expansion this summer told me my timing for maternity leave wasn't the greatest. Sorry I didn't plan my life around the office growth which was supposed to happen last year. I told my boss who reported him to HR for his inappropriate comment. Oops #sorrynotsorry
Oh and the gender remarks are out of control. Yes it's another boy and no we will not be trying for a girl for numerous reasons that are none of your business!
DS was born 7/3. This baby is due on 7/1. Whenever people realize that our last two kids will have a super close birthday, they say : "well, I guess we know when you two like to get busy." Or "didn't you learn after Jack?" Or my personal favorite, they do the math and realize that means we got KU in October and announce to the room that this is obviously an ""anniversary" baby (DH and I got married in October).
People also make comments about how I delivered Jack in the car and whether I intend to do it again with this baby. It falls between two camps: (1) People thinking I deliberately waited too long to go to the hospital (I didn't) or (2) people wishing / hoping I do it again but this time, they hope it's on the interstate or while I'm still in the driveway of our house.
I get that it's a crazy story, and DH and I kind of laugh about it now. But we were extremely lucky that nothing went wrong and that everyone was healthy. Why would you hope for me to go through that again? It was terrifying at the time!
Oh an an especially infuriating one from the MIL early in my pregnancy. She knew about our struggles to get pregnant and our two losses.
So when discussing something about the summer I mentioned that my due date was July 3rd and she said "oh well let's not get ahead of ourselves. One day at a time!" As if she's just assumed I would lose this baby, too. It was awful. She isn't a very sensitive person anyways, but goodness. As if I weren't worried sick about it every moment of every day anyways?! Maybe it helped me to think about the future. Ugh.
Post by amyface813 on Mar 20, 2017 22:35:08 GMT -5
Wow!!! I can't believe some of these things are being said to you ladies! I am so sorry you have to hear this shit!!! @missally I think your MIL takes the cake... yikes.
Oh an an especially infuriating one from the MIL early in my pregnancy. She knew about our struggles to get pregnant and our two losses.
So when discussing something about the summer I mentioned that my due date was July 3rd and she said "oh well let's not get ahead of ourselves. One day at a time!" As if she's just assumed I would lose this baby, too. It was awful. She isn't a very sensitive person anyways, but goodness. As if I weren't worried sick about it every moment of every day anyways?! Maybe it helped me to think about the future. Ugh.
My mom made comments like this through all of first tri. She even told me she wasn't going to buy anything for the baby because she didn't want to have to return something. Seriously?! People are the worst.
Tons of people have made comments about how funny it is that I "think I'm going to have a natural birth" and "you just wait until you go into labor, reality will set in real quickly".
Uh...maybe you didn't have a natural birth and that's TOTALLY FINE, but that doesn't mean that plenty of people don't do it every single day...
My mom had four. I didn't completely but I think the world can attest many people do!
My dad's first words to me on Easter were "you're looking big!" i had to have a stern discussion with him that that's NOT a nice thing to say to any woman, pregnant or not.
A coworker from another department asked me in the middle of my department if we were going to have a 3rd. Yeah cause I'm totally looking to discuss my family planning while still pregnant with #2 at all, and especially in the middle of my department.
Both coworkers and random people making small talk asking if #2 was planned (never appropriate but they'll be 18 months apart, not exactly an uncommon age gap)
Being told I look both big and small. The only word I want to hear associated with my appearance is fantastic.
Post by bepandnick on Apr 30, 2017 21:17:57 GMT -5
One of our field managers, who is male, keeps telling me that keeping active is the secret to an easy delivery. OK man that will never experience child birth. 🙄
One of our field managers, who is male, keeps telling me that keeping active is the secret to an easy delivery. OK man that will never experience child birth. 🙄
I have a coworker who keeps bringing up a horrible fluke thing that happened to our other coworker that is something that you can't prevent or predict. Yeah, it was sad and I hope to high heavens that doesn't happen to us or anyone really but stop telling me about it! I can't take on the stress and worry from every sad ending. It's a very rare pregnancy complication that could but likely will not happen to us.
I have had 2 people in the last week ask "how much longer until baby?" and when I reply late July they both completely wide eyed said "Wow"! Nothing like making the pregnant lady feel HUGE! Ugh people.
I have had 2 people in the last week ask "how much longer until baby?" and when I reply late July they both completely wide eyed said "Wow"! Nothing like making the pregnant lady feel HUGE! Ugh people.
I just started getting this also. It's so annoying. I especially hate the "you sure there's only one in there?"
I have a good one that I just remembered. I was at Costco a few weeks ago, looking at clothes, and I sneezed. This conversation commenced:
Random Dude: "bless you, my wife just had a baby" Me: "thanks! Congratulations!" **Trying to walk away....** RD: "She used to hate sneezing when she was pregnant" M: **unsure of where this is headed** "yeah... it's uncomfortable" RD: "yep, never sure if her bladder would hold" M: **with a look of bewilderment because some stranger is basically asking if I peed myself** "oh, yeah..." RD: "so doyou know what you're having?" M: **as I walk away quickly** "yes, a boy"
He tried to say something as I walked off but I pretended not to hear. Wtf people.
I carry comically large. Seriously. So I get it when people comment on how big I am but it's still a little embarrassing! I constantly get the "you're gonna pop any day!" And have to say, nope, not till the end of July! And of course there's the twins comment. Thanks people. I'm pretty sure we'd know by now if there was another in there. Please don't wish a surprise second baby on me! And for Petes sake don't say "you're gonna have it early"!!! Everyone told me that with my first and completely jinxed me. Huge as I was, I went a week over!
MissSally you should have said "Yeah excuse me. I just pissed myself so I have to go change now." But then again... he might not have felt embarrassed about that!
I was out shopping this weekend when a little boy probably 9 or 10 comes up to me:
Boy: Do you have a baby in there? Me: Yes Boy: That's really cool. (pauses for a minute) Can I try and feel your baby? Me: Blank stare...um he's sleeping right now and not really moving around so you wouldn't be able to feel anything right now. Tries to walk away, boy follows and stands really close until his parents finally call him away.
Fast forward 20 minutes DS is having a meltdown so I carry him out of the store screaming and kicking and who is standing at the exit? Said little boy who runs over and tells DS to "stop kicking the baby"
khopec your story reminds me of one of our students. He came up to me a week or two and pointed and said, "You got a baby in there?!" Me: "Yep" Him: "whoa." puts his head up to my stomach Me: "Boo" and I bumped my belly forward an inch or two
One of my committee chairs came up to me at the conference last week and told me looking at me made her vagina hurt.
I'm not speechless very often but I definitely was then.
...did she want you to apologize for her aching bajingo? I'm confused... that reminds me of this time DS was crying when he was about 8 weeks old and the waitress told me his cries were making her let down. 🤔
One of my committee chairs came up to me at the conference last week and told me looking at me made her vagina hurt.
I'm not speechless very often but I definitely was then.
...did she want you to apologize for her aching bajingo? I'm confused... that reminds me of this time DS was crying when he was about 8 weeks old and the waitress told me his cries were making her let down. 🤔
She is pretty well known for making inappropriate comments. I have no idea what her motivation was in telling me that!
Yikes at the waitress. I had that happen to me when I was at a conference in Seattle and someone brought her baby. The baby started crying and my shirt was soaked in seconds. I knew it was time for me to pump, but geez!
One of my committee chairs came up to me at the conference last week and told me looking at me made her vagina hurt.
I'm not speechless very often but I definitely was then.
...did she want you to apologize for her aching bajingo? I'm confused... that reminds me of this time DS was crying when he was about 8 weeks old and the waitress told me his cries were making her let down. 🤔
Omggggg I forgot about the whole let-down from other babies crying thing. yay for boob leakage.
I have a lot of people "hoping and praying" this LO is a girl. Like having a second boy would be a bad thing??? So irritating. 🙄
this is my favorite. We found out the sex this time, and it's another girl, about which we are THRILLED. But some people just loooooove to say, oh (dissappointed face) so will you try for a 3rd? Um, 1: none of your business and 2: we are actually really excited to have sisters thank you very much!
It's so obnoxious that people think you'd be upset by the sex of your baby, boy or girl. rude.
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